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Ok so, this is a little awkward to ask but...

My boyfriend is VERY VERY vanilla when it comes to anything related to sex. And also.. quick at the draw.
I really am getting NO enjoyment from our sex, but I love him, and really would like to keep him.
He refuses to even TRY cunnilingus, rarely ever uses his fingers, it's very wham bam, thank you ma'am.

When I bring up sex things we could try, he immediately shoots it down.
He says (his words not mine) that it's because he's mexican and mexican's don't do that shit...

I need help guys, I dunno what to do...

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Should I care about being a virgin at 23? Do girls get turned off by virgins?
I thought the answer to those questions was 'no' but I've read different things on this board, like here:
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What are some things I can do in public that are socially acceptable to do alone? Something like running in a park, or some shit. I want to have an off chance of speaking to somebody. On the other hand I think I might be a misanthrope so if it doesn't happen that's fine. I just want something to do that won't make me seem socially retarded but lets me get out. I feel like my parents are growing to resent my lifestyle but more importantly I'm starting to dislike it. I'm not a kissless neet or anything I have gotten women before (haven't kept them but that's not the point) so I feel I can interact normally with people if the need arises. If you can suggest anything I'd appreciate it.

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Where the hell do I go for apartments that's not rent.com, Apartment Finder, and the like? That's all that comes up when I google "apartments for rent". But those sites all seem to have the same shit on them.

Is there another resource for finding an apartment?

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How do i manage my feelings about my abusive childhood without taking it out on people who in no way deserve it?

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How to overcome shyness? I tried joining clubs and activities, but I'm never able to open up and talk to others. I hope to by more outgoing to attract others and be in a relationship.

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My brother has just dropped out of university after taking 5 years to complete an environmental science course in a city that is two hours away from our hometown. He's just moved back home with our family and he drives me up the wall. I am working for a year before I go to college so now I have to live with him again before I move away. To begin with, he is a total NEET with no interests or hobbies other than video games. Back when him and I were in high school, we started going to the gym together to boost our confidence since I used to be just like him. Nowadays he has quit going and is the same person he was in high school. Really socially inept, has no confidence, and always believes people are watching his every move. It's been a week since he has moved back in and he has done absolutely nothing other than rack up hours on dota and overwatch. I have tried to help him build confidence by trying to teach him to drive my stick shift car. The first day went great and he picked it up after about an hour but the next day when it came time to drive on the roads he was doing terrible because his concern of other people watching him. He almost broke down when he stalled in traffic so I had to switch seats and drive away. Now he has completely given up and won't handle the situation like an adult. He tells me that he understands that he shouldn't care so much about what other people think but then he can never put it into practice. He said that he'll start going to the gym again, but he hasn't gone to buy a membership yet. He doesn't cook breakfast or lunch for himself so the only time he'll eat is when my dad cooks supper or when he goes to eat fast food. He is just living off of my parent's money. Guys, I really don't know what to do here. I really want my brother to succeed in life but I don't want to become a drill instructor to get his ass into gear but I can't let myself watch him dig himself deeper into this rut. I have more stories and can answer questions

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I'm 29. I'm about to turn 30. I was a brace-faced megavirgin dork until around age 21, was briefly single and briefly involved with an older woman, and then in a shitty abusive relationship until recently.

Have I completely missed my chance to date young, attractive women in their early 20s? I'm in college now and on more than one occasion I've overheard convos between girls about how creepy it is when men in their late 20s try to hit on them. The thing is with some exceptions I'm usually not attracted to women my own age and also feel like I'm likely to have very little in common with them since I've spent the last decade sacrificing my own development to be a caretaker and I'm only now just really getting my life going. But apparently going after college girls makes me a creep. Am I pretty much fucked unless/until I can get my career going and my feet back under me and also learn to appreciate older women? For that matter is there any chance I can get something approaching a normal social life in general going? I was also medicated and heavily monitored in high school so I feel like I basically just completely skipped over my teens and 20s in terms of life experience. A lot of the time when I see young couples or groups of younger guys hanging out I feel desperately jealous, I want their lives so badly.

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If my job makes me want to swerve my car into oncoming traffic, should I get another job or just tough it out for a couple of years?

I'm newly graduated from college and my job I've had for about seven months and at best I feel mutual coexistence towards it. Most of the time it's apathy and about 33% of the time, I legit hate it. I don't find what I do interesting at all, even in a muted professional sense.

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This chick who's my mates sister best friend has some codeine tablets I've asked her for, I was gonna meet her yesterday but she was busy taking her parents somewhere so she said she'd let me know the next day, she didn't message me today but I actually wanna meet her to try it on with her sort of thing, should I just ask for the tablets again tomorrow and wait to see her or make conversation through Snapchat more than just about codeine tablets,
I really don't know what to do, give me some good advice someone out here lol
Tl;dr asking a chick for codeine tablets but actually wanna start speaking to her on the reg

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Dropped my phone into my vagina when i was taking a photo of it.

My phone is dirty imo, i dont disinfect it or wipe it down at all if i put it down in public. Is it possible to catch an infection like this?

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I'm in university in Sweden, 20 years old and studying my first year of physics.

I want to somehow live in America, preferably directly after i graduate or sooner.

What's the best way to accomplish this?

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A co-worker, an old lady, didn't train me properly. Since I asked her to stop talking to me like a child, she's been talking shit about me behind my back to a potential romantic interest. I covered the old lady so she could go to the doctor and ended up dealing with a rush of clients. Payments weren't taken correctly in some cases because of a policy she hadn't explained to me, or had explained to me at least a month ago that I'd never had a reason to remember. Not only did she complain to my boss, who I was kind enough not to tell that the old lady had been stealing parking passes, but she decided to look for mistakes.

I didn't know I was covering that portion of her shift until she asked me to 15 minutes before closing the day prior. She didn't tell me jackshit about what was happening. Now my workplace crush has taken a business-like approach to our interactions and said she has to talk to my supervisor about the matter because they were her clients.

My supervisor has my back, but I'm more concerned with the cockblocking. The workplace romance had a lot of potential, but now it's deadening because my co-worker is acting like a bitch.

What should I do?

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Hey /adv/, i need some input.

I've been under a lot of stress lately and needed to vent. Somehow it turned sexual. i thought the idea of Bestiality was hot, saw a video or two on tumblr, thought it was disgusting and stopped.

Thought, 'You know, this might be illegal' and sure enough, in Oregon, it's illegal as fuck. I didn't download any videos, post anything, and only streamed the videos via tumblr.

I don't quiet understand the law, so how fucked am I, if at all?

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Sexual needs vs relationship needs.

I have a gf that I've been with for 1.5yrs. She's chubby and not a very sexual person at all. This is also my first relationship.

She makes me a much happier person, and we are always together. However I cannot see her in a sexual way at all, both mentally and physically.

Ideally the girl I would want is skinny and into kinky stuff like bdsm. My gf is larger and very innocent. All our sexual activity has halted for months.

Obviously we are not sexually compatible, but I really do like being with her. No drama, she's funny, she's loyal, and in general she's great for me otherwise. I don't want to leave her, but I want someone that can turn me on.

I'm getting ready to move in with her (she usually stays at my apartment), so I'm making a slight commitment and I'm afraid I'm making a mistake.