Have you ever just got that sixth sense, that niggling feeling, that KNOWING that someone is going to break up with you?
I'm getting that since seeing the girl I'm dating (we've only been on about 5-6 dates) this weekend. I don't know what it is, just a feeling that it's not going to go forward and she's going to deliver that bad news soon. This week.
Anyone else ever get this feeling? Been proven right?
>>18026769
nope sorry. I have forgotten i had a girlfriend before.
Sounds like a sperging to me tho.
>>18026769
I knew it would happen when the near-daily, flirty texting stopped. She'd only occasionally reply. And sure enough, eventually she messaged me she just didn't feel like it anymore. Everything was normal the last time we met, after that she just slowly retreated.
>>18026769
>Sounds like a sperging to me tho.
What do you mean? Like me just being a paranoid aspie?
>tfw was such a sperg at one physical therapists office
>tfw start going to one closer to my house after 2 sessions
>do the same thing at that one today
The dread of each session consumes my whole week. I can't fucking take it. Should I stop going?
It seems like I can do most of the exercises at home. I can even get a hold of a heating pad.
The only thing I can't do is massage my neck or lower back, but how necessary is that for recovery in the long term?
>>18026765
>physical therapists
Do your physio.
Don't be a bitch about out it They see people literally shit their pant trying to do a wrist curl.
And if your American your insurance will fuck you up the ass if you ditch it.
>>18026774
I can do the physical therapy at home though.
Every moment of my week is consumed by the stress of going. I can't take another 12 weeks of this.
>>18026765
If you are obese then keep going to physio. Otherwise you will crumble and stop. Like those fat people who be like I want to lose weight. Then don't exercise.
I love the fuck out of this girl. She's my sunshine. My whole world. I want to make her the happiest I possibly can and show her how much she truly means to me.
So I've been trying to come up with a decent amount of fun and loving things to do with her, I already have big romantic plans for Valentine's Day (some of which require breaking the law, but that's romantic no?), but I'm trying to compile more. Here's some:
>she loves Sailor Moon and has a lot of nostalgia for the R films so I'm going to either buy them new on DVD or Blue Ray or we'll watch them on her old VHS and also buy her a Sailor Moon outfit shirt and myself a Tuxedo Mask shirt and we're going to watch them and eat Serena's favorite foods: sweets and ice cream
>we live in Saint Louis so we're going to go to the Science Center and fool around, maybe catch an IMAX film, and at the Build a Dino I'm going to pay for her to make a stuffy of her favorite dinosaur: the stegosaurus
>we're also going to go to a late night romp at the City Museum and maybe bring our own little flashlights for exploring the dark spots
>we're gonna watch a movie (either her favorite film or maybe The Room) and do a "chip medley" where we have a big bowl of all our favorite chips with various dips
Just some ideas. I'm open to more. We've already gone to a carnival together and made a pizza together.
>>18026752
I mean everybody is different and it seem like you have a pretty good idea of her preferences. If I was in St. Louis with my girl I'd take her to the zoo since you guys have a really good one.
>>18026815
I would take her to the zoo but I'm sort of out of luck because of the cold season.
>>18026752
>The Room
Instant way to lose a gitl
I have two choices for going to college:
1. A really cheap school, not community college, which allows me to live at home
2. A much more expensive school, which is considered much "better" than school 1. However, will be living in a dorm far away from home.
I'm a huge shut-in and don't know if I should try to break my shell by living in a dorm or not, almost no social skills whatsoever and basically a NEET.
My major will be in Media Communications (which is like graphic design) and I'm unsure if it even matters if the school is "higher quality" at that point.
>>18026700
>Media Communications
The job market for that is garbage and is over saturated. My sister in law just finished it. Your best bet is to go to the school with the highest rate of jobs right out of the course. Or a school that in networked into staffing a particular media outlet.
If your taking this for self interest and not future careers i advise against it.
>>18026721
>If your taking this for self interest and not future careers i advise against it.
Yeah, I've heard about that. I've been told it's a meme degree. I honestly have zero interest in anything else though.
Two if you aren't personally paying for it. There's really no downside beside being expensive.
One if you're content with going to a second rate school and possibly never breaking out of your shell.
I want to have sex in a dream. How do I have sex in a dream
>>18026650
Lucid dreaming
>>18026650
Imagine you're making out with this girl. Now make pretend it's escalating. Do that while you're about to crash.
>>18026655
How?
> mean girl I tried to flirt with when I was in high school
> rejected me and ignored me while I was totally in love with her, she didn't give a fugg
> we're in the same uni but she only talked to me now because I can help her
> she's now inviting me to a restaurant n shit "to thank me", says she'll pay
> trying too hard to be nice with me
I know she wants my help, and I gave it to her, she will probably not talk to me after that but can I find a flaw in her and get revenge fuck
I genuiely refused her faggot ass invitation because fuck her, but after that she went on, and now got my number and we'll meet to eat tomorrow
Can I turn her manipulation around ? I wouldn't have done it to anyone really, but she knows exactly what she's doing by trying to be firlty, inviting, laughing to my jokes with overused emojis, I fucking hate that kind of sick turn she's doing on me, could have just forget about me like she did before
> she just felt the need to say "have a good night "
BOI I DON'T SEE THROUGH YOUR PLAN BUT IF YOU DON'T
>>18026644
So you got rejected by a girl in highschool, then chose to still help her. Now she is trying to be nice to you and you want to hut her.
Just drop her. You have been outplayed. Any shit you do will make you look like an asshole. Women do this all the time. Don't play their game no matter how sure you are you can win.
>>18026663
Nah, I hold values like "Hate is not a reason to not help" etc, I saw through her shit, to put it in another way the service I'm doing doesn't mean shit to me, I'll do that easily.
But I hate her for that excessive behavior she's having with me, she probably knows how I felt and what she's doing now.
If I get the chance, I'd fuck her and get the hell out.
I'm 30, still a virgin, first started masturbating 3 years ago, got hit with a HUGE surge of sexual urges as a result and I've been fapping ever since. The problem is after the first couple of times, masturbating has started to feel annoying and frustrating and every time I finish it just makes me that much more annoyed that It's not sex and I get even more thirsty for it each time.
Even if I try to resist my urges the longest I've been able to go without breaking was 5 days and even then while the release is better than it usually is, it's still not enough for me.
Now I figured since I'm going to be stuck with this habit for a while I'd like suggestions on what I can do to at least make the act itself feel better or at the very least stop the depressing frustrating feelings I get after I cum.
>>18026595
You need sex.
expand your social network and get laid.
>but i have friends
Make more friends
>but i hate socializing
Socializing is the first step to getting laid.
>but i am awkward virgin bla blah blah
look you want better than fapping? That sex. find way to make sex happen.
Get fucking high as balls and come in her deep!!!! Fuck girls!!!
>>18026605
It all boils down to that doesn't it...
Well then will getting laid reduce the amount of times I fap in a day?
Should I kill myself? Just got discharged from the mental hospital on Friday and come home to my mom telling me she doesn't want me around anymore and told me if I was gonna slit my wrists and kill myself to do it in the shower so she wouldn't have to clean up the mess. So, should I do it? I mean the only person I care about and love doesn't want me anymore so what's the point?
>>18026582
Your mom's an ass. Is it worth it to kill yourself because an ass told you to do so?
Suicide is the most cowardly thing a person can to in their life. Have some courage to live through your problems.
>>18026582
Stop using other people opinion as validation.
How do I lower my sexual frustration as an incel?
Beside masturbating, obviously.
I'm just so tired of not having sex with girls and masturbating to porn instead. It's so fucking boring.
>>18026577
Every time you feel horny go for a walk.
Get a coffee
Run and errand
Walk around the block
Window shop.
That way you can resist the fap, get exercise, and even socialize a bit. And socialization is the net you use to get laid.
>>18026577
During ww1 I think they used to put bromine in the tea. This lowered the soldiers libido so they didn't turn homo or just start raping and pillaging I hink look into libido decreasing drugs with no side effects bro.
>>18026577
Start talking to grills. Just ask them for a coffee or something. Little by little you'll ease to being with them and you'll see them as more than walking vaginas.
Time to get off 4chan, /r/trp and /r/incels and all the websites pouring shit thoughts and mentality onto you.
And stop using words like incel
I have someone in my life who every single time I exit the house, they want to know where I'm going, and then ask me to do something for them.
They aren't big requests, but I feel anxiety over leaving my own house now because I know there is a string attached just to leave my house. They are reasonable small requests, but it's just that it's every single time. Is this person controlling? Or is it just me resenting it, and something I have to work on for myself?
I'll give you an example:
If this person sees me leaving the apartment for the vending machine they'll ask 'can you get something for me too?' they'll even give me the money. So it's not a big deal, I'm going there anyway. But the trick is, it's every SINGLE time I leave the house for any reason.
If I'm heading off to the store, "could you pick something up for me too?" I can't get out the door. They'll even chase me down the hall and make their request. I pay for that often, but they're willing to pay for it, they just want it done for them.
This extends to pretty much every single time I want to leave the house, even including visiting a friend or whatever, they might make some kind of request of me while I'm out, or something related.
This is an adult, who is perfectly capable of doing these small things themselves. I don't ever ask them to do this sort of thing for me, for example if they went to get something from the vending machine and I wanted something too, I would just go too, or go after them and get what I wanted. I don't even think twice about asking them.
Am I abnormal, do I just not ask people to do things for me as often as other people do?
Is this normal/does this happen to everyone? Is there something I need to work on in my personality?
Or is this person subtly being controlling? Or what?
None of the requests are unreasonable (usually) or put me out of my way that much, or sometimes at all - like going to the vending machine or store. I'm going there anyways.
>>18026500
It's just you. You're overthinking this.
Additional Info: The few times I say no, I feel guilty and a little afraid of the repercussions because this person sulks or makes some kind of bitter comment.
Not an over the top comment, but like I think I can feel they resent me for saying no.
Is it because I'm unreasonable? They do some things for me, not things I ask, but without asking they do some good stuff for me. So am I being stingy?
And that's why they feel resentment towards me when I say no? Or do they feel resentment just because I wouldn't do what they said?
I rarely say no I almost always do what they ask, I've actually only just started saying no to them every now and then. But every time I do I feel guilty/off balance because of their negative feeling that I feel coming off them when I do it. I'm also afraid of jeopardising the relationship over something so small, if I'm the one being unreasonable.
>>18026570
this >>18026510
So what do you guys look for in a friendship? How do you distinguish between a good friend and a bad friend? What's the ideal friendship in your eyes?
I find myself looking for people who are fundamentally different from me in some way. It just seems a bit pointless and banal to strive to interact with humans external to yourself and then at the same time, want those humans to have similar interests, opinions, and worldviews. The way I see it, you would no worse off alone by that mindset. The only discernable reason I would ever want people in my life with similarities to myself is in the context of a professional project, where I want everyone to be on the same page in regards to the goal.
Does anyone agree or am I just an autistic anti-communitarian?
>>18026492
I think you overthink something that doesn't exist.
relationships all tend to be pretty unique and while we can find similarities between them, what brings people together and what keeps them together tends to happen regardless of what you look for. above all else, chemistry is important, and sometimes its with people who are similar or people wh oare different.
also, most people are in a middle ground, how do you go about saying 'THIS GUYS TOO SIMILAR SO WERE NOT FRIENDS ANYMORE' ?
realistically people just hang out with the people who make it into their lives. if they find that fulfilling they continue to hang out, and if they dont, they move on.
let your emotions guide your friendships. save for extreme cases of bringing out hte worst in each other, it doesn't really matter if they're similar or different.
>>18026492
Just curious but are you a femanon by chance?
I know it's crappy but this reminds me of an EP of family guy/Cleveland show/American dad (they're all so similar I can't quite remember) where there's a sketch that shows women together then shows a bunch of dudes at the end it says/sings men, we know how to be friends.
>>18026533
>I think you overthink something that doesn't exist.
Perhaps but I just think it's useful for some people to define what exactly they're looking for when one wants to make friends. The whole "trust your feeling" thing might work for extroverts, who by their very nature will have a lot of people around them and therefore, have a lot more room for error on this kind of stuff. But for introverts, it's not necessarily a bad thing to delineate the people you'd want to hang out with a priori since we tend to have fewer people in our lives, therefore making every person count that much more.
>also, most people are in a middle ground, how do you go about saying
I mean, my rationale isn't exactly that. Which is why I said, "in some way." I'm well aware that any 2 people cannot be completely similar or even completely different. But I often do try and find a difference within searching for friends rather than a similarity. This has helped me have more interesting conversations, moments, and friends.
Put it this way, friends do often have similarities and differences but what I find odd is not that fact in of itself but the fact that many people search for friends with the idea that these friends should have similar characteristics and ideals to them. I think this defeats the entire purpose of human interaction unless there's something external that you're trying to achieve, a common goal. The similarity between friends gains nothing for either side beside maybe a reinforcement of themselves. The differences between friends allows more interesting and engaged dialogue and allows a certain plurality which improves the self
This is not to say friends shouldn't have similarities. I understand some people need a reinforcing group(although I think such goals are one-dimensional but whatever) but I believe a lot of people are mistaken in their intentions for friendship and as a result, are either bored by stagnation or harmed by the interaction
I want to fuck the brains out of an old schoolmate. Whenever I masturbate I start thinking about her talking dirty or some shit. It's driving me crazy.
She's cute and shy, and rejected me about going on a casual date politely once, but it's been 2 years since that and I wanna try again.
How do I approach her without creeping her away? I was never too much of a friend of hers in school and only started to notice her in my last year of highschool and all I could think about by then was the uni exams, so talking to her out of the blue would be weird desu.
The roads of our life have been really different but we have a circle of friends in common. Circumstantial and convenience friends, but it's the only bond I have to her right now.
I was thinking about arranging a meetup of this group of circumstantial friends that honestly have nothing in common and have no interest in seeing each other again just to try my luck with her. Good or bad idea?
Am I acting like a stupid teenager again?
>>18026477
go for it.
>>18026477
Just do it OP, don't let your memes be dreams
Thanks boys, also shameless self-bump
Hi, /adv/. Please help.
Last year, I had a girlfriend who cheated on me. I also had a wonderful female friend. I was furious at the girlfriend, but ultimately we stayed together, with her saying "it meant nothing to me. go fuck someone else if you want".
I ended up fucking my female friend. Gf didn't know, but she's the jealous type and wanted me to "pick" one of us. I cut off the friend.
Me and girlfriend are still together but it's a worse relationship now. She insults the way I look constantly, doesn't want to have sex, while trying to convince me she's the best thing that ever happened to me. The sad part is, I can't bring myself to leave her because I have no one else at this point.
I spent today looking over my ex- female friend's social media profiles and wishing so bad I could talk to her again. But, I also know I partly only crave affection like that again. What do I do?
drop your current gf.
she already sees you as a beta provider, that's why she cheated on you.
also, work on yourself, learn social skills, get life goals, get a job, read a lot, then women will want to come to you.
become a high status male, don't chase women, make them chase you.
>>18026461
this
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>>18026440
>Insults you
>Tells you shes the best thing ever to happen to you.
Classic red flags of a narcissist.
My Dad talks too fucking much.
How do you tell you respect that they talk too fucking much?
>>18026418
You don't. He's your dad. Have some respect.
>>18026418
He fed you and went through all your stupid teenager shit. And you can't even fake that you listen to him?
If he's just rambling just say "uhum uhum" when he talks and think about stuff. You just need to midly pay attention to his ramblings and say something that makes sense with the conversation in a while.
Be grateful that you still have a dad that talks to you. My dad is dead
>>18026504
people that say shit like this had good parents. lol.
What advice would you give to your younger self?
Stop expecting happiness. It'll make it easier
When you're 19 you'll nearly commit suicide. The experience will push you to improve yourself in every way. You'll become an attractive, charismatic, and ambitious person.
It won't make you happy and you'll still be emotionally unstable and depressed. But it'll affect the new people around you and they'll all end up hating you in the end.
So just do it.
>>18026412
Chase your dreams unapologetically, don't listen to the people telling you to play it safe.
Also, nut up and ask out Ambaar because you're going to regret it forever otherwise.