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Most young people wouldn't be with each other without sex.

give her pussy a fucking rest. god damn. Young men are crazy horny. It's so nice being in my thirties and not thinking about sex all the time.

>>18010850

straight up, no i wouldnt be with my partner without sex, its a romantic relationship and sex is a large part of waht seperates my boyfriend from my guy friends.

dont get me wrong, romance is its own intrinsic element, but to ask me to just not have sex is to ask me to not be me, sorry babe.

>>18010849

there's never an alright or not alright. shes not going to say 'ANON THERE ARE SPECIFIC RULES AND YOU BROKE THEM'. its literally what she feels like is how she'll respond. you cant say 'BUT 4CHAN SAID IT WOULD BE APPROPRIATE'.

only you know if this is a good idea.

guess it depends on the situation and how you left things.

i guess i'm in a similar situation with this girl i used to hook up with. ive thought about getting back in touch with her because i genuinely liked her but i'm just nervous what she'll think about that.

>>18010867
I know in my heart that it probably wouldn't be a great idea, but I still want to do it. I guess the reason I feel it would be a bad idea is that I might get hurt again. But really, what's the worst that could happen? I just want to message her "Hey", then if she doesn't know who it is I'll tell her and ask how she's doing. I don't see the harm in that

masturbate all alone where no one can hear you.

The sensation of another human being touching my junk sometimes can genuinely give me a panic attack after what happened to me a few years ago. The worst thing is that it's very hard to predict.

The only thing I can advise is a partner that is patient or, if you're riding solo, that you be patient with yourself.

Take care.

I tried that, once I am about to climate, nothing happens. It just stops.

> standard no re-employment clause
is it? for being laid off?

>>18010838
Did some googling and apparently it's a pretty standard provision in severance/settlement agreements.

Nice image.

>>18010775

men cannot suppress their urges, only control how they react to them. you can't stop yourself from falling in love, from being horny, or being hungry.

but just because you're hungry doesn't mean you ahve to eat, not that moment, and definitely not whatever it is you are craving. you can make the choice to treat yourself right and not give in to every impulse you have, even when it coems to love.

unfortunately you are no worse than the guy who gets the girl, and just floats from relationship to relationship, letting the romance define him.

This made me tear up like the little beta bitch man I am because I am in the exact same position, except I had this epiphany years ago and every crush and relationship since has been the same shit.

So I don't know what to tell you, man. I just want you to know that you're not alone, and that maybe some day we'll both beat this and be happy.

Look after yourself.

I've a similar experience to you, and here's a twist.

There have been times when I have mentally trained myself to give up on the fantasies. Trouble is, my hormonally charged young male body would kick back. Without at least a fantasy that I had a girlfriend I wanted, my brain essentially gave into despair and I became depressed; I was hungry for the hope I had been accustomed to feeding myself.

The only real cure is ACTUAL positive interactions with a girl - its a natural phenomenon that your brain will fire those dopamines when your evolutionary desire to breed is appeased in some way. I would recommend spending some more time around women generally

Should probably mention I'll be turning 25 in a month and she's 23 now.

>>18010753
You know. A get a lot of situations like this. I have asked for advice on here a lot and people always say do or don't. I ask my friends very personal things and tell them personal things.

To the point. It sounds like you are both cool with each other. That is a plus. Do not do it through text or a call big no. Meet up if you can the sense of meeting up will definitely be a lot more meaningful and show that you actually care. Grab a coffee with her.

But if you do decide to go down this road. Tell her straight up when organising that you wanna have a few words. Not intimidating at all. Just explain it is sort of a personal thing and if she would like to meet up then cool. Once you got her out for a chat just brush onto it. Don't rush straight in on it but say that it has been getting to you quite a lot. In this stage you must say that you respect her opinion towards abortion and if you do too then express that. But in that case to avoid the typical faker expression, something along the lines of, "I can't shake the feeling." Just ask for the truth, be kind, be friends. Hope this sort of helps. I'm the type of guy with no filter so I am known for this behaviour. The truth can hurt, the truth is always the better answer and most definitely I respect those who are straight up and truthful. Others are different. I expect results and no sweet talk. But in your case, be kind and up front. You need to appear serious otherwise she'll dismiss you and essentially get a bad feeling. The feel that ruins a persons day feeling.

>>18010792
We aren't on the kind of page that we could or would meet up. Thank you for writing all of that though, I'm also the no filter type and I wouldn't want to cause that feeling of just invading someones personal life and dropping that bomb on them in a text cause it's been done to me, but there's like.. no chance of us meeting up casually.

I would have to be completely up front and be like trigger warning. but..

No not really you are losing money there honestly

>>18010707
>iphone 5s
You fucked up big time there OP. Just bought a meme phone

>>18010707
I mean iPhones suck but you could more than double your money if you decided to sell it to someone Apple loving nigger faggot. I'd do it.

Its not healthy the way he handles rejection, assuming youre not exaggerating.
You aren't obligated to fuck him ever. But he's also not obligated to stay with you.

Your options are to work out a compromise, one of you caves and gives into the other's desires, or you decide you're not a good fit for one another.

What should be the "normal" for you is completely between you two to work out.

>>18010692
Every day sounds normal and healthy. You just have a lower libido than him. Doesn't mean you're unhealthy, just that your libido's don't match. Sports and healthy food can elevate your libido if you want to make an effort to match his

>>18010692
That is entirely up to the both of you. As long as it doesn't interfere with your life you could easily have sex every day. My fiancee and I do. She always wants it just as much as I do though so it is a mutual thing. Honestly there isn't a right answer. If your boyfriend is trying to have sex so much he can't get anything else done he might be an addict, but unless it is interfering with his ability to work then he is normal.

Do what you have to do for your kid. I admire you

I think you need to sort out your priorities if you're spending $1000+ on a fucking birthday party

>>18010675
I work as an administrative assistant anon. The answer is yes. Male receptionist and admin assistants are top tier valued for being the onlh man amongst women
>you will seem more friendly/sexual/romantic to women if you arent blatently gay
>you automatically intimidate customers when they try to get once over on women coworkers

Do it anon

Why are you randomly approaching girls with no reason to talk to them?

>>18010673
Make a comment about something that's going on in the environment or something she's wearing. People always say not to talk about the weather but I've started many a conversation with a stranger by just commenting on nice or how shitty of a day it is outside, then you can easily branch into other more interesting topics.

Because I want to talk to them

>>18010664
Are you me?

Serious question. Are you a virgin [spoiler] too?[/spoiler]

>>18010669
No im not a virgin. I guess i can fake being a completely different person at times so im not that fucking autistic but i hate the fact that this bullshit still occupies my mind. The self loathing is real after breaking up with my girlfriend too. Oh well

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this is your 5th thread in row

Is your house clean? Your bed?

>>18010637
Whatch what youre eating. Cut out the bread and red meat for a week.

>>18010674
I live in a college dorm, so it's pretty clean. Plus, I washed my sheets a couple of weeks ago. Should I wash them again?

>>18010618
>she's into them
yes

yeah if shes into it

if youre not though, its destined to fail

i took a girl to a museum once and i just talked shit the whole time because i thought it was stupid and pretentious, of course she didnt like me much after that, but thats how it goes

the real answer is just do what you want to do because in the long run the right one will be there with you

>>18010618
Hell yeah, if she's into them. I wouldn't do it for someone you didn't know well as it's very specific, but if she said she likes it, go for it.

>>18010601

17

>>18010601
However many you decide on when you sit down and talk with your wife about it, not how many 4chan decides.

Rollin'

>>18010520
Don't go into computer sciences. That shits gonna die pretty soon because everybody and their mother is telling everybody and their mother to go into IT. The market will be so over-saturated that you will NOT find a job. Tbh, if these are the only options, you're fucked.

>>18010559
There isn't much more I'm interested in.
What the fuck more is there anyway? Maths, economy?

DO NOT go into chemistry or any type of science unless you plan on going into med/dental/etc after.
Hard ass majors that do not help with landing jobs.
Engineering is a good bet, especially with the whole visa ban getting enacted. They always need engineers.
Are you at all interested in business? I'm in accounting and we're basically swimming in job offers so don't rule anything out before you get there and scope things out