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Note them with mindfulness,
As negative thinking.

If they return, do it again.

If it's a chronic thing that happens after a week of mindful noting, I would suggest to try changing your mindset (being more generous, being less self centered, being more sympathetic). If it's really pervasive after those changes, you may have a genuine illness and thus must reach a doctor.

>>17994916
It's hard to not allow those negative memories affect you. You're not a freak. I've a similar problem. I've had to, amongst other things, learn to repeat to myself in my mind that it's not up to me to control how they feel about me or about the situation. If they want to be upset that's their problem. Easier said than done though I know. If the voices start to pile up though and won't allow you to focus on basic things, seek medical help immediately. I had to spend time in a psych hospital and now I take meds. It helps a lot. I wish you well anon.

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>>17994916
>How do you get negative voices out of your head?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GLjelIPg3ys
short vid , monkey mind
meditate , give monkey mind job
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kaNO09cPS6c&spfreload=1
long vid , very good

nothing. enjoy the peak of your fertility

>>17994892
Try getting a gf and getting laid. If you're a virgin (which is pretty likely seeing as how puberty just started), you will be naturally more horny than when you're not a virgin.

Try thinking of mental images that are horrible or distasteful. If you can just mentally block as many horny thoughts as possible it would be for the best. Cold showers are also a good thing, but you're probably in school for 8 hours a day so that may not be availble. Often times erections start due to the body believing that the penis needs some blood to maintain its health. It is only after you notice your boner do you think of sexual thoughts. Once that happens, it is up to you to mentally block these thoughts. This is the difference between a 5 minute boner and a 30 minute one.

Also, don't take any vitamins that are aimed at reducing hormones / horniness. Your constant horniness is only due to puberty, so shorting puberty in exchange for a controlled dick will leave you physically weaker than you could have been.

>>17994892
Wait, are you a girl who wants to be a guy?

>>17994876

No, its not alright. this will result in her dumping you.

>>17994972
Tbh don't even know if sarcasm anymore

>>17994876
Bumpo

Hmm a hpw to be homeless infographic. Hows about avoiding being homeless?

Do you live in a city anon?

Welfare, library, gym membership. Find a job. Idk, people come to America with 50$ in their pocket and now own businesses. It's certainly possible to get out of your situation.

>>17994868
Me too gonna get a vehicle and maybe live in there

>>17994861
Source on that moth please.

>>17994975
Monster Girl Encyclopedia of course
Thanks for the bump anon

It's a major you're going to have to go to grad school for if you want a job in the field.

>>17994836
Cool story

He has told me to my face that he REALLY enjoys being shitty to people he dislikes, well I guess he really disliked me and my other roomate closer to the end of him living with us.

I'm not saying I'm perfect but he actually bragged about how he liked being mean, I don't like being mean. That's why I suffered a lot when he treated my other roomate and me like crap for no reason, what had we done? Why did he not like us even though we invited him to our little things we did of which he usually liked but stopped liking the second we pointed out shitty behaviour?He was manipulative as well, trying to gaslight me, he did it clumsily and I pointed it out. When he stopped speaking to me after that I asked him why he was locked in his room all the time and he told me "Welcome to the adult world, sweetie.". I'm one year younger than him.

And now he messages me after, around 4-5 months and writes "There's been a lot of months now, when do you think you're going to pay me back?". It's a 20 for wardrobes he was going to throw out anyway.

What should I do? I want to be petty and passive agressive.

>>17994836
The fuck is a leftover closets?

Just ignore him or make fun of him.

I would just narrate his actions.
"Oh, there he goes not sayibg goodnight to me, however will I sleep knowing sherlock doesn't like me?"

I would also make fun of him for not getting laid.

But you sound like a bitch to be honest op. All you have to do is be wittier than him and it doesn't sound hard.

>>17994751
Forget the pussys cutiepie...

Finding another woman to think about and fuck really is the best way.

>>17994751
Time heals wounds, that and finding someone else to fill the void. Getting over this will be a process and it's going to sting like a bitch at first.

It could be clogged nose hair or pimple. Try not eating peanuts or drinking milk for awhile. You could drink almond milk, might help?

>>17994577
just leave it alone, should go away within 4-5 days

>>17994577
Should see the ones I get when I eat anything with animal fat, lard, or specifically pig meat. They look like cruised cysts and don't go away until a month goes by.

No, go to a military boot camp

Wake up at 5 am and do 5 miles

clean your house and bedding

volunteer for 6 hours

volunteer for another 2 hours in a soup kitchen

rest/meditate/sleep

eat your dinner

go for another 5 miles

sleep

repeat

Therapy wont do shit but tell you you're lazy. you need to get your ass out of the chair and do things

>>17994596
Unfortunately, this.

Motivation is a hard fucker to fix, I understand. But the only real cure for it is to suck it up and do it. Take small steps, but you have to remember to keep building upon them. Think of something you don't want to do, and just fucking move your legs and do it. It's just training your willpower.
It'll help to get a friend or someone to be a "consequence" if you fail though. Like, for example if your goal is to get fit, having a work out buddy you don't want to let down will help haul your ass out of bed.

>>17994571
Move out and start paying on your own .. greatest motivator/therapy there is

>>17994563
>keeping chicks as friends
>developing actual feelings for a girl before fucking her

You broke two of my peraonal rules. Now you will lose a friend and be sad.

No. You have feelings for her. She doesn't have feelings for you. Confessing to her is just going to ruin your friendship AND chances at being with her.

Pick whether you want to be with her or whether you want to be friends. If the latter, distance yourself from her somewhat until your feelings fade. If the former, slowly ramp up your closeness, flirt with her, make her have feelings for you. Then ask her out.

>>17994581
Funny thing is, she used to really like me when we first met and being the fucking sperg I was, I was fucking oblivious. It wasn't until later when my friends fucking told me that she was head over heels for me.

I think I've blown it.

high school btw

You must be 18+ to post on this website

there are many 18 yr old ppl in high school dont assume my age male pig

Omegle w/o cam

>>17994417
do omegle works locally?

I was thinking about something like tinder + facebook but anonymous.

>>17994411

Sounds like a decent idea. Especially the meyers briggs part. I dont think it would take off huge. Id say if you added a file sharing feature so people can share photos before meeting youd have more success.

But definitely focus on the meyers briggs matching part. That part sounds fantastic.

It's normal to be nervous when starting at a new school. Is this hs or uni?

>>17994342
hs

I am 18yr

Be polite, frank and reserved enough not to appear clingy. Never point out the obvious. An example of this would be uttering the words: "that is funny/cool/dope" if someone is funny just a quick smile of recognition will suffice. Don't try to act in any particular way at all. Just take everything at face value. React but don't reject. If you don't get something, it is advised to say I don't get it, but don't use it unless you want to know.

>>17994233
Stop being a fucking faggot. I got rejected 2 days ago and I'm over her.

>>17994233
NO

STOP RIGHT THERE.

Rarely giving out like that works, you need to stop being needy, and remind yourself that your dignity is above all. Girls don't like needy, clingy, desperate guys, I know you want to show her your love but the saying still holds true to this day "we all want what we can't have", if you give out like that then she's gonna feel bored.

You're better than this, she's the one losing her chance to be with an awesome person like you, and you if she doesn't like you then she's not the one, you're gonna find a better girl, even though it seems hard at first, you're gonna see this is actually a good experience, it makes you stronger.

Heads up, life goes on, girls? There are millions, why go crazy over one? Specially one that rejected you?

>>17994244
I tried. There's no girl that can even compare to her.
I know I can't chase her, but I want her to see me in a new light, that I'm another man now and that I'm actually really sucessful with women. In other words I want to make her jealous.

If this doesn't work out then I will forever compare other girls to her...

>>17994192

what do you have to lose by askign them out? if its detrimentel after the fact just break up with them

Don't date while in uni. Buckle down and focus solely on your school life. Getting a career is priority. Plenty of time to play the dating game after

>>17994838
Its just I know I would enjoy it to the point of prioritising it, but it's more of a short term loss for long term success. Like my previous relationship. I ended up enjoying it but I basically threw away a year of my life now because I could have done so much. Didn't end up going parties, or being a loser, just talked to her all the time. The only thing I remember about being 16/17 is her. Fucked my studies because I'd rather spend time with her. Wasn't worth it now that I look back, but at the moment it was.