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>>18042581
"Thanks, i like you"

>>18042581

"That's a nice dick, it would be a shame if my mouth got it all sloppy".

>>18042581
You don't simply ask him to shut up, you need to say:"Do not talk to me or my wife's son ever again".

>>18042553
Like - alone? You aren't invited?

>>18042554
I didn't ask to come because we hang out more often, like every week usually at least. She just told me that they are going to do that. Honestly they see eachother at work at least once a week and she said they haven't "caught up" in a long time anyway.

>>18042557
I don't know, I would ask to hang out with them.
It'd make me feel a bit uncomfortable too.

In addition:

>My monthly outgoings would roughly be £1100 after tax for everything

Meaning if my part-time job covered £700, my savings could cover £400. This rounds up around 3 months stay, but after I would need a solution, otherwise there'd be a £400 hole I couldn't come up with.

TL:DR - My main issue would be finding a full time job that would support £1100 living costs. I'd preferably like it to be in videography and I'd like to avoid freelance due to how unpredictable it is.

Scared of failing desu.

Well I'm Australian, and we don't move out unless we have a reliable roommate. Otherwise cost pressures will get to you and you'll just end up back at home. Then again housing is so fucked here it's commonplace to live with family.

At this point in time you shouldn't be barely paying the rent. Either get more work or find somewhere more affordable.

>>18042546
You don't have the financial stability to move out.
Stay at home till you have a stable job that covers the costs of living alone without the roommates.

Yeah it just sounds like you're having a panic attack. Don't worry anon, it will pass and everything will be okay.

>>18042520
thank you for the kind words anon, the shaking feels like it's decreasing slightly so i guess it is a panic attack

no clue how i'll be able to sleep after this considering i already have a shit time trying to sleep in general but hopefully i can manage somehow

Go take a shit. That helps me.

Dude every 20 year old ever thinks like this. It is basically part of coming to terms with your place in the world and the lie of what was sold vs what you got given. The 60's were like blah blah reject the warmongering industrialism of the previous generation, the 70's got a bit excessive as a rejection of the back to basics hippies, the 80's got punk as a rejection of the pacifism and the exuberance, the 90's got too cool for school too cool to care as a rejection of the obvious anger and violence and outward physical expression of the 80's and so on and so on. Everyone finishes puberty and goes is this it? Now I'm an adult this is the world I've been left with? Thanks you old assholes, I'll do things a different way I think.

The late 90's early 00's were filled with consumer growth and rising living standards, everything got a bit bourgeoisie as traditional socialism and political movements all lost ground to the drives of globalisation, money markets and neo-liberal capitalism.

In fact it is fairly predicable that you'd rage against this degeneracy and search for something with more substantial humanistic meaning to get behind.

Thing is, like most teenage rebels, you'll eventually stop giving a shit and become old and part of the next generation. At the moment you have a fresh perspective but no power, you are outnumbered and the dominant culture ignores you. By the time you are 30 then your generation will be in charge of businesses and influencing politics and you'll start to have money and power. You won't really see your political aspirations develop until you are in your 50's, but this is normal and at the point when you can outvote everyone to get your own selfish way creating a fucked up world designed for the past not the future and the next generation of teenage rebels wondering why the world is so retarded and unsuitable.

Circle of life simba.

>>18042496
Interesting, I never thought about it in this way.
I hope the current situation will indeed change when I am in my 30s, however it is painful to spend your youth in the worst times (of all that you named)
What do you think will come next?

>>18042510
I hope there will be a paradigm shift. Typically many people have a lot invested in the old way of doing things and stand to lose a lot from new developments and as they are currently on the top they can actively block new developments and act against better ways of doing things, but eventually these people die or retire or the weight of opposition overwhelms them and suddenly the whole situation flips and within a couple of years we are doing things completely differently and it feels like it was always that way.

Like we live in an information age where the internet has made the cost of duplication of information practically free, yet we are trying to still hold onto intellectual property and value it based on a system from before the internet. You've got education designed for a world that no longer exists, degrees sold as debt because they are supposed to help the individual and therefore they'll earn more and should pay it back rather than acknowledging that education helps all of society, why does a degree cost thousands when there aren't jobs for every graduate and the cost of information is nothing?

I think we should educate the world using freely distributed information on a mass scale and allow knowledge and ability to determine value and worth rather than theories of economics which are ultimately protecting those invested in the current system. As I said education helps everybody except those looking to control access and that access is controlled through a class based system of what you were born into. Got to be able to afford the education to be able to play our game to win the tokens which will allow you to play our game.

Also workers who believe in their own exploitation due to some moral or ethical ideas about the notion of work. I'm not saying that work isn't incredibly important to bring meaning and validation to life, but we shouldn't participate in our own exploitation and by extension enable and support the exploitation of others.

If you managed a second date, then she likes to my dude. Don't fix what isn't broken.

I don't know about telling her how much of a loser you are but you could say that it takes you a while to open up to people.

Say you would love to see where she lives.
Go there, look around in her room / apartment.
Girls are good at decoration, they love to decorate their rooms, so give her som positve comments on her decorations.

Then start messing with her, playfully, drag her down in the bed and start making out.

It's not harder than that.

Think of a goal achievable within your current situation - like writing a resume. Doesn't have to be a resume about you, make it about an imaginary you. Will be good fun and help you get more creative with things that are possible in life.

No harm in searching for psycological help

Learn to drive, even if you can't afford a car

Before and after otherwise we can't tell. The human body is wonky sometimes.

>>18042423
You sure it hasn't always been like that?

>>18042434
basicly the left foot is the before and the right one is the after
>>18042440
i woke up with my finger like that, it has never been like that

>>18042359

you're talking yourself into your problems.

you could just say you're sad but its
>a dark and terrible sadness
>an overwhelming misery so great i can hardly bear living (despite continuing to do so without incident)
>its 'INCREDIBLE DEPRESSION'

you want to be this tragic being who's so sad that it doesn't matter if his life is great, hes just too beautifully depressed. its just not fair :(

Become a humanitarian. You say you don't like the ugliness of humanity but what have you done to better humanity as a whole?

>>18042369

nah thats hard, im too sad for that,.

>>18042341
It might be better for you to just see a doctor than ask us.

We do need a bit more info though if you want us to help.

How much sleep are you getting?
What's your diet like?
Do you have ADHD or Depression?


Honestly, you sound exactly like me, haha. What helped me was more sleep and this vitamin I take called DMAE, which basically helps with energy and attention. It seems to do the trick, though I don't know if that's just a placebo effect or not. It helps and that's all that matters to me right now.

>>18042341
Definitely check with a doctor. I had all those symptoms even slowly bleeding from the nose for no fucking reason for a week straight. My saliva tasted and felt different. That was when I lost my home, friends and gf dropped out of school and the business I was working in because i felt like i was going into a life i didnt want. Are you going through a breakup or something that is stressing you out?

>>18042341
Fix your sleep schedule, get a better diet (throw out overly processed foods/junk food and eat more homemade meals with plenty of fresh fruits and veggies), exercise (you could do this by simply going on a walk for at least 30 minutes, split it into three 10 minute walks daily if it'd be easier to handle), and resolve any anxiety/stress you may be having. I experienced many of the same issues as well and anxiety + shit lifestyle always seemed to be the cause for it. If you're worried though and want some peace of mind, visit a doctor. There are some vitamin deficiencies that can cause symptoms like this too. Wish the best for you OP.

Nothing wrong with desensitization, I did the same thing in highschool. Was it pure morbid curiosity that compelled you and your friends to look for fucked up shit?

If anything, you are now better prepared to deal with such traumatizing things. An advantage, if anything.

It's fine but don't be surprised if it starts to get to you eventually. I used to do the same thing when I was younger. Browse orgrish, YNC, etc. It's interesting when you're young and starting to realize how brutal the world can be, but now that I'm in my twenties I'd much rather look at inspirational things and fields that I'm interested in getting involved in.

>>18042304

>thursday
>valentines day

got news for you bud

Thursday is not Valentine's Day

>>18042306
>>18042307
Sorry I meant Tuesday*

>>18042290

get over yourself.

>>18042290
read? do some creative stuff? draw paint ?

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>>18042299

BUT THOSE DONT SOUND GOOD SO WHAT SHOULD I DO?

>>18042279
If you're looking for in the CBD for $200 a week, you have no chance. Even South Bank will cost more per week.

>>18042291
thinking footscray or brunswick. coburg max.

>>18042279
Why do you want to live there? Stuff is just so goddamn expensive and cramped. I spent a little time in Pakenham about an hour east and it was much nicer. Plus it was on the train line, so it wasn't hard to get into Melbourne.

>>18042251

book is better. book can see what you're doing wrong and point out. how can a person even compete?

don't get a teacher or a book. write your own songs dude. thats how i got good. or JOIN A BAND. seriously dude, join any band it will make you better. i sucked so bad at drums and then i joined like 3 bands and now i am a lot better. being in a band just forces you to practice and read your bandmates

OP I might be in a different place because I started playing bass guitar at 15 then guitar in a band then did a degree in music with double bass as my principle instrument and trombone as my secondary. I can carry a tune on pretty much any instrument after a few minutes of fucking around and my thought process is one where I know if I apply myself I can reach an intermediate standard within a few months and an advanced one within a year.

Of course the highest levels of virtuosity require a lifetime of dedication and constant intelligent productive practice and being creative on certain instruments requires an affinity and measure of passion for something, but theory and its application aside, when it comes to learning instruments it is just muscle memory and dexterity. I used to record and if I wanted a brass section I'd just learn all the instruments I needed and layer them up, didn't have to be complex, it wasn't a trumpet solo.

That said you've got to know how to practice in a productive manner. I play drums at the moment and I spend around 20 minutes a day practising with maybe a few longer sessions once or twice a week. I used to play them in a band until last christmas for about a year and we'd practice for 4 hours once a week and gig.

So you've got fun fucking around playing and then you've got analysing your weaknesses and attempting to improve them and your practice time should be split between these. If you struggle with that a teacher might help, but I've never really liked teachers because they often start off like I did here, laying down the foundations of being an authority and then going through their method from step 1. Fundamentals are important, but you really don't need to know much of anything to start making 'music' and that is always more fun.

Are we talking the typical American punk fast polka bsbbs with 16th note hats across the top? Blast beats? How much volume do you need? Have you explored the Moeller method? Do you heel toe or slide?