Archived threads in /adv/ - Advice - 2401. page

I think that intention is key, however, when intention is not obvious, racism is assumed by most people, ignorance at best. I think you are right on with what you said, but I think that if the kids aren't racist, they are, at the very least, incredibly misinformed. They don't know what the word means to most people and their parents really don't give enough of a shit to educate them. If you use a racial slur to hurt, that's racist, if you use it as a joke, that's not really racist, but it can come off as racist to bystanders or your audience for the joke.

>>18091688
> he thinks /pol/ satire
Haha, yeah, buddy, we're just messing around when we say niggers are the scum of the Earth. They sure don't deserve that nomination in any way, champ.

>>18091688
It entirely depends on context and you have to understand that 4chan is inherently edgy. On /pol/ part of it is people enjoying the shock value but many see the flagrant use of obscenities as a pushback against a hypersensitive politically correct left. If you call someone a nigger or faggot on 4chan, the other person would likely shrug their shoulders. Think of it as kids in the 80s pretending to be satanic to piss off their fundamentalist mothers. While there are stormfags that try to shill on the board, their puritanical, identitarian ideals are fundamentally at odds with 4chan's libertine attitude.

t. a /pol/ poster

Grow up and walk it off. Quit being a big baby

>>18091586
it's swollen and I started to clean around it and seems like the left side of it the skin around the nail is swollen and sensitive

ingrown toenail
go to ambulance and get it operated out

no you cant fix it, the nail is damaged, it will keep growing the wrong way, pushing and hurting your flesh
its the worst torture on pair with toothache but easy to fix if you seek professional help

>>18091553
Please don't make instant coffee or put sugar in coffee.

You simply put actual coffee into the thermos.

Thermoses work by insulating with a vacuum. There are two layers with a vacuum between. Without gas particles hitting one another the heat cannot be transfered due to this vacuum.

If you're talking about the ones with a heating element, those are retarded.

I suppose it works either way but mixing it outside the thermo first is probably easier

>>18091555
How do you get coffee-from a coffee machine?
>>18091556
I suppose it is-very hard to stir inside a Thermos.

I dunno what you should do but stay on your meds and do not give into victimhood. It just paralyses you into nothing. Keep pushing on man you will find a way.

What you should do is a function of what you want to do. What's most important to you? What direction would you like to move in? What kinds of things interest you the most?

Honestly you schizos are so annoying at work. It feels like you guys constantly have middle schooler syndrome. Straight up had a schizophrenic guy tell me hes a wolf king trapped in a human body

Its your own damn fault. Get a job at some shitty restaurant rather than mope over your ruined resume because of your laziness

If she's shy or inexperienced, that seems par for the course

>>18091540
Try asking her if you can kiss her next time. It's probably low social awareness.

>>18091541
Cool, so what do?

>>18091550
My only worry with something like this is that then I come across as the social retard (even more than usual)

>>18091345
Dude who cares. You are ju still wasting time and energy

>>18091361
Obviously I realize that, why else would I be asking how to let it go

>>18091365
What did she do that madesert you so angry toward her?

You can't have everything you want in life. Sometimes you have to sacrifice things.

>>18091359
I know, that's why I am writing this thread, how do I decide?

>>18091380
Well one option sets you up for life, the other is a weeb dream. Which one makes more sense to do?

File: 7cc30fd5df358e210e669e00c03bfa48[1].jpg (12KB, 236x350px) Image search: [Google]

12KB, 236x350px

>>18091329
All your many feels are driven by a relatively few brain chemicals.
There is a lot of overlap between anxiety and depression.
"Antidepressant" is a really big category of sometimes very differently functioning drugs.

Medication for anxiety (or depression) may make you feel sedated, normal, emotionally numb, or fucking invincible, depending on what you get and how appropriate the dosage.

It can certainly help. But it is a band-aid. If your problems are circumstantial, this may be all you need to see things through until they get back to normal. But if this is a pervasive problem for you, it may be a result of your patterns of thoughts and behaviors. A drug won't change those for you, in the long-term.

>>18091346
Thank you that's helpful. Logically I am ok and try to ignore my anxiety if nothing bad is happening but the feeling of worry persists even when I'm sitting at home relax and not even thinking. I also have trouble sleeping because I dont want to face a new day and start all over again with responsibilities that I'm failing. And I avoid people if I can.

I don't know how much therapy will help when I already force myself to interact with people and ignore my anxiety successfully. It's just starting to wear me down being worried about things all the time and having to talk myself down and being frustrated with myself when I know nothing is wrong.

>>18091346
I wanted to make sure my doctor wasn't a quack because he is old and french and has over prescribed medication before...

Which sounds like a reason to worry.... lol

You pretty much can't.

Try like the whole "I had a dream where we got married, it seemed so surreal" what do you think it means? And see how she takes that type of hypothetical. And if she dosent take to it be like "just a dream"

File: 1480062177790.gif (354KB, 240x200px) Image search: [Google]

354KB, 240x200px

>>18091420
thats fucking cringe as fuck.

Do you actually think you're going to have a relationship with her...?

Getting in a real genuine relationship with her might be tough if you can't even get clear answers from her. I have a gut feeling there isn't going to be too much of anything substantial from this girl.

It's possible a relationship with a girl who has another guy could work but that doesn't mean this specific case of it will

>>18091255
I'm not sure, but I think there's potential. She told me she "doesn't just hook up with random guys, etc." That I'm the only guy she's gone on a date with from the gym. She seems to really like me, she thinks I'm intelligent and very mature for my age... Things just aren't clear, and it's driving me nuts. All my past relationships didn't start like this, there was always clear signs they wanted to be with me and make it serious.

Point is. I would if she'd tell me what's up. But it seems she doesn't even know herself what she wants

Suck shit.

Why would he be your friend if he has a gf? If he is not going to have the chance at sex he is not going to want to keep talking to you

I'm not even a guy, but are you retarded? You matched with him on Tinder, he's not interested in being friends with you.

>>18091109
why please he is my first friend ive ever had

File: Snapchat-323321975.jpg (105KB, 508x908px) Image search: [Google]

105KB, 508x908px

a real friend does not requier currency or goods to keep a friendship. hes not a friend hes just using you

>>18091115
but he always says thank you when i buy him his milkshakes and toasted sandwich

To get to the most depressing point...hmm. Normally I try not to but if I feel like self loathing and angsty...

Think about how truly average you are. How even though you might have a talent, most likely nothing will ever come from it and it isn't actually that impressive anyway. You'll die without leaving a mark on this world in that regard.

Think about how say, you got cancer or some disease that was killing you, ask why you're entitled to even be given a cure. Why should you matter? Because you have feelings? Anything else. What do you contribute to the world?

And also if you believe or are open to the idea of an afterlife, ask yourself why there even should be one. Why you or anyone you love is important enough for eternal happiness. Because anything else would just be too hard to take right?

If I sounded angsty and lame sorry. Anyway I don't actually want you to be sad anon but if it's just some weird mental exercise, okk

File: 1429891334248.jpg (23KB, 300x291px) Image search: [Google]

23KB, 300x291px

>>18091069
do heroin for 4 years
the first couple of years will be fun then it all goes to shit .steal from family and friends , be a scum bag junkie

>>18091069
Without actually experiencing some sort of loss or traumatic experience, you can only ever get an idea of the feeling. Not sure if that's what you're actually going for, or if you actually want to go out and have something bad happen to you so that you know the feeling.

Just wait for it OP. It'll happen sooner or later.

>>18091018
I force myself, and other things force it on me as well. When I change something about me, it's because I'm tired of suffering and feeling helpless when I know I can do better.

>>18091028

What if a lot of it is entirely a mental thing. Like an entire way of thinking. Things like shallowness and such. Or habits like overthinking or overanaylzing

what worked for me when i identified things that were the a problem in my life, I commited to doing the EXACT opposite 100% of the time.

For ex: one of my flaws was i used to be extremely combative/argumentive.If people said shit i didnt agree with, I would be blunt and disagree with them upfront under the guise of "being honest". After I decided to change, i went ahead and did the opposite. Every time someone said something i had a gut negative reaction to, I decided to respond by telling them something along the lines of "wow, its fascinating you think that way, I think that's really awesome, tell me more". I did this with complete dedication for some months. Over time, it just became more natural

>>what's the starting pay usually and how high can I climb
you do realize that most of the money trade workers wind up with comes from being self-employed, right?
you're going to have to be marketing your skills to the public, you're going to have to buy your own inventory, you're going to have to manage your own books

unless you have a wife doing that stuff for you for free

>>18090968
Yea but I could get a job for a company or something, I heard wind turbine workers can make some good money.

>>18090968
>i have no idea what i'm talking about the post
All those things you just described are literally what a self-employed contract worker are. There are plenty of companies that employ people in the trades and supply all their tools, handle all the contracts, and do all the book keeping and some of them may do contract work depending on the field and whether or not they own the equipment you'll be working on. Point is everything you said is wrong and you're a moron. You can make decent money working solely for a company.

t. i've worked a "trade" job and the company paid for all my hand tools, all the materials, and even supplied a work truck