My anxiety and symptoms are driving me crazy i need some HELP
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>>18084109
Hey Anon. How long have you been feeling like this? I also suffer but not as bad as I used to. Mine was mainly health anxiety. What kind do you suffer with. Give more details please.
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I seem to get a lot of symptoms like back pain and stomach discomfort and when i ever go out to say like a store i tend to get anxious and start to panic a bit
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>>18084176
I would think the back pain is due to tense muscles form not feeling relaxed so nothing to worry about there. Also with regards your stomach that is always in knots when anxious. Just take things slowly and do a little bit at a time. Just go to the shop for say one thing and come straight home. You could maybe also talk to a doctor about this who may be able to help? Is this something you have been feeling for years or just recently?
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Need solid method to spot and seduce women with daddy issues.
Give me your best.
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Be tall, rich, handsome, and confident.
Works every fucking time.
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>>18084102
>Be tall, rich, handsome, and confident
Not women in general. Talking about daddy issues. You don't need the first 2 options in order to harvest that crop.
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Hey /adv/, kind of a long post.
Broke up with this girl last year, thought she was pretty boring and had zero personality, and i was kind of settling i guess. She was my first, I'm 25. The breakup was far from amicable, I had to study and she was annoying and controlling as fuck, so I had to do it. She did not take it well.
Barely talk after that, just send a couple of messages to her, she initiated it always. Eventually she stopped, wrote me a big email about how much the breakup hurt her and how I was the only guy she ever loved (shes dated 3 other people) . I didn't respond, cause I was pretty much done with her.
Meet our common friend a month later, he tells me she fucked some dude off a dating app, and she regretted it. I'm fucking mad, was close to calling her and telling her she's a whore and shit. Didn't. Felt miserable for a day or two, drank a bit.Mostly got over it cause I was never going to see her again.
Grandpa died around that time, at his wake I lost it and cried like a bitch. On the flight back home started thinking of ex and how bad I was to her to just end things suddenly. I couldn't sleep the next few days.
Contacted her just to apologize and tell her how much she meant to me. Things went well, its been 2 months and we're dating again, shes still boring as fuck, but shes not controlling and annoying and respects my space. We are communicating better than ever before.She says she loves me and wants to spend her life with me.
Still can't let go of the fact that she fucked some other guy and that she's capable of doing shit like this again. How do I let go of this, I know its stupid and I do like her, but every time I think of her with some guy, it fucks me up and I just want to end it. I have talked it through with her and she genuinely regrets doing it and she did it just to feel something cause the breakup fucked her up. But I don't want to believe her, and still resent her for it.
What do I do /adv/?
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>>18084067
>Broke up with this girl last year
Stopped reading there, I don't have time for another 'how do I get over this girl?' thread
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>>18084067
Give her an incredible hard time for fucking this dude, make her consciousness feel so bad that she would feel happy to be nothing but your exclusive submissive cum dumpster, while you fuck other woman. The feeling of empowerement is priceless.
Trust me, I'm a certified sadist.
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If you care about her, stay with her. If you don't, move on because it'll eat you up.
People have sex, man, you gotta get over that. Life isn't like your anime where a girl saves herself for you.
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I'm going to no fap for Lent. 40 days without porn or orgasms. I also do not have any other release. Haven't had a gf in years.
Lent begins Wednesday. Any advice on how I can do this? I'm scared that I'll turn into a drooling, leering pervert.
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>>18084057
What is the point in actually doing this though? What will that benefit you or anyone? Why go without something that is perfectly normal. Give up something else. Maybe give up your idea of no fap and jerk more than ever.
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>>18084057
>how I can do this
by staying busy with other shit and not thinking about it
it's easier than you'd think
maybe not very smart if you are in a stressful enviroment
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>>18084057
1. Don't watch porn and jerk off, but also don't focus on nofap as an idea, because you will relapse just to keep coming back. Let go.
2. Open yourselves about it with other people. Find a therapist if you have to.
3. Give your dick better things to focus on. Salsa classes and clubbing work for me. Looking at real girls is helpful, but more important is that I'm pouring all my sexual energy into dancing.
>Met grill
>Cool friendship, great chemistry, good conversation
>She liked me, I liked her
>Dated for a short time
>She starts to tell me how she wants to fuck some dudes
>dafuq.exe
>Asked her if she still likes me (just to confirm stuff)
>"Nope, I was just confused"
>I accept it, say it's K no problem and just changed topic
>Never talked to me again.
It's been over 2 months since I saw her/talked to her. Everything ended when she told me she was confused, she felt awkward and never talked again.
I miss the friendship we had, it was cool, has a great musical taste. I didn't said anything about she no longer liking me. I was really cool about it and just moved on.
Is it a bad idea to start talking to her again? I'm not interested on anything else but friendship. What do you think?
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>>18084045
Yes.
She's either crazy or a bitch.
Most likely both.
Why torture yourself?
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>>18084060
True, thanks for stopping me, it was indeed a crappy idea.
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>>18084045
Don't talk to her, man. I do this shit with my ex when I'm bored and it causes more problems than it solves.
Food is supposed to be fuel, right? Then why does eating immediately put me to sleep?
It's frustrating. Going to lunch or dinner with someone either means a long nap or a bunch of coffee to keep going. I generally only eat right before bed.
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Eat right all day. Resting after a meal aids digestion.
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>>18083932
Have you tried not eating, retard?
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Eat things with a low glycemic index, and eat in smaller quantities.
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How long to wait for committment? 2017-02-26 08:28:01 Post No.18083923
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I've been "dating" this guy since November (We are both 24). He lives about an hour away and we see each other about 2 weekends out of the month.
I really like him, and he seems to like me (Takes me out, took me to dinner on V day, always texting me) but he won't commit to an exclusive relationship which is what I want.
Is 5 months too long, will it ever happen? Or should I think about moving on?
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After 5 months, he knows whether or not he wants to commit. Talk to him about it and if he's dismissive, avoidant or non-committal, then move on
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>>18083925
This is what I was thinking.
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anything else?
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Any advice for my hands 2017-02-26 08:10:20 Post No.18083852
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So I have two marks on my hands , this one and on my index finger which looks the same . I'm not exactly sure what it is I've been shaving the hard skin of the marks , moisturising the marks frequently and washing the marks regularly . I've had them for a couple months and I think they developed when I picked a mosquito bite, and the scab started to turn into a lump .If you could give me some advice on what these marks might be and how I would be able to treat them it would help me massively .
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>>18083852
Minor infection.
Leave it alone
Don't pick at it
Use some MgSO3 paste to reduce the size of it
Accept that you're probably going to have a minor scar on your hand from it forever.
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Its a scar dumb cunt
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>>18083863
Thank you
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>Tl;dr my GF's ex is a some horrific yogi-chad fusion
My girlfriend has always described her ex(Her first) as this manipulative, unstable, fat and pathetic guy that shattered her confidence to stay with him for as long as she did, over two years in fact. Only 3 months of which he considered her his girlfriend.
A big part of my relationship has been noticing the damage he's done to my gf and navigating around it. Of course there's enough good stuff to make it just feel part and parcel of a relationship... However
>Find out from my girlfriend that he messaged her with an apology for the ways he treated her
>She showed me the conversation, and I could tell she was trying to hurt him with the things she said. She didn't outright ignore him.
>Used me to try and make him jealous
>He kept denying it was an attempt to get back in her pants and just something he felt he had to do
>Fast forward two months and me and my gf are out shopping and we bump into him,
>He literally says, "Wow, you look amazing," and my girlfriend doesn't even shoot him down, she just nods when he asked if I'm her boyfriend
>He left literally after smiling and shaking my hand(I regret it) on some quasi honor motive.
>The rest of the day my girl was quiet as hell, no conversation happened without me pushing it
It honestly felt like some social horror/comedy skit, he's taller than me by enough that I was looking up at him, he's built as hell and has a massive beard vs my I'll-start-gym-next-week body and that's-a-lot-of-money-for-a-trim haircut.
If it weren't for the quietness on her part I'd feel a little self-conscious and move on but this... Am I fucked /adv/ what do I do?
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You shouldn't care too much.
Apparently she's not at all interested in him, which would be bothering, so that's good
He probably won't bother you much more, if he didn't make a scene when he met you i think you're okay
And go to the gym if you really want to, silly
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She thinks of him when you two fuck.
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>>18083853
Wew lad
/Adv/ leading the charge in the refinement of the old bait and switch.
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GUIDELINES:
Before you post a question, check the FAQ to see if it's already been answered.
Keep questions short for more answers.
If you're not going to like honest answers, don't ask your question.
And please no derailing arguments.
FAQ:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>What do girls/guys think about <an insecurity including, but not limited to: looks, physical traits, personality traits, virginity or otherwise lack of dating experience>
There is no one answer. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practising and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever.
>I like someone. What do I do?
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. You're overthinking it.
>XYZ happened. Interpret this for me please
We're not in their head, we don't know.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing.
>Someone has made it super clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No.
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>.
>Brandon, that guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships, that guy who says monogamy is dead and fart guy
Fuck off
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To guys,
Is gagging on dick annoying/gross or is it actually a turn on like its portrayed in porn?
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>>18083768
it depends on the guy.
im bisexual and when a girl gags on dick its a turn off to me. but when a guy does it, its hot. i think its because i dont really like dominating women, but i do liek dominating men. i love smacking a guy and spitting on him, but with a woman i like things cute, as innocent as possible, etc.
with straight guys it would just be a preference. some like it, some dont. it depends on the kind of guy they are.
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>>18083768
Straight guy. I think it's attractive. If anything it shows you're doing your best at sucking dick so it's not like anyone can fault you for it.
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I'm getting into drums and don't know how to play any rudiments. Are they important can it help me with speed
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First you need rhythm, then you can start focusing on speed.
A good way to learn both is have a metronome (online ones work just as well) and play (right and left)
RLRR-LRLL on repeat on the snare. After a while, change the RLRR-LRLL to other parts of the drumset. Get the rhythm of it first though.
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Get a drum machine and good samples.
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You need posture, proper kit placement, basic rhythm, and definitely rudiments.
If you're a beginner you probably already play too fast anyway.
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I'm curious to know about what happens when you swipe right or like on tinder. Does the other person get a notification straight away or does it take a few hours or days before they see it. I've seen a few things about the servers for tinder being overworked so could it take a while for it to get across. I have had 2 bots on it who replied straight away withing seconds of liking and I must of liked a few hundred different accounts and not 1 has accepted or liked back. I wouldn't call myself unattractive. I've got a decent style and good taste.
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They get a notification if you super like them or if you have a mutual like.
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>>18083610
No notification unless they also swipe right. It can affect the order that users appear in your stack. Possible matches used to go straight to the top, but I believe they changed that to make it near the top rather than the exact top to prevent guys who knew how to play the system; play the system.
Bots are common. Most users just want a self esteem boost and not a date. It's not really a good tool for meeting girls. Nor is any online dating site.
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I have a tiner question, I got a notification saying I got a message from a girl, but when I open up my tinder, I suddenly see theres no new message what so ever, is this a glitch? Or did the girl in question unmatch me or something after sending a message?
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Redpill me on SSRI's. Are they worth it and able to be used long term? Are they affordable with insurance? If so, which one is the best?
The reason why I ask is that I found myself with some social anxiety that I would like to get rid of. It used to be bad but I started meditating 20 minutes a day and lifting weights and now it's much much better but it feels like it's still there. Like I feel like I can talk to anyone after just a drink or two but at baseline I feel like something is holding me back.
Am I exageratting my anxiety here? My goal ultimately is to be able to socialize with anyone including strangers, and I feel like SSRI's will help because my roommate is on it and he's amazing at talking to people.
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Also i'm not depressed or anything I consider myself a generally happy person, it's just that talking to people is hard sometimes
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I don't know what differential equations are
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I've been on them before, and I've personally not seen any difference in the way I interact with people. Actually, I believe that SSRIs have made me more inclusive than before.
They aren't supposed to help you talk to people. If you couldn't interact with people before, some pills won't fill in for years of missed social networking.
Results vary from person-to-person, but I've had other friends on SSRIs with similar results. Even my therapist advised against them, and recommended me to do CBT instead.
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Sounds like a self confidence issue. Pills can make you less inhibited, but dealing with the potential side effects isn't worth it in your case.
I took different antidepressants for about 8 years because I wasn't a functional person and they helped me achieve a baseline and get to a point where I didn't need them anymore. I caution people against pills unless they're in absolutely dire straits; it's an easy answer, but easy answers often aren't the best ones. It's normal to be uncomfortable with unfamiliar things like striking up conversations, just do it a lot and you'll stop caring. Like a less professional exposure therapy.
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If I'm roommates with my best friend(s), will we end up hating or not liking each other as much?
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Yes, No, Maybe, Maybe Not
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>>18083475
basically this. it just depends. some end up growing closer. some end up becoming more distant.
it really just depends on how you vibe in living with each other.
i moved in with friends and lost them (though they were admittedly shite from the start and i just ignored it cuz i was new in town) and i became friends with people i lived with.
it all just depends.
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>>18083468
My friend told me that these friends he knows who are best friends moved in together and they began hating each other really hard. He said their lifestyles just didn't match, like one of them had problems with his girlfriend and it affected the other.
I'm sure tho it doesn't always not work out.
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How do you avoid suicide/negative thoughts?
Tell me your tips pls
I need help
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Try meditation
Also replace your negative thoughts with positive thoughts, i know it's easier said than done and sounds like bullshit but it works over time
Don't stay alone too much, see some friends once in a while
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>>18083289
If you stop identifying with being a victim, all self-criticism turns either into funny salty noise or helpful advice.
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>>18083289
First I learn to accept those thoughts, those are all part of me too.
With that, I began to spin it into a more positive/hopeful thoughts. Then to shut my self criticism voices in my head, I meditate.
It's working to restart my thoughts and give me a more positive perspectives and outlooks in the life.