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If I see a girl alone in my college, I'm not thinking: wow, this is a perfect chance, I'm thinking: what's the point of going for all this BS again.

Like, what's the point of even approaching girls now, it will all end up being the same BS, she wont give me her phone, if she gives me her phone, she wont reply and even if she replies, there will be no chance she will give me a date.

It's like:
1/3 of girls will give you a phone.
1/3 of said girls will never reply.
1/3 of said girls will show not interest.
1/3 MAYBE some one single girl will show interest.

It's like BS, so what's the point of even approaching a girl?

>huh duh become better
I've become better, much better than my beta days, but is even worth it?

I will say no, is not even worthy.

I will say a hooker is much easier and better.
and I'm considering to get money, hire hookers and stop giving a fuck about meeting women.

Yeah, a hooker will be 100 but will be 11 times better anything I can pickup.

The worse part is that I'm just one week in college but I not longer have even interest in going to my college, I just want to quit, but I know I don't wanna make my family see me quit.

The worse part is the fucking entitlement of girls, I wasn't even approaching 9 or 8.
I was fucking approaching literally 5-6-7

Fucking literal 5 behave as if they were a 7, and even 7 behave as if they were a 10/10

I will tell you is fucking BS, you're not even hot bitch.

Elliot Rodger, stop putting women on the pedestal.
Stop thinking your value depends on how many women you can pick up.

You feel like you desperately need to get with a chick to prove yourself as a man, this is probably part of the reason you're not getting any and part of the reason you're doomed to be working class for the rest of your life.

>>18048941
no retard.
I'm not elliot.

>pedestal
I give up on women, is not worth the effort.

>good ways to start conversation in this situation?
sign language

>>18048900
like make a circle with my left thumb and index and move my right index through it in and out?

seriously halp

Dude, come on. Nobody picks up girls at the library. Nobody WANTS to be picked up at the library. Find some place more social and less awkward, like your school's union.

>>18048820
Well you'd definitely be doing yourself a solid by dropping the furry porn.

>>18048820
>left hand

ok dude this needs to stop

You have to learn how to use both hands

>>18048755
i dont think anyone in the entire world gives as much as a single second of thought to your socks. well i did just now but that doesnt count.

>>18048755
Totally did the same thing 5 years ago.

>>18048758
All right, next question. Is it too autistic to have 15 identical t-shirts (all white, no marking or branding visible)?

I don't want to sound like a pretentious numale hipster, but I think having no clothing choices makes life easier. Same way Steve Jobs, or Mark Zuckerberg wears the same thing every day.

I hate that I have to make a decision every morning on what combination of clothes to wear.

But then again, it's probably "funny" if someone wears white shirt and blue jeans every day, people will question if he actually wears the same thing every day or he has multiple identical clothes.

I had the same thing and I was straight up with him - told him I'd caught the feels and asked him on a date. The date happened, it all went well and now we're very happy.

It's hard and I was so nervous. He could have easily turned me down or refused on the basis that we were friends. Luckily for me, he'd liked me from the beginning so it worked. But you'll never know unless you're open with him. Don't play games, don't be vague (I tried dropping hints for a year and he just never got it).

Just know that it may be different afterwards if he refuses.

Good luck anon.

>>18048693
>Just know that it may be different afterwards if he refuses.
That's my biggest fear, the main reason why i'm hesitant about it.

One thing that i've omitted in OP is, I had a crush on him before we started being friends, I used to stalk him on social media, and after we become friends this crush turned into actual feelings, everytime i'm around him I act goofy and something in my head tells me that he is aware of my feelings and just plain ignore it.

Uhh, since the thread is pretty much dead I think, I'll follow FP suggestion and just ask him out on a date, hope everything turns out good.

>>18048637
nah

>>18048637
Just do it

>>18048676
>>18048695
So what do?

>>18048543
Statistically I haven't seen many relationships of this type because fat and ugly people often think they deserve better than themselves, it's disgusting how they attempt to come of as normal to disguise their inadequacy.

I've been wondering this myself.

Met a couple. Pretty cliche.
Guy is a fat neckbeard cape fanboy whose clothes, phone, bags and room are filled with mainstream cape stuff. he defends the DC company with all his life, and depsite his complaints he still buys their products and bad movies. He's generally chill and not very confrontationnal
The girl though, while just as fat (friends she looks like her boyfriend minus the beard) is more aggressive, complains a lot, considers herself a feminist and worships Joss Whedon and Star Wars. She claimed to have been bullied at school because she's different, but I think it's her constant nagging and crticism that annoyed people.

Anyway. They never show any sign of affection. She's mostly mean to him, and they have the dynamic of two collaborators who barely touch each other. They've been together for more then 5 years though.

So I keep wondering if they stick together because they have no other option, or if I'm projecting.

Thanks for the images of fat sex I now have in mind.

>>18048539
Its fine. My workplace doesn't even need a doctor's certificate until the 4th consecutive day

>>18048558
It's not really about a matter of doctor's notes. Mine wouldn't, either. I'm just a mixture of guilt v. who-the-fuck-cares-I-want-to-stay-home.

>>18048566
I mean, I'm actually sick and I do Army shit every morning, and I told them I couldn't do it for the second day. I still had to show upat 600 in the morning though to say that

You're way too old to be typing like that.
You're thinking about girls and physical because your brain and hormones are programmed for that. This isn't fucking rocket science.
You'll find plenty of women in university.
Having just one love interest is pretty fucking weird. I'm sure you love big titties. Start talking to girls with big titties.
Go out there.

>>18048437
im not asking why I feel like this
But rather about what I should do to combat my urges
Ive never been a fan of parties, most people there bore me
everyone is fucking superficial

pls respond

>>18047891
Start with friends. If they are truly your friends they will help. I know you don't want a shrink but you do need to seek professional help to finally stop this and take back your life. It will at least find the root of this and you will find better coping mechanisms that aren't so self destructive. Take a chance with your friends and a professional, heck try a confessional at a Catholic Church if you need to get it off your chest. You admit you need help, but you don't like the solution, but it's better to try that not having tried at all. Be well anon. Oh and if one friend is a douche, that doesn't mean all of them will be. Or get them all together and tell them that you're serious and you need their support. If a therapist doesn't work out for you, try another. Good luck.

Have you ever thought that you are simply a mass of chemical and organic matter?

The only thoughts that matter within you are the ones that construct complexities and cutting yourself has no complexity with it.

Have you ever thought that no matter how you turn it, there is no complex reasoning looking upon your actions as complex actions?

When you have the humility to define your thoughts for what they are and if you can't think for yourself, you have the humility to search for a psychologist, which means a more objective point of view (Especially if they are neurologists and studied science, as psychology would have been plain retarded without it)

What piss me off about people suicidal is that after they don't regognize their are not complex at all, they don't even try to argue why their are complex because "muh individuality", "muh only I can understand myself" "muh depressive drama"

Also your parents are most likely retarded, expect an unstable reaction, just tell you need a fucking psychologist and if they don't give you the money to, go to a psychologist and convince him to convince your parents to go to him, telling him you don't want them to know you cut yourself but you want them to know you need help.

Humility please. Don't be a fucking Anglo-saxon.

Have you ever thought that you are simply a mass of chemical and organic matter?

The only thoughts that matter within you are the ones that construct complexities and cutting yourself has no complexity with it.

Have you ever thought that no matter how you turn it, there is no complex reasoning looking upon your actions as complex actions?

When you have the humility to define your thoughts for what they are and if you can't think for yourself, you have the humility to search for a psychologist, which means a more objective point of view (Especially if they are neurologists and studied science, as psychology would have been plain retarded without it)

What piss me off about people suicidal is that after they don't regognize they are not complex at all, they don't even try to argue why their are complex because "muh individuality", "muh only I can understand myself" "muh depressive drama"

Also your parents are most likely retarded, expect an unstable reaction, just tell you need a fucking psychologist and if they don't give you the money to, go to a psychologist and convince him to convince your parents to go to him, telling him you don't want them to know you cut yourself but you want them to know you need help.

Humility please. Don't be a fucking Anglo-saxon.

>>18047856
If you don't tell them, they can't ask. Depending on how young you look, it shouldn't be a problem

You want a job? Go get a job. Simple as dat. Doesn't work out? Try again. Don't over complicate things.

>>18047856
If it comes down to it, which it shouldn't for most entry level jobs, lie.

Say that you were in school for a few years, but you're taking a break to save up money and finish your degree.

Say that you worked for a startup and it failed. Be vague, and make sure you know what your talking about so you can fool normies.

Have a friend act like they were a coworker, and use them as a reference.

You are overreacting if you're applying for a job at McDonalds or something of that nature. If it's semi professional, use tips above.

>>18047766
go see a doctor

>>18047766
This is a common problem with uncut dicks.

I can sort of work out what you mean by 'stink dick', but to take it as far as describing it as a 'case of' I don't really understand.

I mean, I've known my dick to stink. Sour sweaty sex then laying around all day, several bouts of masturbation leaving the come on myself over several days and that particular cheesy death smell behind the foreskin.

But a shower washes it right off. Have a shower or bath, maybe you haven't rinsed all the residue off the surrounding area or you've just spread it around a bit. Rinsing it under a tap doesn't do it for me in these cases. A proper shower or bath does.

As a point of comparison I wear chemical gauntlets at work, sometimes for up to 8 hours. They are lined with a soft cotton and this soaks up sweat, dead skin and any dirt. If I've managed to keep the same pair for several months they will smell like death. Sometimes I compromise a gauntlet and let some chemical agent or biological matter inside and because they are quite expensive for the company I make a decision as to if I should keep them for a while longer, especially while doing certain tasks with very low risk chemicals. Getting any liquid, or especially anything oxidizing inside them is the worst because then they really kick up a stink, like can't have them in a car, can't take them into any of the offices or clean areas.

Even this smell washes off my hands with a good antibacterial soap. The key here is antibacterial, domestic soap doesn't get rid of it, but the commercial grade stuff we use at work does.

>high school

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>>18047416
>>tell online friends I'm sick of Jojo

>>18046926
I would wait and see how the rest of the week goes. It's been one day don't jump to conclusions

>>18046926

You're not acting like a man.

>Talking about the second date on the first date

Pathetic and needy behavior. Never do this. You did good getting a kiss, but you should never have brought up the 2nd date. You should leave her guessing how you feel. After a goodnight kiss just say "I had fun" smile, and leave.

After a successful date, do not text her. Wait for her to contact you. She did, but you fucked up. She texted you because she wanted to see you again, not chitchat. If a girl texts a guy after a date and he proceeds with chit chat, she loses interest almost immediately.

Next time a girl texts you after a date, PLAN THE NEXT DATE. She is signalling you to take the initiative, but you failed and expected her to make the next move. Bad idea buddy, lead the way next time.

>Thanks OP I had a really nice time :)
>Me too! It was nice meeting you. When are you free to get together again?
> I'm free Friday night :3
>Friday night sounds great. I'll pick you up at 8.

That's literally all you have to do. Meet qt, get number, plan date, go on date, have fun, kiss / hook up, wait for her to reach out, plan next date, repeat for 1-3 months and eventually she will ask to be your gf.

Unfortunately, I can't offer you much but empathy. I would give her a day or two, since school could very well be the cause. I'm having a similar problem, but a little more advanced.

>same situation as with OP except with multiple dates
>had sex (took my fucking v-card) and slept together 3 nights in a row last week
>meet up for only a couple hours at my place on Saturday, but only cuddle a little before she leaves
>says she has a busy week and is going home for the weekend
>saying she doesn't know when the next time we can meet up is
>getting spotty with texting

I can understand not being able to hang out much during a busy week, but the time we spent together last week was only during normal sleeping hours for the most part. Like we'd meet up to make out and fuck at night, and then one of us would leave in the morning by 7:00. Surely she could find time to come over to my place for the night, right?

I'm trying to stay level-headed, but I'm terrified this thing is already over. I don't care about the sex as much as I do the physical interactions in general. All I want is to fall asleep with her again. That's sappy as fuck for someone I've barely been talking to for 2 weeks total, but I've found myself overcome with emotions I've never had before. I want to ask her what she wants out of this, and I want to let her know what I'm feeling so we can work something out, but I can't stand being in limbo. I want to do that in person, but should I text her instead since it could be over a week before we see each other again, if at all?

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2/2, the start of the conversation

What's the problem? She's agreed to meet you for dinner

What rsposne do you want to see?