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>>17981471

Working out, vitamin D3, raw chocolate, Thc

Support groups, confiding in friends and family you trust, meds, meditation, copious amounts of coping skills. What're your coping skills anon? What have you tried so far?

>>17981471
Exercise and lifting.

Sunlight or vitamin D if lack thereof.

Steady sleep schedule.

Having some form of purpose in life.

>>17981464
You can't describe the color of love.

>>17981470
Try your best anon

I'm on 4chan. Do you really think I know what love feels like?

>>17981425
kek

>>17981427
Very helpful

lol did you dance like this op?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TRuLE8d6J_4

>>17981363
I used to take Risperdal, Seroquel, and Abilify (not at the same time) and had similar affects while taking them, but I don't remember having those same affects 3 weeks after I stopped.

I googled it though and apparently it stays in your system for up to 34 days, so it sounds normal. If you're not feeling better in 2 weeks, go to a doctor.

>>17981370
effects, not affects. Fuck my brain.

>>17981370

Were you able to study and focus properly after that time?

Yes and no.

Life is neither a challenge not a burden; it's not even a choice. We're forced into life, told it's this magical thing for about 10 years before reality sets in. Seeing that everything is money makes life look very sad. Not in a "boohoo" way; more like pity. Humanity has the mind and the ability to be something so much better but it's constantly held back, willingly, by nonsensical concepts and imaginary blockades.

They swear they grow up and turn into adults but everything that was "icky gross nasty" from their childhoods sticks in their minds and governs their actions.

Right now I see it as a burden mostly.

I go to college. Work. Study. Sleep. Rinse repeat. It's extremely boring, minus some stress during finals. It's not easy enough to just drift through, but it's not hard or fast paced enough for me to really get excited about the challenge.

Thinking of moving a few states away once I graduate if I can get an interview there. I want to make life more engaging, but lost on that front.

im easily discouraged so i see it as a burden. right now im in such a funk and incredibly depressed.

>>17981249
Find a different role in life and accept that. So you're not going to be a guy women swoon over, be someone else

I'm in the same boat as you, pal. That feel... I know that feel.

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>>17981249
The fact you feel this way sets yourself up for failure OP.

Buy a decent record player with USB out and rip my obscure japanese punk requests.

>>17981240
>Even with a few thousand set aside for an emergency, I still have more left

keep working

keep living cheaply

and keep saving as much $$ as you can

> I am only 25

someday you'll be much older and sadly have some health problems which will stop you from working

so get disability insurance now

and see beginning of this post, so when you're an oldfag & sick you''ll have $$ in the bank instead of going homeless

>>17981240
>I am crippled and therefore never going to have a family, never going to have anyone else.

Yeah, just like Hank Williams Sr (spina bifida), John Cougar Mellencamp (s b ), Miss Iowa Abbey Curren (cerebral palsy), comics Chris Fonseca and Josh Blue (CP), Lou Gehrig (ALS), Stephen Hawking (ALS), Mao Zedong, Charles Mingus, David Niven, Leadbelly (all ALS), etc. etc.

Hey, being disabled sucks big time and it does limit your horizons in many ways. But a social and even sexual life need not be one of them unless you choose to use your disability as an excuse to reject people who might actually (as amazing as it seems ) like you.

Leave.

If she gave you that alternative, she's rude, and you are better off without her. Billions of people on Earth, and not one should have this much power over you.

Think about it no different than you do a shit job. Not being paid enough? Leave.

>>17981194
You're being emotionally abused my guy. I know it's not the answer you want to hear but try looking outside in as I am. You need to leave her.

>>17981194
>How can I talk her out of it

forget trying to change your gf - for some reason she likes to do that

try to change yourself - and stop seeing her and find a new gf

You are already stressing out and caring too much. It's too late.

This is doomed. You will fail.

>>17981199
I don't really feel that way. Sure I stressed before the first date too but once we met it was all gone, I'm sure it'll be the same this time too. Hell I think I made a thread here asking for ideas that time too. Yeah I havent done muc dating so I don't know what people usuallyu do, I'm not afraid to admit that. Doesn't mean I care that much, I mean I was happy to hear she liked the date but I wasn't depressed when I wasn't sure.

>>17981192
I would guess the normal progression would be dinner and a [blank]. Is there anywhere you could take her that has live music? It's cold where I live so the usual outdoor first-couple-of-date activities this time of year are ice skating, sledding, or going to the winter carnival stuff we have going on around here. Inside stuff would be bowling, laser tag, a comedy show,there's an indoor amusement park around here, the aquarium, the zoo (progressively more expensive, mind you)

It sounds like she likes having fun with you, which is really good! And if you picked the first date's activity it can definitely be her turn to pick something. Sounds like things are going really well. Good luck

>>17981188
How old are you?

>>17981293
19 almost 20, how old are you?

>>17981296
Unless you're tall and look mature I don't think 30 years olds will take you seriously sorry.. maybe that's just where I come from and my experience

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It's like me except I'm married and am only attracted to 2D girls

>>17981143
We'll I'm definitely not attracted to that stuff so at least I've got that going for me

>>17981143
How do you deal with it though

>>17981112

You know what you have to do, problem is you probably dont want to do it.

It's not like you have to do what I did but if I can make it in those circumstances you can make it in yours.

>Threw what I could carry in a backpack and hopped on a plane to a random city
>Put out an ad that I was recently homeless and would help with anything just for a little time to find a job
>Move in with stranger, sleep on the couch, get job after a week
>Save up money, find a better job after a month
>Pay them rent, 2 weeks pass by and they ask if I would finally move
>Get my own place after a week

Now, consider that I was exactly like you in nearly every way. Since you can envision what a fucking loser I must have been, 4 years later let me tell you how I live now

>work in classy building for wealthy and highly successful people, meet celebrities fairly regularly
>have a new car, great girlfriend
>interact with 9-10/10 women daily, get a lot of interest from them and they spend hours talking to me just for fun
>tons of upscale business connections that make life easy enough that i never worry about finding work

If I can do it, so can you. I believe that very much.

Maybe you won't be as lucky, maybe it will be harder for you than it was me(it was very difficult for me). All I can guarantee you is that having a good head on your shoulders and taking risks is the only way to make it. If you don't have to risk as much, power to you, but the first step is getting off your ads and finding a job.

>>17981149
I do have some crappy job, but I've thought a lot recently of just skipping town.

You're gonna think I'm silly but, how tall are you? What kind of education do you have?

>>17981158

5'7"

27 with just a diploma. Trust me I have little working in my favor besides confidence that I rehearsed and faked - hard.

If you refer to her as a "thing" then yes.

>>17981098
this meme thread again lol

>>17981098
take it back if you can you pussy.

>>17981094
>due to an OD
wtf she doesn't seem like a drug user

Sorry man. I've never been through this but each person has a different mental fortitude, you and the other girl are different, don't be too pessimistic. Believe that one day you will get over it. Join some book club, jogging, gym, cycle between those things.

>>17981094

Sorry to hear that man, I can't imagine a more miserable point in someones life then to lose their loved one. All you can do is soldier on as you have been, keep her in your heart and take her with you for the rest of your life's journey. She would want you to have an amazing life and to find happiness again so I would devote my life to doing just that. Travel and see the world, help those in need, make new friendships etc.

If there's anything she always wanted to do or see you can do that in her place too.

>>17981094
Jesus, that's powerful.

>So please /adv/ how do I find something else to work towards so my life feels like it has meaning?

Don't worry about it, that comes to you after a while. Right now you need to literally bathe in the pain of losing her, it's normal and it really does get easier.

>How does one get over the heart ache when I feel I have been robbed of so many experiences in life?

As I said, mourn all you need to and don't try to force distraction on yourself. I know it's not the best advice but looking back in a few years from now you will know that right now there is nothing more important for you than to fully compute that she is gone.

Personally I have to be pretty drunk before I start dancing, I can't dance sober it just feels too awkward.

Once I got like 4-5 beers down I get on the dance floor and go with the flow, mimicking what others are doing (which usually is just banging their fists in the air like retards), generally the closer you are to the stage, the friendlier and more hyped people are, so I usually just mosh my way in there and find a group of people to dance with, strangely there's always that random group of guys in the front who are always happy to see me and lets me swoosh right in, now that I've established a "safe zone" I can start trying to dance with others like hot girls/hot guys whatever I feel like at the moment, if they reject me then I just fall back into the group/safe zone and be like "whatever bitch I got my cool homies right here".

With time you'll pick up some special moves you can pull off, I have a few I've picked up from years of careful observation, occasionally a extremely drunk fellow will get on the dance floor and pull off something super funky, so keep your eyes open, snap it up and then practice it to perfection.

I sound like a turboautist right now but you generally just have to be happy and drunk, it doesn't really matter what you do as long you aren't puking all over and elbowing people in the face. Just briefly look people in their eyes, smile, scream when the beat drops/when a song you like come on. Be drunk and confident.

>>17981072
>>17981107
crackas detected

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>>17981108
have faith in me, it just werks