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>>18020302
Advertise on CL as a service for bored or unappreciated housewives. Be prepared for less-than-beautiful women.

>>18020336
im looking for 18-25 year olds, I'm 19

>>18021078

good luck with that

yeah dude, that's pretty normal. just wrap it. tinder girls are just one step past hookers anyway, so it's nbd unless you're like staying up late telling her secrets

Uhhh don't cheat on your gf mate

>>18020284

Idk I feel any interaction besids the sex will make me feel guilty. I see the hooker as an organic sex toy I put money in and I pop out cum

She needs to definitely talk to a counselor at the school or find a way to have her privately talk to one.
Find a way to talk to her even if she pushes you away, talk to her.
Find a way so your sister does NOT go on medication, mostly talking to a professional counseling might help. Get her to write in a journal, she would be able to write you know whatever.
If your not busy on non school days for both of you walk or something.

>>18020223
I actually have Social Anxiety myself, diagnosed by both doctor and psychologists -- the latter I've been to two of, but both instances was because of heavy depression (which is very common to be a co-morbid illness to SAD).

There's no shortcut in this. This comes both directly from the mouth of my last psychologist and from my own experiences and realizations. I want you to try to get her to see a doctor about her issues and seek professional help, because a mental disorder such as this can be devastating to both health and her life in general. At her young age it is especially important that she creates bonds with people around her so that she can grow as a person and learn how to interact with social situations in the future.

If you can't get her to see a doctor or a psychologist then she has to realize that all she can do to feel better, and she will if she does what I'm about to say, is to put herself in social "situations". She can begin with tiny steps like just saying hi to someone and then working her way from there, she doesn't need to find someone to be friend with instantly. This is how you show your own mind that there's no real danger. It's a phobia, i.e. an irrational fear. If you can reveal to yourself that there is no danger than your fear will go away with time.

I'd really, really recommend for her to see a professional though.

I wouldn't recommend a school counselor, I always felt they had no idea what they were talking about and they couldn't even see that I was having a problem (or showed interest). Professionals have the education and the brains to help you. You can't aim low with a thing like this I'm afraid.

>>18020223
get her a boyfriend. Women can always get someone to take care of them, it doesn't have to be you forever. All you have to do is convince her it's the right thing for her and she can get one extremely easily, with zero effort.

Oh I forgot to say I talked to her about the issue that she needs to spend more time with me and her response was that she'll try and that I don't control her life. That response alone is what makes me think that it might not be worth it. I think she just expects that I'll always be there when she needs me .

>>18020213

I am like her, very focused on my career.

Not an expert in relationships: short ones because of that.

Good luck

It's not complicated. If she's treating you like a burden or simply like a convenient option that's available to her when she's in the mood, that's how she feels about you.

If you clearly expect more consistency from a partner in terms of attention they'll devote to the relationship, sounds like she's not your girl. Move on.

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>>18020201
dude you need go to therapy seriously man, these problems go deep into your subconscious by the sounds of it. Not to get a diagnoses or anything like that [getting one would be beneficial] but someone outside of your circle of existence who will actually help you. If your therapist is shit go get another referral. As for the lesbian friend before cutting contact at least tell her how you feel so she knows why you cant talk to her and shit, dont ostracize yourself or her for how each of your hearts sing.
As for my takes on family, pic related

Focus on going to the gym (or something u will enjoy), choose to workout instead of going to the bar, once a week to start, if you get fit and u still want to kill yourself, then do it, its hard to start i know, but its really worth as a last chance to be happy

>>18020214
I don't know if I'll be able to really cut contacts with the friend. She's the only person I care about. Only person I ever honestly cared about. It's already empty as it is and when I will erase her from my life there will be nothing for me left. She's seriously the only source of joy I have in my life.

>>18020170
As one who doesn't have this degree of social anxiety, just dressing in a vaguely similar manner to other people in the place you're in is probably enough. I (and most people, I suspect) don't bother scrutinizing everyone in a room with more than ~10 people, or even get a good look at them. I couldn't accurately describe like 90% of the people I walk past.

>>18020170
black clothes mostly, just black shirt black pants this will stop unwanted friendly fucking hellos you randomly get, frown a lot, stick to corners with your back to the wall. Being incognito is almost the same as living in paranoia.

Anxiety disorders are best treated with exposure therapy, dont start doing things to avoid certain circunstances because of your anxiety or it will worsen.

>>18020113
Contact them however you can. As long as you left them on good terms and explain you got caught up with school parents etc. if they were a good friend chances are they'd like to hang and you will have a good bit to catch up on and it'll feel like no time has passed at all. Good luck brother. Remember love and peace.

>>18020129
Thanks for the response dude. I will do that.

>>18020132
NP dude. When I went to university I stopped seeing my friends for months to years. Occasionally you meet up and it's all good almost like old times, though they were the best.

>>18020078
Hipsterism.

On a serious note, I know what you mean and I am a fellow runner myself. It's great, isn't it? Oh, right, you didn't like it when others praise it.

I actually haven't heard people praise exercising so much (might be because I have absolutely no social life), but I have experienced the same with other things I enjoy. Playing guitar, for instance. To me, I think I get annoyed because I want it to be my special little thing. I don't want others to enjoy what I enjoy. It's just how it is, to me. Maybe there isn't an explanation. Maybe we're just selfish fucks.

Though I think people have a tendency to form a type of human version of a "school of fish" -- going where the current takes them without thinking. That's why we have "trends" and "pop music". It's annoying when people who can't comprehend the full extent of how great exercising is start preaching how great it is. It's the whole "the amateur who is the know-it-all". I just want to tell these people "shut up and do it, no one gives a shit if you like it".

>>18020078
who cares. you care about stupid things.

think about it this way... despite it receiving so much praise the majority of people are still far and and generally healthy, so it isn't actually that popular

bump, it's already starting to get to me and I'm beginning to regret it

>>18020069
>So I told that person how I felt and asked them to block me, or else I'd do it myself.
>>I'm feeling quite apathetic right now, but there's a bit of sorrow.
You sound really dramatic, this is behavior that should have been left in high school.
You don't want to talk to someone? Then block them yourself.

>>18020069
hmm, I recently decided to cut ties with someone due to my evaluation of what were incompatibilities that led to the other person feeling emotionally abused (unjustifiably from my perspective) . Those emotional responses felt like unjust bursts of victimisation and that frustrated me beyond reason. I felt like the relationship was not bringing either party much satisfaction so ending it seemed like a fair solution.

I've regretted my decision since and tackled this situation from different angles. I realised that I did play a role in this person's reactions, but the blame was to be shared as there was not much good will present on either side. Nonetheless, I had the power to handle things differently, or set my terms in a much more mature way.

So in my case, I realised that my reasons for ending this friendship were right. The relationship did not benefit either of us. However, I decided to take responsibility for my conduct. It hurts,knowing you can fall prey to your own douchiness. Losing a friend hurts even more. It's the price I have to pay.

I know your situation is probably different from mine, but what I'm trying to say here is understanding what happened helps. Being an adult generally helps.

>>18020034
She's not going to be upfront, so just block her on everything. Move on.

>>18020040
Its so hard to, Ive focused so much time and energy on this peice of shit to the point I've abandoned a lot of friends, i know im a fkn idiot

>>18020040
This. Block, even her mom. Just distance yourself absolutely before you end up burnt beyond recognition.

>I like winding her up
>I always liked making her feel insecure

Sounds like she's right. She should definitely break up with you.

>>18020002
Sup Jeremy. I'm gonna call you Jeremy, that's a good name for a faggot.

Fuck advice from femanons here, you're getting advice on how to be a man. You can only get that from a man, so that's what you're fucking getting.

Apologize, accept any consequences that come, and get out of her life with some dignity. You fucked up, and it sounds like you've got a history of fucking up.

Reflect on what you might have done to make her feel like shit, and how you could improve your fucking attitude. Don't try and pin this shit on other people or weasel out of trouble like the spoiled manbaby you are, Jeremy, or you'll be stuck there in your shitty manbaby faggot complex not being worth any girl's time.

Stop being Jeremy. Be a man.

>>18020002
So you like putting her down emotionally, and when she finally stands up for herself, you hit her? The fuck is wrong with your brain, OP? You don't do that to someone you love, especially when they've expressed that you're crossing a line. It's not cute and it's not funny. It's emotionally abusive. If you really care about her, leave her alone.

>>18019953
You realise she isnt ready for anything serious because her mind is all over the place. You're better off without her.

They often say that "i love you" shit to keep the door open to come back if things suck

How long have you been together?

>>18019978
Closing in a year, and she swore up and down on her life EVEN YESTERDAY that she truly did love me every time she said it. But then she stopped loving me after one week, and is already looking at new guys? What fucking love is that?

Get in the mood and kiss her.

Try to be a bit touchy, come closer, and do it.

>>18019903
So I start being closer and nore physical with her? Will that make us mentally closer as well?

>>18019892
>Or do I outright tell her next time we are alone that I am interested?
Good god no

It is OK, above 30 you begin to find women wanting to have kids next month.

>>18019905
I'm not really opposed to having kids these days. But I would want to be in relationship with a girl for at least four or five years before even considering that. Assuming she's the type of gal I'd want to have kids with.

females like older men

Did you kiss?

>>18019876
No but that is down myself not exactly the most confident it and I started to doubt myself throughout the night only been with one girl before so not an expert on his stuff.

Just tell her you want to actually have a relationship and see what she says.