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Quit worrying about what people think, first off. Second, get a job where you talk to a lot of people. A customer service-type job. Or, put yourself in a position where you have to explain something you're knowledgeable about to other people; either for a job or in school. Being a university student will fix that awkward social behavior very quickly. You will be forced to learn material and verbally explain your knowledge at some point as a student. In other words, your success will rely on effective communication skills. So if you find yourself succeeding in school or a job like the one I've described, then your social skills are adequate.
In summary, if you're fairly intellegent and fairly confident, you won't have an issue.

>>18009799
I am a uni student. And I have a job at the campus library right now. I've been here for almost a year now (ever since I started college again) and I still can't seem to get used to talking to people. The worst part is when I have to talk on the phone. Every day is stressful to me. I have a nervous smile as well and my mouth starts twitching after a while. To be honest the only reason I still have this job is because I'm too scared to talk to my supervisor to tell her I want to quit.

Read the Art of Witty Banter by Patrick King. The first few chapters are all that's necessary since it explains the structure and flow of any conversation.

Get ready to work full time x2

Ironically , they say dating older women is the true key to happyness

>>18009510
Not an option I'm ready to do anything to put an end to this

>>18009437
>not some stupid agenda or some dumb cunt's opinion
GL finding objective news.

>>18009437
You can't.
But here is an imperfect guide that might help you : http://m.imgur.com/gallery/iPLkz

>>18009437

just get it from all the major sources

CNN
BBC
FOX
RT (for that kremlin perspective)
Al Jazeera
Reuters

These will keep you up-to-date, with a very varied angle on the same news.

* lawyers

My dad's a lawyer for some phone/cable company. He mostly does contracts and shit.
He's been doing it for about 40 years now, and yeah, he comes home and complains about hating his job every now and then, but what I think is that ANY job after 40 consecutive years is gonna get bland.
He started as a defense attorney doing mostly divorces and child custody type things. He said he didn't like that aspect much, which is understandable because those cases in particular can be, well kind of depressing.
Then he started being a "contract lawyer", idk what his official job title is, but that's basically what he does. Write contracts and negotiate deals for the phone company. I think he preferred the atmosphere of that better. To me it seems boring, I have no interest in law or anything, but if I did I would think that going to court would be more interesting than just reading and writing contracts all day. But maybe he just likes how it's less stressful.
TL;DR on that: I don't think there's any one job a single person can do their whole life and still love it the same way by the end of it. You're gonna get bored of it to some degree the closer you get to retirement. I think that's just life.
Though if you have no passion for it right now, then you probably don't want to just go into it for the money.

Speaking of,
>Money
Idk how much my dad makes specifically, but we've got a family of 4, and my mom is a part time nurse who only makes around 40 grand a year, probably a little less. My dad's the main bread winner, and we've lived a rather wealthy life. He sent both me and my sister to college without us having to take a single dime out in loans, and my sister went to a very expensive college.
I'd say you'll probably live pretty comfortably if you play your cards right.

>>18009760
Sorry I can't be of any more help, that's just the personal experience of the daughter of a lawyer. I'd say our family has always been well off financially and that was mostly from my dad's income, however my dad did get lucky when the 2008 recession hit. While everyone else was losing their jobs, he was getting promoted. But that's just the economy, it can happen to anyone really.

>>18009369

your call, id break up with him and just give him notice. keep in mind that porn addictions very real and while i dont blame you for leaving him, sometimes love means staying and working with someone, but if he cant entertain the conversation theres that.

>>18009369

How about you start out with talking to him about your issues? Maybe he can give you some dickings if you tell him how much you crave his cock.

Also, 1 year and already living together? Way too early

>>18009390
When it's time to start living together?

I wish i could get my hands on some nice adderall. Anyway, I think you fucked up because cannabis is very "sticky". Itcan be detected in urine for about 3 months. good luck tho.

Drink tons of water. Take creatine 2 or 3 times a day with water. Exercise also helps. 7 days before the test minimum, stop smoking. Has worked for years for me and I get urinalysis minimum once a year.

The thing is I have to test positive for adderall and I don't know if it'll show up if I take it or rail it an hour after I take a rapid detox

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Backstory:
>family is in another country
>i'm studying in the netherlands
>they apply for a visa in their cunt
>english tests, health exams
>background checks, proofs
>i need to do them as well
>police and geemente sends me away
>"we don't do that (fingerprinting) here"
>whatthefuckdoyoumean.jpg
>i spend hours for 3-4 days calling various places
>"we don't take fingerprints anon, call #.."
>i tell my dad i can take my own
>tells me to find an official instead
>"less likely to get rejected from application"

Where the fuck can I go???
inb4 entire family hates me because i indirectly wasted their thousands of dollars

I dont understand your story.

>paper from fbi
>fbi cant help
>ACT like refugee

Also its gemeente

>>18009384
>paper from fbi
that is the request forms I need to fill out for a background check
I am not in the USA but i need a fresh background check because I used to live there
>act like a refugee
They get fingerprints and shit done in a snap

>>18009347
If you can get an actual apprenticeship, electricians, mechanics, roofers, and irrigation/plumbing specialists can find jobs anywhere, any time, for median to above average pay, even without working for a company if they happen to do something like move or just need extra weekend income. Don't fall into working as a labor assistant for one of these unless it will help lead you to an apprenticeship or you personally are very good at picking up information without formal instruction and training. Otherwise you will be stuck simply being a laborer who doesn't gain any skills or true knowledge for these jobs to continue forward and potentially be able to do the work yourself as a contractor. Do not drop heavy bank in tools immediately until you're sure the job is for you. Apprentices and trainees are expected to have some tools for any of these jobs, but you can get by with some generic stuff for under $100-200 from Home Depot/Lowes/Sears until you decide you like what you're doing, and then you can start picking up heavy duty stuff, Matco/Snapon if that's your boat, specialty tools, etc.

>>18009347
>>18009362
Also, learn and understand bids. Going under market average if you begin doing work yourself seems like the best way to pick up more jobs than everyone else. However, anyone who wants to pay cheap is going to be cheap through and through, and are often the types of people to do a million callbacks for unrelated issues, try to withhold or rescind payment, and will generally make your life miserable, especially when talking about a larger job. Another thing to consider is that in any of these professions, you do need to back your work to be reputable, so you should always be making somewhere between 1.5 and 2x material costs, if not more. Your labor is technically "free" when you're working for yourself, so doing a rejob/warranty item might only take an hour of your time on a day off and seem like no big deal, but what happens when you're replacing $300 work of material in full and you only charged your customer $50 over cost on it. How much did you just lose our of your bottom line? Average people are also more inclined to rate your services based on your pricing. As counter-intuitive as it seems, pricing yourself at or slightly above the average market price means that first impressions is that your work will be at least on par with, if not better, than your average competition.

I did a trade when I left HS.. the job was alright for a hobby but not something im passionate about doing for someone else. So Im back in school studying for 2 years with around 5 to go. Go out and do some work experience and labour before you do an apprenticeship. Otherwise the only problem with some trades is the types of people you are around, generally not a good environment.

Don't give him the pleasure of responding. You took the high road indeed, so don't look back. Living well is the greatest revenge. Plus he will probably get really fucking pissed you didn't take the bait.

If he sends you anything again, write return to sender on it, shred it or throw it away in a public trash can (so you're not tempted to open it)

Don't, he wants you to respond, it's better you're off the hook and never look back. He will rethink what he had done someday (or not), but don't give him the satisfaction.

>>18009345
This.

>>18009311

Hashish and beer

There are also plenty of misfits around - join your local amateur theatre, it's filled with wierd people and cool people, lots of horny girls and always a couple of horny gays as well

> learn acting
> get dick wet
> have fun with wierd theater types

>>18009311

stop being pretentious.

>>18009311

I'm in that zone too and I have friends.

Just don't be a dick and be open about your interests without being weird and it will solve itself. If you're nice to be around and easy to talk to you shouldn't have a problem meeting chill people in the exact same spot as you

>>18009306
thats because your growing a brain.
be aware what a bad thing is, dont feel bad when a bad thing is mentioned

>>18009317
I'm immune to some of the images too. I used to be horrified as hell when I was younger by the inages, but for some reason I feel nothing

you aint evil, and this aint bad. all is good, all is normal.
i mean, suicide bombings and mass shooting/killings are just bad news to me. nothing more, nothing less.

>>18009287
>when she left, she never told me why...
>i only want to know why she wants to leave so sudden,
She slept with someone else and felt guilty about it.

>>18009293
talked to her about that, straight denied it.
meh, right now i just want to forget that she ever existed in my life, is all.

>>18009322
>straight denied it.
And then wouldn't tell you why she was leaving? That sets off my bullshit detector.

I have no idea what's going on in that recording, but
>My girlfriend's ex came over to talk with her when I wasn't around
major, major red flag

>>18009255
>a recording device
Why tho?

Jesus Christ trust between people really is at an all time low.
So she talked to her ex. What's wrong with that? You can't hear them banging and having loud sex on that recording now, can you?

>>18009268
no shit, retard sherlock

>>18009230
Go to a fucking hairdresser, get a haircut and listen to his/her advices.

OP, how is your diet? Do you eat healthy?

>>18009353
yes i do

>>18009174
>falling in live
>with someone you barely know

You aren't in live, you just have a crush and sound like you aren't too experienced with women.
Don't blow things out of proportion, it's just a girl

>>18009192
20 and KHV. I think you're right, but I enjoy her company so much. These feelings are fucking suffocating.

>>18009174
Stop seeking her out. Don't think about her. Don't fantasize about you and her. Don't stalk her Facebook. Occupy your mind if you have thoughts of her.