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So I've never really had anger problems but in the past I allowed myself to be really expressive whenever I was upset or angry. But for the last year and a half I haven't really expressed a single bit of anger or sadness in front of anyone else.

For the last three or four months I've been in a combat sport. This is completely different from a lifetime of doing ballet and gymnastics, and both required a lot of emotion and competitive flare to excel at. But whenever I'm in the ring I'm told I'm just an emotionless opponent who doesn't seem to care if they win or lose.

I win a lot regardless considering how many years of athleticism I have under my belt but the team captain says they want me to be the next captain when they graduate and if that's the case then I need to work on my emotions a little more. Captain is one of my closest friends and vouches greatly for my technical skill but says that I have a really steep barrier when it comes to actually getting fierce and competitive. Captain has also known me from the days I was a performer and says that the difference between me then and now is jarring. For many years when I was performing I would get so wound up angrily after a competition if it didn't go the way I wanted it to I would end up angry or in tears or just off an emotional deep end either way. Being dramatic naturally goes hand in hand with competitive sports but I didn't like how it felt so I just started shutting my anger down. A year and a half later I can't seem to get angry over anything at all.

So, bottom line is, they want to have some private lessons with me where they just have me release all my pent up anger and go nuts so I can finally get a little more angry and fierce when I'm in the ring. But I actually don't know if I can just release repressed emotions that easily.

I guess what I'm asking is, how can I get angry? Not just irritated or pissed but blood mist, screaming, throwing fists angry?
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>>18059211
Fuk u
Hows that? Pussy boi, can't even express anger you fucking boi bitch gay fag
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>>18059234
I mean I'm a girl but okay
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>>18059211
I'M BI POLAR, AND AS I'M READING THIS, I LITERALLY WANT TO SHOVE YOU AGAINST A LOCKER AND SCREAM IN YOUR FUCKING EAR ABOUT HOW BADLY I WANT YOUR ISSUES INSTEAD OF MINE!!!!!!!
How is that even a problem??? Just mimic angry ass people in movies that people find inspirational!! Or find a bipolar mother fucker LIKE ME AND START TAKING NOTES!!!! Jesus FUCKING CHRIST LADY!!!!!

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How do I not get sensitive over crude offensive jokes. During middle and high school if my friends cracks a mean joke about me, I get mad and I called out on it; they say I'm being a bitch. It's worse when my friends are doing as a means to test, to see how I react. I hate it because I feel so used and disgusted. So I guess as I'm writing this, the right possibly be how do I not be such a sensitive person and how do I handle myself around people?
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Depends on the joke. But really if they're people who make you uncomfortable, you can always make new friends.
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>>18059086
Realize how little meaning those jokes have

Why do they make you upset?
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>>18059086

Analyze what exactly it is about these jokes that hurts your feelings so much. Take stock of all of your interactions and be honest with yourself about your insecurity and you'll come to the conclusion that either you're being overly sensitive and interpreting malice when none is being intended or perhaps you're just friends with a lot of shitty people who think making you feel bad is funny.

The ironic thing, if you live in the U.S. culture, is that this process you're describing has become the entire fabric of society these days; people insulting other people, those people getting upset, and then the insulting party using the opposing party's anger as ammunition against them and nowhere in this equation is anyone being honest about where a reasonable line can be drawn between purposeful malice and ideological differences.

In short, its possible that you could be too sensitive but it is also a fact that a lot of people these days are really shitty to other people and then call them a little sensitive bitch when they react. A lot of instances of those two things happen these days and most people are unwilling to acknowledging when they cross those boundaries.

Do some honest introspection and you'll be able to separate your own personal insecurities from other people's shitty, combative personalities.

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I have small lines on my fingers, they have never caused me any pain or problems. They aren't scars from cuts or anything like that. They just seemed to randomly appear. I can't find anything about it online. Any of you guys know what this might be? Maybe im just dumb and its natural or something.
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>>18059053
I have them too,I figured it's from aging. How old are you?
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dry hands or aging

Also i wonder if someone could turn this into a fingerprint, and find OP's identity from it..
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>>18059237
Not OP
Might be dry hands then. I have hand eczema and it was bad for awhile. And in only 22 so it can't be aging right?

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How do you go about living in a garage?

I don't have a garage, I don't have anything actually. I make around $1k a month, and want to live in a garage. I want a garage/work shop type building that will allow me to focus on my projects, that will also provide me with a living space. To elaborate, I want to buid a car, I'll need a place to keep tools and parts, and obviously the car itself. It occurred to me that it might be wise to rent/mortgage a garage some place to do this in.

Then I really started thinking about it and realized I'd spend most of my time there. The thought of quartering off a living space really appeals to me, but how do you find a suitable building? Everytime I look up a garage or garage living all I find is people converting home garages into livingrooms.
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>>18059035
I don't know the technical term for such a building, or where I'd even find one. I live in FL if it's any help. Aside from a general open area to keep cars, boxes and tools, it would need electricity and plumbing. All I really need is a place to shit, wash myself, and sleep. I'll need a place to plug in a deep freezer to store vaccum sealed meat that I can cook outside on a small camping/tailgating grill. Also some sort of ventilation I'd imagine.

What kind of building am I describing?
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An auto shop? I don't think people rent these out unless you actually have a business.
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>>18059035
Isn't there laws requiring access to running water and sewage?

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There's a girl in my calculus class that I always see arrive early, and I'm just not sure what to say to her.

I've spoken to her a few times last semester since I also had class with her then, but I stopped for whatever reason. She's really cute and I'd love to get to know more about her, but I'm just not sure what to say to begin talking to her. She seems nice and somewhat shy, and I'd describe myself as pretty socially anxious, so our conversations last semester weren't bad, but they weren't super smooth either since I was pretty nervous.

What's a good way to just open up a conversation with her and feel at ease? Usually there's some other kids also waiting outside the class, so I don't feel as comfortable as I normally would, either.

Pic related, sorta looks like her. Similar face.
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Confidence seems to be the major factor into whether or not you get to know this girl more. In you're situation the easiest thing to do is just walk up to her and ask her how she's been since last semester and go on from there and not care about everyone else around you. The only thing stopping you is yourself so try to work up the courage to talk to her and not let you're anxiety hold you back.
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>>18059039
I'm still pretty awkward though, and the few times I've talked to her weren't terribly great, so I don't think she has a good impression of me.

I also think, wouldn't it be weird if I just walked up to her like 4/5 weeks into the semester and was like, "Hey how have you been?"

It's not like a, "Oh hey I didn't notice you" type of deal, at some points it's been only me and her waiting outside the class, opposite each other in the hall.
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>>18059285
Don't bring it up.

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Any advice on dealing with a girls crazy ex bf?

>been dating this girl for a month
>her ex is a crazy heroin junkie
>literally messages me every day saying hes going to kill me and shoot me if he sees me with her
>block him
>makes multiple new accounts
>wont leave her alone either
>yesterday he got my address to my house (no fucking idea how) and said hes going to come here on the weekend


Not sure what the fuck I should do? i'm not scared of him, however i cant put my family in danger, he is crazy.
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>>18058973
if he comes onto your property and does not leave after you explicitly tell him to, shoot him.
you do have a gun, right?

also keep screenshots of any threats he has made to show to the police
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>>18059001

Don't have a gun, all i have is a can of bear mace

I have screenshots but they are all from accounts with fake names so im not sure that would do much
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>>18059001
If he forces his way into your house, shoot him. You cant just shoot someone for being on your lawn.

Okay, gonna start by giving some background. I grew up poor. My mum got sick after my dad left and I grew up with an older cousin living in council housing. He killed himself and I decided to move to America from England to start new.

Anyway, I got into college and I met my wife there. She's from a rich family and I had nothing, but I'm smart and got good hustle, so we got married and her dad helped me get a start in my job. Different company to him - he pulled in a favour from a friend.

Since then, I have been absolutely killing it and got promoted a few times over people who've been there longer but don't work like I do. I'm pretty proud of where I'm at and what I've achieved and I have a lot of responsibility.

I recently got put in charge of a big project and got to pick a team. I looked through these resumes and picked a handful of people I knew I could work with. Thing is that one of them took another job elsewhere, so I ended up giving the job to someone else, a Vietnamese woman.

On paper, she's brilliant - great college, GPA of 3.9, background in defense contracting, the works. Great, right? Eh, not so much.

First of all, she grew up in Brooklyn, which, okay, is fine, but she has that real thick Brooklyn accent you always hear in the movies. It makes it hard to take her seriously. Second, she's on the spectrum. I'm not just talking boo hood I'm shy and totally autistic. I'm talking a full blown cannot look people in the eye when she's talking to them aspie. Since the job involves talking to and interacting with a lot of people, she is a bad fit and it shows in her performance.

I tried to do the good boss thing and sat down with her to let her know about the issues and she burst into tears right in the meeting room. This is when I made my first mistake.

She was crying and I instinctively put my hand on hers to comfort her. She looks up at me and looks into my eyes like a lost little puppy.

1/?
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Keep it coming. Or is this not pre typed?
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>>18058968
This either sounds like you fucked her, or you didn't tell her to fix the act or GTFO.
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Conscious of the fact that all the meeting rooms in this damn office have clear windows and she's bawling her eyes out hearing this, I suggest we continue the conversation elsewhere. I say after work maybe and she nodded.

I should mention that my wife and kids are upstate visiting her dad. I have to work, so I stayed behind.

After work we meet up at a nearby pub. For one, it's an English pub and they serve some of my favourite beer (can't stand that IPA stuff that hipsters are obsessed with) and second, it has booths where you can have a conversation and not worry about being listened in on. To begin with, it's the same work stuff we started talking about before and I'm going through strategies she can use to improve her performance. She's listening to me saying all this on the verge of tears. When I start listing specific examples of people she's pissed off because of the way she comes across, it sets her off again.

We're sitting across from each other in the booth, and I get up and sit next to her and put my hand on her shoulder. I want my team to perform, but I'm not a monster. Her response I to lean into me and hysterically sob into my shoulder.

She starts telling me about how she's always had low self esteem and how she has this fragile ego and being bullied in high school etc and I'm like, okay, I need another beer to deal with this shit.

I go get us another few rounds and let her start venting. It all comes out that she was bullied in her last job and that she never got to where she thought she would in life, how she was so smart but never got anything out of it, how this made her self esteem issues worse and how much she admired me for being able to do everything I did. So far, I think I'm being a good boss - I help her sort her shit today and she works that much harder for me tomorrow.

It goes on and on. Next thing I know, we're four rounds in and it's getting late. I go to take a piss and it occurs to me that I have a raging erection. 2/?

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I feel an obsessive, compulsive need to burn bridges. Then, once reduced to ash, I mourn for the structural integrity I had.

I do this, over and over again. Never learning my lesson. Knowing full well the devastating emotions I'll feel once all is said and done. I cannot help it. Something comes over me. Something that I have no control over. It can happen at any moment, for any reason.

Why can't I make this stop?
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I do this, too. Frankly, I think it's the same reason I'm so adamant about not having a Facebook. The difference is that I don't burn bridges so much as just ghost people with the excuse that if they wanted to get into contact with me, they would. I even made a new steam account and stopped playing certain games to avoid people for no real reason.

I remember a conversation I had with a friend about it being weird and awkward seeing people you haven't seen in years, and what he said still haunts me. He said that he would be excited seeing them again, and I just couldn't comprehend it. Like, that thought literally hadn't occurred to me at all, and it still bothers me now.
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>>18059242
I think I'm like this too.

What I've been doing is calling up old friends and saying I still like them/want to be friends again. It's amazing how many people will just pick up a friendship again after years apart.
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No facebook, no friends, no problem. All the people I know are old neighbors, and only one, an old lady who feeds cats do I talk to often.

My only problem is, I've always been an only child, and mostly alone. I don't wanna get old alone. But I realize I dislike the idea of establishing transient, otherwise insignificant relationships. I prefer meaningful relationships.

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i'm a 20 year old male and i feel like i have no one. i'm an only child and i haven't met any of my family other than my parents and i am totally disconnected from my culture. i have some friends in college, but i don't consider myself close to them at all because our interests and worldview is so different.

i've tried making friends with people in my classes, but when i hit them up on messenger it seems like no one really wants to talk. sometimes they just Seen me. as a 3rd year student, i feel like everyone already has their friendships solidified and one wants to meet anyone new.

i feel like i am trendy, smart, and have a bright future career-wise, but it seems like no one really cares about any of that. i'm not autistic but i'm not great at socializing and this may have something to do with it. maybe i'm not a fun person to hang out with? i spent all of high school playing video games in my room so i didn't get much chance to develop my social skills

i have a 4 day weekend and honestly i am really sad about it. i don't know what to fill this time with. i am constantly depressed. i wish i could find a group of people who like me for who i am, so that i could grow and prosper and think of useful, positive thoughts instead of always thinking about this predicament i am in

every year i get older i lose more and more friends. i don't know what's wrong with me. i am barely holding it together. why am i an outcast?
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>>18058762
What's wrong with being an outcast? I have no friends, and I enjoy it very much. I have tons of free time to read and learn new things
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>>18058770
because i'm human and i want to be loved
i feel like there's something missing
haven't had a girlfriend in over 2 years and i miss having arms wrapped around me
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>>18058775
>i feel like there's something missing
If you really felt that strongly about this, you would have found someone by now. It sounds like you say you care, but you don't really care

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Can a landlord do anything about you using too much electricity if utilities are included with the rent in an apartment? I basically leave the air conditioning on 24/7 and have been doing that for the past 1.5 years, they're just now noticing. Today they left me a voicemail and implied I should shut it off as it could be a waste of electricity, can they legally do anything?

Pic not related.
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>>18058603
If you're on a lease, those terms stand. They could on your next renewal, include a cap price for the electricity they cover, and if it is over the cap, you'd pay for it.
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>>18058603

i was in a similar situation, OP.

tldr; landed in jail but it turned out to be a blessing in disguise

how i landed in jail: had to rent out a room because desperately need money for expensive meds and medical equipment for sister. tenant insisted free electricity promised won't use much. was so desperate bills coming so i agreed. tenant leaves air conditioning on 24/7. electric bill comes and it's so high i didn't have enough money to pay. electricity got cut off while i'm buying meds and came back and medical equipment not working because no electricity and sister dead. got drunk don't remember what happened after got drunk. was told i was at someone's lawn screaming "REREDRUM! REREDRUM! REREDRUM!" at garden gnomes. policed picked me up and put me in jail to sober up.

how it was a blessing in disguise: also in jail when i woke up was guy who specializes in apocalyptically painful torture kidnapping who is now my new tenant. so now i have a hobby that i sadistically enjoy two hours each day at a new house i was able to buy (thanks to my old tenant who left - i don't know where he went i will not answer any more questions about him talk to my lawyer - kindly leaving all his expensive stuff and money he was a nice person after all leaving me all that stuff to repay me for my kindness to him for letting him leave his air-conditioning on 24/7) located deep in the forest where no one can hear you scream.
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>>18058603
if there's no electricity cap in your lease then no they can't do anything

except not renew your lease when its up that is, so be prepared for that possibility

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This is not a "blog post." This is an /adv/ post, meaning I'm looking for intelligent feedback and advice on this topic.

I have been thinking lately about how new-age-y philosophy (and other feelgood ideologies) state that everyone is a precious, righteous, pure little child on the inside. While there is a shred of truth to this, it does not make literal sense. There are *enemies* in this world, people who will cheat you, steal from you, and even assault or rape you. We all know there are plenty of those people. They aren't precious children, and they don't deserve to love and kindness to the same extent that others do. They sure as hell aren't part of my "collective consciousness," or anything like that.

More preferable characters would be people who love you, people who want to cooperate with you, and people who believe logically sound facts that will benefit you. These are your bothers, your mothers, sisters, scientists, righteous leaders and so on. *These* people deserve to take from your limited reserve of compassion, love, and kindness. (Everyone's reserve is limited. Eventually Mother Teresa gest tired and falls over.)

I'm sorry that I ever listened to the feelgood shit, and I'll never give my kindness to an enemy again, unless they honestly decide to change (which is rare). I'm not going to baby or try to cooperate with a goddamned harmful enemy, and I won't expect them to cooperate with me.

Thoughts, opinions, advice...?
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>>18058565
>/adv/...looking for intelligent
typo

>don't deserve to love and kindness
typo
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>>18058565
Spend your life pursuing what makes you happy but realize suffering makes you stronger and change will come for you one way or another.
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>>18058569
Good point. II was reviewing some albums and realized that focusing on the albums I didn't like or the writing people didn't appreciate was a waste of time. It felt a lot better to move on to the albums that were enjoyable and to recreate the writings that were successful.

If we can focus on things that make us happy, we'll be a lot happier.

I'm just upset because I am coming up from being poor and as a result I've encountered a lot of antisocial fucks who tried to play me and those I cared about.

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Where do you think it's better to raise kids? In the suburbs or a big city?
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Fuck the suburbs, grow em up in the rurals
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>>18058549
City imo

I lived in suburbs and i feel like i would have been more outgoing earlier in life if i lived in a big city, because theres people to socialize with and things to do, not so much in the suburbs
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>>18058549
>city

Degenerate slut daughters, and faggy numale sons

>suburbs

Boring vapid daughters, and if you're rich your sons will join fraternities and rape girls

>rural
Daughter has less of a chance of being boring or a slut, but she is more likely to have sex with a horse, or develop an addiction to opiates. Son is also more likely to abuse substances and knock up a 14 year old in the back of his truck

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we are a pretty religious family, she wears a hijab and all that. also i dont wanna disappoint my elders. so how can i go about it?
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>>18058519
private suicidal drama to get her talking to you privately for a long time
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>>18058519
How about you fuck a child instead, Ahmed?
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>>18058662
rude

also my name is not ahmed. its hassan

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This is my nose, what would you think is my heritage/ethnicity based of it? It's also paired with think dark hair thick dark eyebrows and a chiseled jawline.
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>>18058497
east europe
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>>18058497

I have the same features but my DNA is all over the place. There's really no telling. If I had to get, Russian.
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>>18058536

On a side note, I'm also built rather tall and skinny with broad shoulders and long arms.

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Yesterday I was given the advice to just talk to him. We hit it off really well but he couldn't come over. He didn't know my intentions either. I then asked his best friend to be my wingman and he told me what to say and do to get him in "the mood." It went really well and we were starting to sext and stuff but then I asked him if he wanted to have sex. Now he won't reply and I don't know if I did something wrong. Could it be because he is a virgin? Is there anything I could say or do to make it better?
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I am teenage girl. Just so the story gets more context.
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>>18058484
>I am teenage girl

Get him into a room alone, put on a condom on his D and start going at it


You're a girl, it's literally that fucking easy

Holy shit
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>>18058617
i can't do the first step.

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