>Be in class
>Cute chick that's super quiet sits to my right, next to me with a chair in between us
>some dude takes that spot
>I have this class Monday and Wednesday, but I missed Monday because I overslept my alarm
>ask dude to my right what it is that I missed, tells me stuff about the syllabus
>Quiet chick then breaks out her notebook and shows me the notes she took, says I can take pics of it
-Forward an hour and a half later-
>Class ends, I'm packing up my stuff and I look at her quickly, notice she looks at me too
>She gets up and asks me if I can type my number in and e-mail to keep in contact regards schoolwork and future projects
>Thing is, our project isn't going to start until next week
>and the professor said she'd assign groups
I'm analytical as fuck, and tend to overthink things. Is she into me or am I just being full of myself and thinking too much?
>>17995622
She might be into you or she might want to make more friends. Without more info I cant tell you either way, but def get to know her
She wants the d. Send her an email saying "Hola bby let me clap that booty"
>>17995622
She is into you.
You should send are a flirty text or at least respond to her's.
Been trying to enlist in the Army for 14 months now. To be specific, I am 28 with a grad degree and am trying to apply to a new program which lets you join straight into CID which are basically felony level MPs. It would open up a lot of doors for me and I don't have any doubts about doing it.
My problem is getting cleared to go get my physical. Recruiters are incompetent, for the most part. The really bad ones were cycles out about 3 months ago, but the new ones aren't much better. Constantly losing my paperwork, saying they sent my stuff up to MEPS when they never did, are subtlety trying to get me to switch to enlist into something else which I don't want to do. At this point I am starting to think they are intentionally sabotaging me because I am trying to join something that isn't expedient to their quotas.
I call twice a week at least, and they either say they "haven't heard anything yet", or the guys I deal with are out of the office, and they'll call me back but they never do. Nothing ever changes.
I still really want to join, and as far as the career path I want to take there aren't a lot of options besides this.
Only recruiting station for hundreds of miles.
What do?
If you really want to be in the Army and the nearest recruiters are POSs then you are going to have to go far out if you REALLY want it. You can wait for the recruiters to move out or file a complaint against them, I think there is either an email you can use or a phone number to call them.
>>17996312
By moving out I mean wait for them to rotate.
>>17995606
Fucking go OCS. If you're physically fit and as smart as you say you are, you will commission out of OCS and probably get to pick your branch.
Why the fuck would you go enlisted with a degree? You're going to come in as an E-4 making $2,100 and living in the barracks. 0-1 makes at least $3,100.
I feel like I have to use and do so much fucking subterfuge shit in order to meet women or talk to women or even have a chance at a date.
For example, I had a college course with a woman I liked. Now if I approached her normally, I would have nothing to say and she would think I am a creep.
But, I swiped her folder for class and gave it back to her the next day claiming it had fallen on the ground and I found it. Talked to her for a bit and now we know each others names(I knew hers for a long time before that but she didn't know know mine.)
My point is, I shouldn't have to go through all this shit just to talk to women. I don't find it fun nor amusing to have to basically do seal team six shit in order to talk to someone.
I shouldn't have to swipe things off people and give it back claiming that I found it on the ground.
However, THE NORMAL approach does not work. I have very little to say if nothing is happening or if some kind of event hasn't triggered a reason for me to talk to her. By swiping shit and giving it back, it gives me a reason to talk to her. Otherwise, I have no reason.
What bothers me is how nothing is fucking genuine. Even if I were not swiping shit, I would just be lying in some way or another. Like "Oh I need help with this problem on the calc 3 pre exam" even though I wouldn't.
See where I am going? How do I get away from having to lie and use subterfuge and stealth tactics to talk to women? I fucking hate doing it but nothing else works.
focus on improving yourself. your career, social skills, health, fitness, etc.
when you meet a woman you should be able to talk to her easily and get her interested without even trying to think about seduction. this starts with being confident in yourself and being able to talk to anyone.
>>17995578
Stop pretending like talking to girls is any different from talking to anyone else.
>>17995578
Its amazing that you haven't put together the cause of your problem seeing as you just explained the cause of your problem perfectly in your post.
Your first sentence was "I HAVE NOTHING TO SAY SHE WOULD THINK I AM CREEP."
You defeated yourself and ruined your opportunity to approach women like a normal person before you even tried. You put women on this pedestal and think that you need to have a pre-loaded conversation ready to entertain them instead of just finding some common human ground and talking to them like human beings.
Like, has it not occurred to you to just use the regular thoughts in your head as conversation starters? If you're super bored in class and you're thinking you're bored is it SO difficult to just lean over and say so to another human being and just bond over mutual experiences?
Why do so many men here think that you need some sort of choreographed song and dance to talk to women? You don't think women have regular, innocuous thoughts like you? You don't think they would be equally excited and eager to bond with another human being over mutual thoughts and emotions?
The long and the short of this is that you've completely fucked yourself with women because you're afraid of failure. Your fear has convinced you to act like an idiot around women and I can guarantee you that your bizarre behavior is very apparent to women. Your average college aged woman has experienced every level autism ten times over and any reasonably intelligent girl will IMMEDIATELY notice that you keep coming up with bullshit reasons to talk to her.
Cut this dog and pony show bullshit and start putting yourself out there, man. Say whats on your mind. If she thinks you're a creep, so be it. There are far more creepy things you can do than leaning over in class and making a cheesy joke to a stranger.
Stop being a pussy and your life will improve. Period.
I just discovered there are informal semen donation groups in facebook and women are seeking males to impregnate them.
I want to have children, should I?
>inb4 free sex
is artificial insemination or other mail BS.
No. It's good that you want to have children, but it seems like these ladies would rather raise a child by themself, because most people after said impregnation after the sperm donation, never interact with the donor
>>17995559
yeah that seems so, but I don't see the problem.
>>17995572
>i want to ahve kids
>the ladies wont let me even see the kids
>i dont see the problem
please, never have kids
This girl I'm crazy for and have been really close with for about year now just sent me this. We haven't spoken in days. She been a cunt to me lately and probably banging one of my "friends." Last week I ate her out and we've fooled around plenty times before that. Should I even bother responding or should I just never speak to her again? I hate her fucking guts right now but some things telling me to keep her around... She also deleted me off Facebook just now.
>>17995539
Fuck it would probably give me some satisfaction. But you think that would be better than just ignoring her? I want to give her a piece of my mind but at the same time I don't want to get into an argument.
definitely just don't respond and never respond. "the opposite of love isn't hate , it's indifference"
>>17995543
At this point I'm not so sure now, I re read what she said and I now think saying that would definitely backfire and she would use it against you. Just say "k" and block her. "k" is a subtle fuck you, so it all works out
Pic unrelated
This is in the Netherlands (not Amsterdam) so sex workers are legal and regulated. Should I go through with this bet? How bad can it be if she's clean? risk assessment?
Strongly recommend not doing that.
>>17995480
Wear something discrete over your tongue so there's no actual contact boom problem solved. Just take a convincing enough picture and tell them the hooker said you can't take video. Your shitty friends should be satisfied enough with that.
>>17995489
Wear a condom on my tongue? That could work. Though it's a red-light kind if deal so they can just ask
I have a hard time focusing on studying, finishing my work, etc. I play alot of video games, but is it a good idea to go cold turkey on it?
What should I do?
Do what you need to do when you need to do it. I sincerely doubt ridding yourself of videogames is going to cure poor focus.
>>17995479
Pic related
Finish your studying and work before you turn on the computer / console
if you go cold turkey you'll just relapse. try to use video games as a reward for getting work done.
you want to get your brain to start associating work with pleasure instead of just logging into your game and pressing buttons
>be virgin
>girls wont date virgins because they are "creepy" and "something must be wrong with them"
>stay a virgin, cycle continues
How does one break this cycle without prostitutes?
If you didn't lose your virginity at 16, are you doomed?
>I spend too much time on 4chan
>>17995459
This
Believe it or not most girls dont give a flying shit about you being a virgin or not. Stop being a basement dweller and start meeting new people
Don't tell anyone that you're a virgin. No, they can't "just tell" that you are without you saying.
So /adv/ and i need dating experts or something. Where did i fuck up? Specifically. I feel like i derped.
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>>17995451
>normal check up for the doc?
kick the brakes, that's not fun talk
besides that the whole conversation is a rollercoaster and i have a hard time following wth is going on. did she block you or something?
I feel confident enough to try to move on from being friends with a girl I like and try to escalate with minor kino
The problem is I'm having trouble of thinking of ways I can sneak in/make excuses for since I never really done this stuff before.
So far I got
– Light tap on shoulder
– Secret Handshake,
– High Five,
– Gently brush her arm
Going to try to think of a way to get a high five in tomorrow since I never established myself as a high five person and hopefully do enough minor kino so that I can move onto medium kino
>>17995441
Kino? What does BvS have to do with this?
Idk wtf kino is, but it'll keep you a virgin forever, that I can guarantee
brother if you're having a nice conversation and she's smiling and laughing you pretty much have the go ahead to just grab her hand or put your hand on her leg. be bold.
I think I have some sort of problem connecting with others. I'm about to turn 22 and it's dawning on me that I've barely made any friends since high school. I've met co-workers and classmates but have literally hung out with 1 new person since high school.
These feelings of being unwanted plague me at random for days at a time, and I'll sit around feeling rather sad and unmotivated. Lately I've felt great since I started a new job and everyone is awesome, but not many people talk with me. A fair amount of people get noticeably awkward when I show up. I never noticed it until the one real outgoing group of dudes everyone likes came in, chatted up the whole office, and went to talk to me but just smiled awkwardly and bowed out. I'm not sure why it happens.
I can get along with customers/people on a short term real well, but long term (3 weeks+) it gets hard for me and I start noticing the things like in the last paragraph. Actually establishing that connection and opening up just doesn't happen with me.
I'm rather quiet and serious, but always laugh/listen along with everyone, chime in/joke around when I can, but maybe I'm coming across as weird or something? What can I even examine and/or change about myself to be more likeable and get to know others?
>>17995368
>I'm rather quiet and serious
Perhaps that. Try and look at your self from their point of view. You don't have to be everything to everyone so if you get along with those who matter perhaps that will do.
the things you need to do to make people like you are actually really counterintuitive . mostly it's about listening and allowing them to expand their ego and acting interested, and you personality doesn't factor in much at all.
read how to win friends & influence people.
you can make friends with pretty much anyone you meet but you'll find it's actually pretty annoying and time consuming to listen to people's bullshit and be enthusiastic about it.
>>17995368
you probably met hundreds of people in high school. How many people have you met since? maybe a couple dozen, more if you went to college.
Sounds normal to me.
How should I deal with an unpaid volunteer position that treats me like an employee?
I accepted because I want to write more, and it's for a medium size tech website that gave false hopes of "we might be able to pay you if you do well". They seemed nice at first, but now they're a lot more strict. Since I have experience working on websites, they want me to do that, too. Some days, I am putting in 3-6 hours and skipping meals because I have to finish work for them.
Am I being unreasonable in thinking this is too much for free, or is this typical of volunteer work?
>volunteer work
They literally have no reason to treat you any better than a slave as that's basically what you are to them.
Your time is the only precious thing that you have in life.
Don't give it away for free.
That's not typical for volunteer work at all. Volunteer work is generally just a couple of hours a week and they're not THAT strict on you. They usually expect you to do the job but they recognise that you're just a volunteer and that you could walk away at any time
>>17995345
you volunteered to help. they asked if you could do more, and from what we can tell, you agreed. its not wrong for volunteers to be asked to do more. its up to you when to say no.
also please keep in mind that you may only technically be a volunteer, but when it comes to writing, you're really more of an intern. you're putting in time to prove your worth it and pad your resume, you're not out there feeding the homeless or building houses for people.
you're doing this with the hopes of getting noticed. interns and PAs are treated like shit a lot of the time. is it right? no... but they can get away with it becuase some of the 'volunteers' will put up with it to one day get a real job in their desired industry.
should you deal with it? depends what you get from it. you can always scale back or quit but if you become inegral and then threaten to leave they will likely pay you
Why do girls my age seem so socially confident? It's really intimidating.
I'm 19 year old guy by the way.
>>17995339
Because men are suppose to do all the heavy lifting, that's why it's imtimidating. Normally you know a women will make good gf material when you both share the load of socially interacting
All girls are not socially confident, trust me.
>>17995339
You're just noticing the ones that are confident.
this girl in class keeps making eye contact with me and i don't know why
it's a bizarrely neutral look, definitely not attracted to me, but doesn't seem pissed or creeped either
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>>17995284
Maybe you have beautiful eyes
>>17995295
I do.
>>17995284
Maybe she's wondering why a grown ass man is doing wearing a bat costume, and going to class?.
Also, from your pic, I can tell you sincerely, you're eyes friggin glow. No wonder she#s looking at them.
I've finally been going after girls again after about 2 years but whenever I am talking to a group of girls none of them seem interesting to me. So far i've been going out almost daily for the past month or so and so far I haven't met anyone who immediately caught my full attention.
Am I being picky or are all the girls around me different in the same way?
the trick is to find the one that annoys you the least
>>17995259
They dont really annoy me, it's just that they all act the same in a different way and because of that they all seem really dull
Seek the crazy