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Make a list of goals, short term and long term broken into steps you can take over each day or week. Then become someone you can look back on and smile about

>>18039597

Weed will probably help you forget.

Dude what about going to church or something instead. Im pretty shy but on occasion I listen to some of the churches that are on tv. makes me feel better sometimes. some of the sadness maybe that you feel could be from deeds done that don't quite feel good. If you look at the 10 commandments we shouldn't be doing things like killing animals or bugs we need to be kind to each other and do good.

Are you a good person?

>>18039588

I'm a hard worker, if that's what you mean. All my co-workers like me.

No you shouldn't lose your job. Accidents happen and people have time off due to sickness or injury. You've filled out an incident form so it is on record. You've visited the doctor and the doctor has advised you to take the time off. It is like the most legit time off ever.

Could they fire you? Yeah. People can still be complete dicks, uncertainty in life regarding situations outside of our control is one of those constant anxieties.

Wow, you found a guy's number and called him? That's impressive.

Worst I've ever done is look up a player's profile, saw he was Italian and sent him a message saying "SPAGHETTI".

If you're seeing a therapist already, I don't think you need to go into that much detail, or tell her you're a psychopath. Just explain that you have anger issues around videogames.

>>18039591
Yeah, I mean admittedly he left himself uncommonly open. Used the same username for everything, that led me to a message board profile that had his full name in it, looked it up on Facebook and found him via his email address. Sent a phony friend request, which he accepted, and I had meant to harass him there, but I noticed that he made his phone number visible to friends, so I used that instead.

All told it was about an hour and a half from the time I lost that game to the time I made the phonecall, and I was seething with rage the entire time. I have this bad habit of biting my hand when I get angry or nervous--it was bleeding. Sometimes I'll just spam a person's inbox with messages like "Fuck you" or "Why did you do that to me?" for thirty-to-forty minutes. Forty minutes of doing nothing but staring at a Loss screen, with a chat window up, repeating the same words over and over. Sometimes I copy and paste, but most of the time I type it all out, making sure the spelling and punctuation is exactly the same every time, like a ritual. For nearly an hour. Because I am mad that I lost a videogame and I don't know how to process my emotions. Then I start a new game.

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>>18039650

It sounds like you game on PC? I'm glad, I only play on PS4.

I can sympathise, I have anger issues with videogames too. Maybe not to the same extent but if a player kills me repeatedly in something I seethe with impotent rage and imagine doing awful things to them. I bite my arm as well, glad to know I'm not the only one.

As I said, probably worth bringing up to your therapist, maybe not use that particular example but definitely the sending angry messages, that's not rare. I wouldn't say you're a psychopath, it sounds more like anger management issues.

Nah bruh, move on, your dinner is... smashed.

>>18039436
Anon pls

>>18039454
its ova, g home

Bump. Please help.

Well you are too young. Its time to be direct and honest.

It's not that he's too intense it's that you see yourself, rightfully or not, as better than him. If he were on a good path and if you saw him as someone you must hold on too then your thread would be

>My bf isn't making a move
>We've been together for 5 years already and we've been through a lot
>we were each other's firsts and we're both working on our career
>he's amazing and studying really hard to be a surgeon and i'm working on being a human rights lawyer
>he mentioned having a family and loving me together but he isn't pulling the trigger
>he hasn't proposed yet or even given some hint of why he hasn't
>should I pressure him or leave it be? is he planning something? it's kinda freaking me out

Don't feel bad, it's ok to be a cunt at 18, completely natural. Instead of thinking how it will be though look at what it currently is.

You are NOT a humans rights lawyer and he is NOT a failure. You both might be these things in the future but you are not now. If you want to move on and think pasture is greener on the other side, go right ahead dear but be honest about it and accept the outcomes, good or bad, as entirely yours and of your own making.

Why are you so trash mate? Have you tried... not smoking?

Find a local business. In my experience they usually don't give a fuck.

This is my problem with people who smoke weed. I don't really care if you want to but don't flush all your spare time away in the desire to get high.

Same as old people, they pay for them with money which they make through being productive members of society. There's loads of books on it, really, not making this up, loads, a huge collection of them.

They either have rich parents, or they work hard and make sacrifices.

>>18039438

mostly this, and a little bit of luck. they tend to own businesses by having a good idea or at least something that they're passionate enough about that they can for others to hire them over. then they expand.

Grow up as a person in general. The reason you frown is because you're unexperienced enough with your emotions to transfer what you feel immediately into how you look. As you get more used to your emotions (meditation speeds it up) you get to a point where you identify what you feel without expressing it. Also why you frowning so much bro, let people have some fun, jeez.

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>>18039378
Can't have arched eyebrows if you don't have eyebrows

>>18039398
This person needs to die. Shottiest advice, poor perspective, makes you a victim by accusing you of playing an assailant role - ignore this entire post. Garbage.

Op, some people just have faces that express different levels with different inputs of emotion. Similar to resting bitch face. Not all 7 billion people on earth have the same facial muscles that will move in the same way with the same stimuli. Some peoples facial design is just never going to exude certain characteristics - like imagine Arnold Schwarzenegger as a scientist. Just doesn't match. There is a reason actors get type casted so often. Some people are just born to play (be perceived as) certain roles.

Op, if you work on it enough, and keep it as a conscious effort, you can change it through time and focused attention. But to accuse you of being behind, of not developing like others have the way that dickhead I quoted just did, is completely retarded. You developed on par with everyone, your face just has different muscles. Jesus christ.

>>18039353
"I don't want to be with you anymore, good bye"
easy.

>>18039381
Not useful.

>>18039416
why not?
what's stopping you?

>>18039264
I think it comes in pills so.. probably pills
Or stop being a pussy and get yourself some meth

>>18039319
I'm trying to ween myself off meth.

That's the problem.

test.

Exceptions being that you need them to intro you to even a bigger cache of females.

The first one.
You know how whenever you felt like you were the one always begging for her to talk to you, because she never bothered to contact you first and you ALWAYS had to be the one contacting her?
Yeah, she's gonna feel the same way if she's the one ALWAYS having to set shit up with you. She's going to assume you're not interested and are hinting at her to fuck off.

The who contacts who thing should be more 50/50. She should be contacting you first to set shit up, and you should also be contacting her to set shit up.
Rule of thumb, if she contacted you first and set up a date, next time should be you contacting her to set up a date. And vice versa.
Because the whole, if they're pursuing you then they can't reject you thing isn't entirely true. They certainly can reject you. They reject you by giving up on you even though you were still secretly interested but were too busy following these fictional rules to a T to judge the situation.

Everything else is rather legit though, by no means a checklist. Every situation is different, but this is a good general guide to having confidence in yourself. Though this guy kind of comes across as a dick about it.

>>18039213
First one is definitely wrong. I was dating a guy for a few months and was always the one setting up dates with him, so I broke it off because I assumed he wasn't interested. Like another anon said communication should be 50/50

Rest is spot on though

The status of being laid has no real value in itself. Being a "virgin" is irrelevant. There are better things to focus on.

If you're hiring an escort cause you're horny and you want to get your rocks off then more power to you.

But if you getting laid just to get laid than there's no real point. It's not going to make you less socially awkward or make you better at relationships.

If you're as socially awkward as they say then you might want to bite the bullet and get a prostitute.

I remember that when I had to write down things I like I usually wrote "to travel" because I thought it was interesting, but then I asked my mom what was fun about it. I have traveled to some places, but I really don't feel anything about it, I don't find it special.

Speaking of which. When I was a kid I asked my mom about love. I didn't ask why nobody liked me, I asked what does it feel to love because I don't feel anything and I wanted to know how do I know that I love someone. She gave me a simple-ass answer for kids.

Then there's the topic of girlfriends. I have never had one, not even a first kiss. My parents even thought I was gay, but I'm not, I just have never been attractive, charismatic or rich enough to get anyone to like me, not that I've liked that many girls either. The weird thing about this is that I seriously don't understand how women love men. I really can't understand it. I can understand if a man is good looking and a good person overall, but I see bad guys with girls and I just can't understand how girls can like people like that. Currently I like one of my students, she's my age, but last week I was thinking about it and today I decided to not do anything and just wait until I get over it. I know it sounds bad, but there's no reason for her to be with me so I just won't make it awkward for both of us.

Now, I have a friend whose mom has cancer. He keeps talking about that and I help him with everything I can. I know I have to care about my friends and everyone knows that I'm someone who cares about people. But the truth is I don't. I don't care about him or his mom, nor I care about any of my friends. I only think that I have to care and that's why I do it, but I don't really feel any kind of worry about anyone. I congratulate people for the things the accomplish, but I don't feel any kind of joy or sadness for them. Is this normal or do I have some kind of autism?

tl;dr: I don't feel anything

Do you have a big problem with it?
I don't think it's bad, it might not be "normal" as compared to everybody around you, but I actually think that not feeling a lot is a great thing.

Dunno about the autism, probs gotta see a professional for that bro.

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>>18039187

ITT: OP tries to convince us hes a sociopath

you're not. you care more tha nyou realize, you are just more of an in the moment kind of guy.

imagine if you will someone who goes and hangs out wiht friends, and he has a good time and things are great.

then he goes home, and he gets lonely, then he gets sad, then he goes on myspace and talks about how he is so fucking sad and he just can't handle it anymore and that hes ALWAYS depressed and that he just puts on fake smiles for his friends.

its not true. he thinks thats true cuz in the moment he doesn't feel anything but that sadness. so the sadness must be everything.

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Both of you are weird ass individuals. She probably will cheat on you in the future.

>>18039135
>left her 8 year old daughter
yea... I don't think that autograph on her ass is going to stop her chief.

>>18039183
But we kinda talked everything over very carefully. I got her pretty red-pilled about relationships and stuff.

Not sure I understand

I have sex with girls and I don't pay anything

>>18039107
Meh, I probably ain't as attractive to woman as you are. Lets just say, I enjoy sex so I went out and paid for it. But I found a unicorn where I can get sex without paying for it by being her booker, but managed to fucking give it away to some dude in his ivory tower, so I don't know how to feel about it.

Soooo you were cheating on your gf?