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Never been in a relationship and don't know why. 2017-02-12 05:37:49 Post No.18042059
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Never been in a relationship and don't know why.
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Im in my mid 20s and have never had sex and have never had a girlfriend. The thing is, socially, I've always been fairly normal, I'm not a typical anti-social 4chan poster who has trouble leaving their house and talking to people. My entire life I've been able to make friends, get along with classmates/coworkers and I have no problem talking to women, I don't freeze up or say awkward shit and I've always been pretty funny. I'm more dismayed by the fact that I've NEVER had a girlfriend than I am by simply not having one now, It's something I've never experienced at all and it's bothering me. This is made worse by the fact that I have 3 friends in relationships that have the charisma and social skills of a grey brick.
The thing is, I've been ok with that up until now. Well...ok isn't really right term, more like I've accepted it because my entire life I've been a fat shit. Coming out of college I weighed more than 350 pounds. I was always bigger, height wise and weight wise, than my classmates and friends, I was rarely not the biggest person in a room. Why would anyone date someone so gross looking? So even though I hated it (and myself) I accepted that was just the way of things. That's changed. I'm still fat, but only on the upper end of overweight instead of being morbidly obese, and I'm still losing. I look pretty good, my face has slimmed down and I've taken to not being unattractive by getting a decent haircut, keeping my beard trimmed and styled appropriately, as well as making sure to get clothes that fit me properly. Although my body is still gross, though not as gross as it once was and I've been going to gym for the past month as well and I can already notice increased muscle mass underneath the fat thats still there. Maybe I'm wrong and I'm still majorly unattractive, but I feel as if I should be having some success at minimum with some cute chubby chicks at least. Why does this elude me? why am I the odd one out?
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>>18042059
>I've been a fat shit
you answered your own goddamn question retard. Lose weight and you'll have a better chance. Would you wanna fuck a beached whale?
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>>18042059
Hate to be rude but it's cos you fat and have the charisma and social skills of a grey brick.
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>>18042063
But im not beached whale status anymore, although I'm no sexy dolphin.
>>18042066
Can't really prove that I don't have any social skills or charisma, but take my word for it?
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I met a qt brown girl who's into me (despite telling her about my anxiety and shit) and I don't want to fuck this up. She's muslim though, and doesn't drink alcohol, so I assume there's more to come. What do?
tl;dr redpill me on muslim grills
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>>18039935
>tl;dr redpill me on muslim grills
Don't put your pork in them.
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Just go with it. If you disagree with the lifestyle that comes with being muslim then maybe you guys can work it out in the future by communicating. If things are just incompatible then that will happen and things will just play out as they should.
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Your ancestors died defending your land from her ancestors. She will always hate your way of life and you will be betraying your family and your race just to get your dick wet.
Convince me not to reinstall Tinder. I never get any matches and I'm just gonna end up feeling bad after a week.
But I still want to try.
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>>18046218
What's the definition of insanity, OP?
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it the words of my grandfather "just fucking don't you damn mook".
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>>18046218
dont do it. you never get any matches and end up feeling bad after a week.
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How do I ask for sex to a girl I just met?
How do I avoid to be in the friendzone?
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>>18045863
Read a book
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just fucking ask. don't pussyfoot around
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>>18045863
>How do I ask for sex to a girl I just met?
Why should she say "yes"? Have you flirted? Have you seduced her? Is she single? Is she looking for sex? Is she into you? Is she even into guys? Etc.
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My boobs look like old lady boobs because I lost weight
How do I stop being depressed about it?
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>>18045369
Well .. either accept and be happy with you new self/body or perhaps a boop job to fix it
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we will need to see it im afraid
is it really bad?
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>>18045369
Accept it, and understand that most people don't really fucking care.
Put a bra on them. A push up bra.
Work out in the gym, pectorals are supposed to help.
Get a breast lift surgery.
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Fuck Fuck Fuck!
I really need help /adv/.
If you want the short version, I think I found my dad cheating and I just don't know what to do. If I tell my mum then I think it would really ruin their relationship, and my little brother's schooling.
here's the actual story
>Earlier today
>just had friends over for a last get-together so I could say goodbye before I head of to university
>as the last two were leaving, my dad calls out for me to come over to the window of his office so he could talk to me
>as we're talking I notice on his laptop that he has a chat window open.
>I know that website
>its fetlife, a BDSM dating site
>I know because I use it
>after a little searching I find his profile,
>its easy, he used the same name as he always does
>The profile hasn't been used or updated basically since it was created "over 5 years ago"
>I don't know if thats a good or bad thing
>He's a submissive... which I already kinda knew and accepted
>what I can't accept is him going to be with a mistress without my mother's knowledge
>Proceed to delete any photos of me that are too incriminating
Tomorrow I'm going to search his computer and check his fetlife messages to see if he's actually been sleeping around.
I don't know what to do, as i said earlier this could ruin the fragile relationship they already have, and I can't do that to my little brother, not when he's about to go into the last years of his school life, which are extremely important to getting into a good uni.
However I will say that my mum has been through so much shit having to deal with my dad and a divorce would be a good thing for her, not so much dad as he'll fall into drinking and probably gambling.
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you could just live in denial. you didn't see anything because nothing happened, and after a while this will be the least of your concerns as you start to believe the lies that spiraled out of control over the years. maybe you'll start to think you're schizophrenic because you won't be sure what memories of yours actually happened because you lose all sense of time and you won't be able to recollect entire years of your life.
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>>18045271
well yeah that sounds fun, but I care about my family, especially my mum, and I can't just let this go
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This sounds like such a nightmare
If not for your brother id say tell your mom
Could confront him and say your friend showed you it
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It was my first time drinking and going to a party last night
Made a fool of myself in front of everybody I know and got did some retarded things
Should I kill myself or just accept that I don't handle alcohol
Leaning towards the first
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>>18045151
Why haven't you been drinking?
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>>18045151
better than me, when i drink i sound like LALALALAL
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>>18045151
> Made a fool of myself in front of everybody I know and got did some retarded things
Alcohol will do that.
> Should I kill myself or just accept that I don't handle alcohol
Neither. Learn that you have limits. 1 drink per hour with food and you're good.
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Male-anons would you do this to your girlfriend? And femanons would you let him? 2017-02-13 06:43:57 Post No.18045007
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Male-anons would you do this to your girlfriend? And femanons would you let him?
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Can't tell if I'm overreacting but I'm in a ldr with my bf of 5 years. He ordered pizza and for some reason told me it was a female on the line and I was like ok whatever. Then he went on to joke about how he would ask for her number and he would get her to give him more than just a pizza. So this got me pissed off but I contained myself and joked and said maybe I should leave you two to be alone together. He got mad at that and I was like chill...I'm just making jokes like you are. I asked if she was pretty and all he said was 'I don't know' then he said I was acting weird and he told me I was overreacting. I broke up with him after that. Why the hell did he do this? To make me feel like shit? Because he actually liked her?
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>>18045007
Your bf sounds like an idiot but I think breaking up with him was a bit much. It sounds like he was trying to make you jealous and then got upset that you handled it coolly
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>>18045016
Why do people do that? I never try to make him jealous because I know how much it hurts
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>I broke up with him after that.
He was acting like an ass and didnt know when to let a joke stop, but either you're nuts or the relationship was on its last legs anyways if you decided dumping him was the appropriate response.
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What is a city in the world where you can live, where there are lots of people, they speak English, and it's cheap?
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Hell
I mean technically Ice Land
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>>18044863
How cheap?
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>>18044863
cities are all expensive when compared to just 'towns' in the surrounding areas.
some are technically cheaper than others but as a general rule that cheapness is reflected in your pay.
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ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything 2017-02-13 05:10:32 Post No.18044762
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ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything
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GUIDELINES:
Before you post a question, check the FAQ to see if it's already been answered.
Keep questions short for more answers.
If you're not going to like honest answers, don't ask your question.
And please no derailing arguments or attention whoring.
FAQ:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>What do girls/guys think about <an insecurity including, but not limited to: looks, physical traits, personality traits, virginity or otherwise lack of dating experience>
There is no one answer. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practising and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever.
>I like someone. What do I do?
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. You're overthinking it.
>XYZ happened. Interpret this for me please
We're not in their head, we don't know.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing.
>Someone has made it super clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No.
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>.
>Brandon, that guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships and fart guy
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How far do you travel to see your partner? If you're not seeing anyone now, how far did you travel to see your best ex? State your gender.
Use the time unit (30 min, 1 hour...).
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>>18044770
5-30 minutes, maybe an hour if traffic was horrific. I live in a traffic heavy city.
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Guys, if a girl told you to text her whenever, is there any reason, aside from not being interested in her, that you would not text?
I was 100% positive this guy liked me, so I texted him and ended the conversation telling him to text whenever he felt like it and now it's been a week or two and nothing. I've seen him in the meantime, so I know it's not like something major happened that's keeping him.
Just move on, yeah?
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My girlfriend has average looks. I've always thought she was beautiful. Like in any room I would think she is the best looking person even if she was surrounded by models.
So I've know her for about two years and today I saw her and all he flaws came to light. I just didn't see her as beautiful. She was painfully average and I felt nothing for her.
Did I fall out of love?
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>HEY ADV I HAVE A PROBLEM OF SOME SORT
>posts random thoughts
This isn't a game of riddles. Cut the shit and say what-went-where honestly or fuck off to the other boards.
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>>18044492
How long have you been dating?
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>>18044492
This is what happens when you leave the honeymoon phase. It's why relationships take effort. You may pay more attention to her physical flaws because you've gotten comfortable, but does that outweigh everything else good about the relationship? Are these flaws she had before or did she gain 50lbs in 2 years?
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Hpw do you charm a guy who doesn't seem to have interests or hobbies other than mediocre whiskey and gossip?
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>>18044391
Why would you want to?
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>>18044391
Sounds like a winner there OP. Whatever you do, get
on
that
basic-ass
dick
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>>18044391
get drunk and have sex with him
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What the fuck should I do in my free time? 2017-02-12 07:33:55 Post No.18043397
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What the fuck should I do in my free time?
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Video games are boring except Osu.
Anime is boring except LWA and maybe Kobayashi.
I wanted to get into books because I realized that I am a very dumb, uneducated person after spending a week on /lit/. But it doesn't give me any pleasure.
Getting good at something is impossible for me because I neither have the self-control nor the motivation.
I just spend my free time browsing 4chan and looking at pictures of pretty anime girls. Is this babbie's first existential crisis?
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stay stronk, anon-kun! you just need to occupy your mind with new information! look into picking up new hobbies, and if you lose interest in them quick, just keep looking until you find one that settles well with you. there's a ton of things out there for you to discover! maybe to help you get out more, try setting a goal that correlates with a hobby; for example, start scrap booking! make it a thing to go on hikes or parks, somewhere with a lot of different leaves and plants and dry and add them into a journal, trying to fill all the pages of your book. if that sounds too autistic for you, like i said, there's a variety of things for you to choose from. don't lose hope!
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>>18043428
Thank you so much. I will keep looking for new hobbies then, maybe even something I can do outside like you suggested. It seems that the internet (and porn) is poison for my mind..
Cute Tohru
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pick something you really like. that thing you always wanted to do but you never did it because you thought you could never get as good as other people or make a living out of it. practice it every day.
for bonus points, cut out all the bullshit like video games and 4chan and focus on that thing.
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pls help me out /adv. I really love my gf. We're planning on moving in together in a couple of months and things are really going great. My problem is that (at the time being) i feel like its becoming a little bit too much. I miss spending time with my friends. Vidya is out of the question at this point and i feel like i NEED to be with her.
I have tried hinting a little bit about it, but she reacted pretty badly. She said she was afraid that i thought that we spent too much time together (which i kind of think). Of course i didnt mean it.
I really dont know what to do. I dont want to lie to her about spending so much time with her. Dont get me wrong, i really love spending time with her, but i want some time for myself.
This might be a problem when we move together and we're going to be together all the time, but we both agree that we have to give eachother some space.
What do i do /adv??
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>>18045522
Just ask her to let you spend time alone?
I live with my boyfriend, we usually spend 2 evenings a week together, 2-3 days we hang out with friends or family, and the rest of the time we spend the evening alone in two different rooms. We have dinner together, hang out for 2-3 hours and than at 9 PM I just go to our room and work on my hobbies and he goes in his office to work on his stuff.
It's normal to have alone time in a relationship. Just communicate. You aren't ready to live together if you cannot have a discussion about your needs.
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move in and start wearing pants
if you want alone, you get alone time
if you want to play games, you play games
just dont neglect her
if shes a bitch shes going to be a bitch over other things too, dont be afraid of confrontation
theres always sex to vent frustration
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>>18045531
Thanks. I'll try to. Im just so afraid that she'll get hurt
What do you when you hit the writers block? When ideas just don't pop in head, writing is a hassle, and if you force yourself to it, then the quality goes down the drain?
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just start writing whatever shit pops into your head regardless of if its good or not. remove your filter. you can go back and edit it later or just start over when you're in the right head space and have some momentum.
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Stop writing and go have some real life experiences for further inspiration is what i do. Put urself in situations unfamiliar to you
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I know its cheesy as fuck but everytime i get writers or artists block, i watch Kiki's Delivery Service. She delt with her own version of writers block and overcomes it by realizing that theres more to life than just being a witch growing up. Her services are useful to those around her and adult life isnt as glamorous as she expected, but she realizes she can still have fun and do the things she wants while still being an adult.
Even if youve seen it a million times, watch it again and maybe it will motivate or inspire you again to write.