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>>18055317
You sound schizophrenic

>>18055317
Freud is basically a total quack. Learn more psychology.

Freud was the link between modern psychology and pre-modern psychology. He's not to be confused with modern psychology.

>freud was a shithead
so are modern psychologists, quit acting like you're better than others with your Starbucks degree

Rekt

You swung and missed. It happens. Move on.

Beat your meat

Ayy lmao I have the same problem
I don't think I have aspergers, at least my psychiatrists never diagnosed it and I even asked specifically and they said nah

>>18055300

I tend to stare strangers down when they're within eye sight and realised it just recently. It just feels natural to look at people if they're closeby, because ignoring their presense would seem rude. Normally they just look back and if not, they look away. It's not a big deal. Some even nod a hi or smile, while some just do this awkward side-eyed double take.

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>>18055300
I dont think you have autism/aspergers, you are probably just a bit shy.
>Should I stare right ahead when walking past people or look everyone I pass in the face?
If you are in a public place just stare right ahead (for example walking in the street). If you are at your at your workplace look at your coworkers when you greet/talk to them, otherwise dont. As for in the train its quite weird to star at the people sitting next to you, just look at your phone if you feel unconfortable.

Well, I have to meet her up again and I won't be able to evade her, what do I do and why does this shit continue? Is she fucking up with me?

inb4 cuck

Bump. I apologize for that hell of a text, it must be unreadable.

>>18055292
It sounds like she's interested in you but not interested in dating. In other words, you're being strung along.

>what do I do and why does this shit continue? Is she fucking up with me?
Honestly, OP, she's doing really immature stuff probably because she's as confused as you are. You aren't necessarily out luck with this girl, but you have to start acting like a man. I don't say that to disparage you, either.

What I'm saying is, you have to set some boundaries and start taking charge of the situation. She's bullshitting you, probably not intentionally, and you need to get the bullshit to stop. My advice is to confront her about it and be direct. She's sending you mixed signals and that needs to stop. DESU, it sounds like she might already have a boyfriend, and she just goes to you for validation and emotional support. It's very common for women who are insecure to seek reassurance from -any- male, and that comes across to us as flirtation.

You can still be friends, you can still be touchy-feely, but she can't string you along if it's not going to go anywhere. Be direct, be firm, and be in control. You don't have to be a dick about it, but you need to make sure she understands you. You need to meet up somewhere outside of school, just the two of you.

just be yourself

>>18055257
>via texting

Arrange to see her face to face. That's all texting is good for.

>>18055260
Okay, how do I get things started. Do I just say Hi... etc.,etc.

Dispute it immediately with the credit reporting agencies (all three) and then call the police.

>>18055232
This. No joke, have your friend start asap. And dont be surprised if there are many more bills in the friends name like cable, internet, cell phone plans, etc. This could potentially become a nightmare. Even consult a lawyer right away. The friend should press charges.

My wife had this happen to her from her mother. Ultimately because she wasn't willing to press charges she had to file bankruptcy to get it all out of her name. And she was only 21 at the time so imagine being that age and not really able to get anything that you need credit for. Since then she has that lifelock service and hasnt had a problem since. This was almost ten years ago so finally its off her record but it was a long 7 years of not being able to buy a car unless with cash, not having to pay large deposits for appartments, and still randomly having creditors call for collection. Now her siblings are the victims of the identity theft yet no one is ever willing to press charges so this woman gets away with it.

Yea have them get on the ball right away.

OP here. What should he say to the police?

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Part two (with the question)

Sorry for the high school stacy type drama but i'm very confused and don't know how to act about it.
I'm living in this big city far away from anyone i know, and he's basically the only "real" friend i have.
As i said he's kind of superficial, only the hottest of girls are good enough for him
talking about how people dress, and how some do an effort fashion wise and others don't.
The past week i just have not given a fuck about dressing 'fashionably' (which he definitely noticed) i also started having fun/talking with other classmates
who i know he does not consider especially cool/mature.

And he doesn't seem interested in the social events we have (mostly going out and drinking) he's not putting in the social effort with our class which is fine, he can do what he pleases, but it's merely because of the superficial reason of them not being cool, or dresing cool enough and not being "mature" enough. Fair enough i suppose.
he has not said that directly, but as i said we got really close, and i would certainly say i understand the way he thinks, and what he thinks (at least in these matters).
He mainly goes out only with his friends from his high school, because the bars where we hold the events are not very club like.

But i don't know man i mean he hit me in the dick, and he hasn't really been trying to get together at all.
If i had other friends this wouldn't be as much of problem at all, but this event got me thinking about the past month, where he has been ignoring me more or less, should i even put up with him?


TLDR (only) chad friend hit me in the dick, and is kind of ignoring me, should i just let it slide or is he toxic to be around?

>>18055218
are you gay?

>>18055224
my post certainly seem to indicate it, but no.

>>18055182

sometimes becoming a hypocrite simply means growing up a little bit.

people mistake hypocrite to mean anyone who has ever contradicted themselves. but thats not what it means. it means to say something is bad or wrong while actively doing it.

someone who did a lot of drugs in their youth isn't a hypocrite because they advocate against drugs in later years. they have simply had the experience, learned that its not good and want to help spread the word.

even cigarette users arent technically hypocrites for advocating against smoking because they're doing it more or less against their will, they dont want to be smokers but it is a strong addiction.

in your case, you're just given an opportunity to grow and you might take it.

a lot of people in their teens can't seem to fathom how someone could possibly cheat, they think its the worst thing in the world.

but as soon as they are tempted it happens. a 'knight in shining armor has never had his metal tested' and all that.

sit down and think about it this way, is it a BIG DEAL if you have sex? like sure you believe sex is supposed to be romantic but does it HAVE To be?

like, you know you should eat healthy for dinner but is it a BIG DEAL if you have some pizza instead?

the world isn't divided into right and wrong. doing this wouldn't ruin you. one thing you need to do as you get older is stop looking at every single opportunity as something that will make or break you. so many men are afraid to experiment with other men because they think one sex act with another guy will ruin them and make them gay.

people act like a bad sex is equivelent to brutal rape, but its not. it sucks, sure but you learned a little something and get on with your life. its like when you were a kid and you'd fall down and skin a knee. not the end of the world. you just get back up.

OP don't let the people on 4chan tell you if you should or not if you believe one thing then believe it and don't let others pressure you into something else

>>18055182
Oh, come off it. Realizing that your beliefs were irrational, that it's harmless and healthy, and that you do in fact want to do it, are all GREAT reasons to abandon your beliefs. It's not hypocrisy unless you turn around afterwards and start judging people for having casual sex having just done it yourself (and do note that there's a difference between having casual sex a few times, and fucking everything that moves and consents until you're 30 -- a lot of people on this board seem unable to tell the difference).

Sex CAN BE and often is a romantic and loving act, but having casual sex once, or a handful of times, does not ruin your love-receptors or reduce it to a meaningless act when you do it with someone you care about in the future.

I'll also note that 1. the future love of your life, unless you seriously restrict your dating options, is unlikely to be a virgin, and 2. when you meet her, having a little sexual experience is likely to serve you much better than being as pure as a field of freshly-fallen snow.

But it's your call, dude. If you don't want to do it, then don't. But as far as I'm concerned you haven't really put forth any great reasons not to.

>>18055173

Upbringing plays a big part, yes. Studies have suggested that first kids especially are more intelligent than the second or third child of a family, because parents are more invested in their mental development (read to them more, teach them things earlier on, etc.), while become more lax with the later kids. Also, if parents are highly educated, this translates to certain attitudes and views that usually pass onto the children through upbringing and they too seek higher education. So, genetics do play a part, but upbringing is quite significant.
However, the bad news is that there was a recent study that suggested that a children inherit their intelligence from their mothers, rather than fathers. But it should be easy enough to compensate for genetic shortcomings by raising your kids hardworking and curious, because those traits tend to be more crucial for success than intelligence.

You should be reading studies and papers instead of relying on anonymous advice from 4chan. I will say that many of the pertinent studies conclude that genetics are largely irrelevant (assuming your children don't have downs or some other genetic disorder), but I really don't keep track of this stuff. It's also really weird to pick your girlfriend based on the prospective intelligence of your children.

>>18055173

I think a little bit of it is up to genes, but I would say that the more crucial part of it is the opportunity afforded to the kid, and then consistent parenting.

For example, I went to one of the top two richest public high schools in the state. I had a lot of very well-off friends. Their parents were obviously pretty smart - doctors, lawyers, executives at big companies, that kind of thing. But some of those kids were just completely spoiled, so like, one half of the group now works in valet parking, even though they're almost 30. They took the easiest classes, took vacations, got Cs and Bs, went to a state school, and, meh. All of the wasted opportunity in the world.

On the other hand, there were people the AP and IB classes I was in that came from rich families, but were clearly held accountable for their actions by responsible parents. They got straight As and went to great schools, and are smart now.

I'd say I'm a pretty smart guy, generally more book-smart than my parents. My mom was a model, so, uh, whatever there... and my dad is a pilot. That takes some degree of intelligence for sure, but there's other factors that make him a great pilot that exist outside of being purely book-smart.

Just give them the right upbringing and attention and they should be fine.

>>18055159
Well, I guess you got friendzoned, yeah, I suggest you drop him and move on

You can ask both here and in the ask the opposite sex thread. It can depend on how catchy your OP is where you get more traffic.

Obvious disclaimer that no one can look into his head for you, but I would bail, yes. In my experience guys acting shocked to find out that you want more although you were clear about that, just means that they decided to ignore it to not seem like the asshole who leads a girl on to get to fuck her, and they think they're smart with the "really, I didn't realize you actually meant what you said" move so they can deny any intentional miscommunication.

Respect yourself enough to look for someone else and not wait to see whether or not his interest revives.

Update: He deleted me on everything.

stop being a pussy

>>18055157

just jerk off before you go.

But seriously, if this is affecting you THAT much, it's probably best that you don't go. 4chan people aren't exactly the patron saints of socalization, so I'm expecting you to sperg out if you do go.

>>18055262
Im not that bad, I used to hangout with her all the time just us two but idk anymore, its becoming alot of emotional trouble for me and I am not going anywhere in life just sitting here hurting.

>>18055108
You should man the fuck up and show people who is boss. Remember, the customer is ALWAYS right! If you bought 2 tickets, ask for 3! Say you paid for 3! GET ANGRY! TALK TO THE MANAGER!

>>18055146
it's not as if he charged me for two

That girl is shallow if she thinks you were being a dick because you didn't buy her a ticket on the first date.

>>18055045

How about see a therapist instead and work through your obvious mommy issues.

>>18055046

why do people get so offended by misogynists and retort with "lol mommy issues!!!!!"

can you tell me why misogyny is so bad, and why women deserve respect and love instead

because that would answer my question in the OP

>>18055045
>>18055048
>why women deserve respect and love

There is literally no reason why they don't. Women and men have much much more in common than they are different, and in fact many differences between men and women get disproportionate attention culturally because most people are straight and enjoy this cultural mythology about how strange and exotic the opposite sex is.
Compare it to our bodies. Whether looking at our genitals or our brains, men and women have countless more similarities than differences. But because we have an excessive focus on men having dicks and women tits etc, we FEEL like it's different worlds.

Why would women be inferior? Women have always had their place and share in society. There is no logical reason why you should value working hard as another factory laborer is more important or worthwhile than working hard to raise new citizens and keep the household afloat.
Women have the same median IQ as men, they actually do better in higher education in this day and age. They do a hell of a lot better than men when it comes to addiction, violence, and mental health.

Basically the only real reason to hate women is because you harbor a more personal, less rational contempt, and that's not something anyone is going to convince you differently about.

>>18055020
That's fucking scary.
Have you contacted the police?

Like go to a local auto shop and ask them to check your car for any foul play.

>>18055128
I haven't contacted them... yet. I don't think calling police is really needed until it gets out if hand.

At this point I really don't feel like confronting him. I just want my car fixed, and hide it in a different parking space until he calms thebfuck down.

>>18055020
It's never a good idea to reveal your wealth to others. Especially those who are more than likely much less well off than you. Don't be afraid to call the cops if it comes to it, and don't buy into their "gimme, gimme" needy bullshit. It's your money. You already have plans for it and are being wise with it. You don't have to give it to them.

>>18054987
Always take a swing. You will regret not trying more than failing.

Always try. This is coming from a guy that wouldn't make a move out of fear of rejection so many times that a few of them I told myself, "fuck it" and went ahead. An no, I didn't magically get a girl those few times but I learned a lot and put a lot less value on being rejected. The shame and pain of being rejected goes away a lot faster than the regret of not doing anything.

>>18054994
This desu