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>>18023434

Depression severely fucks with your sex drive. Dunno where you are but if it's winter sitting around keeps you depressed, as well as the severely decreased sun. Figure out a way to do things outdoors and keep moving and in the sun, and stop looking at fucking porn for like a week and I can guarantee it will come back at least a bit. In addition, if you've been refraining from socializing, force it.

>>18023445
Hey, thanks for the reply. I have been going to the gym for the past 7 months 4 times a week, I get a massive libido boost when I go, but again it hardly lasts. I will stop porn altogether, and I'm going on a night out in a couple of weeks. Maybe drinks will let me feel something lol.

Thanks

Bump for interest.

t. suffering from depression and low libido for the past 2 years

What does it feel like to be given an incredibly vague statement and not be able to accurately reply? Some people would say frustrating.

Sometimes giving up and quitting can be the best thing you do though, regardless of what you may be referring to. Smart people know when to cut their losses.

>>18023413
I'm talking about everything. Everything and always. If I was a cartoon character I'd be called Give-Up Man.

>>18023419
I guess what I mean is that I literally give up on everything.
After trying something out for just a while, I completely lose interest and give up on it. Even if I enjoy it a lot, I'll suddenly find a reason to give up on it, and then it was all a waste.
Everything I do is a waste. I'd kill myself if it was easy to do. inb4 shrinks, they can do nothing.

Who cares what people think? You seem to have your shit together and know what you want to do, so live your life the way you want to. The fact that they're advocating you going to music or art school tells me they're thicker than oatmeal.

>>18023395

You deal with it by realizing your "peers" don't know what the fuck they're talking about. Kids are still stupid at 19 and talk without thinking. You do you. They haven't lived yet so they can't say what your future is. Take it from a 30yo. Once you're past that phase everyone realizes they shouldn't judge anyone else's path in life and keep their mouths shut.

TL;DR don't take life advice from a fucking 19yo.

People who tell you those things are weak. When I got into bodybuilding people made fun of me because I was skinny, latter on they kept asking me how to get a physique like mines. When I started playing soccer I was always looked down upon by all my teammates. Overtime they fought for who was going to play next to me. If you have an idea and let others change it, you will never achieve anything. Make them jealous of you accomplishments as revenge.

Get some paperwork from an institution that states you have Donkey Brains.

>>18023385
>all my history of being not handicapped is erased
How? What happens when you talk to your doctors? Your family might be gaslighting you, but the doctors don't do stuff like that.

I have read the emails they send to each other they both think this, also the docs are new and before I was handicapped I never talked

>Am I in the right here?
No. You can have friends over and drink plus have a baby in the room, but if you guys are a bunch of stereotypical college drunks who can't handle your drink and get out of hand and rowdy then I think you need to take a step back and look at yourselves and not the girl bringing a baby over.

tl;dr grow up.

>>18023380
you fucked up. your reply should have sounded something like this
>sure, gf, thats cool. as long as the baby is rooting for (insert your preferred team here)
she would have laughed, sucked your dick, and everyone would be fine. if shit gets too rowdy for an infant, obviously the infants mother will handle it by moving to another room or leaving. let go of your desire to control, anon.

>>18023380
"Hey can Stacy mcslut come with her baby?"
>"Sure, but you sure it's a good environment for the baby?"
"Yeah no worries"
>"OK if you say so"

Absolves you of responsibility and doesn't make her feel like you're telling her she can't have her friend over. If shit gets too rough she can't really complain since you did tell her.

>>18023367
>So, I just found out my ex cheated on me while we were dating.
HAHAHAHA, what a total cuck. How does it feel cucky?

>>18023367
Dude, you've been together for 2 months. Who the fuck cares.
Move on with your life.

>>18023367
>>18023367

Damn OP, that sounds terrible. If it helps, she was definitely never for you, keep being respectable and you'll find someone

You'll be fine.
There's so many aspie weirdos and assholes in security that you'd have to be fucking insane not to find somewhere you fit in. My brother worked security for 8 years, started as a peon and moved up in his company to upper management. Had a lot of fun times, had a lot of good and bad co-workers. Job was overall pretty easy since authorization is limited, so are responsibilities.

>>18023312
I thought about the same thing. I saw so many sissies, nerds and old men in security that I said to myself that I could certainly do it too. I'm 6' and 165 lbs with a slim but toned build, so I guess I would already present better than half the applicants, and the job seems easy if somewhat boring and badly paid.

>>18023375
Physical attributes have no bearing on the majority of security jobs and your ability to do them. There are exceptions of course but for the most part security personnel will never face any actual physical confrontation which requires them to overpower someone. Partially because most people won't resist or cause an actual threat to you, and also because most of the time your hands are tied for legal reasons so you don't "hurt" them.

>>18023300
Just text her a little, it seems important to her. You know it doesn't replace interaction but maybe when she's at work she likes to have the feeling of being in contact with you.
The texting is probably not about the interaction but about what the interaction represents to her.

is it that difficult for you to text her a little bit?
if she wants constant back and forth replies then maybe i understand your struggle but texting requires such little effort

>>18023300
>>I tried to convince her with some Zygmunt Bauman essays about the triviliaties of internet relations but it's not working.
autism

>>18023280
>How do I start working on my goals?
You don't, not now. Your list of things is huge, pick one or two things and focus on accomplishing them instead.

I found that anxiety and social stress was a load on my shoulders, lifting it off in therapy made me happy. I advice everyone to do the same. Takes some time maybe.

>>18023280
>>18023280

We are incredibly similar, anon. I wish there was some sort of community where we could keep each other accountable and keep up with our foals, but the biggest piece of advice I can give you is to focus on your habits and changing them.

Try recording everything you do in a day. Write your emotions as you do them. What was the cue? Time? Location? Feeling? The identify the routine, and the reward, etc. etc.

Basically, many of your actions are defined by your habits, if you can slowly rewire them, and make daily, weekly AND long-term goals for each of them, you'll find yourself blazing through it all.

Also PLEASE PLEASE seek therapy. I was in your shoes and I ended up wasting a lot of time because I had unresolved issues that I was too ignorant to realize I needed to get to until recently.

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Just ask if she's down when she's sober, the worst to come of it is a no.

She said that she won't love you, but she still might fuck. That's what you want, right?

She sounds like she's been testing you, a confidence test.
Just be casual about it, no matter if yes or no is the final.

i had this exact same situation with a girl and sort of am still in it
long time friend with a sexually tense history agreed to take my virginity when drunk and she loves to bring it up if she's talking to me whenever she's drunk
we live too far away to make things work properly now and she seems to always have at least 1 or 2 other dudes talking to her at a time (the one time she had a free house she invited some other guy over to eat her out instead)
now that i'm moved away she's still the only girl i talk to and she still keeps my roped in with occasional nudes

anyways thats enough of my personal issues, point is you should work to make this happen. with that girl i would leave her to do all the initiation, so my sexual priority would have been low down for her
unless your friend was lights out, totally black out drunk, i'm sure she'd be happy doing it. just make sure you create an opportunity where you will be alone together - my failure to do that is pretty much why i'm still a virgin

Animal shelter. Goes by fast and you get to hang with animals

>>18023132

food bank. you basically get to just be a stock boy and organize shit with little to no supervision

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Both answers are awesome, many thanks.

My man this is rough and I had it for over a year. You can overcome. Google sexual performance anxiety.

Solutions:
>stop thinking about past and future while fucking. You are surely worrying about staying hard, which isn't a sexy thought, which makes you soft. Instead try to immerse yourself in your senses. How does her body feel? Smell? Look? Sound?
>definitely definitely get viagra and fuck it away. Go to your doctor and tell them everything and say people online recommend using viagra or cialis to fuck away the anxiety. Only after i did this recently am i fully cured. Just take 1/4 of a pill and you will definitely stay hard no matter how much you frit about it. Now I don't even need it. Dont tell the girl.
>quit porn. Porn makes your dick softer google porn induced erectile dysfunction. Hard but worth it.

>>18023106
Also stop masturbating.

>>18023148
You don't have to. If you quit porn you will find you fap 1/5 as often and getting used to using imagination to turn yourself on is useful in the bedroom because you think about what you want to do to her instead of porn which you just passively observe like a cuck.

Erectile dysfunction. If he is young it's because he faps to too much hardcore porn. I had the same thing and my gf took is the same way. Which caused performance anxiety, making it a recurring problem.

Don't make a big deal about it but google porn induced ED and convince him to stop. Will also make intimacy more pleasurable for him because hormones.

Fapped to porn for the first time in over a month. Best month of my life and fucked my gf raw. Going to do another month and fuck her real good as soon as she wakes up. Can't wait. I was never like this when I had a daily hardcore porn habit. She just pushed me away because she's sleepy AF. I would have fapped to porn and forgotten about it. Now I am hormy as fuck and will dominate her thoroughly desu..going to make her my pretty little princess full of cum desu. Why the fuck am i saying desu? Desu

>>18023112

How do you know if it's porn induced? He said he used to fap a LOT when he was younger but now at twenty he doesn't do it every single day anymore

>>18023118
I don't. But it's most common. Could be medical shit but probs not.

Ask what porn he is into. Say you want to watch it with him. Say you don't care how hardcore it is. After you see how hardcore it is ask if he's heard of porn induced ed. Don't make a big deal about it just like btw this is breaking ur dick m8 lol.

>>18023076
sounds like you're with her just because you're scared you won't find anyone else.
pretty pathetic reason imo unless you're completely unfuckble which you stated you aren't... so

>>18023076
it sounds like you aren't really afraid to lose her, and that the main thing you would be losing is sex... i think you can make your own conclusion

>>18023210

I'm not unfuckable but most girls don't find me attractive for being a nerd and not very fit. It's possible she is my last train?

>>18023020
No. Stop trying to justify yourself. Don't cheat.

>>18023041
I wasn't trying to justify shit. Just seeing what the consequences might be.

People who cheat are gross and evil. Then again so are people who commit rinancial market fraud but if there is millions in it I'd still do it.

>>18023020
Go for it pal