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Girl that I thought liked me (couple dates, cuddling at her place, etc.. no sex yet) dumped me right before valentines day and the week of my birthday. She blocked me. Even though this was one of the shorter relationships I was crazy about her in a way I haven't felt about a girl in a very long time, probably since high school... The other relationships I've had that have ended I dumped them but I was there for them even afterwards if they wanted to talk.

I've never been blocked by a girlfriend. I'm not sure how to get over someone being that un-empathetic. I told her how much it hurt and despite that, no response. She sent a quick message saying she thought I was a nice guy but didnt feel a connection and then blocked me, this is after a couple of days of basically ignored texts. Every site I've gone to says I should just let it go and respect her boundaries and shit like that. Which is fine, but I just can't understand someone being that cold hearted and un-sympathetic, has anyone been in a position like hers and can maybe explain the thought process? Am I wrong for expecting her to want to let me down a bit easier?

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I'm a male, but basically your average Borderline bitch. I form really intense attachments to people who make bad partners, examples: pixie weeb slut, malignant narcissist prostitute, and pathological liar choirgirl...and then I lose my marbles once the relationship ultimately fails. My friends always palm through their faces and react in anguish.

Question: how do I get more average (less corrupted/sinister) women, and will they be interested in me?

"Well you need to improve yourself." I'm aware of this and I'm making some considerable improvements.

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What hobbies can replace internet and video games?

I have a desire to blend in with normalfags (women are far more likely to be normies as well which would be a reason for it) although it's a pretty small desire.

For example: a few years ago, I remember having to do a retarded introduce-yourself-activity at the beginning of the school year and one of the girls quietly spoke to another saying something like "he's such a loser" when i did my introduction

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I'm so risk averse I can't bring myself to even message girls on date sites. A lot of them aren't my type, but the small fraction that are, I don't even message. I always psyche myself out. What's a good protocol for messages?

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Any reliable way to purchase cannabis seeds in the US?

Any trustworthy websites?

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Hey /adv/

There's this girl that I really, really like. I confessed to her, and she likes me back. I asked her out, and she said yes. However, the next day she says she is not ready for a relationship, because she is going through a lot of stress. She's also talking to me a lot less now. How should I go through with this?

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Hey /adv/
So look living with a strict evangelical single mother for the past 18 years has droved me nuts over the couple of years
Today I finally told her that I don't share her beliefs on most topics like "God hates faggots" and such
But as expected, she didn't take well to it and now is planning take everything away, which wouldn't be much of a problem if it weren't for that fact that I do all my hw on my computer
It's the only reason I've been able to revive my academic career for having a 1.0gpa to a 3.5gpa
How does one try to be reasonable with an emotional and religious wreck like my mother?

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Can the fake it till you make it method also work for changing personality types? Can a fake personality be as good as the original?

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I'm a 25 year old male living in New Jersey. I've lived in the same house my entire life with my parents.

January I started a new full-time IT helpdesk job where I am actually making a decent salary ($40k). Right now I have only ~$3k in my bank account but I have been making an effort to save having started this job. I don't have a credit card, just a debit card, so I have no credit. I have a good car (2009) that should last me a while. No college degree, just vocational school.

I recently broke up my long-distance relationship with a girl of 2 years since I can't do the long-distance dating anymore, I want to actually meet and date people IRL. I feel like I can't get into a relationship because i'm living at home at my age, and it's not a great area to meet people because everyone is so spread out. I'm in a fairly wealthy suburban area, and the only girls around here are generally high school age or in their 40s. I feel like the only chance i'd have of dating is finding someone that is pretty much NEET status like me.

But regardless of relationships, I don't feel happy where I am. I have 1-2 good friends and most of my friendships have been made on the internet. Most of my time is spent making/listening to music, or painting/working on art. I want to live somewhere where I can actually make new friends with the interests I have. I want to start being more responsible for myself.

As far as where to go, i'm not sure. I have a friend who lives right near Detroit MI which has a cool art and live music scene i'm jealous of. If I moved in the area they'd definitely help me become more acclimated to everything. I also have a friend who lives near Corpus Christi TX. Apart from that, i'm not sure.

Feels like my biggest roadblocks right now are
-Not having a lot of money
-No credit
-Leaving my stable 9-5 fulltime job that I somewhat enjoy

Should I move? what to do

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Been seeing this girl for the past 3 months. The past few weeks she has kinda gone cold and hasn't attempted to make plans like she used to.
We hung out yesterday, but it was pretty obvious based on her behavior that she isn't really interested in what we had the past 3 months anymore.

Wondering if I should just take the hint and leave it alone, or confront her and ask her why she lost interest. I don't want to make a big deal out of something that was never really serious to begin with, but we definitely had something and I really like her. Would it be foolish to expect an explanation as to why her feelings changed, or should I just suck it up and move on? Is there something wrong with a little clarification?

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> Lost contact with a girl who changed uni
> Cute af
> very interested with me
> We were both with someone at the time
> I've checked her account she seems to be single again
> Same for me
> My last message to her was wishing her a nice time in her new uni, we're not that much of friends so I can't just ask her to see me like that it'd sound needy or creepy

How do I engage a conversation ? In such a way that I will ask her out at some point

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I am a 19 year old computer science student who is short (5'6), bald (had Male Pattern Baldness since 15. Shaved 4 months ago) and who can't grow a beard (very little facial hair). This is all because of genetics, of course. I also have braces to fix my teeth, also bad because of genetics.
I have been rejected and humilliated my whole life, from 15 years old until now. People laughed at me, bullied me and no one ever took me seriously. The only friends I've ever made are online, probably because they can't see me in real life.
I have been trying to "improve" for many years, but it seems that no matter what I do people still treat me as if I weren't worth anything. I try to dress well, my hygiene is very good and I spend a lot of time studying to get my degree. I am in good shape and I go running twice a week.
I have never had a girlfriend. Not even talking about a romantic relationship there: literally no woman has ever been interested in having a friendship with me. People say being friendzoned is bad, however I'd love to have a female friend.
I am not an insecure person. I know who I am and who I want to be. I am aware of my genetic traits and I know that I will have to deal with them for the rest of my life. I accept them. I have to. I refuse to let them take over my will to live and my happiness.

Despite me accepting my genetics, I still ask myself some questions sometimes, and I would like to hear your opinions.

If I were to try and get a girlfriend, what's the best I could hope for? My family is not poor but they make little money.

What are my chances at being more attractive? I can not hit the gym because of time, mainly, but also because of money. My parents paid my braces treatment and it left them with very little savings.

Thank you all

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what's a good first date idea if you're shy/not very talkative

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>22
>Starting talking to girl, she is 24
>Going on date soon
>She is ridiculously attractive, by far the prettiest girl I've gotten a date with
>Says she really likes me but has to tell me something
>Straight up told me she has NEVER been in a relationship, at any point because she has issues with commitment

???

What does this mean? That I can expect a date or two and not hear anything back, or what? Should I even bother? Kind of baffling that a girl this attractive has never been in a relationship, but she really hasn't sent out any red flags aside from the commitment thing she told me.

What do?

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I have an acquaintance who keeps accosting me and asking if I want to go halfsies on an apartment with him. I've tried explaining the (real) pragmatic reasons why I can't do that right now (I'm basically broke until I pay off my car and my student loan) but he doesn't seem to pay attention/care.

Truth is, even if all that crap were a non-issue I still wouldn't want to room with him. He's fun enough to have a beer with now and then, but he hasn't really matured at all since college...maybe earlier. His social and conversational skills are abysmal, he takes himself way too seriously, and his hobbies largely consist of surfing the Internet, rewatching Game of Thrones, and collecting swords.

He wants to be a police officer, but for all the wrong reasons; chiefly, he believes (never says this explicitly but it's painfully obvious) that a uniform will magically make people respect him and take him seriously. Not that there's any risk of him joining the force; he has no motivation to improve himself physically, meaning he bombs our police academy's PFT whenever he takes it (every couple months). He had a pretty sweet living arrangement sharing a nice house near a lake, but has since moved out because his "douchebag" roommate expected him to take out the trash and would occasionally be up at odd hours because he's a firefighter and houses don't exactly burn down on a 9-to-5 schedule.

He currently works part-time at Home Depot (working beyond 20 hours a week "too exhausting", says aspiring policeman) and constantly complains about his coworkers, the customers, the work in general, on and on. Myself and several other friends have repeatedly confronted him and tried to kick his ass in gear, but he just gets angry; I suspect he only wants to room with me because I can pay and because I've tried to be the "nicest" of his interventionists.

How do I get it across that I just don't want to room with him, without pissing him off?

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