>have no zest for life
>can't think of any hobbies that I would care about delving deep into
>don't like socializing, being a boring person is probably a contributing factor
>not even a gaming nerd because i think of being massively into it as unnecessary or pointless
>i mostly shitpost and browse the internet
>no passions
How do I make this insanity stop?
t. INTP
>draw a catgirl
>call it a catboy
I'm same boat as OP but also wealthy
>>18037519
Get into science.
How do I stop feeling like I want to jump off my balcony? I hate my job, my girlfriend left me, and all my friends live far away? Work is bad because my boss makes my life hell but days off are worse because i'm left alone with my mind constantly telling me negative things. I'm trying to do CBT but it's not working and is making me see how empty my life really is.
>>18037506
What you doing CBT for you whiny lil bitch?
>>18037515
To try and feel better. Pls no bully.
>>18037516
Wait, I think I'm misunderstanding what CBT stands for.
Has anyone ever done acid before? share your experiences..
It's great, but depends on the strength of the dose. When I was 17 I dropped for the first time and shit we were WIGGIN'. And if that happens, be prepared and don't be scared. Concentrate on the beauty of the world around you, especially trees. I've dropped since then a couple times but it was very mild… I just laughed at everything.
>>18037586
Not great from my experience.
You get a little lifted and life is on blast for an hour or so, and then it's just kind of bland.
I never had any hallucinations or trips.
No, but I've had a few mushroom trips before. They've all been pretty much amazing as well with the odd wig out here and there. One of the times you could probably have classified the amount I took as what they call a heroic dose; shit was fucked up. It was incredible but I have no idea what I might have looked like during that time, I was on another plane of existence.
If you really want to have a good time get your hands on some pure MDMA and head to a dance party. That'll blow your socks off.
My boyfriend wants to be submissive and be tied up. What kind of things should I do to make this an AWESOME experience for him? Also I want to freak him out a little bit; give him something he's not suspecting. Any tips? Also, what are your favorite things to do/have done to you in these types of situations?
>>18037380
be Maggie Siff - billions
Make it too good and he might find it worth it enough to finally come out of the closet. You might be special but most people's self esteem don't take it well when their ex turns gay after dating them.
>>18037380
I go for tease and denial, it's my favourite thing when it comes to being more dominant in bed.
My boyfriend likes when I tie him up and jerk him off while I'm kissing his neck. I usually make him edge for a while.
Other than this - facesitting, some butt play (I usually finger his butt while I'm giving him head), or just taking him at the edge of orgasm while I'm on top and then stopping. Some light slapping on his butt, sometimes.
Other than this, he likes dirty talk.
I wear sexy/cute outfits when we act like this - lingerie, too.
Give me advice on my look, /adv/
I'm a 20 years old balding guy with a babyface.
I also don't have any beard at all.
I used to be rather good-looking in my teens, but i'm starting to look like shit right now, with my baldness, my pale tan and my discolored eyes.
What should I do to hide my hair loss? To gain some beard?
Right now, i'm using a shampoo without sulfate for my hairs + taking barm pills. I can't go for propecia/rogaine, it doesn't work on me.
I'm also losing hair from the sides of my head, which is pretty hilarious because I have never seen that on anyone else
>>18037374
Tried using Nizoral?
I heard it was mostly made for people with pellicles. Anyways, I stopped losing my hair for now, I wanted to know what I could do to hide it
For Valentine's Day my gf wants to have a threesome with another girl. The problem is that my gf is on birth control and the other girl isn't. So I'll have to use a condom with her. Should I just use the condom for birth girls? Even though I can go raw with my gf? I'm just afraid I'm so used to having sex with my gf without a condom that if we use a condom I'm afraid it won't feel the same and I'll lose my boner. That'll be super embarrassing. But what if I go back and forth between girls and have to constantly remove and put on a new condom every time, I'm afraid I'll lose my boner from all the hassle.
I'm super excited because this girl is really hot and my gf wants to have fun with another girl but I'm nervous I'm gonna ruin the night by going soft.
I know it's all in my head but can I get any tips from people with past experiences with threesomes?? Thank you.
>>18037361
What the fuck, dude?
You should DEFINITELY use a condom while fucking a stranger.
What if the hot girl has some STD? What if you get her pregnant?
Taking off the condom and replacing it sounds like a bitch and like it could even offend the other girl or kill the mood so I'd just use one for both girls.
>>18037365
Very true. I guess I'm just nervous it won't feel the same but I'm sure I'll be so horny with 2 naked hot chicks that it won't matter.
I'm playing the scenario out in my head. Foreplay and the both suck my dick. Then slip a condom on. Then I lay my gf down first and bang her. Then the other girl's turn. Idk I should probably watch more threesome porn lol. I just gotta get it out of my head that I'll lose my boner if I use a condom. I haven't used one in so long and I've tried using them with my gf and sometimes it's cool but sometimes I lose the boner before I can even get it inside her. I just keep thinking I shouldn't have this problem because it's been years since I've had sex with another girl, let alone see one naked. I'm sure I'll have a raging boner that'll last all night. Maybe I shouldn't be so concerned with losing my boner but be more concerned with blowing my load early when I start banging the other girl. Gotta satisfy my gf more to avoid jealousy issues.
I'm a 22 year old, that works graveyard. Basically my internal clock has been flipped so AM is now PM and vice versa. I've developed odd tendencies to deal with my loneliness, but it seems to be working in my favor. Still have no idea if I can get an online GF tho. All of my work buds that work night shift says its ruined their relationships due to the backwards internal clocks.
tldr; How does graveyard guy get a gf?
Date a nurse or gurls who work at night shifts
>>18037333
Same here
How you got the job?
Some creepy story?
I just gave up. I take out about 80% of my salary (which I get to save) and convert it into dollars. I then keep the large sums of dollars in a safe only to occasionally take them out and count them or sleep with them. I know it's not healthy but it gives a reason to working so much and things don't seem as crazy when you do night shifts, you feel?
P.S. I use the currency club because they give you the option to pick large or small denominations. I used to pick their large denomination exchanges but the bastards don't have crispy large denomination notes and some are even dirty (!) so I have to leave them be for about 4 hours after getting them inside some book cases so they get crispy. Sometimes though I pretend I'm some guy from The Wire and an addict just gave me shitty crumpled bills that I have to get furious about because now I'm gonna have to pay a fee to prop joe to get decently looking bills. Fucking Omar and his shit I swear mane, makes this game hard.
It's my best friend's 30th birthday coming up and I need ideas. We haven't done presents for about 15 years. But it's 30, y'know. Plus I'm getting a nagging from the gf.
inb4
>asking strangers on the internet about someone I've known for 28 years.
Bit of background. I have no idea how much he earns but I'm pretty sure it's close to 7 figures.
I'll look to spend about ÂŁ50.
Some things that have been suggested:
>cuff links
He runs his own business and wears nice t-shirts/polos all day. Would never use.
>really nice spirit
He's got a shit ton of the nicest type of booze he likes. Only drinks occasionally, and when it does it's the same thing (belvedere vodka)
Truth be told we're not that close anymore. Maybe see eachother 3-4 times a year. A shame, but while we'll always be besties, our lives are just different.
>>18037284
What does he like? What kind of guy is he?
>>18037286
As I say, we've sort of lost touch.
He likes making money and spending it on nice things. So obviously I'm never going to get him something that he's blown away by.
Couple that with not really spending much time together these days (location) makes it real hard.
He's been travelling a bit more recently but again, that's like jetting off to a six star hotel to relax by a pool, not exactly "travel".
>>18037307
Why don't you invest your money on an activity you can do together? A day trip, a ticket for an event, a first class for some sport, stuff like that.
Recently I’ve come to realise that my fetish is interracial porn. But only with white women and black men preferably as white as possible (blonde hair, blues eyes etc). I feel somewhat disgusted with my own fetish as I “normally” dislike the idea of interracial sex but when I get in the mood, it’s the only porn I want to watch. Directly afterwards I feel ashamed of myself that I just jerked off to it. Honestly, everytime I think about a black man with a pure white woman I feel like I’m getting hit in the chest with feelings. Half of me gets furious and disgusted and the other half get these weird thoughts like “Every white woman deserves to be fucked by a big black cock. White women and black men are a perfect match and have been biologically made for each other. White women only exist to please black men.” Basically I guess you could call it a “trigger-fetish”.
What to do? I really wish my fetish was like feet or something because that’s so innocent.
>>18037280
don't worry senpai, I fell for the same shit too. It's just that I've started watching porn really early and got addicted to it. I've gone through a bunch of different genres. I got exposed to so much porn that I had to find something new everytime because it lost its novelty overtime. Porn can lead up to fucked up fetishes but it's not necessarily what you're attracted to. Porn is fake, even the most amateur shit. What I did was try to quit porn because I found that this kind of fetish was unhealthy and racist. I still relapse from time to time but I can get off to vanilla stuff now.
The effect is so strong because to some subtle degree, you've found interracial relationships to be taboo to some degree. Acknowledge that BBC is a meme that nobody denies because it helps them pick up women, and that in reality black dick on average is like a quarter of an inch longer than white, if that. I mean, of course they're going to choose hung guys for porn shoots, but some dominant looking black guy isn't going to fuck your girlfriend any better just because his melanin levels are higher.
Go see actual black people in real life? They're like retarded children who can't and won't do SHIT. Only time they try shit is if they think you backing down or they have ridiculous numbers on you.
First off, sorry for the whine thread.
Does anybody have some advice on how to get your girl back, or at least make her reconsider giving you another shot.
I'm a fucking idiot and already wasted 2 chances she gave me, now she says It's definitive. It's been 3 months since the break up and It's literally killing me. We have a 2year old son so we'll always be in eachothers lives.
Problem is she doesn't believe anything I say or promise, and I can't really blame her. What is there possibly left for me to say or do to turn the tide one last time? What is left to say after you said It a million times with the same result.
tldr: I'm a fucking moron but whatever I did wasn't bad enough to go on without my family.
>Does anybody have some advice on how to get your girl back, or at least make her reconsider giving you another shot.
yea. forget about her and move on with your life. that's literally your best chance of getting her back.
>Does anybody have some advice on how to get your girl back, or at least make her reconsider giving you another shot.
You kept the receipt, right?
Like you said. You're a fucking idiot. If someone fucked up twice with me, I wouldn't believe their bullshit either.
Move on and find someone else. Also, be good to your son.
So this bitch I been friends with keeps saying she love me. She's been saying shit like "we have a bond that i've never had before" and "i feel like you understand me and i understand you." Problem is, this bitch don't really want anything to do with me past being just friends. Like she definitely dont wanna date me and i finally told her tonight "Stop saying that you dont love me". She got all mad saying i was wrong and that she can love me and not wanna be with me. be real with me. Am i wrong?
>>18037158
Basically OP, she wants you to be her emotional boyfriend, while Chad gets to be her sexual boyfriend
>>18037158
She's using you for her emotional needs (because you "understand her"), but doesn't want to bang you. People feel love other than romantic too, but it's also possible she's saying that to keep you hooked so she can spill her emotional garbage on you. She could love you as a friend, or she could love what you do to her (listen to her). Only she knows, so we can't really help here.
you need to try and fuck her
move away from relationship business, they want to test you out first
she just doesnt wana be open about it because thatd mean she wants to cheat
she does but she doesnt want to be held responsible for it
give her an excuse and try to get your dick wet
worst case she stops saying what was never true
We are in a long distance relationship at the moment, been dating since last May, haven't physically been together since October, will be together again in May and she said I love you in December.
I wasn't ready to say it back as when I say I love you, I want to be fully in love with whoever I say it to.
Today she brought it up that I hadn't said it back yet and that each time she said it to no 'I love you' back, she questioned our relationship.
We had a long discussion afterwards, and I explained 100% honestly how I felt and that I am waiting to be fully in love with her, to be with her in person, and the right moment to say I love you to her. She said that she was just saying "I love you" to me like she would to her friends. I told her that I would happily start saying "I love you" back if that was her way of saying it, because that's how I feel. I do love her, I'm just not IN love with her, yet.
Then she said she didn't want me to say I love you anymore, because it wouldn't feel genuine as she brought it up with me and kinda made me say it. But I do genuinely love her in the context she was describing so I am happy to say it like that all the time. Now she says she won't say I love you to me anymore until she's actually in love with me and at the right moment too. She also requested that I stop sending any emojis that have love hearts because since I never said I love you to her, in her mind I don't love her (despite all of my heartfelt actions and intentions toward her) and therefore shouldn't lie to her with heart themed emojis.
Can someone here please read this and independently analyse what the fuck went down? Is she or I in the right or wrong? I just want an objective reading of what I went through earlier today. Should we be saying I love you to one another, or not? Should I bring it up again? I don't feel proper closure after she and I finished out discussion.
Thank you whoever reads this, I'll be lurking for a while and replying.
>overthinking
>not telling women she wants to hear
october-may is a bit too long period
you should be thinking about closing the distance after a year not wonder if "i love you is i love you or i love you a little"
shes hurt, be cute and kind to her if you dont wana lose her
and say that i love you you stupid muppet its not a marriage request, loosen up a bit
She is kinda in the wrong, acting like she doesn't love you all of a sudden and kinda guilt tripping you I guess. Also the emoji part, lmao.
But I kinda uderstand her. She is probably insecure. She can't BE with you and is probably being scared you'll find someone interesting, who you can physically be with.
Me personally, after talking to someone EVERYDAY for months AND meeting them (and liking them) I would have no problem saying "I love you". I don't understand what else do you need to know/feel before you know you are IN love with someone.
I suggest talking to her again. It doesn't really matter who is wrong. She will still feel those feelings, even after you prove her wrong.
Talk to her. If she's gonna act like a baby about it (and you can't take it or say a genuine "I love you") just break up. There are other girls. You are not in love with her, so you won't lose much I guess.
>>18037151
I've booked my flights to close the distance already, the flights are in May. Last October to this May is less than a year apart, so we should be ok?
I am trying to tell her what I want to hear, but in past relationships I've been hurt pretty bad after saying I love you early in the relationship.
I will be cute and kind to her as much as I can be, thank you for your advice anon.
I want to say I love you to her but like I said now she doesn't want to after our discussion today. Any way to resolve that?
I can't stop biting my nails, finger tips, my lips and cheeks... How do I stop?
>How do I stop?
You can't. You said so yourself.
>>18037135
Fuck. You're right
>>18037135
>>18037144
Nah it's possible. Find something else to focus on and you'll be A for away. Especially stop biting your cheek cos' you'll develop wrinkles around your mouth eventually. The longer you stop for the easier it'll get to stop doing it entirely.
>date female friend of mine
>what was supposed to be a month-long sex fling turned into a real relationship
>1.5 years later she has to transfer 300 miles away to a different university
>we try to make it work out
>be now, 6 months later
>frequently visit one another but I'm kind of facing a problem
>she took my virginity, now that we've been together about 2 years and really putting an effort into making long-distance workout I'm having regrets about my lack of sexual experience
>what if I marry her and I live life only having sex with one girl
>disgusted with myself that I'm even having these thoughts, but be honest and tell her about them
>she says if I want to be open she understands and thinks it may be what's best for me
>I tell her I want to be open, though very confused and emotional
Can anyone relate? I dunno guys, even if it's shitty advice I just want advice.
Wanting to be with someone else is perfectly normal, and this should definitely be discussed between you two. Only thing is if it will upset you if she does the same. Why? 99% of girls want to do what you do to them. If anything, propose a 3 way, agree on a partner you both like, badda bing badda boom.
>Or you could be a dickhead and just cheat on her, which I would not advise if you love her, and then you'll be bitching about nonsense on r9k.
>I'm having regrets about my lack of sexual experience
its not a matter of numbers as long as you do get your dick wet
its about what do when you are doing it
>le one girl isnt enough meme
unless you have something shes not willing to try, you are being a retard
>>18037034
>if it will upset you if she does the same
I'm a VERY jealous person, and she knows that and I've expressed how it'd be hard for me to know she was dating/fucking other guys even if I did the same. I know it's stupid and immature, but it's just how I am.
As for the 3-way thing, she's a really jealous person for things that she can see. For example, a girl kissed me last new years (total surprise, I didnt kiss back) and I told her about it and her reaction was just "oh haha, awkward" but if that had happened in front of her she would've beat that girl's ass. Basically shes fine with being open, but not sharing me with another girl.
>>18037039
My girl and I have managed to have a great sex life, we've done basically everything 2 people can do. I know it's retarded, and I'm disappointed in myself for feeling this way, especially because I used to think so little of people who had thoughts I'm having now.
I need to lay this out. I have a fat fetish and I'm exploring that with this guy. He thinks I'm attractive, loves everything about me, but thinks it isn't age appropriate and that he could suffer from health problems in the future because of his weight and he doesn't want me to go through that stress. He is over 500 pounds. Yes, I know this sounds crazy and that health problems are inevitable, but what do I do to convince him that none of this stuff matters?
i know this sounds like i have daddy issues, which i may have because my parents were abusive, but i dont think it matters. im of age now :(
Regardless of how much it gets you off, you're going to kill this person. I hope this is bait. I never go on to /adv/ and i'm already regretting it.
>>18037025
How am I going to kill him?
>>18037025
I feel like there's really no saving him now that he's 500 lbs. And OP didn't do that to him.