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My father kicked me out of my house one afternoon and I ended up meeting some local neighborhood kids. They became friends of mine and I met a girl through them. I told her my story and she sympathized with me. We started dating as result of our close bond and was with her for just over 2 years, starting just before my 16th birthday and ending before my 18th. She was great for the first 8 months, but months 9-25 she became abusive, controlling, manipulative and held me hostage in the relationship stating she would kill herself if I left. And I couldn't have another disaster from a relationship. In the end I left her once I talked to my friend and realized her suicidal threats were empty, and because we constantly had sex and I wanted to slow things down. So she went off and fucked her ex.

I swore off relationships after a while. But I was invited to a party by a friend. I got drunk and hooked up with a 20 year old days before my 18th. Our relationship was great but she moved and I broke her heart by saying I couldn't leave my family out of fear of what would happen to my mum and sister. She has cut off communication since then.

I had another relationship before Christmas 2015. This was great but we ended in April on good terms, deciding we were better off friends as we wanted different things.

After that I found myself in another abusive relationship where I was mentally and emotionally abused and I planned to leave but she would apologize to me constantly and buy me gifts which I struggled to refuse.

This time I decided after she hurled some insults at me I would leave her. I did this by means of cheating on her with a friend who was an ex girlfriend of a friend to majorly pull the finger at my then girlfriend at the time.

That girl I got with is still with me today, but she's 16. She's not exactly mentally secure and part of me wonders if I should get out before it is too late. Yet I want to be there for her because barely anyone was there for me.

*TBC*

As a result of the rape accusations and the constant requirements to feel loved, I have become addicted to relationships and to sex as well. I started a YouTube channel in an attempt to entertain people as I always wanted to be an actor or on TV. Sad to say I dream of being famous and adored by fans. But I know that's an impossible dream to make reality.

My other issues are that I work in a call center for a government organization and I constantly find myself at odds with my superiors, as well as finding it difficult and admittedly depressing with the constant abusing tirades from customers and upsetting as I feel so helpless as being some faceless person making them false promises my company never keeps.

I've been kicked out of my home a few hours ago, as my mother is strict about sex. She found out I'd had sex with my girlfriend for months even when she was underage. She fears that my girlfriend is seeking to get pregnant by me and making me pay her way, as she resigned from her job just after they told her they wouldn't be firing her.

Fortunately my mother doesn't know that I met up with a guy when I split with my girlfriend the first time. This guy blew me in his car and begged me to have sex with him. I only didn't cause I missed my girl and rebounded to him, but now I kinda wanna fuck him but I have no romantic interest in him or in men in general, purely sexual.

I want to be truthful and open up about my sex addiction to my mother. I know it won't make a difference in the grand scheme of things, but I'm afraid she'll dismiss what I have to say.

I hate what I've become. I look hideous, I'm fat so my body is hideous, and my personality is hideous. And it's now I realize that I'm like my dad. A human piece of shit, with barely any friends who no one cares if he dies tomorrow. And I'd rather die than be like my father. Which is why I wanna go ahead and end my life.

I know mostly all of this is my fault, but can I get advise please? I really need it.

Thanks.

>>17993862
dont be rude!!

>>17993862
Sorry thought I was on b, actually your voice just sounds really young. I wouldn't mind talking to ya.

Honestly, it's average. But how old are you? Here you sound about 16.

>>17993793
Try volunteering at a hospital first and let your GF know your concerns are valid but you want to figure it out. If you still like sick people, your passion may drive you, and you may not need to Weed in your free time.

Hi. Can we also ask you questions about weed in general and how to smoke it properly ?

>>17993797
I've almost done something like this in the past but I couldn't find the time while growing and working 40 hours a week. Iit would for sure be a foot in the door.

>>17993804
I've never smoked week. I only know how to grow it. Sorry.

>>17993790
Do guys like it when a girl then had sex with seems attached to them after that ?

>>17993807
If the girl is hot I'd like it more, it's a nice ego stroke, if she is crazy and cockblocks me with other girls it'd be a real headache. Sometimes (most of the time) it's a combination of those two factors.

In short there is that cutie in nother class. We have mutual friends and sometimes look at each other without anything bigger, I don't even greet her or anything. What the fuck should I do I'd love to meet her yet I'm a shitter afraid of rejection. Help

>>17993291
they dont...

Not op but they do, my girlfriend thinks it sexy when hockey players push each other around and fight

>>17993291

I can't actually explain why. Logistically it makes no sense to me, I just feel that it is attractive.

>>17993147
yes

>>17993150
i dont want to ruin the relationship tho. i love him so much. i regret it but i know he'd leave me if i told him...

You should tell him and tell him how you feel. Or you dont tell him and there will always be something that doesnt feel right. If he loves you he will most likely be mad at first. But he cant be angry for every. Good luck mate

YouTube. Just pick any and start watching guides

>I want to be a great programmer.
You're going to have to learn C sooner or later. You're not necessarily going to use it, but you'll have to understand it.

Python or C# might be better for noobs to get a feel for programing though. Depending if you like to take a top down or bottom up approach.

C++ or C# if you're just going to learn one language of those.

>>17992722
>Depending if you like to take a top down or bottom up approach.

what do you mean?

Pls respond

Stop having low self esteem.

>>17992158
Honestly, you just have to stop giving a fuck. The moment you realize how insignificant other peoples' lives are, you'll feel better. who fucking cares what they're doing. they don't fucking matter.
It takes a while to stop giving a fuck. You start by lying to yourself about it. Keep lying about it. "I don't give a fuck that my slutty ex fucked every one of my old friends and nobody told me." (example)
One day, that lie will become believable to you. The next day, that lie becomes the truth.
my group of friends call it false motivation.

>Fun twist? His Girlfriend doesn't ever get told how far they get because she's too clingy since her husband is asexual. I've been promised they did nothing, but boy have they chatted about it. Even found him sleeping in the same bed (she sleeps nude) the other day after hosting him at my apartment with his GF we paid to have visit for the week the morning after his GF left town.

im so confused

OP's slow additional details:
Yes I'm in therapy. Two separate therapists. Been going to the gym regularly since I'm fat but wanted to change that for her when the first sign of troubled emotions appeared. I take Excedrine to get through the day because ripping my heart out emotionally at the sight of anything makes it hard to function. Also hurt my back badly so I only really take it then.

Yesterday we had a small date and a fantastic time. Today she spoke to the ass hole and is willing to cut contact with me entirely if necessary but really doesn't want to lose my friendship. Bullshit.

She thinks she wants him but I've watched him for years take exactly what he wants and leave the leftovers in shambles. No job, bums off his family and us, knows exactly what to say to make people feel sorry for him, especially her.

I was already planning to give a life or a life deal. Me or that social group of outcasts and societal leaches she can't see the bad in. Today just solidified that into a worse state because he got to her first.

I wrote a shifty Last Will and Testament. I have someone who can take my job if it opens (planned for sickness). I have no outstanding debts (<10k, car loan for credit purposes). I'm no burden to society unless my funeral is too expensive.

I've been trying to get better. I saw her through some of the hardest parts of her life and now the ass hole steps in to prevent her from doing the same. My dog, grandfather, and aunt died within three years. The only one left I look up to is my mum and she's hit and miss still since all the shit that went down when her dad started dying.

I want to kill him, but I don't ever want to see him again. It's easier to run away. I've never been allowed to give up or have control over anything major in my life before her. This is my last chance, and I'm taking it unless something miraculous happens. I doubt it.

>>17990552
Her best friend, the manipulative ass, he has a GF across the state. She is married to an asexual who is okay with this. We spent several hundred dollars to let ass hole and his GF enjoy a week here prior to anything between my fiancee and I going down.

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Good Will Hunting was awesome !

Persona

>>17987544

Cheers man downloading it now, I knew I'd find something if I made this thread

the better thing to ease your mind is to not give a fuck. if my boss wants to know that i call random strangers faggots he can know that. i don't care. if he's not ok with that he can tell it to my face. idgaf if he knows what porn i look at. i would only make wanking gestures in his direction and look at him seductively. that'll shut him up

No, but before I ever posted when I was a longtime babby lurker, I was terrified mods or M00t would look at all of my collective posts and laugh.

Still kind of worry about that.

>>17994901
huehuehue

narcissism os one hell of a drug

i wish someone would look at all my posts collectively. my god that would make a fantastic picture of me. wish i could filter them somehow and marvel at my own monstrousity

>>17994872

>i alienated all of my other friends

i will never understand why people do this. your friends are supposed to be the ones who help you when you inevitably break up. every one seems to think 'NAH THIS IS THE ONE TIME ROMANCE WILL WORK OUT PERFECTLY :3'

>los angeles

we'll be neighbors, I'll take you for a beer sometime.

>and i just got my severe depression under control and medicated

stop making excuses. im not saying you dont have depression but you're acting rather funny the way you word all this. like the worlds trying to pull the carpet out from under ya and watch you fall. your girlfriend broke up. sad, sure, but if you were already so fragile that it would spiral you into full blown depression, than you were never healthy enough to date to begin with.

you want to get through this? my advice, be a man. im not saying dont feel sad, or bad, or alone or lonely. but being a man means seeing this as a minor set back. trust me if a break up and a move is going to send you spiraling into derpression than you arent prepared for any real struggles life will have for you

>>17994883
Well, fuck. That's probably the best advice I've gotten in years. I DO need to stop making excuses for myself, because it's not about saying why I can't, but figuring out how I can. I keep getting so caught up in the shit stuff that's happening to me, I'm not seeing the awesome possibilities that lie ahead. I greatly appreciate this, you've legitimately inspired me to fix my shit.

>>17994920

glad i could help. you're abotu to move to los angeles adn though im sure you loved your gf, you get to start entirely new and experience a new life style.

los angeles is pretty freaking awesome so you're in luck. if you struggle to make friends get on meetup.com its amazing out here, theres an awesome bar that has free video game meet ups every monday, and you get free soft drinks whiel doign it cuz the bar owner legit just does it cuz he loves video games. they set up so many systems on big TVs and we all just hang out and game.

there's also dodgeball and laser tag, and amazing movie theaters, and you can go on hikes with the blue power ranger, and giant pokemon go parties, and just going to the beach and sitting on the sand.

its a pretty great city.

>>17994701
By being hot

>>17994703
far and away the easiest.

>>17994701
Sports team
Be gay
Or be extremely attractive/fit

Just whatever you do don't go the (((taking women's studies to pick up chicks))) route.

>>17994669

they can be dorky. they can be cool. it mostly depends on how you look and to a lesser degree, how you act.

if you look like a chad, its cool. if you look liek a dork. its dorky. though dorky and cool aren't mutaully exclusive. dorks think what they love is coool, and it is to dorks so...

my best friend was a magician and it was pretty cool.

>>17994669
I've gone out with girls I've shown magic tricks to. Though that might be in spite of. If you're confident, make some jokes about it and don't drag it on for too long then people will like it

>>17994669
it looks dorky if it's forced, meaning if you carry a deck of cards around and ask people if they wanna see a magic trick

but if you have some magic trick that doesn't involve cards, that you can quickly and simply pull off at the bar it can make you the life of the party

>>17994666

you didnt have to false negatives. wanna prove me wrong? go get another test.

>B-BUT IM SCARED.

no one cares. do it or stop posting.

and if you're really scared, just get on truvada. it makes you 99% protection against catching HIV.

having hiv isnt so bad these days either, my ex has HIV, my boss has HIV both are 'undetectable' because of the medication. hiv people used to be worried about getting sick now hiv people dont get sick at all because the hiv suppressant boosts their immune system so much they can rarely even catch a common cold.

according to my boss they're even close to a cure.

ultimately if you use truvada you'll be fine.

>>17994689
who can afford that, though? it's like $1,500 usd for a month's worth

>>17994666
Find another gay man in denial and copulate. You've already done the hard part. At least he doesn't have to pretend to be a woman in order to pretend to not be gay.

Then you'll be two gay men in denial and as long as you don't look like a complete freak (yet), you'll be able to pass as straight for some time.

But have no illusions: chopping your dick off and pushing some plastic into your chest will not make you any more of a woman than photoshopping a few zeros in my bank account will make me a millionaire.