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/adv/ is one of the most "normal" boards and it also has a high percentage of women compared to the rest of the site so it's a bad example.

I think there's a good amount of people who just don't have anythi gn better to do. Nowadays if I'm not on discord at work I might browse this site for a few minutes but no I don't think it makes you weird unless you are particularly spergy in real life and take too much of the social advice/meme stuff seriously.

>>18032344
>I consider myself a pretty normal dude

yet you had to ask :^)

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>>18032344
>My question is, are there any other normal, well-adjusted people here, or is it really just a cesspool of weirdos?

Like you, I have also been here for 10 years. Started coming here when I was a teenager.

What you have to remember - and I've been telling myself this a lot recently, because it is very easy to forget sometimes - is that 4chan has LOTS OF DIFFERENT people. I think it is VERY easy to forget, because we're all anonymous. It means you can never build up an image of what somebody is like, apart from what they've posted in a single thread. By the next thread - poof - all the identities are anonymous again.

Also another important point is whether you believe what people say on here.

As for me (and you can believe this or not, but I can give my word, for what that's worth, that I'm telling the truth), I have some mates in real life, and I've had a couple of not-very-serious-at-all girlfriends, and I did have a good job until I quit (been NEET for 1.5 years now... yeah pretty stupid).

It's a mixed bag here. I do believe there probably are some relatively functional people on here (look at pic related from the advertising page - most people here are enrolled in, or have attended, university).

I do think it takes a particular sort of character to come here though. Yes, mostly educated, like I said. But obviously with a rebellious streak. People without that rebellious streak go to Reddit. 4chan definitely does attract some weirdos because of the rebellious nature. But not *everybody* is a weirdo... probably. If you believe what people say. And people obviously do post photos sometimes to prove that they're relatively normal people.

So yeah. It's a mixed bag. You have to decide for yourself when looking at a post whether it's a normal person or a weirdo. The anonymity makes it harder of course. But that's how it is. The alternative is to not come here... but as we all know, you're here forever. :^)

Another example of impulsive behaviour is my incredibly retarded spending of £571 on a stranger because I felt bad for him.

My most prominent problems are problems of psychosis, low self worth and suicidal thoughts. They are extremely common whenever I think about things that trouble me: for example, my parents recently divorced and I had immediate suicidal thoughts following it. I've planned suicide a few times but didn't carry it out (obviously!), and since then the feeling has more or less been following me and influencing my mood and behaviour causing me to care less about academics and life in general which is followed by bouts of depression. I also have some violent temper tantrums but they usually only last for a short period of time and are usually right after I get annoyed over something stupid. It's got to the point where if I die in CSGO I end up nearly punching myself in the face; not out of frustration at the game but out of random shit. I was talking to my friend Jim yesterday and he didn't reply for around 8 minutes, which is obviously nothing to be alarmed about but my emotions are so impressionable I immediately jumped to the conclusion that he hates me and bust my lip open biting it.

should i seek help

>tfw super autistic

>>18032334
Yes, seek help. Wanting to fix your problem is part of the process, I hope things work out.

>>18032323
You're not borderline. BPD is the new meme disorder.
>social retard
>then AvPD
>then aspergers
>then schizoid

Now it is BPD. Stop following the meme train to make excuses for why you're a fuck up

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>>18032289
You're not being abused. You're simply going through the waves of cheating someone. You wronged him, and you're upset because you did.
He has every right to be angry, and he has every right to not want you back. He has every right to spread how he truly feels about you.
But you also have every right to play the victim. He may not want you to, but it's your choice in the end. And this is where i feel you're conflicted.
You're original fear was that he would harm you, and now that you harmed him, you fear that if you break any of his requests that he will.
This might have mattered if he still wanted you. But he doesn't. You need to move on. You're right for taking responsibility for your actions, and not lying.
But you also are clearly still have feelings for him. So idk what else to say. You just need to move on. I'm not going to tell you to "forget him" and all that.
Just move on, be sad, be regretful,, but don't be scared, just have nothing to do with him as much as he wants nothing to do with you. But most importantly, learn.

>>18032289
Wow. You're pretty fucked up OP. I'd stay far away from you. I don't think you're ready to be in a relationship

>>18032289

Soooo what did you do OP?

learn scales
learn chords
improvise
learn music theory
learn patterns
learn how to read music sheets

et voila

>>18032284
also train your ear with some software like earmaster pro

>>18032284
It depends on how you want to play. If you want to be a real musician study as much theory as you can and practice. It might be boring at start but when ypu learn about music ypu get a different glimpse on it. The other option is to use Syntesia and practice until you can play that song you like. It is just practice and practice, but even if you can skip it it helps a lot to learn how music works before.

Such as?

actually nvm the answer to every question is that fapping isn't a problem in any way at all.

>>18032288
I mean the stuff about how not masturbating supposedly improves your drive, self esteem, testosterone levels and shit.

it's bull. The drive thing is all mental and the hormone thing is just nonsense.

>>18032273

Have you addressed this problem with her? What's her response been like? How long have you two been together?

>>18032273
maybe you should talk to her about it and ask her

>>18032286
Yes I've tried, she says things like " if you know you've made a mistake you shouldn't keep doing it", when I ask the why she acts like that she says "because I love you" or " because yes", we've been together like 4 years. I really love her.

Have you tried /int/?
They've usually got a thread or 2 up about penpals,and there's almost always a daily japanese thread you can ask around on.

But it's gonna be like all internet based interactions. It's easy to bail on by nature and there's no consequence for doing so, therefore, you're gonna get ghosted far more often. Just gotta keep mucking through.

try the app HelloTalk. Helped me with my Mandarin. I taught German/French in return.

>>18032212
Very difficult. Not only can't most Japanese not speak English but those who can are often too shy to talk it as they are afraid of making mistakes. Now if you find someone who doesn't give a shit and is able to speak your language you have to be lucky that he is interested in foreign countries/cultures - and again: Most Japanese are not interested.

Your best bet would be to go to Japan and make friends over there. It's not that easy either but chances are much better.

>>18032205

by paying them or offering something of equal value in return

>>18032207
This.
Or just try posting in /soc/ tit threads. The cam whores sometimes will take requests, and they do it because they get the satisfaction/rush out of camwhoring.
If they ask why, tell them why. You want fap material? You just like spreading your name out like this? It's just amusing to you? Whatever the reason is.

>>18032205
I'm surprised you were even able to blackmail one of them to do it free. Talk to the girls longer before you ask so they'll be less likely to refuse (disappoint) you?

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Your friends have a type that you don't share, I'm sure.
I'm a chick and I don't fucking dance because I'm white as hell. There are women who hate dancing as much as you, not all women are sorority party girls who just wanna go grind at the club.

But, being that overly upset about something so stupid is a little immature and can be a red flag, so just chill out about it a little man. You can not like dancing, but you don't have to blow your lid whenever someone mentions it.

>>18032202

I also hated dancing for the most part of my life. It was when I stopped caring about people's opinions of me and decided that I will just have fun no matter what I do I started to enjoy dancing.

Especially when one good dance can get you laid.

>>18032214
This is very true.
I dislike dancing, I do it sometimes, with my dad, when we're cooking and drinking wine. That's pretty much it.

But if my boyfriend lashed out at me for asking him to dance, I'd dump him in a second. So immature.

>>18032166
Well tell them you applied for a job and need to visit them. Also a good friend lives there and you want to spend some time with him. Or you just say that you are visiting him. Why do you have to leave? Just curious

>>18032166

tell us the real reason so we know whats going on and the best way to coveri t up

>>18032176
Everybody knows I would never take a job out of town. Plus 5 days? The friend thing might work on everyone except my parents.

>>18032189
I'm attending a 5-day event.

I also really dont feel that bad i mean i liked that dog but also feel like the dog wanted to be free because if he loved us he wouldnt have left

A dog's folly is noone's fault or problem.

How is it your fault when it got out on its own?

>Implying there's anything altruistic about a 50/50 split
The only variable you have control over is yourself, without your interference the world is a constant.
Only YOU have an influence on this world. All the rest is set in stone already.

^Solipsistic as fuck, but it works

>>18032132
If you want to start discusion about such topic, try forming question which has no right answers.

>>>/sci/

>low-functioning biological sentient animal
I feel pretty good. What about you?
:-D

>>18032132
Why the hell are you personificating cells and genes? It's obnoxious af.
Free will doesn't exist anyway, so whatever.

why do you need this guy for a comfort if he is bad for your confidence?
also, the cheating part is of course hard to handle; but there are millions of people who have this kind of thing happening to them. the only way to start it all over is to stop seeing you a victim and work on your confidence. at least, this is what works for me.

>>18032126
What's wrong with being single just don't collect more than one cat and youll be good, anyway id go on date with you if you lived in Canada

>>18032126
>I met someone for comfort but he is total bully in bedroom and I feel degraded
You sound like a dumb hoe. Are you blonde?

>>18031903
Google the age of consent laws in your country and if you have to ask then it probably is.

>>18031903
>not including your country
can't help you.

>>18031910
US

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>>18031809
Build a wall!

Quit being a bitch, cats are a nuisance

>>18031809
Why didn't you take better care of your cat that you love?

Why is it in his care and not yours?