i'm a hairdresser. ask me anything hair related.
if you want advice on how to style/cut your hair i will need a recent pic of you
>>18009386
What is your favorite brand of hair dye?
I need a recolor soon but there are no actual salons in my area so i was thinking about ordering some pro quality dye online because i don't wanna use a crappy low quality box dye again.
>>18009396
i find it a good idea to use professional dye.
i have always worked with schwarzkop colors. but any salon brand will do a good job. namely goldwell, loreal or wella. keep in mond that all those brands have non-professional products too. maybe post a pic for me if you aren't sure
>>18009405
Thankyou, I'm not into sharing pics on the chans but I'll definitely look into those products.
Diagnosed paranoid schizophrenic here. Want to quit smoking but it's the only thing I've found that helps me manage my psychosis.
I've tried meds, and think they are not only less effective, but also less healthy.
Wat do?
I suggest staying completely sober for a while. I've struggled with mental illnesses, and although they might be less severe than yours, one thing that has helped is sobriety. I used to experiment with a lot of different stuff, but nothing ever quite helped, and usually only served to dirty up my mind even more.
After a long enough time of sobriety, you'll begin to experience a sort of tranquility and "cleanness" of mind. It's strange, but I don't think I could ever go back to abusing drugs simply because I love being sober.
try using the patches. it took me like a year and a half of using the patches to finally quit.
Coffee and tea help. You should search "replace cigerrate for schizophronic" see what you get. Its a fairly common problem. A lot of people get cancers because of the constant chainsmoking.
I know I shouldn't but I'm thinking of driving off and shooting myself soon.
I know that everyone says it gets better but I genuinely don't think that. My ankles are too fucked up to run in and I'm only 24. Military isn't an option because of that and being 20lbs overweight. I've had a bullshit dumb muscle job since I turned 20 and no one is willing to give me a different job. Anything entry level requires 2 years experience and either a GED or a Bachelor's. I wasted around three years on a degree and certificate that means nothing. It seems like my fate is stuck with warehouse jobs. Which means working at some store. Which means never making anything resembling 40k a year.
I don't really know what advice I want. Last meal is figured out but I'm open to fancier suggestions.
First off you fat fuck, lose your weight you'll be a lot better off without it and you'll feel a lot better. I used to be what, 309 something pounds at age 12 and you think I just keeled and gave up because I got bullied? Fuck off with that overweight meme bullshit you lazy slob.
Killing yourself because your life is dead end is baby shit, if you truly have nothing do crazy shit for no reason like PR stunt shit to make people go crazy and just be an idiot, we don't have enough idiots to make life interesting anymore. Invent a religion, slice and dice people while proclaiming your a pope, if you're dead set on killing yourself, set off fire crackers in a mall while dressed as a Muslim before you pop your head like a cork.
But anyways, you're retarded. Fuck you and I hope you do kill yourself.
Sounds like a plan
So there's nothing in life you're curious about, and you base your entire value on whether or not you make a certain amount of money?
that ain't right, son. Anyway, if I was going to off myself - like I really didn't give a shit and no one needed me and there was no more good I could do in the world and my continued existence was in fact causing other people pain - I'd probably find a more interesting way to die. Like maybe going to Iraq and getting myself beheaded trying to fight ISIS, just to see if I could cap one before they got me.
My libido is way too fucking high and is hindering my relationship. Not having any form of sexual relief is seriously declining my mental health. How do I lower my drive?
Jerk it
jerk it harder do it faster make it harder makes us stronger
>>18014043
I can't orgasm without some sort of intimacy. I'm a fairy, I know, but I seriously can't cum unless I feel cared about. So I'm looking to just kill the drive altogether.
So there is this girl in my class (sophomore hs) that is extremely good looking. She is a cheerleader and is pretty funny to talk and joke around with. She recently broke up with a guy who i used to be pretty decent friends with (mostly just at school we hung out once in middle school). Anyway, the week they broke up, she started saying hi to me in the halls and in class just about everytime i saw her. Good right? This was probaly two weeks ago. I'm not kidding when I say probaly 5-7 times a day. I always say hi back. Now, I'm no beta, I don't shit my pants when i see a girl and I know how to hold a conversation with one. Most people think I'm pretty funny, and I know she thinks I'm funny. I'm an extrovert in school because i consider most of the people around me my friends so I can be kind of loud, but we all have a good time. The problem is, at this point, she is talking to one of my better friends. I don't really know how serious it is at the moment. Look, I think she is into me, and I am totally into her. It's just, i cant tell if she is doing it because she actually likes me, or because she thinks i'm funny and that it's kind of like an inside joke between us. It's weird, she used to do it back in middle school as well, so it could be her just doing it again to make a funny. Someone please help?
>>18013885
>sophomore hs
>>18013885
Dude are you like 13?
>>18013885
>Now, I'm no beta
Okay buddy.
21 years old guy here.
One thing I hated about my one and only ex was how she always had a dominant attitude. We broke up, but she handled it better than I did. She was always overly rational. She acted more like a 40 years old man rather than her age.
I really want a clingy, dependent but at the same time intelligent girlfriend. What do I target to find such types?
>>18013823
Outside the USA. I personally import my woman from mexico, ( family-orinted, petite and passionate sexually) but you might have different teastes.
>>18013834
I'm from Greece. I did the mistake of dating an American girl once, and I had the chance to meet her American expat friends.
Truly a degenerate nation.
>>18013843
USA is nothing compared to Brazil, where i live, just finding someone who is 18+ and haven't had at least 3 boyfriends is like a shiny Mewtwo. The same to finding people who never get cheated on. Also, 2+ more relationship is really impressive and marriage level.
I've spent some year studying in USA and Europe, those kind of girls can be found in IT degrees/partys and in real alternative music concerts (this last one was for Europe, more specific Portugal/Spain/Italy).
Guys... I'm a random anon asking for some personal advice to the only place where I feel like I belong.
I, after so much time, finally got a girlfriend. It's great and everything. I gave my virginity to her, and we were doing fine, but recently, do to her own insecurities, she has been making me feel really bad. Sometimes I just can't take it and I end up crying myself to sleep, because I can't let her see me crying for being bullied by her.
Once, I almost got deaf because of a game of hers, and, even when she took care of me while I was in rehabilitation, she keeps making fun of me for crying about it. I'm a /mu/fag, and music is really important to me, so, when I heard that I might loose my hearing capacities due to her agressive game, I felt like my whole life was going to end.
I love her, and I know she's a good person, but the stuff she has been living (dealing with some harsh stuff about her parents divorcing, and problems with past relationships) made her into a really agressive person with those that she loves.
She loves me, and I know I should be glad, but what can I do, when, even while having a girlfriend, I feel like killing myself everyday...
Going from a sadboy, to, probably, an alfa, and then just realizing that I'm still the same beta-sad-pathetic fucker that I've always been, it's hard, and it's killing me.
What should I do?
tl;dr
I'm too sad, even with a girlfriend, what do?
>pic because I use pokemon as a gateway from reality and it actually makes me forget about this stuff.
try talking to her about it but not in a way that would hurt her feelings. at the end of the day relationships are supposed to be a 50/50 and it seems like you're giving more than receiving. it seems like her depression is a situational thing so it will pass but the time could take a while but trying to speed it up would mean working on her and also yourself. good luck man and i'll see you around /mu/
woahhh back the fuck up
>I almost got deaf because of a game of hers
please explain this.
so she did something that literally damaged your inner ear and she made fun of you for losing your hearing?
that's fucking cold. I'm a musician myself and if I lost my hearing I would honest to god just kill myself.
>>18013811
*for almost losing your hearing, and crying about it
no matter how much I cared about her, she ended up with a stoner, but I didn't stop there.
>hang out with a girl that is socially extremely active, from the university
>we actually have good time, even had sex
>events, parties, cinema etc.
>we care about each other's problems
>first time I'm not an orbiter and I don't act like an autist
>she starts losing interest in me, frequently checking her phone during the time we're together, snapping someone etc.
>I am always the one that initiates chatting
>get shorter and colder responses each day
>"meh I really loved, what went wrong" thinking to myself
>as I stopped getting (or barely get) responses from her, I feel like a stupid and even a creep for keeping texting
>find out she goes on vacation with a male stoner, classical trash guy in the school who promotes LSD all the day, listening to relevant music, making himself look cool etc.
>I had finally managed to lose my interest but seeing this triggered something in me
>they apparently hang out for more LSD trips in their nature vacations
>decide to report these junkies to the police
>I actually did it, I always knew the exact hour she starts gettin drugs
>they get busted
>that male stoner faggot's home is actually full of drugs, he is arrested for being a distributor
>her parents are told by the police, she is free but her family won't ever set her free
fucking redemption, I guess I love taking revenge. Despite all the advices I got from /adv/ (let her go etc.), I couldn't bring myself to lose a girl to a junkie assfaggot.
>>18013747
I wasn't here for the previous thread so I don't know all the details. If she started distancing herself from you to be with this guy, instead of just breaking it off, good on you. Just make sure you've cut contact for good now.
Are you from Ireland?
You did the good thing Anon
Snitches get stitches, yours will come in due course.
So a pretty attractive girl and I were snapchatting a couple of nights ago and she was being very flirty (not drunk/high). She sent a lot of very revealing cleavage pics and was frequently initiating conversation. She sent videos of her dancing in just a bra and would send me many snaps in a row if i replied slowly. That was a few nights ago and she hasn't sent many snaps since and non of them have been as quality. She has even sent me a couple of pics of her with her boyfriend but it was the type of snap she probably sent to all of her snapchat friends.
Anyway, enough of the gory details. My intentions are not to date this girl but I would like to hook up with her or at least get more snaps like that. This girl has a boyfriend and the snaps she sent me were sent after she spent the day with her boyfriend She has a bit of a reputation for being a bit unloyal and acting slutty in the past, though. There is a dance in a month or so that I know she really wants to go to so she may just be staying with him for that. My interactions with her in person since then have been sparse but we have joked about inside jokes from that night.
Anyway, thoughts? How do I get this girl to treat me like she did a few nights ago? Is she just leading me on or was this legitamite flirting? What's my move here?
Thanks
>>18013745
It sounds like she just really craves the attention but pulls back a bit once she's bored (or has a new source).
>>18013745
bump
She's in love with herself so I'd say leading you on. She already got off. Unless you're Chad I wouldn't expect more effort on her end.
There's a guy in one of my classes that I've never even spoken to he keeps texting one of my friends with questions about me such as if I'm single, who I last dated, etc. Today he sat behind me and texted my friend that he was reading the messages I was sending to other people from over my shoulder. He then asked her if she knew who I was texting and wanted to find out if it was my ex (whom I haven't spoken to since last September).
Obviously this is not okay and it's been going on for four weeks. To make matters worse, he has a girlfriend that he's been with for 5 years and a tight group of friends that I don't want to get on the wrong side of, especially as he knows I walk home from class at night.
What do I do? I can't confront him in front of the class. I do know he has a facebook so I could message him, but I don't want to give the wrong impression.
Sit in front of him and send messages to people. Then type out a message that says some creepy motherfucker is reading everything you type.
Why don't you introduce yourself to him and actually talk to him like a human being? Wtf is wrong with this generation if you talk to him you might find out what he wants from you op. If he trys anything funny call him out on having a gf if he keeps on persisting then you contact the proper authoritys.
>>18013750
>Then type out a message that says some creepy motherfucker is reading everything you type.
This.
I'm dealing with a potential work place romance. I might have blown it already, but I'm not sure.
I send goofy emails back and forth with one of the clinicians where I work. She's five years older than me, a divorcee and lives on her own. She's a professional at the clinic, whereas I'm a clerk.
Reasons I think she's into me:
She stops to talk to me for no reason.
She incited a non-work related personal email chain between the two of us. Despite our schedules we manage a couple replies per day.
She asked me to come down to the lunch room to tell her a story about some previous jobs I'd mentioned in an email.
She gets excited when I tell her about my life experiences and when I suggested a band to her.
One time I asked her why she didn't wear her ring on her ring finger, she baited me for a compliment. I resisted because we work together and I don't want to risk my job if she's not actually interested.
One time she found out where I worked on another floor--I split time between two departments--to bring me a delivery. She's not a clerk and shouldn't be doing that as a clinician.
Reasons I don't think she's interested:
She talks about being a divorcee quite a bit and references her previous marriage in conversation a fair amount, not sure if she's advertising she's single or not over the separation.
She's very friendly to everyone. In general, she has a gregarious personality.
She's older than me and, well, that's a turn off to some women.
Despite seeking out conversation with me, she also seems to be offended whenever I open my mouth--I'm working on it.
She's always asking me if I'm okay and alright. It sounds more like mothering/sisterly concern than attraction.
Does she sound interested?
If so, I don't know how to approach the situation. Moving too fast is dangerous. I could make things awkward between the two of us and lose my job. We've been friendly for about a week now.
Is she interested? If so, how should I proceed?
>>18013658
Bump.
>>18013658
If this has only been going on for a week then you barely know her, right? Why does it have to be romance at this point? Just work on being friends and if the romance is there it will fold naturally. Notice cues if she drops and if you both do become friends then do cues yourself.
>>18013727
The semi-flirty email has been going on for a week. The rest of it a closer to a month. She initiated it and strikes me as the type that goes for what she wants...which turns me on even more.
She's also offered to buy me stuff from a convenience store nearby.
I don't know how to do the friends thing well. Socially I'm fucked up. Where should I go from here? Ask her to join me for lunch in the break room when we share shifts? Won't that come off as needy and weird?
I'm giving my ex a second chance after 6 months. We agreed to take it slow, and giving it a month of easy going so that I can see if she really has changed like she said.
I haven't told my friends or family about this, but if I decide take her back, how can I convince them that I've made a good decision? I vented to them alot over the breakup, and they obviously don't think too fondly of her.
>>18013650
>how can I convince them that I've made a good decision?
How is anyone supposed to answer this? You haven't even told us what the fuck she did.
I'm guessing she cheated, but jumping to conclusions is never a good idea.
>>18013661
She didn't cheat. She had been in a long distance relationship when we met. She broke up with the other guy to date me, but since they had been friends before, they decided to go back to that.
He still had feelings for her, but she didn't want to believe it. Her trying to remain friends with him while dating me put alot of strain on the relationship. Eventually I got sick of it, and cut her off.
She contacted me last week and explained that I was right, and that what she had done wasn't fair. She wants a second chance where she can treat me better.
>>18013650
Depends on what you broke up for.
Cheating? No. Do not get back together with her. You'll still have that nagging voice mistrusting her because she betrayed your trust and that can never be repaired. That doesn't mean it won't work; its just not healthy.
Any other reason; depends on severity.
Already put this on /b/.. But seriously, I have a mutual friend. Do you think she's too weird? Or should I call her up?
How am i going to figure out if she is fucking weird if you dont say anything about her?
This fine lady looks like perfect wife material
Call her up and stick the P in the V. Especially if that's her because it's obvious she's a freak and will on hop that dick with ease. If you don't then you're gay. Do you wanna be gay?
>Be me 18 last semester in high school
>Never been to a party
>Never drank
>Never done any drugs
>Never had a gf/sex
>have average grades B's and C's
>have an regular group of normie friends
>Most free time is spent practicing melee techskill
>Never had any real big issues in life
Have i wasted the years where you are "supposed to be stupid and have fun" has anyone else had a similar experience? Is this typical?
I'm basically the same, better grades but basically 0 friends.
I've been getting worse when it comes to being lonely and depressed as days go on.
College is the time when youre supposed to be stupid and have fun moron. You're still basically a child, therefore none of the things you've listed are things you necessarily should have done. Some you probably never should do, like get into illegal drugs.
Your time to shine will be your 20's, so long as you don't spend it as a sperg who rejects everything because you're too insecure to take advantage of the opportunity.
Your 20's is a great chance to reinvent yourself as well. Go to a place where nobody knows you. Congrats, you can be a brand new person.
>>18013543
I've wasted mine so far might as well just wait like the other anon said it's pointless during this time in our lives
I got robbed by some people I know. The problem is that what got robbed, a rubber bag that belonged to my brother, has weed in it so the police can't get it back.
How can I get it back? My brother will be so pissed. So far one of them confessed that some other guy has it. I had no beef with him before and he kind of liked me. I can try getting some mutual friends to manipulate him into giving it back, but I'm not sure.
It got robbed because it was on the table and when their "gang" came in one guy nabbed it and they left with it.
Fuck the weed. Leave the weed out of it. Tell the cops you got assaulted by the gang. Then they will investigate, shake up the kids and probably find the pot or other drugs and bust them for it.
>>18013552
After some messaging, apparently one of them threw it out somewhere. Is it hopeless? What can I do?
>>18013534
Haven't you heard? Snitches get stitches. Also: you are fucked. The cops aren't stupid enough not to see through this shit since they run into it all the time. They'll immediately assume birds of a feather flock together. Probably know it'll be about something with which you have no recourse.
That weed is tuition for a semester at Common Sense Community College. Don't put valuable shit in arm's reach, especially if you invite people the world would be better off without. I've lived in shit holes my whole life growing up, and that's a lesson I learned by the time I was 12.
>inb4 I didn't invite them in myself
They were in your home and it wasn't a B&E. Whatever factors caused that are on you.