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>>18048847
Is there a lease and is he on it? Check its requirements that all bills be paid.

Is he not on the lease? Then he has no rights at all, not even 30 days notice, and you can inform him his tenancy ends when the rent he paid runs out.

And make a written agreement with your next roommate as to who is responsible for what.

>>18048847
if hes not there and not using the utilities why does he have to pay? his stuff is there, his stuff isnt using the utilities. As long as he pays rent I think hes fine. The bills are lower arent they? Now they're for only one person.

>>18050247
Because there are base charges for utilities that if op had another roommate, he could split in half.

Opie, kick his ass out.

I'm in the same boat as well OP.

To be honest, I never wanted to pursue a relationship because I tend to overthink that my partner will divorce or leave me for another man at my lowest point of life, but then it's probably my fault for marrying a woman that I have not completely understand in terms of personality, her needs and wants etc. when we were in a relationship.

Personally, I don't favor divorce because a man and a woman needs to develop their relationship first and completely understands one another to the point where they can tolerate one another to get married. After all, isn't that the reason why people get boyfriends and girlfriends?

Marriedfag here. (5 years)

Marriage is dope as fuck if you get with the right person. It's hard work being married, but it's all about finding a person who's willing to put in that work. My wife and I make this joke(that her parents used to make) that we'll renegotiate in 50 years if the marriage is unsatisfactory.

The whole "marriage is dying" thing comes primarily (spoiler alert) from lazy hedonists who get married with someone who they aren't necessarily very compatible with. Sometimes this is outta necessity (my parents got married because my mom got pregnant and my dad is a big moralfag and wouldn't abandon her, they got divorced literally a month after the last kid flew the coop lolol) and some do it outta convenience. Most of the time, people settle and that ends up fucking them up the ass.

People change over time, so you have to be with someone who you not only love, but are prepared to learn about while they learn about themselves. You have to be ready to love who they become.

A good marriage isn't something that feels like a rollercoaster, it feels like a steady drive through the country. Sometimes there's beautiful scenery or an old cabin and you both go "damn that's pretty." And sometimes you take a wrong turn or hit a pot hole and say "damn that sucked." But you both have to be committed to staying in the car. If you've got a good lady or gentleman, staying in the car is the only thing you want to do. Experience the ups and downs together. Change the tires on the car if they're getting flat or bald. Fix the window if a rock flies into it. Stop for gas now and again. But stay with the car.

It may sound confining, but it's really comforting to know that there's always someone of you need them. My wife and I have gone through some serious shit since we started seeing one another almost a decade ago, but we always have an ally and that's fucking invaluable.

Marriage isn't for everyone. But it's great if done right.

>>18051669
>Marriage isn't for everyone.


This sounds incredibly sad.

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>being insecure about virginity
>refer to people that laugh at you for not getting laid as """friends"""
>caring about awkward silence and judgmental looks instead of doing your own things and saying that it's not your damn business

>>18051637

Its college.

If you I to parties stuff like this come up. Also college "groups" are not sincere and most people know that.

I have real friends backhome that im open with, but college IS a very judgemental environment.

If I ignored every fake/fuckboy/partygirl on campus i would literally have no friends and so would most people

Yeah, you shouldn't give a fuck. Also, my first time wouldn't make for an interesting story. My girlfriend at the time and I just made out a little and then had sex. I didn't last very long, the end. Feel free to use my story as your own.

>>18051535

How old are you anon?

>>18051539
The right age to get out of the dahm house and start living the dream.
>20 years old

Dump it on us bb!!

Go ahead and dump away.

Think of it like this. Every day you stay with him is one less day you have to find someone who will treat you better.

You may not want to be alone but until you are there is no room for improvement.

>real cunt of a boyfriend
>I always give him 'one more chance'.
Ultimately, you're not helping me by staying with him. As much as it may suck, most people have to suffer before they learn how to deal with their own shortcomings. Constantly giving them what they want only feeds into the cycle of bad behavior.

What did she do

>>18051291
Said she wanted to kill herself, and wouldn't tell anyone where she was. She recently started a round of antidepressants, has been struggling with depression for years, and I was scared shitless. I think I did the right thing, but god damn if I don't feel like shit for it. She buys into the stigma of depression being a burden on your loved ones and refuses to seek help. I just slapped her trust in the face by alerting several of her close friends and family.

>>18051309
I think you did the right thing, because I did the same.
I woke up with the intention of killing myself and disappeared into the woods with some rope. I sent some abusive texts and got caught.
SO slapped me across the face but didn't tell my family or pushed it with doctors.
Getting help rather than being laughed at by the local crisis team is much more desiresble and she will love you in the long term.

>>18051040

refuse to bang her until she loses the love handles.

Go to the gym with her

>>18051046
>buy her a gym membership
no.

>>18050342
Femanon here. I'm not happy being single but it isn't insufferable. Happy valentine's day from the 757, heathens.

>>18050342

We evolved to be social creatures, and having a mate is both a biological need and a social expectation.

>>18050342

being lonely sucks. but being with the wrong person sucks too. having a loyal partner is way better than no partner. good ones are hard to find, tho

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>betrayed, after having a talk I didnt break up with her
So these are the new boundaries now? These are the new boundaries now.

>also do you guys think I did the right thing?
You do whatever the hell you want. But if you accept something, then it retroactively becomes 'right' no matter how bad it was.

>>18050274
>>18050283

You are a cuck and your girlfriend is a whore. Now she knows that this is the standard she will take it as far as she can. Also, she's a liar.

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>hey /adv/, the only woman I'm allowed to look at puts on porn shows for the internet

>should I stick with her?

>I feel like sticking with her.

shameless bump

>>18050226
What're your reasons for going for a degree in the first place?

>>18050226
Define smartest...

what fetish?

>>18049974
embarrassing to confess even on an anon image board.

it's tickling. i need to tickle. i need to be tickled.
its a big thing for me. please dont laugh.

>>18050013
Find a man who will tickle you. Who cares what others say?

>>18049849
I havent had a friend to talk to for 4and a half hours and I've been alone for 30 minutes. I know how you feel.

Form a tulpa.

If you were a cute animu I'd be your friend OP.

"Overtime and a half" means people will only give overtime to folks who are worth 150% what they cost. If you're asking, then this isn't you.

I work at the post office, it's more than 12 an hour and I'd get paid for 40 hours even if they didn't have me work them. if I had started when I was 18 I'd even get to retire before I died.

Look into places that pay above minimum, some places are hurting for employees and offering slightly more to get them.
The fastest route to more pay though is to get into management, unfortunately that will mean you have to work at one place long enough to get offered it. But once you have management experience you're set. You can then apply for any management position anywhere really.

Also hard labor jobs tend to pay better than retail/fast food. Look into lawn care companies, warehouse jobs.
A quick "skill" you can learn is get forklift certified.

You might need to have multiple jobs too mate. Not a lot of places with pay that high will want to give you full time status. You'll be better off juggling 2 part time jobs with higher pay.

>>18049583
That's great, anon.
What are your interests? What kind of movies do you watch? What else do you do?

>>18049583
Mein Kampf

>>18049583
Just read some philosophy. Neichen Novalis, Voltaire, Locke, Descartes, Plato

Doesn't really matter, just go to the book store and grab one that you like the flow of.

Or you could get into novels. They can be pretty annoying though.

Dune is my favorite novel. So fucking badass.

>>18049575

My personal policy is that I do not share my phone access, emails, or any other passworded information with my SO. If someone has a problem with that, they can kindly not date me. I don't want to see their private information too.

A relationship should be founded on trust, communication, and a reasonably clear idea of who the other person is hanging out with, or what they're doing, so there can be a discussion if it's not something that makes the other comfortable.

Sharing passwords or complete access to conversations that the other person does not have any context to is nothing but a disaster that creates a ton of doubt and unneeded conflict.

>>18049575
>but I'm Italian
gib lasagna pls

>>18049587
When I decided to make him see he wanted to control even my Skype calls... I don't know why he doesn't trust me, I truly love him and I would never cheat on him..