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Not your job to get his ass back on track desu...you've helped him enough and unless you are in love with him, you have no reason to stick around. He seems like a guy with a lot of problems and it's not completely your responsibility to help him fix those problems, he needs to make an effort too. You started dating him for the wrong reasons and it seems to me that you feel he is a burden. I think you should break up with him asap, you know, after leading him on for the last two years and all. He'll most likely be very upset but you need to let him know exactly why you've decided to break up with him. Perhaps then it might be a wake up call for him and he might decide to get his life back on track. Like I said, it's not your responsibility to look after him, you've helped him enough, I don't like the fact that you got with him because you're a jealous greedy whore, and not because you actually fell in love with him, but what's done is done and you need to get on with your life, and you need to stop him from holding you back.

>>18000750
This desu

Just realize that if you don't truly love him, you have the right to break up... And him threatening to kill himself is pretty pathetic... Just be a man and accept what life serves you.

>>18000738
>Should I just carry on and ride this out until I get to uni and then break up with him?
What is the point? Also would you like to be treated like that? Of course not.

>Stay with him and hope he finally gets his ass on track?
He won't, if one break up didn't do it then he won't. Do not wait, do not try to change someone.

>(I tried once but didn't do no contact and he kept sending me messages about wanting to kill himself and I ended up taking him back after like 3 days
Big mistake, this is toxic. Escape and forget about it.

>>18000731

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look into social dancing - cajun swing zydeco contra country western - all ezpz to learn - avoid ballroom tango square - too difficult to learn

note social dancing crowds are usually nowhere near as bad as bars, people go to dance 1st and 2nd is to meet people so realize just because some gal says yes she will dance with you does not mean she wants to talk to you, or give you her phone number or sit with you etc etc

be clean, be polite and if you're 1/2 ass normal you will have a good time

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>>18000731
I just keep fucking coworkers lmao

>>18000754
i really do appreciate your advice, but i know that this is definitely not the right way for me. also don't think a lot of young girls show up to those in my country

i'm just afraid to try when i start at my new uni with some of my classmates, because i need to get some experience, which i don't have. i don't want to embarrass myself in front of people i have to spend the next 3 years with

when it comes to bars/clubs i'm just so bad at picking up girls in such a setting. i don't know how to move my body even when drunk and i have no idea how to score the girls at such a place

basically i'm just an average-looking male with no experience wanting to come off as normal to my coming classmates, but i still want to go out and have some experience with girls

>>18000711
Could be .. anything is conceivable

>>18000711
Yes and no from non meta points of view.

You are the result of your upbringing and experiences. Your choices in every situation reflect a culmination of these things.

Look up transient global amnesia. My mother had it and every case is the same. The persons memory keeps resetting to a point. As long as they are in the same environment, they will say the same things over and over again.

My mom had about 5 minutes. In that time she would have the same questions the same reactions to the answer and the same thoughts and behaviour.

If anything in her environment changed (ie the stable where it happened to the hospital room) her questions thoughts and reactions changed. But shed be on a new loop.

Its a pretty strong case for you just do what you do and say what you say.

Dont worry about my mom by the way. Its a sudden onset, its still not known what causes it, and it totally vanishes without a trace quickly and doesnt come back.

Its just a strange sudden condition.


Anyway i dont think destiny is a cosmic universe magic thing. I think were just complex yet simple bio computers.

>>18000711
Life is a series of choices, both. Big and small. The multitude of options available are paths and each choice is a divergence from said path. Take for example getting fat as a skinny person. It begins with you choosing to eat poorly every day, drinking sodas instead of water, being a couch potato instead of going out for walks. A month later you are now overweight. Was it predetermined that you got fat? Yes, given the choices you made. Was it destiny? Not until you made it so.

>>18000667

also, fuck, almost double satanic trips

>>18000667

I mean, would I be an idiot if I get out and start over? I'm 22.

>>18000667
>Would I be an idiot

ab-so-fucking-lutely

wtf are you going to do after you graduate ?

get a job doing something you hate ?

geezzz get a clue find some major you like or can tolerate and switch to it

>>18000663

Hard to say but probably like 30%ish Society is pretty fucked up.
I will say there are alot more of us not making claims.
(Assuming you meant for disability)

Im ocd with ptsd and my anxiety is through the roof but i still manage to go to work. It makes me rage to see lazy fat people using ebt.

>>18000663

What does it matter? Either way, your average person, you and I included, are not qualified or trained to tell the difference. If people are dying for attention so bad they're willing to fake it then fine, let them have it. Doesn't affect either of us.

I think the internet makes the number seemed skewed since a lot of people pretend to be mentally ill for pity points.

>>18000658
Not a med fag but 3.5/10 pain doesnt sound terrible.

You may be overthinking nothing. Welcome to evolution. You are in no means a perfectly functioning system. Sometimes youll have pain for no reason. Sometimes its for little reason like you slept on your arm wrong or neck twisted the wrong way.

Sometimes you used the computer too much. Sometimes you walked more than normal in a day or sat too long.

Pain =/= something wrong. Sometimes things hurt.

Im in 6/10 pain all day every day because my job is very heavy.. I also have pains like right side pain and lower back pain for no reason.

If you hadnt id say go to a doctor.
Since you did, id say deal man. Youre fine.

If anything maybe you have fibromyalgia. The prognosis for that is enjoy your pain and the treatment is a pat on the back or depending on the dr. Marijuana.

Dont worry bud youre waisting energy on it.

>>18000658

The chest pain thing might be GERD, sometimes that can lead to pain in the abdomen and inflammation in other parts of the body.
The rash could be a yeast overgrowth which would fit with gerd because it's said people with ph-imbalance are more susceptible.
As for hand, arm, and shoulder pain,
You might have carpal tunnel which is often triggered by inflammation somewhere else in the body. Do your hands fall asleep easily? That's a key symptom.

>>18000733
I do have GERD and Eosinophillic Esophagitis. But my last endoscopy about 2 weeks ago said I was doing better than I ever have been. No sign of fungal infection nor any ulcers. I take meds to reduce acid and protect my stomach and esophagus.
I have been diagnosed with Carpal Tunnel since my profession makes me use my wrists a lot. The reason I don't think its CTS is that I haven't used my arms/hands at all. And the pain certainly doesn't feel like what I have experienced before. Not to discount what you're saying, and it could totally be CTS but no doc has raised that issue yet.

>>18000675
Thanks for the fast response. It's not 3.5/10 pain rather it ranges from 3/10 to 5/10 randomly. And 3/10 seems to be very consistent.
I think that once I get the OK from the cardiologist that I can exercise without worrying, I can hopefully begin to feel better faster and/or lower my anxiety.

I will say that none of these symptoms keep me from sleeping or wake me up either which i am very happy about.

I appreciate the replies guys. It means a lot.

>>18000596
tl;dr

no matter how hard i try in anything, i mostly fail to achieve what is expected of me

how do i make peace with this?

>>18000596
Not meeting expectations is shit because it makes you feel like you broke their trust, while it might not have been such a big deal.

The way i deal with it is whenever someone asks something of me i'm not 100% on i warn them ahead of time i'm not that experienced at it and might muck it up

>>18000616
>The way i deal with it is whenever someone asks something of me i'm not 100% on i warn them ahead of time i'm not that experienced at it and might muck it up


well its the same thing i always did, when it comes to work at least. but at the end of the day, the result is what matters and what is expected to be good.

but its not that particular thing in this case. i honestly wasnt using my head that much, not because im lazy or stupid. but because i was constantly stiffed and afraid of not fulfilling expectations.

>>18000566
I have only an old as hell MySpace profile, full name and last known city if you can help...

Bumpy?

>>18000566
do you know her real name or had any friends in common you could ask?

desu, this is really creepy and I don't think she would be happy to know you have been looking for her.

never explicitly say you're meeting to fuck. just bite the bullet and travel an hour if you care that much.

an hour is nothing dude
especially for some nice poon

I can see how it can be annoying if you have to use public transportation but if you have a car than there is no excuse to whine about an 60 minute drive

>>18000523
>1 hour away
>difficult

Underagefag detected

>>18000519
if you slap your hand on your ear do you feel it resonate?

I had this once and it got better throughout the day

>>18000521
I'm not exactly sure what you mean. It kind of feels like my ear still has an earplug in but it doesn't.

>>18000530
When is the last time you cleaned out your ears? your drum might be covered in wax

If you press your flat hand against your ear, push down and SLOWLY let go again, do you feel a difference in pressure?

someone introduced me to kdramas when i was a weeb, stopped being a weeb and watching korean dramas, they're a bit better since they kinda relate to real life some of them atleast and iv only watched like 5 i enjoyed them then i stopped watching kdramas too and my drive for wanting to succeed in the future and being generally afraid of the future kinda took me from there. you can try kdramas op few good ones i liked: school2015,drinking solo
then kinda find a hobby or something like a long term goal and anime should start appealing less to you

That's your problem op. Start doing drugs and drinking.

Actually.... Nope I do both, still watch anime :(

Watching anime, reading manga, et cetera is fine as long as you don't become obsessed over it.

Lots of young adults (20-30) watch cartoons too. They just don't talk about it 24/7 like high school weebs.

>>18000403
Also ADHD...

What!? No! And i also severely doubt its making your adhd stronger. It doesnt get stronger. You're supposed to live your life as you see fit, enjoy what you enjoy, and the only thing you *have* to do with adhd is maintain meticulous structure and scheduling in your life, possibly with the assistance of medication.

Id call you an idiot if I didnt have your illness and understand exactly how you overthought something and came to a ridiculously silly conclusion.

Get out of your head, anon. From an anon who knows exactly how your brain works.

Stop taking prescription meth.

>>18000417
Different anon but..

No.. I went until i was 27 without it. The medication is a goddamn life saver. Just because it sounds bad to you doesnt mean it is.

Think about it this way. If everyone felt like you, we would be cavemen/hunter gatherers and would already be extinct. So while I can relate, you can either grow up and find a fulfilling career that isn't boring or makes you feel accomplished and realize how silly it was too feel like this

>>18000357
>You can't even "drop out" of society in this day

Top fucking kek

You want out? go live in the middle of nowhere, build your own house and be a hermit. No power, no gas no nothing.

But instead you want to stay in your current environment right? You cannot want 'out' of society but stay in it at the same time

Stop being lazy

You're always working for somebody. I used to run a website where I basically got paid to play the game I love, but I still had to answer to clients. Running my own business, I was still working for those that sought my services. Eventually I left the business and started working normal jobs and I learned a very valuable lesson.

If you're going to work, you might as well enjoy it.

It comes back to the same generic advice that everyone gives in this situation, and that's that you want to get a job that you enjoy. I know, I hate it too; "HUEHUE, B URSELF, DEW WHAT U LOVE!!!1?! xD".

My advice, find something you're good at, and figure out how to make a profit off of it and double nice if you can automate it. Passive income is an amazing thing.

If you're not good at anything, buckle down and learn a skill that can be used in nearly every avenue of life such as coding, massage, physical training etc. Things like this allow you to be self employed, but like I said, you're always going to be working for someone.

Looks good to me bro.

>>18000356
Where did you get the idea to write a resume like this?

I'm actually a professional resume writer, so I know what I'm talking about. It just looks....very bizarre, like you are trying to combine a resume and a cover letter into one document.

I take it you don't have any actual work experience?
And was your novel actually published?
Not sure why you mention prosecuting lawsuits on your resume since nobody wants to hire someone that regularly files lawsuits against people. It's unclear what you mean when you say you "prosecuted" lawsuits. Are you a lawyer?, if so why are you applying for paralegal jobs.

What's your current education program in?

You're resume is honestly just very weird....

>>18000356
>>18001360
And they the fuck do you include line numbers and a "prayer for decision"

>>18000000
Find a job there first. Search and call everything you come across.

Assuming you're a cat, just look cute and get adpotted to foreverhome

>>18000300
How about some information, where are you from, what citizenship do you hold?

There are little to no countries that will allow you to move and work there without any qualifications.