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>>18072272
>what did I do wrong?
you thought you won the lottery because a girl cheated on her bf. you weren't special just next

>>18072350
This.

Don't trust chicks that get into relationships whilst they're still in them. That's a big red flag. You done goofed, the ones that
>tells me that I mean a lot to her
>tells me that she would never hurt me
>tells me she wants to be with me
Are overcompensating for real lack of genuine feelings they have towards you.

Abort, OP.

>>18072272

She's probably regretting leaving her boyfriend and is trying to hedge her bets by keeping you both sweet. What you wanted was probably heading towards a relationship which would obviously mean her ex was off limits. By "taking it slowly" this gives her time to work out which of you, if any, she wants to be with.

TL;DR - she is having her cake and eating it. Don't get too attached.

>>18072210

colleges arent really like movies, any review you are going to see is going to be entirely non objective, esepcially considering how much a college changes from year to year, class to class, program to program, etc.

>>18072215
Well fuck, how am I supposed to know what's the right school? I've been told tours, but I don't see how you could get a good idea of the school if they're just showing you what they want you to see.

Uh hello

>>18072198
How long have you felt this way? Usually depression results in a complete loss of motivation.

You almost certainly have sleep apnea.
t. has sleep apnea

>>18072224
About three years, getting progressively worse

wireclub

Life.

reddit

Rent a room next to your university

First of all, you will often feel like you don't want to go to university, and having to travel 1 hour makes this feeling almost unbearable if you are not strong willed enough, you might become one of these people that only appear in 50% of the classes

Second, you are wasting thousands of hours, isn't your time worth at least a rent?

If you live with your parents this is not even a question, rent a room next to uni, everyone needs to do this at some point

8*8/x = 8*6*8*4^0.5 <=> 1/x = 6*2 <=> x = 1/12
I got bored

>>18072094
I'd recommend going for the 1 hour ride if the cost isn't too big.
I do this for a few years already and have met people who had it even worse than me.
Make sure you stay for as long as possible everyday to make it worthwile and study there till it's dark. This way you will be dedicated enough and keep discipline aswell as you might go out with others after you're done there.

Depending on where you study you won't need to go to all the classes, infact you might even become an engineer by skipping most lectures.

First of all, compare how she acts with you compared to how she responds to other people. Any pattern that singles you out is positive (virtually any, that is), even if she shuts down around you compared to others: some people freeze up around their crush.

Basically, you need more than her default setting. If she smiles at you all the time, is friendly and interested etc, but she's like that with everyone, it's not a sign. If she is friendly with everyone but only does banter with you, that's much more promising. Or if she's friendly with everyone, but only consistently asks you to hang out and so on. Not even flirting means anything if she does it with everyone.

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>>18072085
She talks with me much more compared to other people and also about more personal subjects but it's probably because I actually listen to her, I heard girls will talk a lot about anything if you show them that you are paying attention.

Other than that I don't have much going on that singles me out.

>>18072095
Eh, that's too simplistic, it just depends on the person. For some it means more than for others to share personal information.

If it's that dubious I'm afraid you have no other option than to move forward yourself, either by asking her out or by flirting with her and seeing how she responds.

Go to do what? If you get a job offer from all of those, my preference would be:
Chicago or Atlanta, best choices.
Then In order LA, NYC, Miami.
If you just want to leave your current location without a plan, then don't. Your problems will not go away. Solve them at your current location before moving.

>>18072161
What if my only problem is being bored and cold

>>18072161
I'm neither OP or an American but isn't NYC and LA an expensive place to live?

All you'd really have to do is ditch the stupid piercings, cover the tattoos and lose a little weight. Hell, you don't even need to lose the weight. Just smile more.

Get rid of piercings and tattoos. Lose weight and do something about your flushed skin.

Done

>>18072038
This, get rid of those dumb fucking piercings

You ain't married yet, so why aren't you fucking?

>>18072020
Tell your fiancé you're a horrible cheating piece of shit who feels nothing and let her do with you what she will.

Keep your distance from the coworker. You have a child with a woman, you may lose your current family over this. Don't fuck up.

In your current frame of mind nope. It's worse for you AND whoever you meet if you hook up with someone because she WILL get tired of you or vice versa and you will break up.

Of course! When there is time, there is always potential for change. It takes effort and some time though. Make your body physically appealing (fit, hygienic, style), keep your mind sharp and educated, and develop behaviour that denotes an appealing personality. All of these factors will differ depending on your core self and the k8nd of man you'd like to be, as well as the type of relationship you'd like to have with someone. If you'd rather have a shy girl who stays indoors and reads with you, you're going to want to bait your trap differently than if you want a snowboarding instructor who's into threesomes.

>>18071993
This. Anything is possible. All it takes is dedication and panache.
Being a nerdy fatass myself, I'm establishing a potential relationship with an 9/10 q t 3.14.
Protip - being a shoulder to cry on gets you a long way.

Don't tell her you're leaving, and you need to leave. You need to find a new place, or worst comes to worse just ditch your current rental and hide out in a hotel for a bit. Until then just weather the storm and act like nothungs wrong so she doesnt suspect anything. Tell your family or friends, someone you trust, the situation but not where you're going in case she grills them for info. Block her number or get a temporary phone, and block all her social media. Once you're safe where she can't find you, you can tell her you're done with her and don't want to be with her, and she needs to leave you alone. Just like that, don't give an explanation.

Alternatively you can make this a legal situation and try and get a restraining order. You've broken up with her dude, every breakup has a dumper and a dumpee and it's not up to the dumped to decide it isn't over. You're not in a relationship anymore, you are being hounded, stalked and harassed and you are in the right to say you want out of that. Let this psycho wreak all the havoc she wants, she can't have you.

>>18071976
Establish that your breakup is final. Stand by your word. If you need to, grab some friends and family to stand by you and make sure you don't cave in again.
Don't cave in.
If she insists on maintaining this toxic relationship, tell her you will file a restraining order. If she continues, act on it.
Cut off any and all contact with her, her family, and all her friends you don't call friends of your own.

>>18072009
Do i really need to leave?
>>18072025
By ''don't cave in'', you mean, don't stay home?


Also, i'm thinking of just texting the break up when she's home. Is that good?

>>18071972

it could just be a possible low intelligence yet relatively articulate form of autism.

I have never been diagnosed but I 1. never had friends 2. stim 3. have below average intelligence

I often wonder if I was diagnosed with mild retardation but my parents whom I live with hid it from me

>>18072029
Same. I mean people are polite with me, but sometimes the same people I talk to appear a lot more fluid and comfortable with others. In my childhood I was really isolated and different compared to people I know now.

I always wonder if they have a subconscious connection which they simply cannot reveal to anyone outside of themselves.

First of all, there's nothing wrong with retarded people. You have to own your failings as well as your strengths, because if you don't put value in yourself then you can't expect others to. Nobody is superior to other people.

I would liken being socially good to being good at a game or a sport. There's a skill and intelligence to it, but then if you sat a test against them you might do as well or better depending on what it is. It's too easy to develop a complex about this and trust me my friend this is not a road of thought you want to go down, full of fallacies and at best a complete waste of time.

No, it's illegal.

Jesus christ man.

"Hey I think me and you really get along anyway I can take you out on a date? Or are you accounted for?"

If you don't say it like a creep then its a perfectly normal thing to happen.

You need to become an alpha male first.

Nah, you're good. You tried something, she said no and you respected her boundaries.

>>18071881
>did I fuck up by moving too fast and going straight for the cunnilingus?
If you did, do you think she'd enthusiastically exclaim "YES!" when you ask her out?

Take it easy brother. If you plan to pop that cherry be sure you plan to marry her.

I'm curious, does your girlfriend have any issues with social anxiety? It might be that she doesn't want to assert her relationship status as it's subconsciously rude or something.

With all the details it does seem a little odd though... Have you asked her about it yet?

>>18071841
She probably doesn't consider you for a serious/long-term relationship (seeing as you're both young adults, this isn't surprising).

Young women are amazingly fickle creatures.

>>18071846
She does have very bad anxiety, and she's on Zoloft.

I have talked to her about it, and she somewhat acknowledged she didn't go to any effort to introduce me to anyone or help me into conversation with people i had never met, however remarked on how antisocial I am. We both agreed we would work on these things, however a similar situation has repeated itself.

We have another social event due up and I'm worried it will keep happening.