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>go to study group because oneitis is there
>it's 5 asians and me
>one girl needs help (not oneitis), asks me
>help her out
>she's qt , she's tiny, nerdy, and seems to be shy. Exactly my type
>work on problems together while the rest of the group goofs off
>she gets playful with me, touches my phone to be "annoying" and writes smilies on my paper
>find it easy to talk to her, don't have that nervousness I usually have.
>meanwhile I make 0 progress with oneitis, because I've ignored her by now
>qt asks me if she wants to study tomorrow, say sure
>leave, look her up on social media
>she has a bf
>mfw

Fuuuuck. What do?

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How do I stop obsessing over my bf? I seriously want to tie him up and keep him all to myself. What is wrong with me?

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I'm going to get my first taste of having my own place, but I need some help on what to consider.

See, I make 1240 a month on average. Now, the one place I want to rent from has apartments ranging from 700 flat (for a studio with 400 sq. feet around it), to 820 (for an actual apartment with 1 bedroom at 621 sq. feet.).

Now, I know I have to 'live within my means' for a while, but I need some space for a lot of shit in my life (such as old paintings, a bigass bed, quite a bit of clothes, and a couple dressers for example.)

From what I've seen, the studio would never fit that shit, yet the 1 bedroom will. I am deeply in love with the 1 bedroom, and I feel I need it the most.

Now, I'm not smart as them other rentin' folk, so ifya please tell me...how much would utilities on top of the 820 rent cost? Say, I'm not in my apartment regularly, yet when I am, I just turn on the lights and play the shit out of my computer, and sometimes use the oven. I'm only home 2 days a week. I barely use the gas range unless I want to deep-fry something (which is a rarity for me).

Now, for me, internet is my life, and I would love to pay for a high-speed service, in exchange for literally no cable. If you can also point me to good service providers as well, that would help a lot. I heard Comcast/Xfinity are poor choices, but Verizon is expensive as shit from what I see.

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Okay, so I'm three days into quitting weed, and I feel like absolute shit. For reference, I was a frequent but low dosage smoker - I've been a daily smoker for about seven months, but I'd only ever throw a little into a cigarette at night time to help me sleep, and even smoking daily it'd take me a month to use up a gram.

I feel like my life is more functional and together when I'm on weed than off it - I have more motivation to exercise and eat right, I'm much less stressed and pessimistic, I've got more motivation to go to work and actually do my job

However, there's a good chance work is going to start drug testing in the future, and weed is illegal in my country. Also my girlfriend does not approve because her mum is a major stoner.

Right now I can't sleep, im extremely angry, I can't stop sweating and I want to quit my job. How long til the negative side effects pass? I feel like utter shit. Headaches, nausea, extreme hunger, lethargy. I can't shake any of them. What do I do??? I'm beginning to wonder if quitting is worth it.

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I posted this originally in a thread, but I think it probably deserves its own..

Does anyone get extreme anxiety when it comes to the opposite sex?

I met this girl 2 years ago that I really liked, well when we started dating, around that exact same time I start to feel more and more anxious in life. I'd wake up feeling very tense and stressed in the morning and everything. Nothing bad ever happened between us btw to cause such anxiety. Things with her ended after a while and I went through a hellish amount of anxiety for a few weeks. Then magically I felt clear. Literally I felt like I was refreshed. It was weird. Anyways, I felt clear and clear for months and months. I met another girl, almost immediately after we started dating, I started waking up stressed and tense in the mornings.... and so on. I ended things with her because of the anxiety. She actually said she wanted to help me through it, but I couldn't. Things ended.

I don't think I'm capable of having a relationship. I'm honestly starting to believe an emotional connection with someone isn't healthy. Which sucks because I feel lonley. But fuck, I can't go through this weird anxiety anymore. It literally starts up as soon as it appears I'm about to enter a relationship. It has nothing to do with any specific girl. It just happens. I can be platonic with a girl, but as soon as things start going emotional... it really fucks me up

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How do you get over self-loathing for not having gone to a renowned university like CMU, MIT, or Ivy Leagues, and having a harder major

I went to a pretty big state university and did well getting a degree in CS. I got a high GPA and interned at a prop trading firm among all people who went to schools like that. Now I work as a software engineer at a "Big 4" and I make great 6 figure money straight out of school. More than most CS students at my school who I graduated with, at least the ones who I heard talking about it.

But I still hate myself and wish I majored in math or something while studying CS on the side, then got a master's in CS or something. I feel like a failure and I can never rectify it now. I almost want to get an online bachelor's in math just for my self respect

What do I do?

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Alright, this is my first ever post on here. Just want some advice on what is happening. Basically, my girlfriend is being distant with me, and she mentioned she is just trying to protect her heart. When we hang out in school, she just gives me cold shoulder for no apparent reason, and I just feel neglected. I'm just wondering if I should play hard to get, or is there anything else I can do.

P.S. Yesterday I learned about women's tests and how failing them affects their attraction towards you. I wonder if I can do something about that as well.

Thanks for all the help in advance

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I'm 19 and I didn't really know I was "gay" until recently. Honestly put it off as being bisexuality for two years but I realized that wasn't right.

Problem is I don't really know why I'm gay. I don't think I was gay before like, 14-15, never really felt any same sex feelings.

I've been reflecting on my life and kinda remember when I was really young taking a bath with another boy and kinda doing sexual stuff. Would that be enough to tip the scales? I also think I called a male 'beautiful' when I was 4.

I've been super skinny ever since puberty, being underweight this whole time. Maybe lack of testosterone or something?

Feel really uncomfortable about being gay. I don't think I really appear manly enough to my family or friends. Being 'out' would just make me feel weak or vulnerable.

I thought about having to introduce a boyfriend to my mom and dad and all I could think about is what they would be thinking, like "Oh our son gets fucked by that guy" which really freaked me out.

I also have had frequent arguments with my mother all the time since I was like, 9.

What do I do?

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Is college a meme if you want a blue collar job?

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I'm comfortable and confident around women. I can playfuly flirt with the cutest girls. They allow casual physical intimacy like cuddling, nuzzling and even light pecking/biting. I havent actually slept with any girl though. Is this bad? Why am I unable to seriously ask some of these girls out despite thr closeness? The amount of flirting I do some make people think I'm dating these girls.

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My gf is coming over within the next hour and I plan to break up with her after a lot of thought. We have been dating for 3.5 years and it will completely blindside her. I am shaking in my boots right now and I don't know if I can do it.

Motivate/convince me?

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Hopefully nobody from work finds this...my name is Tom, 3 years ago I graduated from collage and moved to California to take up a job as financial advisor. By the time I had arrived in California every where I went the area had been gentrified. Lgbt marches ran rampant in the streets. Soon I found my self involved in identity politics and rights activist movements. I enjoyed it. But soon all my libral friends got dumber...and dumber...until finally they couldn't make solid arguments for their cause, people made a mockery of the calm movements we did. Under the surface I realized that what I was doing was stupid. I was sick of being around self righteous women. I was sick of being told I was privileged even after I had helped the cause.
I was sick of being around the stupidest people I'd ever known. Who couldn't make an argument with out harassing and screaming at those who opposed. So...I made my revenge...my...addiction...
Believe it or not. Sjws are still women. And lonely ones at that. They trusted me and soon I was making a jest at their power, they wanted to put me down? I'd dick them down!
I'd start by pretending I was interested in whatever libral nonsense they were preaching. Then I kissed up to them, and praised them unconditionally, finally, we'd go club and talk very progressively. Until finally the moment was right! I'd take them to a motel PLOW THE SHIT OUT OF THEM and take lots of pictures, left them Hurting and wet. No condom.
It didn't matter, hairy, fat, tattoos, purple hair I got them all!!! Over and over I nailed them to my list of dishonored sjw, while they preached of female superiority I showed them who the real master was. Many fell to their knees, oh how they bled and sucked and moaned until I tossed them aside.
I destroyed them, and they didn't even know it.
I fucked 27 Sjw girls. But now they're on to me. This is my manifesto. Call me a villain or a hero. I've won my battle.

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Hey adv. I am a 21 year old male with really weird fetishes. I would like to do my wild shit now that I am young but I find it difficult to find people of the like. I want to participate in a gangbang or a mfm. I'm not ugly at all either.

Serious post.

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I really want to be in a relationship (almost desperately) but have absolutely no luck. I absolutely cannot find any single women that I'm interested in.

>Male, 22
>Break up with last girlfriend in December
>She gave me a bullshit reason to get out, devastated for a couple days but realized we weren't terribly compatible anyway
>Decided I just wanted sex because my relationships typically end badly
>Pimp out Tinder
>Match with a girl who lives out of town, meet her at a bar
>Have pretty good sex with her, agree to be friends with benefits
>Meet up with her again a week later, have a fantastic night of intimacy, sex, and just hanging out
>Find out a few days later she was getting serious with another guy while we were being fuckbuddies
>They go official, I'm actually really hurt
>Realized that I actually just want a girlfriend again
>Try online dating, no luck
>Try Tinder again, no luck (really just not good at online dating)
>Maybe girls I see at work? They're all either teenagers or way out of my age range
>Maybe there'll be a girl in the cast of the play I'm doing
>A few that I get along with, all married in their early twenties
>Don't want to go back to school just to date
>Everyone I get along with turns out to already be in a relationship
>Anyone I match with on Tinder that I end up liking more than just sexually lives hours away
>My desire to date is starting to make it difficult to enjoy my solo hobbies
>Going to a local bar with friends, one of them explicitly said her goal was to help me find someone
>Know that putting too much thought into it will just make it less likely to happen

I want sex, I want intimacy, I want a new close friend, I want that passion back in my life. I can't find any way to get it though. It's not even like I lack confidence. I'm physically attractive, charismatic, spit some decent game, and I'm good in bed. Hell, I've actually had cold approach success before. But I can't find anyone.

Where can I go to look?

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I'm 20, I don't drink or smoke weed, just moved to a new town (knoxville) (parents retired and moved, took a year hiatus off school to help them sell their house, and move out). This is my second semester, first one since my hiatus, I'm a CS student. So I have about another year and a summer before I transfer.

I've been here since October of 2016, in November I got an internship at a library doing sysadmin stuff, and also volunteered at a computer repair organization that repairs computers and donates them too under privileged families, and school systems lacking in computers. When I left my home town, I left behind a large friend group, and a relationship of over 3 years.

Since I've been here, I haven't met a single person my age. My hobbies include cars, specifically autocrossing cars, but a lot of the autocrossers here are boomers, or guys in their late 20s. I am huge into programming, been coding since I was 15. Vidya obviously. Snowboarding/wakeboarding. and Ice Hockey.

In my classes, pretty much everyone is older than me (or a complete autist), so it's really hard to relate to these people. I need some guy friends

Also, it's been 3 years since I've had to talk to a girl with the intention of picking up a girl. There's a pretty cute girl in my class, but we all pretty much sit in the same seats every day, and I sit 3 rows behind her. Not only would it be weird to just suddenly sit next to her, she gets mouth breathed on by CS autists all day long. Although she does struggle in class, and I have a 95%.

but other than her, I've matched a few girls on tinder. One was all over me until we wanted to meet, I wanted to just grab some coffee, but she invited me over to smoke weed, I used to smoke weed, but I don't anymore (pursuing an internship at a lab operated by DoD). So she ghosted me when I told her that. (1/2)