Should I go Navy or Army? I want to do aviation but I don't want to join the airforce..
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>>17998845
Armyfag here,
It depends what you want to do. I'm a 25B (IT Specialist, computer nerd, help desk monkey) and I'm coming up on my 2.5th year soon. I've only been to one duty station so far but honestly I love my job. It's working with other people that can be a pain in the ass. You'll have to get used to being jerked around a lot when it comes to things like support missions and other taskings that come down from higher, but it depends on the unit.
>>17998891
I think you'll have better luck doing aviation in the army, but don't quote me on that. I've worked with a few pilots and mechanics and such on our airfield and they seem to enjoy it. I have no idea what the Navy is like though.
Depends
Do you like boats
Am I an asshole if I refuse to pay her bill for dates? I'm talking more about online meetups. We both liked each other's profiles, we both agreed to meet up, we both should be equals. This is one cultural norm I'm completely against. If they have a problem with me not paying for all of it they're probably not for me anyway. I'd only pay the whole bill if I absolutely have to, like she walks out on me or something.
Offline, if I'm the one asking her out I'll offer to pay because technically I'm asking for her time. Still, it feels like I'm just paying for a service instead of going out with a human who's interested in me. I'd probably not offer another date, she'd have to message me first, unless I REALLY liked her despite that.
pay but don't go to high priced dinners for the first date. otherwise you're spending a lot of cash.
my move is morning coffee. leaves a lot of room for the date to expand if it goes well and it'll only be like $5 if it doesn't.
>>17998828
Typically, whoever invites who pays. Also, people tend to switch off and pay every other time or go dutch if there is a second or third date.
Listen, man, don't boil this down to such a simple metric too much. I've been out with girls that expect me to pay. I've been out with girls that let me pay but felt bad about it because they were too shy to speak up. I've been out with girls that insisted on going half, insisted on paying the whole thing and girls who were actually offended when I tried to pay. There's all different kinds.
Sometimes first dates are awkward and figuring out money makes it additionally awkward and things get fucked up despite both parties' best attempts at smoothing things over.
Yes, some girls like to be treated and want to be taken care of and treated like a princess but lets be real, there are TONS of guys, especially super alpha ones that WANT a girl who they can buy and own and care for and manipulate with money. They enjoy having their hot little helpless play things and the helpless play things enjoy being dominated. Its a tale as old as time.
You just have to find the girl thats right for you but I would highly encourage you not to make some sweeping snap judgement about a girl's personality just because she let you pay for a first date or was a little awkward when the check came. In my experience there are a ton of explanations for that happening other than "she's a gold digging whore".
>>17998849
I feel pretty dirty being in control of everything, could be a sign of changing times.
Still though, I'm in college and I mainly date college girls, they should at least be aware that I'm dirt poor.
I'm really just wondering if I'm shooting myself in the foot by asking to split. Like if it gives off a bad impression some how. Even to those that don't think the man should pay.
>>17998837
I could go for something super cheap yeah.
>rude co-worker (we'll call her "gigi") thinks calling my sister an "accident" is hilarious
>on two other occasions she called my sister an "accident" because we were born in the same year
>i explain to her (nicely) my sister isn't an accident and don't laugh at her "joke" each time
>but she acts like i haven't explained this and keeps accusing my sister of being an accident
>there's a complicated history about my family which makes this offensive, and i'd rather not share this to my coworkers. especially to this moron.
>topic of birthdays at work; there's a gathering to celebrate january birthdays and the whole team is there
>gigi already asking "who was born an accident??" around 5 or 6 other co-workers
>someone else already tells her that she shouldn't be joking about that because it's sensitive
>gigi: "oh it's not a big deal!!"
>same co-worker warning gigi earlier asks about me and my sister, and asks how is it possible we're born in the same year
>gigi, before i can even respond: "That's because her sister was an accident!!!"
>i give gigi a dirty look and say bluntly "she's not an accident."
>i'm usually a very bubbly and happy person, but i guess this scared the people a little to see this side of me
>gigi is embarrassed and i honestly felt a little bad, i hate showing this side of me to anyone.
>on our work chat, i dm her and say "i'm sorry for losing my composure earlier, but i'd like if you stopped calling my sister an accident. this was like the third time after i explained to you she was not before. i just find it really rude."
>her response was just "ok."
>no apology, and i could tell she was still sour.
what do i do from here? she likes to hang around my co-worker friends/lunch group. she also sits right behind me and i don't like this awkward tension.
however, she's also been consistently rude to me (but i can usually handle it) but that accident thing about my sister crossed the line.
>>17998823
and just for background for my family history:
>mom and dad was trying for a boy
>got my sister instead
>she was also born with some health issues too which complicated a lot of things for her growing up (such as chewing properly, getting sick easily, etc.) she also has dyslexia
>sister got mad neglected and was abused by both my mom and dad especially after my brother was born 2 years later.
>basically she was a scapegoat for my parents' failing marriage
>dad never cared for my sister; he literally never calls for her birthday or other holidays while he would message me and my brother
>mom never takes my sister's ailments seriously. (ex. when sister had surgery for her jaw so she couldn't talk. she was super dehydrated and was begging for water but the nurses wouldn't do their fucking job properly and my sister had to throw something to get their attention. my mom told my sister she was being rude to the nurse...)
>sister was endlessly bullied at school because of low self-esteem and worth; almost committed suicide before i convinced her out of it
>mom and dad never took her depression and anxiety and thoughts of suicide seriously and still thinks it would've never happened. this is how careless they were.
just to give an idea about how many fucks my parents give. things are (somewhat) better now for my sister but it's still sensitive
fuck man even typing that was hard for me. that's basically the gist of it though.
You shouldn't have even apologized, she's being a really shitty person beating a lame joke to death for attention.
>>17998880
yeah i kind of regret that now, but i'm not about to rip her a new asshole to make things worse or anything. i just wanted to make it really clear about how i felt and wanted to make peace (for the sake of coming to work with a comfortable atmosphere), but she has her pride in the way i guess.
should i talk to her again? i'm re-considering explaining why that's so offensive to me and if she has a heart at all she might understand why i reacted the way i did and why she should be more careful about saying that stuff.
but at the same time, this girl has a history of trying to make me look bad for the weirdest shit. like on one after-work hangout/council thing, i said something like "yeah lets get wasted!!" and the joke is the fact that i don't really drink a lot. (and i would never drink too much in front of my co-workers in the first place.)
so on another occasion when someone offered me a drink and i refused that time (because i didn't feel like it), she'll beat the dead horse (always with an audience around or loud enough so other people can hear her) and say something like "oh but i thought you like getting wasted?? you were SO bent about that at the last event!"
it's dumb, and i usually say something like "do you take everything literally" anyways, but in a light-hearted way so not to bring down the mood or anything. but she is kind of a bitch which is why i also don't trust her with any personal information.
How do I expel a whore from my friend group?
In the last month, this trash whore has started hanging around some of my friends, and its disgusting. She curses constantly, doesn't even wear proper clothing, is loud and obnoxious, and everyone tolerates her anyway. I've literally seen one of her tits just hanging out the side of her shirt, and she didn't even have the decency to care. How do I get my friends back and get rid of her?
>>17998732
you can't really. welcome to yoko ono
Wait till the rest of your friends finish banging her, then they'll no longer have a need for her and the problem will fix itself.
>>17998732
Is she hot?
How do I make a good tinder bio? I want to summarize myself in about 2 sentences but I don't know how. I know what I like and enjoy doing but I just don't know how to make it short and simple. Do you guys have any good advice on this? Anyway to make it stand out? Please, any help is appreciated
>>17998692
you dont need to summarize yourself as a whole for the record.
i opened with a joke
>hi, my names christopher, but everyone calls me chris, even though i ask them to call me christopher. please call me christopher.
after that i just list some keynotes about me
>video games are a great first date
>lover of all things spooky
>conspiracy nuts get my attention
>5'6"
>big dick
it should be noted that im a fagguette so the success might differ
>>17998708
this guy has the right idea
really i just say something light that really doesnt say anything about me but makes me seem kinda safe/silly
like
>pros: youtube star, wears overalls
>cons: has a mustache, wears overalls
if ur more serious about dating consider ok cupid
>>17998692
He died by the way
>in long distance relationship, 16 hour time difference
>talking in morning on my way to work
>near the end she suddenly gets temperamental and basically blows me off
>later in day, it's her morning and she messages me as if things are normal
>I say that I'm happy to see she's in a better mood
>she reeees again
What the dicks?
>>17998683
no matter how you word it its going to sound like 'wow im glad you stopped being a bitch'
>in long distance relationship, 16 hour time difference
my advice, end this before u get too invested
If u really need a girl and can't talk IRL, use okcupid or tinder or something
>>17998683
You're not in a real relationship. That's why its not panning out like one.
So my roommate's family is currently at our apartment, and I don't know when they will leave. I want to take a shower and shave, because I want to go out a bit tonight.
Do I just blatantly take a shower? There will be no doubt in anyone's mind that I am showering. What do guys?
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just go take a shower anon lol
Take a shower and shave. What are you worried about?
>>17998605
what? dude, people shower its not even as embarassing as going and knowing you're taking a shit
ok so there is a lot to this one.
so there is a girly I might have an eye on, but bridges may have been burned in the past. its coming up on the holiday of love and I'm thinking she is single, should I try and contact? (this is all in relation to a long term relationship not a hit it one)
I dont know what insight you are expecting here.
sure, do it if you want. nothing in your post screams that it would be a bad idea, but nothing you said screams that it would be a good idea either.
>>17998681
yeah your right, maybe I'm looking for someone else to make up my mind for me.
>>17998693
were not a coin bro. you cant just flip us.
Should I forgive my dying mom?
My mom has been a pretty abusive, abhorrent person most of her life. She loves me, that's for sure, but she loves me on her terms. If I'm not doing what she thinks is right, she's not only abusive, but she tries to ruin my life, or threatens to ruin my dad's life by divorcing him and taking his shit.
I'm 30 years old, live on my own, and recently got a new job. She told me this new job was unacceptable, called me a total disappointment, threw a tantrum, and told me I was a waste. She kicked my dad out of the house because he wouldn't force me to beg for my old job back. In the past, she's done shit like stealing my car, trying to unenroll me from college, pretending to overdose on pills, and has threatened my friends.
I've cut ties with her, but due to some recent events have had to give her a call so things were sorted (identity theft issue & my dad's best friend passing).
She's been trying to pretend like nothing's wrong when I call and has been texting me like we can chit chat. Unfortunately she has lupus, and will probably not make it past the next five years. Tonight she was trying to help me get some medicine for an illness, and I told her I didn't come to her because of obvious reasons. She thought we were going to be okay because I'd actually called her, but I want nothing to do with her. I hung up on her.
Am I being a stubborn dick, or should I just accept that she's a cunt and let her die alone and unhappy?
>>17998565
bro just tell her how shes been horrible and you want to spend some good time with her before she dies or she'll have a son that resents her even in death
>>17998565
No, you're completely valid in feeling this way OP. Dying doesn't take back those years of abuse and just trying to appease her in her final hour won't change anything that has happened.
Anon, fighting fire with fire never worked. She's dying, you're not. At the end of the day, yes, she was a shitty individual, but when people begin to die, they want to fix what they've done wrong to the people that they care about. For a lifetime of misery she caused you, allow the next five years or less to be wonderful for her. It's the best thing you can do as a son, even if she has been toxic. At the end of the day, you're her son, and she's your mother.
Tl;DR: I think you should forgive her, and just try to enjoy the last few years she has. As the other anon said, you should tell her how she's been and how from here on out, you want it to be different.
I have a problem. I can admit that it is a problem, and I have yet to act on it.
I am dating my dream girl. She's everything I've ever wanted in a partner. My problem is I'm starting to freak out because we're talking about marriage, and I'm coming to terms that this will be the only girl I have sex with for the rest of my life. I have a few female friends that I keep at a safe distance, but I know they're attracted to me. Lately, I've been fantasizing about fucking them. They're not even as pretty as my girlfriend now... they're just... different. Something else.
I have pretty good self control but lately opportunities have been rearing their heads and I find myself wanting to fuck my supervisor, my ex gf who keeps contacting me, some random fat chick at the gym... And these girls are seemingly becoming aware of this desire, behaving more flirtatious. I know I have good willpower to not flirt back too much. But I just know for sure if I was closing up with my supervisor, and she made it blatantly obvious she wanted to fuck I would jump on it.
This scares me. I don't want to ruin my opportunity with literally the best girlfriend I've ever had. I don't want to hurt her. I think I'd feel worse than she would if I saw the pain I would inflict on her. But I'm scared my dick is done for.
Could someone give me some advice on mindset or keeping the faithful mentality? Thanks a bunch guys.
>>17998560
What is more important?
1. Life partner that you love
2. Fucking around
>>17998574
Yeah, what's more important OP? This anon asks a valid question. It sounds like you're super freaked by committing. It sounds like this has nothing to do with your dick or your self-control but rather your fear of committing to just one person, since it's such a huge commitment and big step in any relationship. Maybe you're moving too fast and need to slow down?
>>17998574
>>17998582
>>17998574
My immediate reply was "life partner."
But after really reading your response, I kind of feel like I missed out on my fucking around. I think that is really a strong force that is affecting me. I feel like I will regret not fucking around. I feel cheated kind of... Everywhere I've been, since High School, there were rumors that I was a manwhore. In reality, I've barely slept around at all. Sure I'd make out here and there but I've only fucked 4 women in my life. I'm pretty old now. And my looks haven't faded so I kind of feel my body is urging me to spread my seed while I still can.
A few nights ago my girlfriend asked how many girls I've slept with. I sheepishly said "I don't know" and she responded like "obviously, I don't care, I expect you had a lot and I'm okay with that." So now she has this opinion of me that I'm a stud when in reality I'm probably below average on the fuck scale.
Should I tell her these things?
Thanks again for the help guys
Currently at hour 36 of no sleep. What happens if I stay up too long??
you fall asleep
your body shuts down?
But your body would do anything to get sleep. You'd fall over eventually
>>17998559
You can see things and hear voices, then fall asleep.
The girl I'm in love with (and who very much loves me, I like to think) is away on vacation. Problem is I'm at a low point in my life right now and she's honestly the only real sunshine I have. She's the only person I really feel happy around right now, as much as I regret to have to admit that.
She hasn't really talked to me at all the last few days since she's been away even though I know she easily could have shot me a casual text like "I love you," "good morning," or "hope you're doing okay" any time she just really hasn't and honestly it's really been getting me down. Really down.
I like to think I'm on her mind and I feel like the doubt I'm feeling is in my head, but I just don't know. How to I deal with this feeling of apparent neglect? I still have to go a few more days with her being gone but she already hasn't texted me at all yesterday and hasn't yet today.
What can I do to get my mind off of this..?
Is she your gf?
Does she know you want her to stay in touch? She probably has her mind on something else.
How long is she gone for? It would strang to me if my GF isn't at least checking in once in a while or sending me pictures of whatever she's doing or something like that.
Have you texted her?
>>17998586
She's my girlfriend in everything but name. She's aware of that too. There are reasons we're not in a formal relationship yet.
I'm positive she knows that. She said she probably wouldn't text much, but she said she would at least snapchat me. Hasn't snapped me at all though and only sent me a few texts back and forth on her 12 hour car ride. It's just discouraging.
26 F
I was a truck driver for about 15 months and just lost my job due to my truck being blown over by 50mph winds. I'm not complaining about losing my job, obviously I wasn't very good at it, and it wasn't making me happy. I would like to eventually go back to school, but I'm not financially capable of that right now.
I'm now living with my bf full-time for the first time in a long time. I was financially supporting him for about six months after he graduated from university and looked for a job. Now we both have jobs. He's a pizza delivery driver, and I'm basically a waitress.
Unfortunately, I feel like crap. I feel like I failure and a loser. I didn't get the college degree I went after which is why I went into trucking then I failed that. Now my bf and I are looking at not making enough for rent. I applied for unemployment and food stamps. How much of a piece of shit am I?
>>17998552
Not any worse off than the majority of our generation.
We're all fucked job wise anyway except some 20% maybe
>>17998554
Is it wrong to ask for help? I haven't even told my family that I lost my job.
>>17998552
>How much of a piece of shit am I?
A pretty big one desu, you've fucked up quite a bit it seems.
You're still alive though, and memes aside you're still relatively young in the grand scheme of things. Look around, try to figure out what you're good at and try to get a job that isn't so pleb-tier. This is coming from my personal pride and/or bias but I'd say hold off on trying to ask for help a little longer, I have a feeling you and your man can get past this and start making some more money if you put your minds to it
Any ergonomics nerds?
What's the best way to not fuck up my posture in the long term?
I need to spend minimum 3.5 hours studying every day, including weekends in front of a laptop. That just studying time, 4chan, yt, movies not included. I'm at home so I don't need to look professional. Img attached looks very unhealthy desu.
I did strong lifts program few years ago, for like a year, can run 10 km without stopping no problem and I always was this way, currently I do mma 4 hours a week, every week. I did some yoga with a physiotherapist turned yoga instructor and I noticed that I have left-right side and other imbalances + tendency for anterior pelvic tilt(I'm a male so no, it doesn't look good on me).
How do I not fuck up my posture?
>>17998510
Just set up your battle station and posture to emulate the pic you posted. Take breaks (take a walk?) ever so often (every 20-30 min?).
You could also take a pic of your setup, post it, and have people critique it.
>>17998510
If you have spare cash invest in 400$+ ergonomic chair (migh wanna search for that or "office chair"). This stuff is balls to the wall amazing and keeps you comfy even in suboptimal positions.
>>17998619
This armchair is quite comfy, sometimes I put my feet on the coffee table, sometimes I rest them on the floor. I keep laptop in my lap. Temperature in my flat is low, to save on the bills, so I use duvet to keep warm and to isolate laptop from my legs.
I never liked sitting like in the OP img. It just doesn't feels right. Should I force myself to do it. Buy a normal desk and an office chair?
Does hypnosis work?
Do any of you have experience with it?
>>17998461
depends. to what end?
>Do any of you have experience with it?
For what purpose?
>>17998530
>>17998533
Help with social anxiety