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>>18061824

Why are her hands so small?

>>18061838
Well played. I never saw her hands.

Stay calm, OP. You gotta reassert your dominance by posting her pics like it's no big deal, ok?

I suggest you use more elegant words.

It is hard since english isn't my first language. And it is even harder to express myself on my native language (Croatian) since it is so limited, simple

English is not my first language either, try to read a lot of stuff in english, so every once in a while you learn new words, but make sure you use them as well or you will easily forget them

Best way is to tie him up in sleep and threat him with some knife.

Take that guy for a beer or two and try to talk with him in a kind calm way.

move someplace you can afford

>>18061765
Tell him you need to speak and put the cards on the table.
Stop being angry at him, be angry at the situation before you speak to him

Do not yell. Do not sound like a hurt asshole. Take control. Say everything you need to say and finish saying it then tell him why these are all issues for you.
Don't talk about feelings
Facts not feelings.
Facts.

Then ask him (not implore)
Will you do these thing from now on?
Etc etc.
Then at last compliment something or finish with a neutral comment like
"I know you are tired after coming from your job but so am I and I want you to understand I also put effort and money into this being a livable space blablabla

Just tell her this. If she really loves/likes you she'll understand.
Also report your ex to the police and get some professional help if you need it.

>>18061748
That girl is gold, she understands it totally so i have no worries of rejection.
And the ex is now history and I'm doing good, no police needed, on a good way to forget.

>>18061757
If she's good for you, there's no reason to be anxious is there? Probably takes some time to get used to each others bodies and sexual prerferences.

I have a problem the other way around, I cum too soon. . fuck it

>>18061623
Yarrrrr harrrrrrr communist life for yer!


But seriously talking, have you considered writing down all your thoughts in one place? You seem like a person with vision and also like one that can afford to do something not really profitable (in terms of money) from time to time. So maybe writing some kind of book about how you feel about world, people and things, kind of philosophical manifest will be a way to go?

Also: sorry for my poor english, not native speaker.

>>18061830
I appreciate your observation. Many people have said the same thing.

>>18061830
>>18061854
There's something biologically missing in my life. These lame friendships and dysfunctional relationships don't satisfy it. If I'm gonna make anything, I need to hand itcoff to some people who obviously benefit from it, to have some kind of meaningful relationship with society.

>>18061566
Why not

Because you could BE doing other things, like SHIIITING

>>18061572
i don't have food poisoning atm tho

how melodramatic can you get

>>18061621
Fuck off with that negativity

>>18061545
'Forget about your life situation and pay attention to your life. Your life situation exists in time. Your life is now. Your life situation is mind-stuff. Your life is real.'
-Eckhart Tolle

if you have to ask yourself that than a lot. Your insecurities are glaring.

Your best would to be to just kick her off and move on with your life.

that is completely irrelevant
you are paying for a worthless service and need to stop immediately you stupid goy

>>18061446
>I'm better than everyone
>More hipster than the hipsteriest hipster
Kill yourself, my man.

talk to people in real life, instead of talking to anonymous people on the internet

>>18061414
Go outside

>>18061414
Spend all of their time in front of a television.

just do whatever you want listening to what other people tell you is sure fire way to make yourself miserable

It's not like math teachers tend to be idiots or unsuccessful so I'm not 100% sure why your family feels this way.
Are they paying for college? If they are, maybe you could take on some more challenging shit. You might like it. If you hate it or you fail, you can at least say you tried and you have teaching to fall back on.

And yeah a doctor might be able to help with your anxiety stuff.

I think you fail to realize how shitty being a teacher is. Those good memories you had with your teacher in a rich, white school is not what you're going to get for 5 years or so. Only terrible inner city schools accept teachers with no experience. It weeds out those with a "good heart" quickly. And they make shit pay, poverty tier, and have to deal with moron parents every day. It's not a good career for shy or mentally unstable people.

Anon, I think you should pursue teaching but at a higher level, like being a college professor. Being a regular teacher really is a waste, and you can get those teaching feelings through volunteering for organizations.

well yeah it might liven up your sex life but you shouldn't feel like you need to hit all of his fetishes
is this a long-term relationship? how long have you been going out?

>>18061211

A few months now

He thinks I'm beautiful and he is sexually attracted to me, it's just he's said he's even more attracted to thinner women than me so I think if I lose weight and tone up I can meet that standard. He likes tall girls more too but I can't change that.

I thought maybe if I tried to get healthier maybe he'd find me sexier, too!

simply put, yes

>>18061135
>most human interaction I have is with guys so I have no idea how to communicate with women on a "deep" level lol
Why don't you become a gay? I'm gay and it's nice + fun

>>18061135
Just lie for the first two years until you get some experience. Even at that point nobody really brings up their sexual historys because it's rude to their partner. The most my gf does is talk about how small guys she's been with in the dicks are. But she does that as a sideways compliment.

>>18061278
Sorry dude. That's not the way I do things. I like women.

>>18061345
Holy shit. So it's basically the same as finding your first job. Awesome.

somewhere around middle of october orion messaged cobra and asked her if he had any chances with me. she sent me screenshots and asked me what she should tell him. i was backed up into a corner and i had no idea what to say. if i told him yes then i would fuck up my entire friendship with her/my other friends because i would be inadvertently "screwing her over" (even if he has no knowledge of her feelings toward him), and if i told him no i'd ruin everything between me and him. i didn't want to be a bad friend so i told her to tell him no but only because i liked someone else.

this is where things fucked up quite badly. the first time. the few days proceeding that conversation i made the mistake of flirting with orion's best friend. it was not a smart choice and it was quite pointless, but i felt the need to latch onto another person right away and to prove that i really did not want anything with orion. i decided to stop and that i wasn't going to do anything that wasn't honest, and i honestly did want something with orion and if i wanted to pursue him then i should just do so. i asked cobra if it would be okay if i tried, and if it wasn't okay i wouldn't pursue him because i didn't want to put a strain on the friendship. she told me it was fine, that she wanted me to be happy and she wanted him to be happy, and that it wouldn't be 100% completely the same for her but at the end of the day her and orion are just friends.

knowing this i wrote to him straight away and i told him that he actually does have a chance with me. he had a not so good reaction. i knew that i'd unintentionally hurt him the few days preceding that due to the rejection and the flirting, and he told me that he didn't want to be anyone's second choice. i tried to explain to him to the best of my ability that it wasn't like that, that i didn't have feelings for his friend and it was due to other factors that i said no the first time, but he wasn't really having any of it.

(cont)

we became distant after that and i was quite depressed. my girl friends were supportive at the time surrounding the situation but they tried to convince me to forget about him. not long afterwards, cobra got into a relationship with a guy in our circle of friends and fell in love with him allegedly. we'll call him arrow. fast forward to about two weeks ago. orion and i's relationship has improved a bit, we're definitely not as close as we were before but things are nice when we see each other irl. cobra and arrow are still together, they've been in a relationship for roughly 3 months. me and most of the circle of friends were at a party, and orion was there. very late into the evening orion and another guy i knew asked me if i wanted to come with them to chill at another place. i of course went with them. we stayed until 3 or 4 in the morning at a place close to where orion lived until i said i was tired and going to leave.

orion said he was leaving too, and we both started walking towards where he lived. when we arrived in front of his place he asked me i wanted to come chill. i said yes. we listened to music and talked and shit until we came to a point where we were both sitting/laying on his bed and hugging each other. it felt right and it felt like things weren't completely fucked up between me and him and then he straightened up and kissed me. i couldn't believe what was happening. it went pretty far but we didn't have sex; we tried but i was a virgin and he told me it was technically his first time too and he had no idea what he was doing. it got to really early in the morning, about 6 or 7 and i told him i really had to go home. he walked me to the door and he kissed me when we said bye.

(cont)

the next morning i called cobra to tell her what happened. i didn't know how to feel or how to react to what had occurred, but i felt she deserved to know that something went down. she said she was happy for me and asked me how i felt, and acted completely normal. later that night me and her were supposed to go out with some guy friends, and i called to ask her if she wanted to go meet them together. she told me she was with her family and relatives and that she would meet us directly there because her father would drop her off. i thought nothing of it. i went out and during the night she called arrow and asked him how to get to the place we were at with a bus. i was confused but again thought nothing of it. she was completely drunk when she arrived and i asked her how she managed to get so off her ass. she told me she drank with her family. i asked her why her dad didn't drop her off and she said she didn't want her dad to notice she was drunk. it made zero sense and i could tell at the time that her story was off, but i tried not to dwell on it.

a couple of days pass and i notice that none of the girls are talking to me. it was very obvious that there was something going on. cobra called me and asked if she could come over after class because she wanted to talk, of course i said yes. when she came over she first asked me to explain exactly what happened the night with orion. and then she told me that while she's okay and she has no problem, the other girls are extremely angry with me and revolted at the situation. it made no sense because she had a boyfriend she was in love with; orion wasn't hers and we had already settled things back in october concerning my intentions with him.

(cont)

wake up again, maybe it will go away

>>18060993
could have been a muscle spasm during the night, deep vein thrombosis, or a blood clot. so you're either going to be fine or die.

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>>18060993
>extreme unknown pain in leg
>social in an hour

don't go to social if it's too much pain and make an appointment for doc? not sure what other advice you expect

>>18060984
>What should I do?
party, drugs, girls, ....

Maybe you are the kind of industrious that keeps the world spinning, and find endless satisfaction in getting things done. What's your routine, and how do you fill free time? Does irritation come from people urging you to prance about?

>>18060984
Im the same in that i cant sit around and be unproductive. Get a part time job. You'll be satisfying the need to work and people will not question it if you telll them you need the money.