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Hey bros, wanted to see what was your perspective on what I am experiencing right now. I'm in college, Biochemistry major. I'm a junior I'm almost out, but ever since I finished my last sophomore semester I became depressed. Ever since I came back from Christmas break I've felt like I have a lack of direction. I go to class everyday, but feel jaded by what I do. How can I fix this? I once had passion for what I love, yet know it feels bland. I'm not putting much effort like I used to before and I don't want to waste all the money I'm getting from the gov. in grants and scholarships.
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Tough it out and get the degree man. As for the depression, maybe find a woman?
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>>18070478
> find a woman?
That's the stupidest advice for someone who's most likely going through depression. Anon, share how you're feeling with someone you trust and talk shit out.
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My boyfriend is going to europe for a month by himself and I'm not allowed to come with him. He wants to find himself. How am I going to get through this? I already have anxiety and insecurity and this is just way past my limits but it's a deal breaker for him.
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> I already have anxiety and insecurity and this is just way past my limits
Why? What are you afraid of? Has he done shit in the past? Why can you not come? Is he going alone? Why does he need to "find himself"?
Jeez, if you are looking for advice, atleast provide *some* info.
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>>18104700
Afraid he'll cheat, irrational thing like afraid he'll get bored of me
He's never done anything wrong
He says I can't because he wants the freedom to do whatever and find himself and that it's important before settling down.
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>>18104703
> He says I can't because he wants the freedom to do whatever and find himself and that it's important before settling down.
Dont really know the guy, but it sounds and awful lot like him saying "i want to screw a bunch european broads before eventually thinking about something more serious with you." Or it could be that he needs some space to figure things out.
For how long have you two been together and how old are you?
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im always feeling tired, im always "tilted". every time my parents tell me something i always answer them badly, insult them under my breath, i hit myself or "stab" my hands with pens when i get frustrated over the smallest thing, i keep talking to myself things like "i hate myself", "i hate you", "im not worth it" or i keep saying i wish my parents were dead or whatever other fucked up shit
thing is lately its been going good for me. i had a very active social month, met lots of new friends, i got a scholarship to study abroad for 1 year in the country ive always dreamt off, last semester went pretty ok
but when im alone and come home from class or whatever i feel like shit. or in the last hours of class in the day i do the stab myself with pens shit when i get a question wrong. i feel humilliated all the time. when im home i can only think about what game to play (i dont even play because i cant think of what to play), watch porn and sext with a girl from around the world.
this was a retarded rant with no cohesion so sorry. i know im acting like some kind of edgy shitter trying to call for attention but its been going for a while. i used to go to a psychologist but i stopped because its too much money, and only thing he wanted me to do was an "emotions diary" or w/e, i dont think that helps me much
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Social anxiety, depression maybe.
How old are you?
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>>18070361
22 soon.
the shrink told me he would only call it depression if i was like this in like 10 years. right now he would call it dysthymia.
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>>18070369
Just jerk it till your palms sweat
>After 4 months of no contact and being blocked, she unblocked me
>Called her if she was free, talked but then she wanted to start an argument.
>Said I didn't want to start an argument, I just wanted to hear her voice. It makes me happy to hear from her.
>She gets mad and hangs up on me.
I haven't done anything at the moment. I've only written a letter. Probably not going to send it, but who knows. I need to dump it here for potential advice and to just get it out of my system before I do something even more stupid (like post it for real to her):
It would probably be for the best if you'd want to re-block me.
I'm deeply ashamed that after many months I'm still not over you. I had fallen for you at the wrong time, and for that I'm truly sorry. You were unhappy, afraid and insecure when I first found you, and I made it my goal to make you happy to the best of my ability. As I helped you pick up the pieces of your previous relationship, I saw the whole person whom you'd eventually become. I grew to love who you were, and charmed by your perceived physical and personality flaws. You were always beautiful, even when you didn't believe me.
I'm sorry that I was too afraid to admit how much I loved you back when you needed to hear it the most. I regret that things have collapsed to the point where you now resent me because you don't feel the same anymore. It's a painful struggle every day to let you go, but I hope that one day you will find someone who will love you as much and whom can take better care of you than I could.
Thank you for the memories,
Tubby Kitty
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Pathetic. Get over it. Sever all contact for at least six months.
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Block her from everything and move on, you fucking idiot.
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>>18070252
I suspected I might do something stupid in a heightened emotional state.
Glad I posted here instead of sending it for real eh?
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how do I use uber/lyft?
Walk me through it pls I don't want to look like any more of a dumbass than I already am.
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>Download app.
>put in credit card info
>put in address bar address or location you want to go
>put in location where you are
>move thumbtack thing to where you are so uber driver can easier find you
>select uberx or uberpool (pool is cheap but driver is picking up people)
>confirm
>look at screen for eta, car and car license plate
>when uber comes near wave
>get in, say thank you
>go for ride and get out andsay thank you
>rate 5 star if good driver
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This. Lyft lets you tip, Uber does not. It's up in the air as to whether or not you should tip your Uber driver. The app says it is not expected, but some people still give them a few bucks in cash.
(I think that defeats the purpose of using a card-based app, so I don't tip. If they wanted a tip, they could go work for the similar app that is available.)
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Single and sexless...how to cope? 2017-02-21 07:39:48 Post No.18070155
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Single and sexless...how to cope?
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I'm really trying to improve my life. I live at home and I'm broke. I have anxiety and very bad self-esteem. I have put together a plan to try and improve life over the coming months. I'm self-studying web development full time for a few months before I try and get a basic wagecuck job. I will then save some money to move out whilst continuing to study part-time until I'm ready to start applying for junior positions in the future.
Its about the best I can hope for.
The problem I have is that I can't deal with the day to day frustration of my situation. Its been this way for years. Short-term pain is affecting my ability to stay focused on achieving long-term gain. And being single and seriously sexually frustrated is just depressing me all the time. I haven't had sex in over 3 years. I know I have no chance of getting a gf or getting laid in my situation. I know I have to improve to stand a chance. But the frustration is stopping me progressing. Its a never ending loop.
If I was just getting laid it wouldn't be so bad. I'd fuck escorts if I could afford it. But I have no good looks, no game and no independence so I don't even try shit like Tinder etc, what would be the fucking point? Jerking off does not help, in fact it makes things worse in the long run. So I have begun abstaining to try and build some self-control.
How do you get through the days of suffering when you know you have a long term goal? I just want to grind and be sure that things will improve. But I just end up getting so down that is sabotages all my efforts.
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m8 im in the same boat.
For me the trick is trying to not think about it all at once. If you're super worried about hooking up with a girl and then pissed because you dont have a girlfriend, you're just going to work yourself into a frenzy.
So the way i deal with that is just focusing on why i dont have a gf, and then looking where i could possibly remedy that situation. There is no point at worrying about what comes after meeting the girl before you even meet her.
As for the living at home part, dont even worry about it. Lots of people are forced by economic circumstance to live at home.
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I hope your goals are realistic. You may have to compromise. My advice is get a wagecuck job ASAP. You'll feel better getting paychecks.
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My advice would be to start SOMEWHERE, at least. Get a bsic wagecuck job, improve slowly on your social skills, go from there. For savings: try to save as much as possible to move out if you wanna, see from there.
To be honest: I think sex is good, but overrated if you do it with a person you have no real connection with. Making love with a person you love is one of the best feeligns on earth, with that. Should not be a goal, imo. I haven't had sex for over a year, but at this point in my life I am also not really looking for something serious so that puts sex automatically a bit on my downer list.
The point is that you have to cope with change, and adapt. Try new stuff. Get the wagecuck job, or try to do something with the web development thing.
Good luck, anon.
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So, i think a girl likes me. I have seen her watching me in the distance and other things. She often ask me about personal things and that shit. The problem is that i dont know what to talk about with her. Wat do
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Dont be an autist
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>>18070148
Talk to her like she's a guy without all the sexual stuff and you should be fine.
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Need password suggestions.
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Hahaham good one
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>>18102683
Use things like "ñ", "á", "à " or "â".
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UR@FKNRET@RD
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I don't really understand loneliness when it comes to relationships. I tend to see girls as friends or objects of lust/a status symbol.
I've been in relationships before, but after my last one, I really stopped and wondered why. I can't figure out what a relationship actually gets me besides sex, which I figure I can get without having to worry about someone's feelings or being home at a certain time or losing my freedom.
But it does make me sad that this pretty much means I'll never get married or have a kid if I keep thinking this way, but I really can't convince myself that settling for someone is worth it.
What can I do to be more interested in relationships?
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>but it does make me sad that this pretty much means I'll never get married
why does this make you sad? its literally what you don't like,
>worrying about someones feelings
>being home at a certain time
>losing freedom
i think the issue here is you realized that you shouldn't obsess with relationships, but you're interpreting that as NEVER wanting to be in one.
someone will come along and impress you and you'll impress her and want to date. but you now realize that life isn't about jumping from one monogamous relationship to the other pretending that THIS one is the special one.
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Well, it's pretty much a foregone conclusion that I'm the last chance to carry on my family's name/genes... I have an adopted cousin, a lesbian cousin, and a male cousin who is a complete useless wreck that has still never kissed a girl at 30.
I feel bad for like, my dad, who I have a really close relationship with, who had a close relationship with his dad, who won't ever have a grandson. I feel bad for my mom, who is sick and probably passing soon, whose sister is already a great grandmother while she'll never get to be a grandma.
It's stuff like that, which is tough to reconcile with.
The problem is I'm 30 years old. No one's impressing me anymore, and I feel like I have to go out and hunt for it if I want it. But I haven't had the motivation, since I'm not that interested in relationships.
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>>18070166
>blah blah blah other people want me to do shit
who cares, it's your life, you're just going to end up hurting some girl who really wants someone that's committed to a relationship.
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Hey anons
>me
>21/m
>moved abroad for college
>dropped out because of social anxiety and war with financial problem
>poor with the foreign language since i dont have friends or social life
>ik IT stuffs and designing
>trying to get a job rn
>having anxiety almost daily
I'm seriously dont know what to do with my life
I'm making plans but i feel down and i have no support from family
Im all alone
What should i do?
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>>18070085
Get a job
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>>18070085
Volunteer
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>>18070089
im trying to
its not easy for me
>>18070092
what kind of volunteer ?
i dont think i can find any
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Have you ever been attracted to someone you don't think is very attractive? There's this girl I've been into and she's clearly into me as we've been kissing and hugging very often, but I don't think she's much of a looker. I definitely enjoy her company and her as a person, and I know I feel something here.
I'm guess I'm just wondering if this is normal. Like, maybe I shouldn't pursue a relationship if I'm already thinking she's not very attractive.
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>>18070064
Its all in your head man
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>>18070064
Depends on if you think you will be sexually satisfied with her. There is no reason to get into a relationship if you know your needs won't be met.
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Hello people of /adv/, what would you do to make the room seem more comfortable?
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Add a painting or something of the sort. The yellow wall looks kinda bland
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Aesthetics. Add something pleasing to the sight (above, wallpaper), smell (incense/candles/wash the whole place), hearing (ambient music, water fountain, etc) and/or tough (new carpet?)
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>>18070033
the hardest but largest thing you can do is paint a wall. the wall colors affect you. blue is the most soothing. that particular yellow is depressing and gross and is badly affected by my next point:
lighting. beautiful offices tend to have large windows that let in lots of natural light, this is because neatural light is the most comfortable. if you cant get larger windows you need to try and change your light sources. yours are very dim and very warm. if i had to guess you end up feeling 'burnt out' and kinda headachey when you're in your room / on your computer, yeah?
go for a brighter light.
after that its literally about decorating. i like dark paintings myself.
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Ex-Girlfriend wants me back
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I was her first for everything, and we did have an amazing relationship, but a lot happened around us and broke us apart really, after one too many arguments. This was 2 months ago, neither of us been with anyone since. Although we still argued all the time. I thought fuck this and manned up and started dating another girl.
This seemed to of pulled my ex's head out her ass, and she finally said sorry for everything, and would love to give it another shot but she's going to try move on too because it's too late. Then my new gf and her start talking about me, and it was like there both trying to make each other jealous, my ex telling her how lush my dick is lol, things like that. At this point I admit I do want my ex back, but it's going to be on my terms, I told her that, but that right now I'm going out on a date with the new girl, but we'll talk soon. Feels good having this sort of power back in my control now, she's all like its okay its okay go have fun. Then she's like I think your gf wants to suck you off would you let her. I told her maybe. Then she said what about sex, and I said no, even though I could. She asked why and I said because I still wanna fuck you. Then she promises me we will, but for me to go have fun. I told her she looks great in her new picture and she got all mushy with me.
So what do you think, this new girl knew me and my ex would fall back into place anyway, should I let her suck my dick? Would that affect things with my exgf, or does that just make her want me more?
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Stop now. Try and patch things up with your ex before you fuck up. Don't use the poor girl.
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>>18070019
this is so pathetic and immature
graduate high school before posting on this board
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>>18070029
Lol but she wanted to get with another guy too, and now that hasn't worked she wants to patch things up with me. Why should I just let her back so easily.
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Thoughts on SSRIs and depression in general. I need your opinion lads and ladettes. My therapist has given me a week to consider drugs to beat my depression..
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SSRIs are just there to help your brain function because of the lack of neurotransmitters/serotonin to help you function. Taking SSRIs can help you, though keep in mind it's not gonna cure depression, it's just gonna make it a whole lot easier to function and live with it, which is fine. Go for it, it'll likely help you a lot if you're already doing therapy to begin with.
Keep in mind though, depending on how bad your depression is, you may or may not need stronger medication if it doesn't seem to work at first; everyone's different. Myself, I had to take medication for some time, but it wasn't super strong like the medication my ex had to use because his depression was bad enough that he has to use the strongest, legally available stuff to help him get through the day. I wish you luck, anon!
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Alright. Thank you, friend. I wish you the best.
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I hope you get better, OP :)
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Guys i need some advice / someone to talk to
>be getting below average grades at final year in college (6th form to us bongs)
>holding down an evening job 2 days a week and saturday job
>Decide to volunteer at a rescue centre thinking it'll be cool
>it isn't.
>tell parents i don't want to do it and they say i should do it or get kicked out of the house even though it was my decision to do it.
kinda fucked m80s
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>>18069857
Stop goin then lie and say that what your doing then Saturday comes around leave like you would too volunteer then just go do something else for that time
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>>18069907
Parents would call them to make sure i'm there tho, i'm truly fucked
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>>18069857
Tell your parents you need the extra time to improve your grades and actually do that.