What job can you get with just an AA , a willingness to work, and a smile?
(speak spanish and English decently, Russian poorly, basic understanding of computer architecture with some knowledge of java/python (not real significant))
prostitution
maybe McDs?
>>18059898
>AA
Dafuq is AA?
nothing. keep working on your programming.
I will admit, I am not the most experienced when it comes to relationships. What I have never understood is cheating.
How do people cheat on one another and not feel like a bit of guilt? Or have any self control? I have never had a girlfriend but I know that if I did... I would not cheat. 100 percent certain.
To me, because I have never had a girlfriend at the age of 26 now, I just can't imagine getting one and then cheating on her. Like why would I throw it all away?
Maybe its different if you are just rolling in women. Maybe its different when you have options and opportunities? Is it kind of like a starving man would eat dog food if needed, but if you are rich, you can eat steak every night.
I am just trying to learn and understand more about relationships. So that maybe one day when I do get in one, I will be better informed.
So, people who have cheated.. why did you do it? It just seems so pointless to me. What would it provide besides drama?
>>18059327
>I have never had a girlfriend but I know I would never cheat
I remember saying that. Then I slept with my ex, three times, and made out with the best friend of my wife.
You'll change anon, just as I did. And you'll hurt whoever you end up with because you'll realize that fighting so hard against the idea of a selfish act like cheating will actually lead to to commit the act.
Idk I cheat without guilt because my boyfriend loves porn and cam girls too much. It kind of ruined my self esteem and when I met someone who is obsessed with my body and sex, I got hooked on him. We're both in sexless relationships and it works for us while our relationship with our significant others are surprisingly improving. I get to spend time with my boyfriend without feeling resentment because we haven't had sex in months or because I'm sucking on his soft cock....now I just get to enjoy him without the pressure of being too horny to focus on a conversation.
>>18059327
When you date down, you tend to cheat.
tl;df-First time dating a man, what do?
I'm a bi woman dating a man for the first time. I've already had first contact, but I wouldn't consider it a date or something so formal, and had a lot of fun. Toward the end of that, I asked him if he'd like to grab dinner some time, and he seemed down. What should I know about the differences between dating chicks and dudes? With women I'm usually the aggressor, and kind of also the top.
>>18063173
Well there's not much to know. I mean, some guys might not like you taking charge but most won't mind and some might enjoy it for a change. Does he know about your previously pretty lesbian past?
Just treat him like anyone else. If you are looking for a relationship, then being someone else will only work for a little bit. Just act like you do with women or whatever is comfortable with men for you and if he does not like it, then you are not a match. Basic as that.
>>18063183
>>18063185
You idiots realize that this is bait right?
What's the point of anything.
It doesn't matter if you're passionate about something. There's a million people better at it than you.
>>18063120
If you're passionate about something then it won't matter. You do it for you, for the sake of doing it.
>>18063120
>There's a million people better at it than you.
And a billion who are worse, which puts you in the next-to-top yier.
At least you are lucky enough to have a passion. That automatically makes you better at having a career life than billions of people. If you are #2 on a board of 1 million people, that is still a pretty good fucking number. If you know your passion, trust me when I say you already beat billions of people at life.
Hi guys/gals
I'll just greentext my situation right now. If you have anymore questions please ask, I just don't know what to do anymore...
>be male 26
>in a 5 year relationship (starting in college, both working right now)
>we have great fun, go out a lot,...
>I recently changed jobs and working from our recently bought appartement
>naturally I cook everyday, clean up as best I can, do most of the household work
>she also promoted at her job, but it requires her to work longer and have more responsibilities
>she has to work with her boss more
>her boss is 20cm taller than me and has a deep voice which intimidates her (in a good way??)
>one evening she tells me they were flirting and she admits to liking him a bit - physically of course
>she was super wet and we had great sex
>time goed on like this and I end up being cucked
>meanwhile after work she hugs him, kisses him, even had some foreplay in his car
>things get interesting between us as well, because she comes home and tells me everything and then we have sex
>we had a great time
>they had an agreement though, if one of them had feelings they would stop
>sure enough she admits to falling in love
>ok ok we had a talk and she would quit it
>she spoke with him and they agreed
(btw he is married and has 2 kids, the relationship he has is stale, but he would never leave his wife because of the kids)
>she took the friday off work and is now sitting here in bed
>we talked a few times but she can't think of anything else but him
>even though she knows it can never be
What do I do?
Part of me wants her back, part of me wants her gone.
What can I do?
>>18062961
Also she has been crying a lot and she texted him she misses him.
Is there anyone I can see? should I tell my family and hope I won't be judged..?
The relationship is defined by sex and your need to support her emotionally most likely because it validates your own low self esteem. Throw her out, regain your masculinity, stop engaging in this self destruction.
I have to write a personal statement for a college application and have no idea what to do. You're supposed to write about your experiences that make you qualified like participating ing extra-caricular activities or volunteering. Unfortunately I missed most of these opportunities in high school due to a serious ongoing illness. Other people I've asked say to just write about my disease and how I overcame it to graduate, but I'm having a hard time trying to turn that into an essay. Those years of my life were dark and depressing, and I'd honestly be lying if I said I overcame my disease without so much help from other people.
Do I just have to lie and bullshit my way through it despite the guilt?
I Have above their average accepted gap and sat scores but I'm worried if I don't nail this I may not get in which would be terrible for me.
Any help or advice much appreciated
Youre over thinking it... like you said right about your disease, the struggles its caused you, and how youre fighting through/over comming it. Also write about how you came to choose your major. Like what influenced you. For example if you got depression but art helps you feel better, write about that.
>>18062907
Also what kind of opening sentence should I use?
And how long do you think it should be?
I've always found it super weird that American universities require you to write these things. Do they even read them all?
How do I talk to girls?
>>18062853
Don't. We're ruthless bitches.
You never really, "talk" to women.
You just listen and provide feedback.
The only real way to talk to a woman is if they are attracted to you. Otherwise, no respect.
>>18062857
But theres this one girl who seems pretty cool but I can't stop spilling my spaghetti everywhere
This is more of a rant than anything, just knowing that one person may read it gives me some form of solace.
I'm old, turned thirty-five not too long ago and as I sit here looking back at my life I don't know what I've done to fuck it all up so bad. They say everything happens for a reason, but does it?
I'm an American living abroad. I have a decent education and had a decent job here. That all ended when I met my ex-wife. I'm not the kind of person who speaks ill about their ex's, I typically have no reason too seeing that the majority of them have ended amicably. But the one person who I thought was "the one", the person I thought I'd share my life with and grow old with, out of all the people I've been with, was the one who destroyed me.
I won't go into a long diatribe about my time in this relationship, but I will say the emotional and physical abuse I endured during this time has left its mark on me. I suffer from PTSD (I hate using the term, but it's what I've been labeled with) and all the bells and whistles that come with it.
I haven't been in a relationship in over a decade despite having my chances. I can't blame that all on my ex, some blame has to go with the culture of Europe that I don't agree with. Besides, my humor and day to day life is still American despite having been in Europe for this long so in the long run, we wouldn't mesh.
A little over a year ago I slipped and fell breaking my back in two places at work. I'm in constant pain and have resorted to living a sedimentary lifestyle in order to keep that pain at bay. I exist within four walls with this computer I'm typing on as my main source of connection with the world outside.
You reading this has had more interaction with me than any of my family a thousand miles away. I normally keep my issues to myself, but as of late they've just become more and more unbearable. I do have one obligation that I will never break, or I would have ended my life years ago.
>sedimentary lifestyle
>>18062693
>emotional and physical abuse I endured during this time has left its mark on me. I suffer from PTSD
your ex wife did? what happened exactly?
>>18062693
>A little over a year ago I slipped and fell breaking my back in two places at work
>I'm in constant pain and have resorted to living a sedimentary lifestyle
>sedimentary lifestyle
are you a rotting corpse?
Dear /adv/, me and my girlfriend of a year broke up just before valentines day. We are both young,18, and because ive had no real experience in the world, i had always thought that this love would last despite our occasional little fights. We had decided to be friends afterwards, but the distantness between us compared to our previous closeness was scaring me and also frustrating me. It lead to a fight in which i made the terrible mistake of saying that she was the one who had caused our fights before. She wouldnt talk to me afterward, even though i was trying to fix it. Finally she got her mother involved and told me to stop harassing her.
Long story short, how do i overcome these deep feelings of guilt i have for starting a fight and not being able to fix it? How do i stop being so clingy in relationships? And what advice would you give so i could become more experienced in relationships
P.S. i finally manned up enough to delete her number so i cant be tempted to try and make things right again
>>18062682
You had problems even before you said those things.
Realize that the relationship wouldn't have last that much anyway.
Just move on man, you are young, plenty of women in your future.
>>18062708
Thank you. Ill reflect upon what youve said
I just want to meet some people because my social life is pathetic. What's the best dating app for that?
>>18062635
>tfw there's no friends app where you go on with and meet people based on interests
>>18062637
If I knew anything about app development, I would get right on that.
meetup.com maybe?
okcupid is best if you wanna harness the autism of getting to zero in on exactly the sort of person you do/don't wanna talk to but it's a dating thing so that's pretty much expected by most users
So my entire social life is pretty much going to end next week. All my friends and acquaintances who I see 2-3 time a week I will be lucky to see once a month. I'm going to be completely alone.
I can't fucking take this shit. I'm having some kind of breakdown right now with bouts of uncontrollable crying.
I don't even know what advice to ask for I am so lost.
>>18062628
Where's everyone going?
>>18062694
Friends own a cafe which is the meeting place of our group. They are closing down next week. I am actually the only person who lives in the town the cafe is in and nobody would ever come out here if not for that place. They all live in the next town over and I don't have a vehicle so I can't really go out and visit them.
I Don't actually even know the name of anyone in this town after 6 years of living here. That's how fucked I am.
>>18062746
Is this some dumb movie reference?
I've been an engineer in Silicon Valley since the late nineties. Feel free to ask about the industry, culture, etc. (Haven't seen the show, so can't comment on that.)
>>18062582
is a computer science degree better than a computer engineering one?
what are major trends you see shaping the industry now and in the future?
do you feel like software dev has changed a lot now that there are so many tools and libraries .. that we don't really write code from scratch anymore .. just sort of maintain a patchwork of other people's shit
i havent noticed anything technologically super duper different about my life in the last few yeara. are you even trying to make humanity better
why am i so loyal to others who wouldn't even give two shits whether if i were dead or not?
>>18062538
Cos without them you'd have no friends.
Not sure which is worse though no friends or shitty friends.
>>18063132
Depends on the person
>>18062538
Youre just a good boy anon, stay gold and dont compromise that part of you, the right people will come along
>>18063159
I think he has to go out his comfort zone to meet other people lest he be trapped on 4chan with degenerates.
So, I bought one of those cheap VR headsets for your phone and I tried out some VR porn. First of all I'm still a virgin at 21, male, and I'm not sure of the consequences.
On one hand I'm afraid that I'll just spend the rest of my life jerking off to virtual reality especially with higher quality headsets, on the other hand this has me longing for actual physical contact even more and kinda has me playing with the thought of visiting a brothel.
I'm just confused, VR kinda fucks with your brain.
>>18062495
>I'm afraid that I'll just spend the rest of my life jerking off to virtual reality
And why is that a bad thing?
Not everything is for everyone anon. If you're a virgin at 21, chances are you're too irreparable to have a normie life anyway.
So, embrace the VR waifu revolution.
>>18062526
Well, fuck...
>>18062495
As a non virgin who loves vr porn, I can say the brain reaction and feels are similar. It really does trick you quite well.
So if you remain a virgin, whatever. Psychologically its the same experience so you now have a really good window.
On the other hand, it may help with your confidence what with your brain starting to think talking to girls is old news.
I dont know man I dont see a problem with what youre doing.
Why the fuck can't i get over my ex? Why the hell is she still always on my mind? I just want to move on & be happy for christs sake & just find someone who'll actually give a shit & won't treat me like im fucking worthless
>>18062482
Not really sure. Never been in that situation. All I can say is that cutting absolutely all contact with the person does wonders. Don't follow any of her social media, don't look at any old photos, nothing.
Personally, I've found that spending no time with the person and not seeing them or anything they do in any way helps greatly. From helping a friend through it, I can say that it eventually happened for her after cutting contact with her ex.
>>18062482
In the same boat here. No matter what she still comes back to mind. And I dont know how to make the dreams about her stop. She ever in your dreams?
Cut all contact and dont look at theit social media. I recently broke up with my gf and we dated for 1.5 years and no fuks given. Then again, we broke up cause she cheated on me so i guess its a little different as to why i dont miss her