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>>18035957

Move on. This is just a metric fuck ton of childish bullshit that you need to get past. The girl is 17 years old and has the brain power and emotional maturity of a fucking sack of potatoes.

Move on, OP. Things were great for a time and now its over. Don't kick a dead horse.

>>18035964
this

Thoroughly ignore her, OP, she missed her chance for you and she'll use all the attention she can get from you without actually being in a relationship. Drop it hard

>>18035964
Seems like you should've dropped out of her life completely as soon as the break up happened, OP.

Would had been best for both of you if you moved on.

>>18035940

Not advice, but yeah bro - you hot.

Curious: Can you grow a full beard? Because if the time came for you to not look like a kid, I reckon you'd look pretty boss with stubble or a full beard

>>18035955

Nah I'm no where close to being able to grow a beard, looking like a child runs in my family

>>18035940
>you're the same age as my son
reply with: >is that a bad thing?

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>>18035918

Seeing as this is your first relationship it is guaranteed to end. Neither of you are adults capable of maintaining a mature, intimate relationship, much less from a long distance.

Thats okay, though. Its completely normal at your age. We've all been through it.

Have fun in this relationship but when its run its course, let it go. This isn't the girl you're going to marry. This isn't the girl you're going to be with for years. You know that.

Don't endure a relationship that isn't working because you're afraid its going to end or you just because want to roll around in that fresh young "I love you" feeling forever. A lot more of your relationships are going to fail before you become an adult and you have the maturity and experience to know what you want and need from a partner.

Your relationship is burnt out. Its fine. That happens. Once the new and exciting feelings wear off kids your age just tend to drift apart and find the next exciting fix.

Let it go, kid. Its over. I'm sure deep down you realize that.

First off- Yes, that does start to slow down. Real relationships tend to be the ones that are there after all the initial burning feelings dwindle away.

Second, how long did you have together when you started dating? Were you in close proximity and then have spent the next couple months two hours away? And how often do you see each other? Cause LDRs tend to be pretty solid when they start off far and slowly move towards each other.

Communication is really important, especially when you guys are far away, but not coming off as needy is pretty important as well... It's a balance. Just because she doesn't text you quite as much doesn't inherently mean anything, but I would give it a few weeks and if you're longing for a little more, maybe ask if you guys can Skype once a week to see if you're missing her less.

LDR is shit but sometimes it works. So good luck, anon. Also don't be a pedo.

>>18035931
I see what you're saying. I know what happens to teenagers, I know how young and stupid I look like right now, but damnit I want this to last. This feeling can't just be youth. If there's even the slightest chance i'm taking it, girls don't talk to me and she's perfect in all the perfect ways. Thanks for your advice though.

>>18035935
>Second, how long did you have together when you started dating? Were you in close proximity and then have spent the next couple months two hours away? And how often do you see each other? Cause LDRs tend to be pretty solid when they start off far and slowly move towards each other.
We started around Thanksgiving we had a really good talk over the phone while I was at college. We went on our first date after that. We've met up a few times since then but for the most part we've been away from each other.
>but I would give it a few weeks and if you're longing for a little more, maybe ask if you guys can Skype once a week to see if you're missing her less.
Good advice, thanks.
>Also don't be a pedo.
I'm 19 since a few days ago, she's 17 at the end of the month. I think were close enough in age. Thanks for the advice!

>>18035898
Why bother? It only makes you look like a chump, and you're going to get ignored/shit on anyways. There's literally nothing you can gain from talking to her anymore except shitty catharsis, which might not even be good if she tells everyone what a whiny bitch you were

>>18035924
Well, although I think you usually could be right, there's some points I have to detail.

>you're going to get ignored/shit on anyways
For good or bad I won't, so that's why I want to do it.

>There's literally nothing you can gain from talking to her
I need to take it out of my chest, and since talking this issue in whatever any other form won't satisfy me, I think I need to do it.

>won't be good if she tells everyone what a whiny bitch you were
200km apart, I have nobody on her city, and the people who could know I'm bitching already know what we've been through

In other matter, I'm not trying to be a dick, I'm just trying to debate it.

>>18035944

You won't be able to force her to get the last word, you won't force her to feel bad. It's not going to do anything in the long run, and barely do anything in the short run.

You're free to do it, but from experience and from observation, you're highly likely to experience a whole lot of nothing that you're getting worked up over. It's like you expect her to break down in tears when you finally rip off the bandaid, but in truth the bandaid lost all of its stickyness ages ago and she's too lazy to put forth the effort to give it a light tug.

Just stop paying attention to her and live your own life. The only way you'll get any actual closure and satisfaction is to live a life well enough that when/if she ever looks back, she'll finally realize what she let go years ago.

Are you tall? Then that.

>>18035831
I would say no. I'm 6ft, She's probably 5'7", So I don't think it has to do with being tall

>>18035829
I forgot to mention.

She is in her 40's that's why I ask if anyone in their 40's knows this word form back in the day?

>>18035806
No one besides your friends will care about your subjective view when looking for a job. If they were really "fucking over workers" and not just "requesting things I didn't like/not paying what I thought they were worth", why didn't you report them to a proper agency and file for appropriate unemployment that you'd easily win? Smells like pettiness in here.

To answer your question though, no. You can make Google reviews but they can usually get personal posts, specifically stuff like prior employee reviews, removed, unlike regular reviews.

The company I work for does really unethical shit all the time. But it's all legal.

So if what they were doing is illegal, report it. If not, read Capitol.

>>18035820
I can understand it sounding like pettiness, but there was a lot of gaslighting and prescription drug distribution going on, not to mention the inability to prove they weren't paying overtime to us. I had stupidly deleted my notes about what dates the drugs were handed out in the workplace after talking to the owner of the business, since I thought he would actually do something about it.

>>18035793
Tell her the truth if she asks you out. If she doesn't ask you, better for you right?

>>18035807
she would never ask me out. she's way too shy for that I guess. I merely want her stop putting hope in this situation.

I would straight up tell her the truth - including the fact that you do like her, and it's circumstances keeping you apart. That would soften the blow, I think.

On the other hand, are you really sure you want to give up this opportunity for a sweet qtpie? I mean it of course would depend on your circumstances. But having an SO for and to support can be a good experience.

Also, as a mental exercise, imagine a hypothetical scenario where your girl indeed stops liking you and hits up another guy instead. How do you find yourself feeling?


Regarding letting her down gently, you could, along with telling her yourself as above, talk to your sister about it too - where your sister can agree to drop subtle hints and confirming sounds when talking to the girl over time, that corroborates the information that, "yeah, brother is really busy/doesn't have the money for a relationship, etc"

>>18035786
Forgot to add, we're both in our 20's

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>50 replies saying "don't do it man, don't jump off that bridge like my cousin!"

>50 replies saying "you're all just bitter virgins, don't listen to them OP. Listen to ME instead, when I tell you to sign your damn name on that contract. DO IT NOW!"

>50 replies saying "both sides are retarded, I'm smarter than everybody!"

>50 replies of people saying "don't listen to the folks telling you to be careful, just wing it through life like I'm planning to do!"

I feel like watching TV would be a better use of my time.

take on shared responsibilities

get a dog or renovate your kitchen

Scare the boy. No physical contact.

>>18035790
What are these type afraid of? Stare and shout 'STOP'? What is on my side not to cross the line and make the boy a victim?

He will get scared shitless if you so much as swear at him, however he will run home to mommy and tell her.

I would say, move your girl out of that class.

>>18035765
Some girls are like this, not sure if it's their ego or their pride.

I never messaged the guy I liked first, I would always feel annoying (even if he never gave any indication whatsoever) but we talked nearly all day everyday so I was worried about bothering him if today would be the day he didn't want to talk, if that made sense. I was overjoyed he messaged me everyday, but in general I don't message people first unless we're really close or I just don't care, pretty sure a lot of female students are this way too.

>>18035803
That makes sense. So if I don't message her for a day, she'll think I don't wanna talk that day? That's kind of annoying, but sure..

I just find it interesting that when we first started chatting, she initiated it, but has barely done that since. One more question. We tried to set up a date, but have failed 3 times. The last time she cancelled an hour before the date, so she said she's gonna set up the next one, to make up for it.

It's been a while, so I just told her that we should go on that date soon, and she said she hasn't forgotten, but she's been busy. Is it ever going to happen or is she dragging me along?

>>18035756
You move on. This society is fucked.

Yeah, I recently was ghosted by the most beautiful redhead God had made. IDK what happened but it is vital to move on. There is a redhead for you somewhere that lives up to your standards that will want you

>>18036240
Maybe she colored her hair dark and you don't recognize her.

what the fuck do you want help with

ask her out or something. convey that you are interested in her.

>how?
I GOT STUFF TO DO *leaves*

>>18035723
yeah bro, she wants the D.

well, maybe not that extreme, but probably something close. start it off casually and ask her to dinner and see where it goes from there.

final bump

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>>18035648
I have to be a girl with nice feet. just broke up with one with the nicest pair and I worry i won't find someone that matches that.

That's...pretty fucking weird man.

I can kind of relate. I have a hand fetish of sorts. First thing I noticed about my current boyfriend was that, unlike most straight men, his hands weren't a hideous mess. I've seen too many guys with fingernails that look like fucking toenails from biting/cutting too short. His weren't super manicured or anything, just clean, not stumps or too long. So it was part of my initial physical attraction. But rekt hands aren't a dealbreaker, so I guess I don't get it.

So yeah, if you're into feet/teeth/assholes it makes sense they'd be part of your attraction to someone just like t&a for most guys. But the "wrong" look being a dealbreaker? Kinda just sounds like you're an asshole who cares more about appearance than personality. Which I'd say to anyone who wouldn't date an otherwise nice person based on minutia (nose too big, dumb laugh, weird tic, etc).

The fact that women have assholes at all is a huge turnoff for me. I'd rather pretend that women don't shit or fart.

If you're asking 4chan, and not even on the right board, I can tell you right now that your business is going to fail

Thanks for your input.

This question is to general, try asking something more specific.

It's their kid why should you even care?

Sounds like you're life needs some sorting out

>>18035617
>Give birth to something with all the utility of a doll
>Don't get to treat it like one because righteous assholes get pissed at you online

leave them alone.

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it used to be kinda cute in an ugly alien kind of way. Now it's just disgusting and boring.