I'm half Asian and half white living in the US. I'm starting to think there is nothing but negatives about being Asian. Sucks physically and the only good stereotype is that asians are naturally smart. But honestly you don't even have to be Asian to be smart just work hard. Starting to wish I was fully white. Are there any reasons to be happy about being Asian. Btw I don't look white but at the same time I don't have sterotypical Asian features ex. slanted small eyes. My brother looks white and not a lick of Asian.
Eurasian here, anon. Spent most my life in different parts of Asia and Europe.
Don't let the stereotypes dictate your perspective, shit is childish.
I know how you feel, in my teenage years I always felt like I was too asian for the white crowd or too white for the asian crowd. In the end, there's nothing you can change and just embrace it.
>>18054949
Do you have a tiny peen? Honest question.
Peen is just slightly on the smaller side of normal. Not terrible though. What bothers me is the height more than anything. 5-10 honestly don't know how I got this tall. Mom is 5-1. She's the Asian half. Dad is 6-0.
tl;dr
>What the fuck is going on?
>Everytime we see each other, she usually has this pissed off tone, makes fun of me, and argues with me a LOT.
>Whenever we hang out, she always sits next to me at the tables.
>One time we went out drinking at a club she pulls me up to dance with her
>keeps bumping into me while we're sitting, and makes fun of me for not drinking as much as she did, calling me a pussy, a bitch, etc. etc.
>Taking a cab ride home, she latches onto me until we drop her off.
>I walk her to her door and she tries kissing me twice.
>I didn't want to reciprocate anything because she was extremely drunk and I personally just can't take advantage of people like that.
>Whenever we argue, it's pretty much about pointless things, but she gets really nasty with me.
>We always call each other names and make fun of each other, but recently her shtick has been making fun of me for being single, she's been doing this for a while.
>She also randomly decides to tease me or comment on things about me as well
>She called me a loser and told me to prove her wrong by getting a date for the upcoming Valentines Day Dinner/Dance we were supposed to go to(Which I didn't go to anyway).
>I ignored her for a day and she ended up commenting on my facebook page multiple times , even on older posts, of course, with a smartass comment.
>A mutual friend of ours asked me if I would ever consider dating her, which to me says "SHE ASKED HIM TO ASK ME" but I can't be too sure. He tells me she never asked him to do it.
>she does not act like this with anyone else.
What exactly is going on? Why is she like this? Does she like me? Why is my social/love life so interesting to her that she has to keep fucking with me about it? SHE HAS A BOYFRIEND.
>does she like me
obviously, dummy
>>18054901
>she
how about you first mention who the fuck is she? or tell about the environment? do you enter a room with breaking the door instead of knocking first?
>>18054901
attention whore. drama queen. bail. dont get drown or you will rugrat
I am going to turn 20 soon. What advice do you have for me?
>>18054795
Turning 20 isn't much different from turning 19 or 21. You can handle it, I'm sure.
>>18054795
general early 20's advice:
if you want to travel or "enjoy life" try to do it in the next few years, it gets harder when you get older and more invested into a full-time career and domestic life
your 20's are going to go by FAST, ages 15 to 20 felt like they took fucking forever, but 20 to 25 went by in an instant
start taking care of your health now so you can maintain that health into your 30's and beyond, it's a LOT harder to reverse bad health decisions later in life than it is to just maintain the good health you already have
don't fuck up college, your degree is more important than skipping class to go to taco bell
start saving money now, when you want to buy a house later on you'll have a decent down payment for your mortgage and won't have to work as hard to pay it off
>>18054795
Is that you OP?
You're HOT!!
Just got home from the hospital after receiveing five stitches, on my face from the nose the the lip, I'm cut in three different places, I'm afraid that I'm going to socially ostracized for the scars,
I live in the UK, so Is it true I can get some sort of surgery to help remove my scars, or should I just bio oil to help lessen the look
I'll post my wounds if anyone wants
There is a guy in my office with a similar sounding scar, he's a cool guy. Don't let it bother you dude its a part of you now and a topic of conversation if anything! Say you were fighting a bear
>>18054801
This is my wound, think that it's going to look nice
>>18054832
If it makes you feel better, judging by your nose and chin you weren't much of a looker in the first place
Nobody minds scars. The only time its ever a red flag is on the arms or knuckles. You'll be okay OP.
Should I take testosterone supplements (for "low-T") or are they dangerous?
>>18054697
Ask your doctor. Your body has so many variable to it there is no way to give you a solid answer without a physical and blood work.
>>18054710
>ask your doctor
I don't speak Punjabi
>>18054697
if this is what it takes to make you realize that you cant fix all your flaws and must love yourself for what you are then so be it.
>diagnosed with BDD in early teens
>frequent self harm/suicide attempts over it or to try to 'change' myself
>now late twenties
>only have superficial friendships, even if they think we're very close
>randomly disappear and cut these people off because I can't stand the thought of the image they have of me
>even have changed my name multiple times
>do the same thing with jobs
>been jobless for months
>when I do work i get weird delusions of what peers or customers think of me
>small comments they make about my appearance i end up obsessing over/self harming even if theyre positive
>do drugs, risky things to try to 'fix' myself, extremely self destructive
>started hooking to afford rent
>steal everything else
>get paranoid delusions about that too
>cant bring myself to talk to or find 'customers' for hooking
>cant get anything beyond wageslave jobs because of this complex
>need to pay rent
>killing myself seems like the best option
I just don't know what to do... I can't stand the thought of being around people... I end up delusional and hurting myself and I only recognize this in retrospect and never at the time of
I don't really want to die, but it seems easier than making rent money. How do people get up every day and do this? I just want to be alone
Do what you want its only life, everything u do wont change anything in the greater universe
counseling
>>18054645
after that, more counseling (not saying this as an insult. counseling works
>moved into new place
>nice balcony
>huge ass fucking pine tree blocks sun for most of the day
>feelsbadman
How do I sabotage this tree so that it has to be cut down? I thought about pouring salt all over the ground but I don't know if that works. Setting it on fire is obviously not an option.
>>18054611
lol this is like that move where this goy cut down a tree so he could creep on his neighbor only at the end realizing that he cut down something that is older than him and his mother.
well atleast youre doing it for the Sun not because your dick wants to stick some used ragdoll.
>>18054622
Who gives a fuck how old that thing is? My nan's only 90 and she's not of much use to anyone either, lol.
Fuck the sun. It's trying to kill you with skin cancer every day anyway. Sit behind the tree where you belong
How do I improve my feeling of self-worth?
>>18054599
Do things that make you proud of yourself and become good at a few things. Have principles you can stand behind and stick to them. Be fair to yourself and to others. Write a list what an ideal you would be like and then aspire to become that person. Don't dwell over things you can't influence and focus your personal development on what you can change.
The easiest way to build self-worth and self-esteem is to be someone you can be proud of.
>>18054635
I am good at learning and problem solving, but people don't find that particularly interesting.
>>18054674
It doesn't matter what people think. The whole point of self-esteem is that it comes from within and your own personal satisfaction at what you do and who you are. Sure, getting validation from other people is nice, but your sense of self-worth should not be tied to them, because despite how well those people know you, you still only exist as a caricature of yourself in there minds. You are the only person who knows yourself throughout, so you alone know what your worth and strengths are. If you are good at problem solving, then own it. Be proud of it and be proud of what you can accomplish with it. Other people may not (and will not) notice, so for building self-esteem, it's necessary that you acknowledge your successes.
How do I increase my cognitive ability? I want to become good at maths(algebra and geometry) but i noticed that the reason I get stuck is because I cannot grasp the necessary steps needed to find the solution.
So what can i do besides endlessly do problems over and over like a jobber?
>>18054585
the key to math and most other things is doing it over and over again, theres really no trick, its just training your brain.
Shut out human society from your life
>>18054585
There is a very good chance that the fault is not yours, but your teachers'.
Let's say you were taught to do algebra a particular way and, for whatever reason, you didn't get it. And let's say that well-meaning teachers and friends tried to help you by teaching you again.
But almost certainly they taught it the same way it was taught the first time, and if you didn't get it that way once, it is unlikely that you'd get it that way a second time.
By the third or fourth time, your brain feels failure coming and shuts down even before the teaching begins.
What you need is someone or some book that teaches math an entirely different way, one that your brain hasn't built defences against. Just keep looking for that.
I have been wanting to fuck my best female friend for the last 5 years,but I never thought she was interested in that,there has been some banter in that regard,but we have both been in relationships with other people most of the time.
We are very close,close enough that we cuddle/kiss each other on the cheek or forehead,I gave her massages with oil while she was only wearing my boxers,and we have taken very lightly clothed pictures of her and me multiple times,sometimes even in fetish clothes.
However we have never kissed,I have never seen her tits,only her backside,and there has never been a 100% hint that is attracted to me.
We talk openly about Sex,even about intimate details,however she also pretty much always tells me when she has Sex with someone else,and so do I when I.
Lately I have been having more and more explicit dreams about her,and while texting each other I jokingly asked her if she would want to know if someone had wet dreams about her,she said ''If you know someone well I'd really like to know stuff like that from him''
I told her that I've had dreams about her,but dismissed them about something I have about a lot of female friends (Which is true),but she wanted to know the next time I have one.
I asked if she wanted the details then,she told me she'd like to know everything.
Basically I don't know if she is just morbidly curious,or if there is some sort of attraction.
Would you tell your best friend about stuff like this?
And how much Detail would you provide?
>>18054545
Didn't read the quite likely hyper autistic post but the answer to the title is don't. If you want ask her out like a normal human bean
>>18054576
If you won't read it,why comment?
>>18054579
answered the tittle tho, just too early to fill my autism gland already
So my friend just found out that his ex girlfriend cheated on him while they were together. He is beyond angry and wants to get revenge on her, and he thinks that a good revenge on her would be going on her instagram and deleting a bunch of pictures on her instagram. Keep in mind that this girl's instagram and her pictures is literally her world and she is very proud of the amount of likes she gets on some pictures, so this would probably ruin her (yes she's that shallow). I told him that this might not be a good idea because the way he has access to her instagram account is through her email, which he guessed her password to pretty easily. What are the chances he'd get caught for doing this? Is this illegal? Just FYI he lives in Alberta, Canada. Thanks
An eye for eye tooth for tooth
>>18054526
Weeeeell, it would be easier if the roles were reversed. In Canada (and rest of the west today) a man can be jailed for almost any reason if he has taken any action against a woman which she didn't want. It can be called harassment, bullying, cyber attacks, psychological attacks, even rape, and he could be jailed without any proof. Such is the way of the law today, she can make up any story about why/what he did and she will be believed 90% of the time. This does not work the other way, we're living in a women-first society and this is not going to change, probably in our lifetime.
If he's smart he would realize all women are cheating whores and try to remember that the next time he meets a girl he thinks is special, she's not.
However, if he wants some form of revenge I would advise to keep it out of the digital world unless he's good at hiding his tracks digitally. And seeing how you're already making a digital paper trail to him, I'd say don't even think about doing anything like that.
If he wants revenge, take it in the real world and make sure there are no traces. If he goes this route, his biggest danger of getting caught is himself not being able to STFU, which I can tell he has trouble with already since he has told you so much about these "plans".
My bet is that this friend is made up and that it's you considering revenge.
My tip then, is find something IRL she loves, like a car or apartment, and start fucking with it. My favorite is a tooth pick in a door lock. Very hard to trace without surveillance, expensive to fix and is very swift and easily done. Just jam it all the way in and brake off whatevers still poking out. She probably won't see it before she tries to stick her key in and then its fucked
Haha I understand why you'd think its me, but its not. He's a good friend of mine and we basically trust each other with everything. I think you're right to a certain degree, but how would she prove that he's the one going on her email/instagram? If she can't prove it, I highly doubt he could get blamed legally for it. First of all, she might not even assume its him, or anybody at all for that matter. Shes pretty dumb so she might just assume that instagram "deleted" her photos for some reason. But even if she did suspect it was him, how would she successfully take legal action by not being able to prove its him? Oh, and he's far too lazy to do anything IRL.
Do Ugly guys get laid when they get lean ? ;_;
But still ugly?They don't
Talk about a 6 with a 9 Body
Post face op
Does anyone have any experience dealing with anger issues?
At this point I just have to accept the fact that I have massive anger issues that I didn't want to deal with.
Pretty much everyone in my life doesn't know though, because I am great at hiding them.
When something bad happens I play it off like it's no big deal, joke about it and smile.
I do this even thought I am absolutely boiling inside. On my way home after such occasions I stay calm because I'm in public but my mind gets overtaken with violent thoughts. When I get home and I'm alone however, I absolutely explode. It's not anger at that point, it's full blown rage. When that happens I tend to just go berserk and destroy a bunch of shit. Today I put my fist through my god damn door.
Most of the anger is directed at myself for not achieving something. For example, it happened today because I failed my driving test at the last moment in the stupidest way possible. Sometimes it's other people, but it's mostly me being angry with myself. When I calm down I get so disgusted with myself for acting in such a way which just makes me hate myself even more. I just get totally rage-blinded and I'm afraid I might hurt someone else or myself (breaking my arm, which I could've totally done today with the door) in the future if I am unable to contain my anger in public like I usually do.
So anons? How does one temper their anger?
>>18054495
Look into meditation mate. It could help very much. Might be worth a shot to look into Stoicism. Short summary, it's an ideology revolving around being able to control emotions and realizing feelings aren't real and not worth much. Getting angry at shit you can't do anything about is very energy draining and not helpfull in any way
when you feel it coming
stop and think what you are about to do
you gona throw a fit over something that doesnt matter alot
unless you are under 20, then you just need to grow up
I feel those anger's I still haven't coped,but most ppl the I'm just drunk, find something that soothes you
if someone gets rabies,do they become like a dog and try to bite people. Do they become like zombies in zombie films? Or do the doctors give them loadsa tranks to keep they calm while they die.
>>18054482
you know rabies is treatable, right
>>18054482
You are retarded the virus effect humans differently. It just plain kills the human host nothing really special.
>>18054485
Only in the first 24 hours or so, if after that you don't get the vaccine then you'e dead
Hi /adv/, I'm trying to ask a girl out at my school. She's in the year below me and I'm in the final year. We don't have any classes together though we both participate in the same community club. She's pretty quiet, doesn't have any social media and she's always surrounded with her friends. What should I do?
Walk up and ask her out on a date. Whatever her reaction, treat it as a learning experience. You're a kid, nothing you do now matters anyway.
>>18054476
>>18054486
Or, if she or you have issues with shyness, ask her if you could ask her something in private and lead her to a sheltered location where you can talk without other people hearing
>>18054486
pretty much this. just go for it, worst case scenario = you won't be dating her any less than you already are