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>>18084431

dont date depressed people.

>>18084433
I am already way too attached to let go. And if I do let go for a reason like that I'd hurt her and never forgive myself, I'd carry that burden until my last years on Earth

>>18084435

>i am already way too attached to let go

no you're not.

>and if i do let go for a reason like that i'd hurt her

no you wouldn't, you'd be helping her.

>and never forvie myself

in a year you wouldn't even care.

>id carry that burden until my last years on earth

no you wouldn't, stop being dramatic.

if this really is magical destiny true love then get over her being depressed and love her when shes depressed too you schmuck,

>>18084424

most people think that theres some trick that stops you from feeling the feelings you feel when people say these things. there's not. the person who learns to control himself did not lea nto control his feelings, he just learned to control his actions.

i learend its always better to keep things short and concise.

>mind your own business

is the best go to. it tells people 'i dont care what you think' and is pretty final. if they say 'im just looking out for you or just tryna help you' simply say 'no, you're trying to control me, mind your own business'.

if they persist, literally ignore them,

>>18084424
Just punch people in the face.
They'll get the message

>>18084424
Are you a grill or a dood? Because that's the shit many women have to put up with. Anyways, don't take it to heart, those are socially conforming fucktards.

Otherwise, if you plan to have kids it would be wise to settle down before you hit the mid 30s. Because your looks and fertility willl fade rapidly, not neccessarily looks, but sure as hell fertility.

If you're a guy, then I would question myself in what a fucking shithole I'm actually in.

>>18084394

depends on your age, location and interests, and station in life.

college? talk to people in class. after college? look for events that cater to your interests (or something adjacent) and talk to people there.

the most important thing is to talk to people nad trade numbers with them.

>>18084398
I don't have the money for college? What do you even say to people? Wouldn't it be weird to ask for their numbers?

>>18084401

>i dont have the money for college?

it was an example, again it depends on your station in life.

>wouldnt it be weird to ask for thier numbers?

yes. thats why literally no one ever asks for anyones number, its weird to ask for that, i mean we dont have phone numbers to keep in touch, those are private personal things that should never be shared.

looks like you're fucked.

>what do you even say to people

again, context CONTEXT context. its all about context anon.

>>18084368
So what do you need advice on again?

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>>18084386
Imperialism paralleling with a harmonious and also environmentally sustainability way of life.

Or something like that; Is money inherently evil?

>See mistreatment of animals in consumer industries

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>>18084399
OP NEEDS HELP

HE'S GONE TOO DEEP

THE WORLD TO HIM IS SHIT

>>18084357

they go to new palces and then meet people.

local events, niche shops etc

>>18084361
How do I meet new people? I could go to a niche shop or concert or whatever but there's a like a 1% chance I strike a convo well enough with someone for them to want to see me again.

>>18084364

well if you do that 3 times a week than you will get 1 long term friend every 7 months.

and i doubt anything else i list will make you up that percentage, so there you go, thats your best option.

probably a lot better than 1% though you just havent actually donei t so are making really stupid assumptions.

Apply for a shitty government job, push hard to get. Get in the retirement program and retire early making crazy money.

With the lack of job experience it's litterally just a numbers game. Apply EVERYWHERE. You will eventually get a call somewhere. Stick to entry level places, fast food, retail, etc.

I would recommend retail since I was in a similar boat to you when I got my first job at 19. I was super reclusive with a ton of social anxiety and general fear of people. I started out working on the floor just recovering the store (picking up clothes, putting up go-backs, etc.). Ocassionally, I'd have a customer ask me where the restroom was. It helped settle me down until one day we were super understaffed and busy and they NEEDED a back up cashier and there was no one else.

My heart sank because I had been working there for probably 2 months at this point and the only register experience I had was the 5 or so minutes they spent "training" me during orientation. Nevertheless, I grew a pair and nervously and incompetently rang customers out for 15 minutes.

Eventually I grew more and more accustomed to ringing people out and the anxiety started to dissipate. I finished out at the job working as a Front End supervisor (basically the lead cashier watching all of the other cashiers, managing them, handling customer service concerns and whatnot).


I fucking hated the job, but looking back it did wonders on my social anxiety.


>tl;dr: Get a job that forces you into constant social interaction and you will eventually get over and anxiety or fear you feel

Put together a CV (copy an online template and be positive), apply to anything that seems interesting and you meet at least most of the requirements for, and understand that it's normal to be turned down a lot before you succeed.

Also, interview tip: in most interviews they're looking for the person they want to work with, not necessarily the most qualified person. Being friendly and polite works wonders.

>>18084290
just ask her how her day was frequently and youll be out of the friend zone

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I'm also having this problem. Good luck for both of us, OP

>>18084290
>don't know very well

Does that mean you stalked her on facebook (or from afar) or and she doesn't even know you even exist. Or does that mean you've met, chatted and you just don't know her very well?

>>18084280

by studying the subject. you have two days bruh

>>18084280
On what?

>>18084280

You find good secondary sources and reference to other research broadly. 1500 words is short enough to bullshit through easily.

>>18084252
How high ranking? What's the price difference? How many units are we talking about losing?

>>18084277
College A has an acceptance rate of 65% B has an acceptance rate of 18%. The cost of both schools is about the same. With option B being about $2000 more.

>>18084362
Accepted rate doesn't mean anything. For prestige to matter it has to be like in the top colleges for that subject, like top 20 or 30. Otherwise, no one cares much. One semester of classes isn't much. If you're only going to lose 3 classes go to the "better school."

But she's not available on Friday or Saturday.

Next time set a date and if she says she can't make it, ask when she is available. If she gives you an excuse then move on to someone else

>>18084287
She's just as available during the other days is the thing, we're both STEM majors so we spend a lot of time in school. I see her here and there from about 8 in the morning (when we have class) til 9 at night

>>18084244
>It's been about 3-4 days and I haven't gotten a text
Well she did just tell you she was busy over the weekend
>1) Was it obvious that I was showing interest?
I don't know, I wasn't there, but probably
>2) Should I just go ahead and ask her out for specific date on Friday or Saturday, or is that too much considering I just gave her my number?
Ask her out for coffee between classes and see where it goes from there. She's busy over the weekend so I don't know why you'd think asking her out for Friday or Saturday is a good idea

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>>18084226

ask him for a non traditional wedding.

keep it to literally just friends and family, and make it a pot luck bbq type deal. do it in a bcakyard or at the park, or on the beach (i saw a beach wedding while walking by, took pic related) and it was awesome.

basically if you hae to ahve aparty, throw a party but make it the kind of party you'd want to attend. and if people say 'well you shoudl do this' the final answer will always be 'no, its my wedding'.

if people want to bring you 'social consequences' up then tell them you dont care.

just brush it off.

>>18084226
Talk with him.

>>18084240
I have tried to, but here's how it goes:

Me: Idk if I want to have a wedding.
Him: But I bought you this shiny rock, and and I love you, and my family will be really excited...

And then I just feel pure guilt and give up because I don't want to break down about it.

You want to give them the third eye.

aryans

>>18084262
Kek

>>18084158
There's always round 2. You should last longer the next time. Stressing about it only makes it worse man.

>>18084158
All the time?

I mean it happens to the best of us at time. I do t usually cum from just sex, but this onetime I was drunk as and this 10/10 blond managed to make me blow my load in like 3 seconds

>>18084158
Edging is a miracle, just ask for patience

Your father is a beta male and you mother is an alpha female.

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>dad is a beta cuck
>mom is a whore

Nice story. What do you want?

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Brother and myself handle it in different ways but he always seems to be worse in my parents eyes at this time in life.
>his grades and apparent interest in them are suffering
>parent's confidence in him disapears, seem to be prodding/babying/helicopter parenting/condescending him, patronizing and disrespectful
>I don't even remember what life was like before baby brother, don't have a single memory of living with just the parents- like a fucking care package in what i can guess was a controlling hell hole
>It gets worse and i can see he is torn up by the way both of my parents treat him, losing confidence in himself too
>I try to stand up for him but this makes me the immediate target

bump for meditation

Wow OP, you sound like me.

I'm successful, I have a good life, I'm not unattractive, I have a wonderful relationship but I'm always unhappy.

I'm constantly angry and bitter, I hate anybody who has any kind of advantage or positive thing in their life and I can be really, really mean. I don't actually feel this way, I'm just so hideously insecure and unhappy with myself that I project my insecurities onto others. I realise it's extremely unattractive, so have made a point to pull myself out of this slump and be more positive.

You've already managed the hardest part, which is to realise you have a problem. Perhaps you could try and focus on the positives in life - write down what you're grateful for and as many positive things you can identify about your life.

Most people are just trying to get by, day by day. They're just as sad or frustrated as you are and ultimately, I don't think many people are happy. Try and remember how good it feels when another person goes out of their way to help you, smile at you or just give you a minute of their time - then try and extend somebody else the same courtesy.

Being happy is all about self-worth and the easiest way to get that is to have a positive mind set and make others happy.

Sorry if this advice is shit. I'm in a very similar situation and I'm looking forward to reading other responses.

>>18084146

Sharing and helping sure feels empty when you do it out of hate, hate for yourself, thinking you are bad.

Learn to love yourself first - you can't give what you don't have.