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Your life can't be as bad as you think it is, Whenever someone is severely suicidal, they always try to look at everything as worse as they can see it, The truth, probably, is that you are in a bad spot and just need to find something to better your life. You not being able to kill yourself is you showing yourself you really don't wana do it, that somewhere, there is something you can do to make your life better. If you need new friends, play online games and make some online friends. Talk about this with your family instead of hiding it and letting it build up. Look through your IRL friends list and see if you have any friends you can talk to and, if so, talk to them about it too. This is usually what happens when someone is depressed, and they don't do anything about it, don't talk to anyone about it, and let it bottle up inside. And you are probably just paranoid about the neighborhood.

>>18063085
Razors pain you;
Rivers are damp;
Acids stain you;
And drugs cause cramp.
Guns aren’t lawful;
Nooses give;
Gas smells awful;
You might as well live.

>>18063085
There's nothing wrong with you Anon. You're in intense pain. Talk about this openly with your family and friends. You're not alone. I feel like this often and I've also tried killing myself a few times. I even ended up in a psychiatric hospital. For me, what helps is to keep talking about how I feel with those I love because it's out of my head. If I let these thoughts sit in my head, it's like poison and whatnot. Talk about it anon and even though you won't agree with me, you're worth it. You're a beautiful human being.

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>>18063074

>>18063079
...yes, hence breakup

>>18063092
lets hope she is used like a whore

enjoy your new fetish

>>18063015
I never regretted it, even when I broke up with my current partner earlier in the relationship I think we needed to break up and I am glad we did.

There are some times when I missed my ex boyfriends' company, or when I missed having a boyfriend, but I never regretted leaving. No one breaks up a great relationship. I know that probably, if I could go back in time and break up with them again, I still would.

>>18063023
Just... Wow

>>18063015
No anon, your ex isn't coming back to you.

>>18062940
Both of mine were psychologists.
First one was a clusterfuck.
>skipped school for months in a row
>the terror of confronting everyone about this grows out of control with every day passed
>lid is blown
>dragged to unpleasant fat fossil of a psychologist
>cry my eyes out having to put into words for the first time all the worries and fears which defined my life as long as I can remember
>after another, calm, questionnaire-filling session with another person, it's back to the plesiosaurus
>the expert opinion is that I'm lazy and should stop being lazy
The end. Nothing actionable was suggested, so I asked to "give me a mantra or something". Her annoyance was palpable.

The second one lasted for dozens of weekly visits and went nowhere.
>same pattern repeats in college
>psychologist encourages talking about things I like
>I talk about movies and games
>the dialog peters out and I'm left to feel uncomfortable in a mutual silence for 20-30 minutes
>eventually she tells to leave and return when I feel appropriate

Just today I've learned about the division between holistic and reductionist ontologies, which underline the various schools of psychological practice, so that's something I'll be thinking about going forward.

It's what helped me stop being suicidal when I was going through a very bad period of depression in highschool.

She was a therapist (psychologist) who specialized in Christian family therapy. I went for about two years weekly. We would talk, I would cry, and I would also do neurofeedback.

No one has to know about any of it if you don't want them too. Very few people know I've gone to therapy. An even smaller number know I struggle(d) with depression and was suicidal. You don't have to take any medication if you don't want to. My therapist gave me the option and asked if I wanted to try medication, but I declined.

Well there's a tendency for people to get medication for non-illnesses and real life problems. But if something really is wrong with your head, it's incredibly helpful and gives you back a sense of control just to get a diagnosis. Now I know those things I did wernt me. Like I thought certain things were me personally, who I was and not something actually wrong with me. But like of course that wasn't me, who I am, and not knowing why was why it was so scary. Deep shame, things I kept secret, assuming it was normal becuase I couldn't know better. And now, I've accepted it and can realistically work around it, move on with my life.

are you truly in love? are you sure its not just a passing infatuation? I've gone through that multiple times before i actually found the woman i love

>>18062893
I have known her for about 3-2 years
and I don't about the true thing

explain your relationship currently OP

>I reply with saying that I'm mostly here for hook ups
You know she's expecting some stud now, right? When you say you're on Tinder for hook ups, that implies that you've actually, you know, fucked girls off it before.

You better hope she doesn't care if a guy is a virgin.

>>18062766
Well, I told her I never met someone on tinder before, and have had a sex a few times

>>18062779
>You better hope she doesn't care if a guy is a virgin.
Given that you don't even know how to kiss, she's going to realise you lied pretty quickly.

a lot of normies will actually judge you pretty harshly for it

as a former weed junkie i have to admit that successful people generally don't smoke it, or at least not frequently.
>inb4 anecdote about your super smrt physics major friend who smokes every day

>>18062713
it depends on how you define success
personally, I'd consider a stoner with a great deal of self awareness and personal understanding infinitely more successful than someone who's spent their entire life climbing up ladders without asking themselves why and without realising that material and hierarchical hungers are insatiable

Wtf do you even live in the same world?

So many normies do weed it's not even an issue. Its only when you're super addicted and doing it all the time it's the problem/looked down upon.

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>take attempts "very seriously"

hire a guy and get that betamax fuckin merckd

>She tells me he asked her out a few times and was shot down anyways
This is reason to confront him as an adult, in person.
Be prepared to have her call the cops and have any messages saved in the event of an escalation to further stalking and harassment.

>>18062595
Completely ignore the attempts. Doing anything at all will just help him work against you. If there's anything more, just ignore it but keep any messages he sends and then if shit gets too real, come forward to her about it saying how you didn't want to cause drama but he's been harassing you so much that you felt she had to now know.

So for now, do nothing else. The only way to win is to just get on with your relationship like normal, she'll end up trusting you more than him.

Does it bother you simply because it's becoming awkward for you or does it bother you because you're worried for his safety?

>>18063424
It bothers me because I worry that others will eventually abandon him and he will be all alone.

>>18063541
I see. You can't control people Anon. He's not alone since you're still his friend. You've mentioned he has his reasons for cutting certain apoplectic out of his life. Sounds serious. Respect him and still be there for him.

why dont they make it in english

radioactive cat semen -> turkey baster -> super kitties

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>>18061699
I have to give a presentation on this in 2 days

JUST

His birthday was coming up, and I started to get hopeful, even though by that time I was already 2.5 years into my pathetic friendless life and no one had invited me to a social gathering of any description, it seemed as though he would invite me since I always hung out with their clique. The first time I noticed something was off was when he started to invite people, I noticed that he was only inviting people outside the clique, which obviously meant that he had already invited the rest of "our" squad leaving me out. I witnessed him invite multiple people over a few days while ignoring me and then it had sunken in. He either had no inclination to invite me to be friends with me or he did but he didn't want to be associated with me because of my autist reputation which I was unable to shake off because people wouldn't forget about the dumb shit I did in middle school.

When the actual day of his birthday came around, I had nothing to do. This was the same every weekend but this time I felt exceedingly pathetic and worthless. I then proceeded to cry myself to sleep. It wasn't the first time that I wallowed in my self-pity, in fact I did it quite often, which is easy to understand since I am a pathetic loser with no friends. But this time it was different, it was like a semi-traumatic event had occurred in my life over this trivial bullshit and it hasn't stopped haunting me to this day. In the days following his birthday I felt empty, couldn't enjoy any of my hobbies and just contemplated suicide semi seriously and cried silently in my room like a pathetic beta cuck. Sometimes I even started crying on the street when I was going shopping for groceries, but it was very subtle and I doubt anybody would actually think that I was legitimately crying, I appeared composed so it probably looked like I had something in my eye.

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>middle school

Part 3 (forgot to say part 2)

This shitty state continued for two weeks and I decided that it was time to better myself. I thought that if no one in my class was inclined to be friends with me, I could just get in touch with one of my former friends with whom I ended my friendship on kind of good terms. This guy was always asking when we could hang out every time we made small talk when we ran into each other, so I thought that I might be able to do something with him. I send him a facebook message and he immediately decided that we should go out for drinks, so I obliged.

When we went out for drinks I got the impression that this guy never even had any inclination to be friends with me, and that he just hung out with me out of sympathy for my asocial autistic life. It was the first time in 2.5 years that someone willingly invited me anywhere but I felt more alone than ever. When we finished drinking and went out to eat something, I noticed something peculiar. There were some autistic (not in the literal sense) dudes waiting in line, and I knew these people from high school. I always used to roast and resent them, but even they had friends. They were able to maintain relationships and have enjoyable lives while I was enduring complete misery because of my ineptitude. I suddenly began to feel incredibly inferior, and strong feelings of self-hate set in. I started to lose all of the confidence I had left, and when I got back home I couldn't sleep for 72 hours. I couldn't listen to music, read, play games or watch something during this time either. It was just three entire days spent in self-loathing misery with bathroom and food breaks.

Now that a year has passed, I still wallow in my own self-pity and self hate on a pretty regular basis, and I still think about this incident.

Please help me.

Up.

Up

fuck of pedro

saged

>>18064755

>So how are we equal?

You actually believed that shit?

>>18064755
Because in a lot of other ways they are better than men.

>>18064090
my bf is bald and smooth AF

nothing bad about them. I'm into bald guys as long as they carry themselves well and aren't assholes

>>18064090
I'm bald from a medical condition, I get a lot more attention from women now than I did when I had my lovely dark brown hair :( that being said women have different tastes in things so dw

It sure could. You can report crimes to the police on the behalf of others

>>18064065
she now has you by the balls
tread carefully, anon

>>18064072
I trust her completely. Totally not worried about her in any way.

>>18064069
Would it matter if she defended me, or could bad stuff still happen?