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Gf can't stand my father, this is literally tearing me apart, I don't know what to do, she doesn't want to come home anymore because of my dad, I feel worthless, it's hard to stand my dad even for me cause he is always saying stupid inadequate things to everybody, I really want to leave home, but can't help but to feel like a traitor, I can't feel comfortable with my family or my gf, I'm really considering the idea of suicide.
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>>18081744
Wut, why would you kill yourself over this?
Are you and your gf living with your dad?
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>>18081751
No, I live with parents, the thing is this makes me feel the worst piece of shit in the world, my ideals of family and relationship are dead.
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>>18081755
Sounds like it's time for you to move out. Get your own place if you can, so you're not stuck with your gf in case things change in the future. Everyone moves out of their parent's house eventually - there's no need to feel like a traitor.
You'll be okay anon, it seems stressful now, but it's actually pretty common to have tension when living with parents
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This happened a few days ago:
we went to my wife's parent's house, she has a sister close to her age (30) we were watching a movie and both of them fell asleep 1/3 into the movie. my wife got up and went to her sister's room to sleep. her sister stayed on the couch. her snoring didn't bother me because my wife snores also. while watching the movie in low volume to not disturb her sleep, I heard her talk in her sleep. she said my name and smile but she was pretty much still deep asleep. she did this again and said a few broken sentences. at this point I went over and put a blanket on her. she kept snoring for a while. I started ignoring her for a while but then she said " (my name) I love you...." I thought it might have been a joke she was playing. but recently we went back to watch a movie again their house. my wife fell asleep and so did she, she said a few words but nothing like last time. she woke up because she got mail on her phone, my wife was still asleep. my wife then talked in her sleep while we were both there and she was just as clear as her sister. I told her "you talk in your sleep like that" she looked at me and said "that clearly?" I nodded yes. I have not told her what she said in her sleep, I don't plan on telling her unless she remember what she was dreaming, but does this mean she has feelings for me?
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>>18081715
Once while camping my father awoke the find me staring at him bolt upright and shouting, "I'm not going to let you get in the way of my train! Now stand aside!" I do not own a train nor have I ever thought or felt my father got in my way. I have been told I regularly say odd things in my sleep by other people.
Her words aren't evidence of anything. Best to put it out of your mind.
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>>18081715
Unless she starts flirting with you or something it probably didn't mean anything, and it's best to just forget about it.
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Dreams are fucking ridiculous. Even if she dreamed that she loved you, it means jack shit.
I dreamt of killing my loved ones once. It's bullshit; id never even come close to doing that. It means nothing.
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why are my thoughts so violent? 2017-02-26 12:45:35 Post No.18081614
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i dont want my friends knowing about this, so i'm putting it here.
im in highschool, im a girl, and something about me is off. im not popular, but i still get along with people, and i have a nice circle of friends.
lately, i've been thinking more and more about hurting people. This varies between socking them in the face, to bringing a gun to school someday. other times, i just want to kidnap someone, and just... use them up.
its disgusting. i hate this. i HATE this. i dont want to hurt anymore,, i'm on the edge of going back to my middle school scratching habits. i dont want these sick thoughts, i dont think i'll actually do anything but... what if.
i need help. i need to talk to someone, im too afraid to confess though. i need to be locked up.
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You're a high schooler. That's why.
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Stop being such a pussy about it. Everyone wants to hurt people a bit. Just keep it a fantasy and find a guy who wants you to hurt him. I love being scratched up and bitten during fucking, though most of the time I still want to dominate. Also exercise and do boxing or something to get it out. Use this rage and natural instinct in healthy ways and stop being such a pussy about it. You are over thinking everything.
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>>18081614
Once knew a rather violent girl. Though most of this come through sexually, its not necicarilly a bad thing. Just fund creative outlets.
Nothing wrong with getting rough in bed. In her words, sex is war
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Starve, binge, starve. Stop? 2017-02-26 12:45:04 Post No.18081611
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Starve, binge, starve. Stop?
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If this triggers you, stop reading please. I don't encourage what I'm doing at all.
Dear 4chan,
I've been on this same fucking cycle for the past two months. I haven't lost or gained a single pound. I starve for two days, and on the third day, no matter what, I binge.
This morning, I had problems standing up without getting dizzy, so I drank a bottle of water and ate a small apple to sustain myself.
But, thirty minutes ago, I binged on 4 pieces of small pizza, 4 microwaveable egg rolls, and a box of Chinese takeout. I also drank chemicals (diet soda).
I feel like just letting myself go, because it's 'impossible'. I know it isn't, because other people achieved it. So why can't I? Because I'm too weak willed?
I don't know what to do anymore.
Can anyone tell me how to stop a binge head-on?
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is this your diet plan?
you need to eat substantial meals at regular times and get some exercise
there's no point to simply not eating
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>>18081611
Sounds like you have low blood sugar levels.
This is a bad idea.
If you really think you food is the problem, have yourself a big breakfast, and average lunch and a small dinner. And get yourself some exercise.
Going about it how you are is almost certainly going to destroy your health
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>If this triggers you
Honey this is 4chan, not tumblr. We're good.
>weak willed
Yes.
You gotta train it. It took me some time too, and if you fail to maintain, you lose it.
Around may of last year I had a good rhythm going. I was alternating days of fasting and >500 calories. Over that summer, I binged too much because I was at home and my parents were getting suspicious.
Then when I got back to school, I found I couldn't fast anymore.
I'm almost back to that point again, but not quite. Once you build your strength to resist, don't lose it.
When you start eating is when you get in to dangerous territory, because thats when your will is going to be tested.
What I started doing was daily grocery shopping. I only bought what I was gonna eat that day. When I ate it, there was nothing else in the house to eat, and it's far easier to will yourself not to get up and go to the store or to call for take out than it is to will yourself not to eat food that is right in front of you.
I also started drinking a fuck ton of water right before eating. Just fill the shit out of your stomach with water first, so when you eat the food you feel like "I'm gonna throw up full".
It'll slow you down at least. Try not to pee until you've really put the food down.
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Why is calling someone a cuck the new thing? Like just randomly as an insult or something. My friends are so cringey with it. Its basically 6 people and 4 are virgins who never even touched a girl and when i hangout with them they just start screaming and calling each other cucks. Like honestly its the stupidest thing i've heard from them just a bunch of guys calling each other a cuck.
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>>18081521
Tell them to lay off the /pol/
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>>18081521
(((they))) took faggot away from us so it's been replaced by the very emasculating cuck
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Cuck isn't new to 4chan, but last night I was drinking with some total normies and they called some guy a cuck. I was astonished.
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I think I'm starting to accept that I'm going to be alone /adv/.
I just transferred to a new community college, and the only friend I made is this cute chick. But even then she's on a different scene from the things I like so there isn't a lot in common.
>She has a son
>she's like 4 years older than me
>I'm turning 21 in a few months
>doesn't really pla vidya, her most advanced system is a ps2
>And she's more outgoing than me
When I'm home my brothers try making conversation with me, but honestly sometimes I'd just wish they'd stop talking and leave me alone to watch anime or play vydia on my PC. Or just to simply be quiet so I can do my assignments in peace. I don't hate them though, I love them a lot. But I guess I've been living with them for so long that I'm kinda tired I guess.
I think the only people I'm ok with having a decently sized conversation are my parents. My mom and my dad are two people I can honestly have a conversation with, and not feel annoyed.
I won't say that I'm a neckbeard or a beta. Even though I'm more of an indoor person, I do worry about the way I look so I do make the effort to dress nice.
So here's the question. Am I really doomed to single forever? I'm already planning on getting a degree in electrical engineering, so I don't think money would be much of an issue later on. So girls usually pile up for a guy with a decently sized wallet and his own place right? Or am I thinking to anti-socially here? If that's the case, I'd honestly rather just kill myself. The thought of getting with a girl just because she digs my money makes me depressed.
Maybe meet chicks at video and anime conventions? That's how I'd meet somebody who's as antisocial as me and with the same hobbies, right? How fucked is my thinking /adv/?
Would living my life happily isolated from people really make me doomed to be single forever?
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Try more, think less faggot
Thinking is for after you've tried
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>>18081501
Could you please explain anon?
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If your friend is at all into you, have a go at it. You won't be a video game playing man child forever. Grow up already and marry the woman.
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How do you text girls over long period of time?
For example, I match a few girls on Tinder but seemingly when we try to arrange stuff it always falls on next week or more. I try to play it like I'm not thinking about it much and when the day comes I get no response or unmatched.
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lmao at that pic.
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You have to maintain a level of interest in the woman's mind. Do this by snap chatting shit every now and then and send a few texts convos
Also try to make the date as close as possible
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>>18081473
Being a teenager is texting a lot
Being an adult is realizing that texts are for setting up meetings where you can do this thing called....TALKING
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>See girl way out of my league on facebook
>Seems really familiar for some reason, also dozens of mutual friends
>Send friend request, she accepts
>Ask her where I might know her from
>Turns out we worked at the same place 8 years ago, she remember me really well even though I don't remember her at all
>Talk a little, but she is super busy with exams so I let her study in peace
>Talk to her again a week later, still in her exam month, she seems to be having a rough time so I let her study in peace
>Talk to her again a couple of weeks later, still on her exams, she seems interested in talking but I am busy at work, so I let her study in peace
>Her exams finally ending in a couple of days
Did I already blow any chance I might have had with this girl by stepping back so much? She was way out of my league already, and I feel like I may have hurt my non-existing chance
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You had no chance to begin with.
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Don't be retarded. Try it out when you guys are free. Get to know her again.
If you really need to tell her you had a lot going on back then and don't remember a lot at all from those years.
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>>18081464
> girl way out of my league
Nope.
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Do I have to actually get a law certificate or something to become a lawyer or can I just set up a website and get a suit and start getting clients?
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>>18081396
Yes, you need to be certified, and you need a separate certification for each state you practice in.
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>Do I have to actually get a law certificate or something to become a lawyer
No, you don't. Just watch every episode of Better Call Saul at least three times and you're good to go.
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>>18081396
Try the latter and see what happens. Have fun navigating the court system
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Can I join the army as an officer if I have (corrected) club feet, or is it all over buddy boyo? I would have master's degree by then.
PS not in the US
I'd like to do something to become a manlier, more mature human being.
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Bomp
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>>18081269
you can literally join the military without being able to pass the ASVAB, which the passing score is 35 out of 110 c. 2017
Long story short, there's a waiver for everything
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>>18081269
The military doesn't make you manlier. If anything, it infantilizes you by putting you in a controlled setting where all decisions are made for you and all needs are supplied to you.
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I'm 24, and my parents are giving me an ultimatum. I paused my studies because I ended hating the path I was taking, and I don't have a solid job (I work as a freelance, but this is not enough to be independent).
The point is that I don't really know what to do with my life. I like lots of different careers, but all of them are too expensive for me right now. I must get a job, necessarily, but things are pretty fucked here. I also considered the possibility of working abroad, but it's not going to happen soon.
Anybody else in this situation? Advices?
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>>18081152
24 is way too old to be living like that, what have you been doing your whole life?
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>>18081152
Get a job in the service sector doing some kind of menial work for basic pay. Save up money and research different majors and job types (you don't have to go to college but it may help the decision making process). After this, begin researching the processes needed to work abroad and make it happen.
You're in a rut right now but you'll be okay.
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Join the army, I guess.
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How to handle a wedding situation? 2017-02-25 08:16:00 Post No.18080961
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This sunday i will be at a wedding with people I haven't seen in 9 months, and I'm wondering how I should handle this situation.
The wedding is for my Taekwondo Master's Son. I've had major experiences (12+ years of my life) practicing taekwondo with both the Master and his whole family. To them, I am someone who is important and extremely memorable. Under this master, I got to a master degree myself (4th dan), won a national tournament, and was state champion for 3 years. I was also the teacher for the majority of the classes at this taekwondo dojang. My parents and the master basically became family, and I had dinner and even visited his house frequently. I've known his wife and sons for many years, so I was extremely important to them and vic versa.
The situation got complicated after a college national tournament. I tried my hardest in that tournament, but after I didn't have any desire to pursue Taekwondo anymore. It just disappeared and TKD just felt normal and boring to me. My mistake came when I never went to practice again and left without a word. I didn't say goodbye or that I'm taking a break; a week after the tournament I just left without a trace.
I got the invite to this wedding and I couldn't refuse. The problem is that the master, his sons, nor anyone from the studio hasn't seen me in ~9 months. How do I handle this situation? I know they'll ask me where I've been, but I don't really know how to answer that nor answer the question "will you come back".
What do /adv/?
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Self bump. PLZ I NEED HELP
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When you get there
> "Hey guys, long time no see."
> "Haha, yeah. Where have you been anon?
You don't owe anyone an apology, but...
> "Haha, yeah sorry. Life has been crazy and I just stopped doing TKD altogether."
> "No worries man, we've all been there. Nice to see you're doing well anon."
I imagine you're family to them and they just miss you. They will understand your situation like the rest of us on /adv/.
> "Are you planning on coming back, anon?"
> "Probably not, I'm busy with university and I have other ambitions in life that I want to pursue now."
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If you were as important as you say you were, apologies are in order.
>It's been a long time, I'm sorry for not getting into contact with you all sooner.
Just play the part of an old friend. Life swept you up, and you had things to attend to. I don't think anyone will be very upset with you.
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So let me start off by mentioning that about half a year ago, my uncle moved into our house (three bedroom condo, with, including him, now five people in it), because he got a divorce. Initially, our family was pretty supportive of him. We tried to help, get his situation sorted, all that kind of stuff.
As the months went by though, he began having issues. The person he was with was particularly vindictive, and stretched the trials and all that out as far as they could take them, and this caused my uncle a lot of stress, which he's unfortunately started taking out on my family.
Nothing violent yet, but he's been getting increasingly emotionally unstable. He's flipped me off, told me "fuck you," and called me a prick. Now, I'm an adult, I can take a few names, but he's begun to act this way around my mother, and my 80 year old grandmother, which just isn't acceptable.
Both of them agree this is a problem, and frankly, at this point, I just want him out of the house. The issue is though, through all of this, he hasn't exactly been paying rent. He has no money, due to lawyer fees and a bunch of other bullshit. On top of his regular job, he's been doing a bit of Uber on the side, so I know he's not exactly flush with cash.
I don't know where he would go, and I'm not sure it's exactly right to toss someone obviously going through some shit, out on the streets. What I'm worried about though is escalation. Our family has had some mental issues in the past, and he's a big guy (yes, for me. he's an inch or two taller, and about 150 pounds heavier), and I can't always be there if something goes down.
Just the other night, I came home to find out he suddenly decided he didn't want to talk to me or my mother anymore. I wasn't even in the same city when he figured I had apparently wronged him. It's Saturday, and he's still acting like this.
Keep in mind, this guy is over 40 years old.
Anyway, any of you folks know how to deal with unwanted house guests like this?
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Call the cops OP.
My step uncle was living in a house with his mother. He didn't treat her well so all the siblings got together and moved her into a home letting uncle still stay in the house that is technically grandmas. So what does uncle do with his own place? He invites some crack whore to live with him and does a bunch of drugs. He then rents out the garage which is a separate building with no electricity or running water to some guy to live in. We called the cops and kicked all their asses out.
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Gonna give this a bump to see if anyone thinks police should be involved.
Also, for what it's worth, his ex was a druggie. Prescription stuff, but still.
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what you do is explain to him how grateful he should be. family is blood yes, but family is also how you treat those who reach out to you in times of need
that os why good friends can be family
so once again, make it as clear as day how grateful he should be that he even gets the clmfort of staying with you, how nice it is of you to not charge him a dime
stress or no stress you talk he should talk out and realize things could be worse
so once again. make his dumb ungrateful ass understand
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>graduated from university almost 2 years ago
>for three years I've wasted all of my free time on internet browsing
>for at least 3 times a week in the past 1.5 years I've had junk food and told myself it was the last time and believed myself
>same as above but with coffee
How do I start working really hard and avoid eating junk? My procrastination has been immense. Is the answer really just, "Just do it"? How do other people do it?
It seems like everyone lives an easy life compared to me. Either they're a female, chad, or some generic normie who is accepted by everyone and has a support structure. I am ugly and have bad social skills and no social life so I will never have any sort of support structure.
I always feel so paranoid and frustrated because there are ten trillion books / subjects people say you have to learn or else you're stupid. "You can't read anything without reading 1000 pages of boring as fuck Plato, enjoying it, and then wanking over how incredible it was and how smart we are for loving him!"
Now replace reading / Plato with programming / (SICP, lisp) or reading / (tonnes of stuff). Not only do I get annoyed by this, I can clearly see that they're talking shit, yet I still feel constantly cucked because I haven't read that book etc.
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>>18080416
The Plato thing is bullshit. Guarantee you most of the people who claim to be well versed are either lying or had to for school.
Anyways, you're probably depressed with enabling parents. Welcome to the millennial experience. We're all slowly dying in our parent's houses.
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>>18080416
>How do I start working really hard and avoid eating junk?
there's an infinite number of answers to this, because we are all so uniquely different. generally, you need to want the end results of working hard and not eating junk, and you need to understand that those results can only come from working hard and not eating junk.
it might help you to make a list outlining the pros and cons of being lazy or eating bad foods. you'll quickly find there are virtually no pros, and you will have a good think about why you do this stuff.
if you don't already exercise at least 3 hours a week, fucking start. stick with it for a month or so and it'll turn into fun instead of a chore. this is huge and if there's one thing you take away from this I hope it's that.
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>>18080416
>How do other people do it?
Because they're not fucking spoiled by their parents!
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>be me
>married man early 20's
>go to casino with wife
>fun night at first
>drink a little too much
>alcohol gets the best of me and I black out
>wake up the next morning and on the way home my wife says she wants a divorce
>apparently I told her I was gay and raped by a preacher as a child
>I also said a bunch of other unintelligible nonsense that terrified her
>she no longer trusts me
What do I do to make it up to her?
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>>apparently I told her I was gay and raped by a preacher as a child
You gay? If not, prove it by fucking her brains out.
If you are gay, get the divorce.
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In short, you had a big fight and wife threatens with a divorce?
Ah, it's OK. Just be sweet. Don't state the facts or try to find a logical issue to resolve the problem. Women are not creatures thinking it has any value. Appeal to her emotions "You are my better half. If you go away, I'll be destroyed", "I want to realize our dreams together". Then say sorry and write off alcohol for a little while.
You might give her some breathing room during the next hours though.
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>>18080121
I'm not gay. But I was raped but not by a preacher it was my bro or when I was like 5. I was literally blacked out and talking nonsense. I just terrified her and it seriously wasn't me saying that shit it was an alcoholic tangent that I have no recollection of.