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Is this site bad for me? 2017-02-04 07:34:42 Post No.18019610
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After 10+ years here, is /adv/, or 4chan as a whole, just bad for me?
I'm 30, and I don't feel like I'm getting much in terms of advice anymore, or that anyone's listening. Most everything is derailed by /pol/tards and people posting the word cuck, to the point where I can't tell if people are serious or not.
Thing is, I don't know if I should just try to stick to boards like /co/, or how I'll fill my time not posting here.
Has anyone else considered leaving, is in the process of leaving, or has left and come back?
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I mostly just browse here to be entertained by seeing what amusing messes idiots get themselves into.
If you're 30 you should be adult enough to live your life without a randomly demographically-skewed sample of people on the internet telling you their subjective opinions at every juncture.
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I'm 24, been here since I was 18, and I honestly find myself hiding more and more threads the older I get
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>>18019610
It's changed me and not for the better.
I am more or less a /pol/tard though so I don't even mind anymore, but it's the place I go to when I feel sad and want to rage at the world, which is too often.
I tried leaving and all goes well until I get one of those bouts of sadness again and I'm back.
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Alcohol is destroying me 2017-02-04 06:50:10 Post No.18019526
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After being sober for almost 4 weeks I relapsed.
I'm 27 and recently got back into school. I'm doing fairly well in all my classes and have a 3.67 GPA at the moment. I started drinking in high school because it helped with my anxiety and I could actually socialize with people without turning into a stuttering mess. I pretty much have no friends now because of my alcohol problem. Every job I've ever had I've lost due to my drinking.
I don't know what the hell is wrong with me. I know that every time I drink I'm going to do something stupid that I'm going to regret as soon as I sober up. I seriously think I'm insane.
I don't know what to do. If I don't drink I'm constantly overwhelmed with social anxiety. If I do drink I feel good, but I'm essentially digging my own grave. I don't necessarily expect to get any life changing advice here, I just want to get it off my chest. I really don't have anyone to talk to about this.
So, it's one in the morning now and I'm still drinking my poison of choice (cheap vodka) and I really just need to talk to someone I guess.
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>>18019526
27 here too
I'm also a drunk
I'm trying to beat it
I only started around 3 years ago
I've been trying to beat it since I started.
For me it's just about being bored
When I'm drunk, everything is enjoyable and tolerable
When I'm sober, everything is dull and tedious
What the fuck do you think I choose?
I usually go one day on and one day off.
Sometimes more than a few between
Booze is expensive here, so I need to be conservative
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>>18019526
Is it just to give you confidence or is it because you were molested growing up?
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>>18019530
Have you started having the hungover fever dreams yet?
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Okay serious question, I have a gf and I've been with her for 2 years. But there's a girl I work with, she has a fiancé, but me and her have gotten close, we flirt all the time, little touches but not in inappropriate areas. I'm just wondering if I should stop this? Because I'm 100% sure I won't do anything with the girl I work with
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There's no problem with what you're doing.
Work creates bonds like no other. You probably have a "work" wife.
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sounds like semi cheating, if your gf did this with her co worker how would you feel?
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Ask your girlfriend, not us. If you're afraid to even do that, then you have your answer.
Currently going threw some generalized anxiety and panic attacks any tips to help me get rid of this
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I'm the app only app app does app is not the only thing that does app is not the only thing that does app is trytt with viruses
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Let it out
Don't try to bottle it up.
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>>18019428
Just remember you can't actually die from one
Also, when I'm having a real bad panic attack I close my eyes and count backwards from 100. Helps some
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Annihilate someone else's Relationship 2017-02-04 05:59:27 Post No.18019402
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Annihilate someone else's Relationship
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Hello,
I am in love with a girl who lives in China (pic related. Looks a lot like her but is not her). I am in North Amurica. I have a great job, making lots of money and I am in great shape. So normally I would just try to flirt with her and book a flight there or a flight for her to here and then see if things can progress. She does not currently know I have feelings for. We only know each other because I talked with her for a bit when she visited my city as a tourist last year.
The problem is, a few months ago she got a chinese boyfriend. He is chubby and lazy and his degree is going to be worthless. His family has a bit of money, but not a lot.
I want to nuke their relationship from orbit so that I can have her to myself. I don't want to just convince her to leave him because that would set a bad precedent. I want her to leave him of "her own volition" so I can swoop in. How can I somehow make this happen remotely from the other side of the pacific? Is there someway to hack his facebook? Or implicate him with another girl somehow? Order a prostitute to his house?
I'm open to lots of ideas. Let me know what you've got.
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>>18019402
Offer green card or buttloads of $
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>>18019402
Be white and have US (or any western country) citizenship
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>>18019402
If you got more money than that fucker shove it in her face ching chongs love the smell of money because that is all they are desperate gold diggers, you got a great shot!
I'm nearly 26 and I've never even kissed a girl. I've had chances to have a girlfriend, but I always blew it. Now I'm balding and I am very depressed. My will and hope is pretty much broken at this point. I've turned to drugs in the last few months to deal with my problems and it's obvious to me that I won't last another 2 years at this rate before I just off myself or die from some kind of overdose.
Help. I'm afraid of what I'm going to do to myself after I hit 26 in a few months. I'm becoming more and more unstable every single day.
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Get a hooker
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well if you actually care about fixing your shit, first thing to do is get off the drugs
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The fuck are you doing bro?
You are almost at the age where woman start getting serious and want to settle down with a lifelong partner.
Anything below 28 is just horny kids messing around.
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I'm in love. Problem is she moves back to her country in a few weeks. What the fuck do I do? Should I tell her? Even if I tell her it won't change anything because she has to go back permanently to take care of family! I can't sleep I can't eat I'm thinking about the bitch all day. What do I do anons? Any stories out there?
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Only fall in love with native girls
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Fuck
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>>18019357
Yeah do it! In fact put a ring on it so she can stay here with a free ride in life.
#feminismforeverfuckyeah!
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I'm pretty weirded out right now. Until about a year ago (I"m currently 30) i had never drank aclohol before. But right now I'm pretty drunk, sexting a gay friend of mine all of my submissive fantasizies. He just old me to snapchat myself peeing on my own face and I did, and it got me turned on in a way of I've never felt before. I don't even know what to do right now.
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>>18019330
Hook up with the friend
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>>18019330
Hang yourself.
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>>18019351
But he's far away
>>18019353
But I'm pretty sure I'm drunk and tying a hangman's noose would be impossible right now.
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I'd rather kill myself then get old 2017-02-04 05:01:59 Post No.18019294
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I'd rather kill myself then get old
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Every single day I have massive anxiety over aging. I am a 22 year old male, I will turn 23 in July. To me everything good and important in life, all of your social wealth and power comes with youth when you are most beautiful. I look at old people in disgust, their gross bodies, their attempts to look young, their general inability to let go of life. It scares me to death.
I think about killing myself before I hit 30 all the time, I can't imagine anything worse than being old and its so bad that I constantly research anti aging tech. Scientists are actually making mice younger and hope to start human trials within 10 years but I know that it probably wont be in my lifetime.
I don't know what to do about it.
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How is 10 years not in your life time? If they find away to reverse aging we can live as long as we like in young bodies. Overpopulation will be a bitch, but hey. Sounds cool to me. Or like a transfer of consciousness would be neat.
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>>18019300
What I mean is that they will probably not have perfected this kind of shit in my lifetime, or have it usable to the public. Also the cost will most likely be insane.
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It's a raw deal, but it's the only one we get. Don't delude yourself into buying into the anti aging BS. If it does happen in your lifetime, you're likely not rich or powerful enough to actually receive "treatment"
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I'm about to cut several friends out of my life because they do drugs. I don't give a fuck about the drugs themselves. I give a fuck about the fact that a large number of people I know are doing illegal activities and associating with people doing other illegal activities (i.e drug dealers) and I've got way too much on the line to be fucking around with the possibility of it coming back on me some how.
Am I wrong? Because I already discussed this issue with some people and are like "But you know what you got into when you befriended us" how the fuck do I respond to that?
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Nah, it's 100% valid.
I'm going into teaching. I can't so much as fart in the wrong direction without getting my entire livelyhood ripped away from me.
Had some friends from high school/college who did drugs, and I was like "Nah I can't be around that shit anymore,"
Things change.
>You knew what you were getting into
Provided you knew what you were getting into WHILE still having these things to lose (and not like what I was explaining of, met people and THEN gained these things I can't lose),
Then tell them you changed your mind. Thought it would be ok but it isn't. If they don't like it, they can just choose what they want more. Your friendship or drugs.
They'll likely choose the drugs, but that's on them.
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Lol what a dork
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>>18019269
How old are you? Your drug friends are going to grow into some really shitty people when (IF) they reach their late 30's and you will be forced to ditch them anyways. Might as well just get it over with now. The older they get the worse they will get.
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This girl and I really fell for one another over the summer, she kept telling me she wanted to marry me and spend the rest of her life with me and three days later she broke up with me after saying that she isn't ready for a relationship and shit. I haven't been able to get over her like 7 months later, but within 3 months she started dating someone else and they're still together. What the fuck is that bullshit about? Like if you just wanted to break up or something, why not just say it instead of saying you want to come back, but you can't handle such a serious relationship? What the fucking shit?
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>>18019258
Sorry bruh
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>>18019258
I'm really sorry man I had something similar happen to me as well. Its so fucked up and just makes you constantly ask yourself "what did I do wrong?"
I wish I could help you get over it but sometimes it really just takes time.
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>>18019289
I just honestly don't get saying one thing and doing the complete opposite.
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I'm sitting here drinking the last of my bourbon...
I hauled all the alky I could back from home after Christmas break but I'm running outta sauce. Your boy NEED his sauce. Keeps me warm in these cold and lonely nights. Tell me, how do I get someone to buy me some more of that sweet sweet sauce on college campus? Thanks and goodnight
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Fine don't reply. My balls were freezing from 3pm to 10. Then I drink that sauce. And suddenly it's all warmth for my boys. Make you think ay? fuck you
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Reply to me right now. This is a national emergency. I am OUT. I REPEAT OUT. Of loqpur. Idk what to do. Do i find a homeless guy to buy for me? You think Trump in office is bad. Imagine me sober.
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Do a barrel roll
I have deviant thoughts about children. How do I stop them? I'm afraid to talk about this with a real person.
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thoughts are fine so long as you never act on them.
If you think you might then go see a therapist.
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>>18019246
What would a therapist do? Legit question, not being sarcastic here.
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>>18019251
A therapist can only violate confidentiality if they think someone will be harmed
And honestly, saying having pedo thoughts may make them think you will
Better channel your self-loathing into other things
Like exercise or an otherwise painful existence
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>Once a cheater always a cheater
Yes or no?
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Yes without a doubt.
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No, people learn lessons.
Not every cheating situation is the same.
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The real question is why even take the risk to find out? There are plenty of other people out there who aren't cheaters.
So short answer, yes.
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I think depression is finally starting to hit me, I feel like it has been somewhat hidden for a long time.
I don't really enjoy anything anymore, don't really have fun, have no hobbies. I go to School and when I get home just watch YouTube all day.
I have no real motivation, or any ideas what I want to do in life. I'm also practically good at nothing, like really.
I am thinking about starting to mess with electronics (Soldering, modding, and just DIY) Hopefully that works out well at least.
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Thanks /adv/
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Hey anon, I struggle with major depression. Are you depressed or just feeling down on yourself? Depression is feelings of low self worth, no desire to do anything you enjoy, and feeling darkness all around you and inside of you, in short, it consumes you. Being sad or down is just that.
If you are depressed, share how you're feeling with someone you trust irl. Trust me on this one anon. I tried for over ten years to get out of my depression mostly alone with a couple of people and it didn't work. In fact, I got worse. Things are better now that I've got my family involved and I see a therapist once a week and a doc twice a month.
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>>18019215
Almost everyone is afflicted with depression at some point. Go on walks gather your thoughts or clear your head. Work on making things like your electronics etc this can bring satisfaction. It is easy to destroy but creation is something in itself.