So today is my birthday. The 12th of february. I'm 19 now. I don't understand anything. Soon I will be old. Maybe my dog will die in some 5 years.
How do I cope with aging? And the fact that as time passesI have gained no fame, money and helped no one? I feel like it's all slipping away so fast. I have not succeeded yet at anything and at the time I do it won't be as impressive because young people are the ones admired. "He did all that in only his youth? Wow."
Anyways. I know aging is good. And natural. And only the dead don't age. But in my irrational side I wish I could just stop time and do something significant, helpful. Something that matters.
Thank you if you read this.
>>18041234
This is what most people feel upon reaching adulthood. The average man you pass on the street has felt the exact thing you are feeling now.
If you want to help people, volunteer. Help people in your community. I know you want to change the world on a large scale, but when you can help people on a personal level, you matter to someone.
I'd rather be liked than well-known.
Such a wise reply... I thank you so much. I feel more understood and not alone.
>>18041234
Lel, tomorrow on februari the 13th, I'll turn 19. I have done jack shit with my life, I failed my first program at university and I'm failing to do anything vesides gaming right now.
But we're still young. If you live in a western country espcially. You have more then a enough time to work on yourself.
What the other anon said is good advice though. It's always good to have something to do, and in helping others you may help yourself. Who knows what you'll learn, who you'll meet or whatever. Just get out there anon.
I'll just go back to university this fall and in the mean time find out what study better suits me.
Hi guys
At some point last year I discovered I had a vomit fetish. I recently got my first gf ( I'm 19) and I told her about it a few days ago. Surprisingly she was totally okay with it and jerked me off while telling me about times she threw up. Unfortunately it makes me feel really dirty and uncomfortable whenever I get off to it. There are times when I can't think about anything except my gf puking. I just wish I didn't have the fetish and got turned on by normal stuff. How can I deal with this?
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Get professional help
>>18041156
I'd love to but I'm a student with no money
I don't think it's possible to clean that one up. No pun intended. Also don't make a bad long-term investment with your girlfriend just to get a brief bit of satisfaction.
Girl problem:
Her and I have had some rough patches. I've done some shit things to her to break her trust and she's done some shit things to me to break my trust.
We told each other that from this point forward we would be honest with each other but evidently after getting a gut feeling while on an acid trip with her last night I have been lied to. I found out today that while we had been broken up (I cheated) she met up with a close friend and hung out with him for what seems to be a few hours on one occasion. Neither of them have mentioned it to me and when I asked her previously if she had hung out with any of my guy friends she had said no.
As well, she has been talking to a guy that she had met while we were broken up. She reassured me that he was just a hungry and horny dude and his advances went completely unanswered - in reality, she told him she would like to date him when the time is right, called him cute, made out with him, and told him (recently) that things between her and i were not salvageable.
I found this information without her knowledge, I don't know if this is the full extent of the story, and she is currently at work.
Honestly I can't blame her for this but it sucks. I thought we had turned a new leaf, you know?
What do i do now? Pretend it didn't happen? Confront her? Just end shit and try again?
it was over when you cheated, move on
>>18041150
Op here
Yes and no. Do you really think that this can't be fixed? I should just call it quits and go about my business?
>>18041309
cheating ruins relationships. it's dead.
Welp, I think I'm going to lose my virginity tonight. I'm getting a bit nervous now, any advice for sex in general? Lasting longer, being able to get hard, anything like that. I'm a guy, by the way.
just have fun with it, and don't try your best to not get nervous, don't over think it.
If you cum early, just look into her eyes or the back of her head and say "to be continued..."
>>18041113
Do foreplay or finger her
what are some tips and tricks of survoving cold weather? are there are specific places to go?
>>18041112
pretty much anywhere that blocks wind. if possible go to soup kitchens or some sorts. if you can avoid the wind it will make your life a lot easier
>>18041114
thanks
i also meant particully at night, cuz during the days shopping centers are olen and warm but the nights are tough to pass by
the inside of buildings. heated buildings, preferably. that should be your priority. where are you located? urban or rural?
So usually I see people here giving advice telling people to go to bars/clubs to meet girls
But I'm here to counter that piece of advice with the fact that clubs are quite literally the worst place to go to meet new people unless you're really well known or you go with people you know. I went to a club yesterday, it wasn't my first time going there, but it was my first time going there alone without knowing anybody, it wasn't a horrible experience, more like just observational and strictly just recon. Here are some of the things I saw as a loner stranger dancing by himself
1) Music is too loud for conversation. Some guys came up and tried talking to me and in order for me to hear them they had to shout in my ear and I could feel their spit sipping in.
2)Another guy came up and talked to me and all he wanted was for me to add him on snapchat. Pretended to like my t-shirt just so I could add him on snapchat. I don't even have snapchat.
3) Lots and lots of drunk guys straggling about trying to grind on girls they don't know. It was cringeworthy to watch. Then some of these guys with awful bad breath come and try and talk to you later for no reason.
4) Girls who get on the dance-floor usually do so in packs. Like a group of 4-6 girls just get on and form their own circle of dancing. I watched several times as guys tried to break into these circles and get blown off. As hilarious as it was to watch, it was also disheartening.
5) If you're not a good dancer and you're there alone, you're in for a rough time
6) Loud music. Yes I'm bringing this up again. If you have a soft voice or people even have a hard time hearing you in real life, then trying to say words to preppy girls with top 40 music blaring will be a nightmare and most of the night you'll be left talking to air.
I should add that I'm not gay in any way, but in total last night I was approached by 5 different guys who came and started talking to me first, 2 girls, and 1 woman who looked old enough to be my grandma, and all she did was keep touching my butt and looking for any excuse to hug me.
Anyway, the conclusion I drew was that clubbing alone was annoying, and getting approached by people you don't know can be annoying. I guess I can understand why girls flood the dance floor in packs of 10 and "rescue" a girl from a guy trying to strike up a conversation but damn it's a lot of damn work for usually little reward, and the worst part of it is you're gonna be shouting 95% of the time.
So my question is, are there any frequent club-goers here on /adv/ I'm sure vets have worked around the issues I've brought up, but imo guys who are single and just starting out should absolutely not being to clubs and bars to try and talk to girls, they'll just leave the place demoralized and alone most of the time.
there's no reason to be talking in a club.
dancing is easy to learn, just watch some YouTube videos and practice a bit. if you dance with a girl for a while and you guys are into each other you can take her outside to talk.
youre right that it's pointless to go alone. if people see you standing around alone everyone will peg you for a loser and then you'll feel like shit and meet no one. on top of that you blew a ton of money on cover and overpriced drinks.
>So usually I see people here giving advice telling people to go to bars/clubs to meet girls
why would anyone say that
clubs are awful at virtually everything. The music's awful, the drinks while maybe decent, are terribly overprized, the awful music is much too loud, the dancing's awful (if you want to dance, visit a course), and that's about everything that can happen at a club.
I don't see the benefit of going with people you know, cause you're not gonna hit up one of them, and you can't have conversation with them. they add nothing of value except maybe free drinks.
http://waitbutwhy.com/2014/05/secretly-hate-bars.html is a pretty fun read.
>iq was tested 144 when i was 9 and 142 when i was 14
>went full on neet when i was 15-18 years old
>20 now
>still in high school
>struggling to finish high scool
>i probably only had a head start in my development and didnt do shit with it
anyone had any similar experiences?
been on SSRI's from 15 to 19 years old
what does your iq have to do with it
> still believing in the iq meme
If you're struggling to finish high school then you're not smart. Your iq from when you were 9 doesn't mean jack shit now.
And don't give me that 'smart but lazy' bullshit. If you were smart you wouldn't have a problem finishing school. I don't know what my iq is because I'm not a faggot, but I barely went to school my senior year and still got A's and B's.
I'm a nice guy and shy. What human model should I pursue?
>>18040740
People who define themselves as "a nice guy" are the worst human beings I've ever met.
>>18040749
Look - I hate myself, but threat other nicely. Is that ok for you?
Read "no more mr. nice guy".
few months ago i told my partner of 4 years that i was unhappy in our relationship. we broke up, but i was overcome by regret and we backtracked a day later, just before going our separate ways for christmas, agreeing to give each other space and see how it goes in the new year (we live together). we discussed how we both know our relationship isn't going to last forever, that when we break up we will still be close friends, but obviously some things will change.
given the above, would it still be a dick move to break off this relationship because i have the opportunity to pursue someone else? in many ways i still love my current partner, and i REALLY do not want to hurt them in any way. terminating a relationship and immediately engaging with someone else feels like a shitty thing to do, plus we are living together until mid 2017.
i'm completely conflicted over the situation. this is my first relationship, and i feel like i'm picking the easy path (staying in a relationship i may not be entirely fulfilled by). i am terrified of bringing this up with my partner as it feels like once i do theres no going back. i recognise how selfish and cold this sounds, but i kind of want to test the waters with this other potential partner to see if i have a ship to jump to. but doing this feels very sly and backhanded, and i would hate to have a partner do this to me.
pls any advice is appreciated, talk some sense into me if im being a complete stupid fucking faggot.
tl;dr: is dick move to end a relationship to pursue someone else when you've previously discussed with partner that your relationship wont last forever?
You fucked up and there's no back-tracking. You have to deal with what you've done. If you're not happy in the relationship, do the both of you a favor and end it permanently. After that, you're free to do what you want. Just remember that getting what you want and being happy are two different things.
>>18040704
thanks for the reply.
But how have I fucked up in this situation?
>>18041348
You didn't fuck up, and I don't think that other guy means you "fucked up" as in did something wrong, he just meant that turning back now isn't really a good thing to do.
Otherwise I just wanted to reply and congratulate you on actually being a decent human being and breaking off a relationship on nice terms.
18 hear old here, I have poor self control. I let myself get easily addicted to food becoming a fat fuck when I was younger, I let myself get easily addicted to mssturbation to the point I think I broke my dick, and I can't even stick to a routine. Why is everyone else my age better? Why am I such a failure of a human being? My Parents Got On Me Today For Eating cinammon buns and cake because I'm apparently pre-diabetic and have borderline high blood pressure. Why can't things be easy? Why must it be hard?
Because you're a dumb kid. I was you 5 years ago and a year ago I decided to finally quit hating myself over my weight for 10 years and go on a jog and realized what a dumb little bitch I was throwing a pity party for myself shoving cheesecake in my face and now I look down on fags like you because you won't do anything to make yourself not feel bad.
How are you gonna let fucking pizza and cake make you its bitch?
>>18040592
Well it makes me feel good. I like things that make me feel good. I was actually kinda healthy a few times in my life but my health fluctuates. Well I haven't eaten at butger king, McDonald's, or Wendy's since December 2015 since it made me sick to my stomach. But other than that my mom goes crazy whenever I eat anything sugary. Plus even when I do try a weight lifting regimen I fall off a few months down the road
>>18040607
I was being a dick cos it amuses me but really it's a slow process and you'll be surprised how much progress you'll make. I kept falling out of going so I went every day just to make and habit. Muscle training and cardio in between. I would go and even do just basic yoga on recovery days. But diet is the most important thing. When I want soda or cinnamon buns I eat strawberries and get the fuck away from food. Even if you don't lose weight, you will feel more healthy and have more energy. I've got 3 people going to the gym with me because I don't want people to feel the pain I did when I was overweight and hated myself
I like to go to this bakery where this qt works, she basically sets everything up and works the cash register
I go there often but not enough to be a regular or her to recognize me. What do i say to her besides my usual "y-you too"?
please respond
Stop.
Just don't.
When she's at work she is trapped in that position and can't exit if she doesn't feel attracted to you. You could be threatening to her because she has no way out. Wait until she's off work so it's a fair interaction.
Say something to her like "hey, want to get a coffee with my some time?" or "Say do you have a boyfriend? No? Well would you go out with me?"
Porn damages the brain?
nah
4chan damages the brain.
i dont know about permanent damage
but chornic porn masturbation does fuck with your head, stop doing it
How do I stop myself from saying the cringiest shit?
Every day it's something, yesterday I described a girl I had a crush on to a friend as having "a face I'm in love with", during a response to a girl's apology I asked her if she wanted to hang out in the most desperate, out of place way possible, nearly every day there's at least one thing. How can I just say things like a normal person?
never use the word love unless you're in a committed relationship
>>18040536
have you tried thinking before you speak?
>>18040548
I know but it was what came out, I had to specify that I only liked her.
>>18040552
It's the only reason why 100% of my dialogue isn't just a 24/7 cringe compilation, shit just slips out.
So, I have been in line this state of limbo with a woman that I like. Maybe even love. She kind of leaves me hanging in this limbo and it's pure suffering. She hasn't explicitly told me she likes me or hates me.
Tomorrow, I set up a "date". My intention is freedom from this curse. I intend to ask her explicitly at the end how she feels about me. I don't care what choice she makes. I just want closure. 5 years of torment and wondering.
I have to drive in a snow storm for her answer. It needs to be face to face. A true chance to break the curse. If I don't make it back, know that I died trying to finally take my life back.
My question to you guys, how do I word my concerns to her with coming off creepy or insane? I am honestly just looking for closure so I can be free. I do not intend to harm her or make her uncomfortable. I just need closure.
Help me take back my life. I can hear glory calling my name. The life I am living now is no life if I have to live with this curse on my back.
>>18040427
Wow, you are definitely a creep. If theres any indication to how you worded this thread, you are going to scare the shit out of her. Additionally 5 fucking years? Yeah bro, she has no feelings for you. You dont exist in her world.
>>18040427
Has she ever kissed you? Or made physical contact with you?
She may see you as a friend/orbiter
>>18040476
She never kissed me. But she did buy me a gift that was worth like 60 bucks once.
Honestly, I just need to hear her say. "I am not interested in you". Just something. My brain is fucked man. I realize that and I am trying to free myself. I can't date other women because I feel that I need to wait for the woman that I am talking about.
This is my chance to break these chains and move on. I just need her to strike me with a few words. I can almost taste my freedom.
Hey /adv/, am I already an alcoholic or just risking to become an alcoholic if I continue what I am doing already:
- I drink about 100 to 150 ml of alcohol each day (roughly 4-6 beers, half a bottle of vodka or a liter of wine).
- I don't drink in order to to get drunk, but just to relax in the evening. When I have the feeling that I have reached my "level", I stop and go to bed because I really hate hangovers, vomitting, black-outs and losing control over myself. I also never drink during day time, usually I start after 8PM.
- Not even my GF knows that I drink every day. Whenever we meet, I usually stay sober, but then I compensate the next evening by drinking even more than I would usually drink if I had not stayed absent from alcohol the night before.
- I hide alcohol in my appartment. I don't have any physical withdrawal symptoms yet when I don't drink, but it makes me feel extremely uncomfortable and somewhat nervous when I have to stay sober for more than one night in a row.
- It feels embarrassing to me to buy alcohol. I have the feeling that all cashiers who work in the shops around my home already know me from seeing.
- I have been drinking on an almost daily basis for 3 or 4 years now. In the past I drank much more (like a bottle of vodka on one evening for example), but now I don't do that anymore as I have a job.
- None of my friends thinks I am an alcoholic. When I drink with friends, they are just surprised that, no matter how much I drink, I just won't get drunk
>I drink the equivalent of half a bottle of vodka a day, every day
>I hide it from everyone
>I'm ashamed of it
>I've done this for years
>am I an alcoholic?
Nah, anon, all of that is completely normal
>>18040334
Back in the day that was normal. So was grabbing a shot and a beer on your lunch break from the mill. I know a few older guys who have 4-6 a day as their way of relaxing. They don't drive drunk, abuse their wives, or get hangovers. It becomes a problem once you get a DUI or wake up hungover every day.
I average around 4-6 a day. IMO the biggest problem is keeping your weight down from consuming 4-800 empty calories a day.
>>18040334
Half a fifth isn't much. But the fact that it's vodka is pretty gross. Most actual alcoholics drink vodka.