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>>18072197
Send them an email reiterating your interest in the position and ask when you might be hearing back.

>>18072209
So maybe just something like:

"Hello,

I just wanted to inquire if there have been any developments at Company and restate my interest in being a part of the team.

Could I ask when I might hear of any news about the growth at company?"

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>I'm otherwise mentally sound

Uh, ok.

Well, uh, if you're a man, I'd toss the razors for the time being and just either grow your beard out or use an electric trimmer. Make it more difficult to cut yourself.
Keep yourself busy too. When you get home, just immediately start a project or something. Watch a movie, don't let your mind wander.

But yeah, I would seek professional help because no matter what you throw out, that urge is there and you'll just find ways if you can't get rid of that.
Glad my nervous habit is to just pluck my eyebrows goddamn lol. Maybe you can try working on changing your habit, that's what therapists try for kids with like, ADD if they don't take to medication. Teach them to channel the energy into foot tapping instead or some shit.
Not the greatest of fixes, but maybe get a stress ball or something and slowly change your cutting/scratching habit to something else.

>>18072156
You know you're gonna bleed like a mofo when you scratch the shit out then why are you doing more?

Consider doing something else the moment the urge kicks in. Like bite a pillow and scream in it. Buy a punching bag, hang it and punch hard at it. What I'm trying to say is to channel your urge of harming yourself to do something else like the examples I said above.

>>18072156
A long time ago, in high school, I was driving home when I heard a lady on the radio talking about how she beat her depression.

>Every day, I would wake up and just want to cry. But then I would say to myself, "I need to make breakfast and eat, and then I will cry." And after breakfast, I would tell myself "I can cry on the way to work." And so on and so forth. I would procrastinate my depression until the evening, when I was lying in bed, wanting to cry, and then I would just fall asleep instead.

Try doing something else every time you want to cut. Go make a sandwich, go watch a tv show, go masturbate, just do something else everytime you get the urge, and convince yourself it is more important than the cutting.

>>18071965
A regular wage is a hell of a drug.

I am not going to say follow your dreams and do what makes you happy, and I am not going to tell you to stick it out in your job until you are magically happy.

Me and a buddy both went to univeristy to be teachers. AFter one year of teacher, buddy realized actual teaching was a shitshow most of the time. She ended up going in as an electrical apprentice, and found a job she liked and was good at. Then she got shitcanned for 2 years because last hired, first fired in an economic slump. She worked as an office monkey at a temp agency for those two years, and one of the offices she worked for offered her a regular long term gig. She turned it down, hoping to score an electrician job in the future. It took those two years, but she just now got back into being an electrician.

I stuck with teaching, and was having a fine time until I took a parental leave to raise my newborn daughter. When I came back, I realized that most of these kids were assholes and I would much rather be a home father cleaning house and taking care of my kids. This realization has led to some pretty tough days at the school, and I have to choose whether a paycheque (which we need) is more important than being with my family. In the end, I approached my principal about cutting me back to a half time teacher, cutting out the classes that grind my gears and keeping the ones I like. He hasn't gotten back to me on this proposal, but long story short, I proposed cutting my job in half because it made me unhappy half the time and I hopefully get to spend that time with kids now instead of some other asshole's asshole children.

I guess what I am trying to say is it can be hard to tough it out, but at the end of the day, you gotta make a decision about what will support you best economically and emotionally, and hopefully you can at least find a compromise instead of having to go whole hog one way or another.

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>>18071965
if you like programming then do that

additionally you can self learn web development. there are tons of sites like freecodecamp that will teach you for free. You could possibly do that in your spare time but you don't sound super motivated

>go to uni right out of high school because I was 18 and retarded
there's nothing wrong with this so long as you actually have *some* discipline to study. A gap year would just lead to you procrastinating the entire time if you didn't have discipline in the first place. At least the stakes at cost (paying tuition) would actually push you to study.

> I'm ~$5000 in debt
from what? 1 year of study? You'll pay that off quickly.

maybe consider college instead for a job (i.e. pharmacy technician *if* that's decent in your area. It starts at around 25 canadian pesos per hour here after a couple years of study plus the time to get certified afterwards). Heck someone I know went to uni for 4 years first THEN went to college for 2 years to get a job that's more absolute because that's just how shitty a bachelor's degree is worth here nowadays.

>>18071912
I live in Houston, so i should be well off for opportunity if I ever do decide to double down on something. It's just that imagining a satisfying career where I don't completely hate my life is the difficult part. Is it just a pipe dream?

>>18071958
>It's just that imagining a satisfying career
I don't know how different it is in the US but over here, we've had a shit ton of tuition grants and shit that it's been detrimental for finding a job after graduation. Just finishing uni isn't enough, so maybe take this time to rethink what to take when you go back to school.

I only did an internship by the time I graduated when I should have at least done a co-op to be competitive. I'm in a data entry job right now that's only a few dollars over the minimum wage (keep in mind this is in Canadian dollars) instead of in a pharmaceutical or any other laboratory like I initially planned.

Any work experience can be good for your resume though. One of my coworkers here got a laboratory job afterwards and it was partially thanks to his work experience as a chef for a few years before coming to this data entry job.

I've also had a coworker who stopped uni midway, got this job, but then went back to school to finish their program after a year.

I'd say bottom line is, make sure you heavily consider a co-op program if you do go back to uni.

>>18071769

Nah, he's just avoiding addressing that it happened. He remembers, but doesn't want to make a big deal out of it.

I'm sorry your friend forgot how much of a fag you are, next time let him blow in your ass and show him the cum in the morning for proof of the gayness.

>>18071769
Fucking faggots. Also, no, it's not possible. I've had a similar experience with a girl who tried to squirm her way out of responsibilities with that line.

Regardless, it's not possible to do something without remembering unless he was being admitted at a local hospital after those three instances. Question - how exactly did you guys become faggots?

what the fuck..

18 is too low
20 is too high

so you only would ask a girl out of she's exactly 19? i don't get it..

anyway.. of course it's ok and go for it.. and if she refuses it'll only be awkward as much as you make it awkward..

>>18071708
Sorry it's late. Anything under 23 feels young to me. I feel awkward asking out people who are a fair bit younger than me.

>>18071713
it's ok to date a younger girl..speaking from experience

in my experience, the + was that she was more respectful towards me

the - side was that we had less things in common since we grew up in different times

but overall, it was great..both is great..same age and younger age..

and 20-24 is not really a problem..i was 24 and she was 17, it still wasn't a problem (just make sure she's not too childish)

also..girls that are younger see older guys as a + and not a -

And then she sends me a message asking if I want to go for drinks to get wasted and make "bad decisions" on Saturday because it's her ex's birthday so she wants to get messed up.

Pretty heavily implied it could lead to sex, at the very least she's gonna be super easy and loose and down to hook up. I just don't know what to think. I've always had the problem that unless I'm chasing the girl I lose interest. Really tempted to say no to this girl for some reason. She's not that attractive, but she's like at least a low 7/10 with a cool personality. I just, idk. I hypothetically want to hook up with a 7/10, but I can't help feel less interested than I was when we were just flirting. Also I definitely have some performance anxiety, but I realise I don't have to actually fuck her, we could just mess around.

I don't really have a point, just wanted input.


Pic unrelated, just looks a bit like her (but more attractive than her I think).

Hmm, then again it'll be in public, in a bar or club so there'll be inherently less pressure, and messing around in public a bit is kinda more fun anyway. I dunno, I'm just worried I'm not gonna be into her, but I guess it's less pressure than that booty call mess last time.

Bump, I don't know, I'm just wondering if I'm stupid for passing up the opportunity. I was interested until she asked me out lol.

wtf does she want? otherwise, block and delete her.

>>18071352
>What does she want

no fucking clue. I've let the message sit there unread for a whole week now.

>>18071364
then you've already found your solution.

>>18071310
Tinder

>>18071582
Online dating is fucking garbage. Even online hookup shit. Go outside, make real friends, find a woman to fuck in the real world.

>>18071310
eat edamame, kills your sex drive without killing your dick

you wll regret castration for the rest of your life

>>18071209
Get your GED, join the military. Get some job training from there, then maybe go to college free.

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>>18071211

Dropping out is not an option. I am also too much of a pussy to be in the military to be completely honest

>>18071209
Go out there and figure out what you're good at

Get some help withyour addiction to "drugs."

You better be on something cool, like Cocaine or Heroin. If you're addicted to cough syrup or nasal spray get your fake addiction out of here.

Short or long?

Have you tried pomade?

>>18071282
Medium, it goes down to my eyes.

tl;dr: dont be a creep

First things first, the most important question is, do you think you can you hold up a conversation with her? Is she interested in the same things as you? Does she share a hobby with you? Having a rich conversation with someone is one of the best ways to get their attention. If that doesn't work than its probably safe to say it's time to abort. But, if they do, crack a joke or two, see what they laugh at. Be nice and courteous, golden rule and all that. Chances are if she's doing the same thing you are she's probably looking for your attention if you already met. Don't expect a number swap after the first convo though. Give it some time and be casual.

Alright my little guy, What you're gonna wanna do is access the situation. Don't plot a whole conversation but have some filler ideas. Such as you say hi some shi and stuff then things are about to get dry you slide that filler in. These could be things such as what she thinks about the class or teacher or some homework assignment or something I don't know. Just be calm and cool. If something awkward happens just laugh at it and accept it happened. [email protected]

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>>18071137
you say hi

most girls don't want a boyfriend who needs /r9k/'s advice to get on with his basic decisions in his life, realize this and truly apply some confidence to yourself, if you're the kind of guy who's gonna spill your spaghetti when she turns you down and spend the next 2 weeks thinking about it she will avoid you like the plague, if you're the kind of guy who would ask her out like you'd ask her what time it is and would take rejection in stride and immediately get on with some hobby or aspiration the same day she might be attracted to you

women are beautiful, men are useful
surely you see her beauty, what does she see?

good luck friendo

When do you find time to eat? Take her out when you would normally eat dinner.

>>18071074
have her watch your band and hang out with you and your friends. if you cant get along with their friends you probably wouldnt be able to get along with her in the future. youll eventually see the same personalities.

>>18071082
Like I said it's rare that she's free whenever I am, our work schedules are quite opposite

I've dealt with two NEETs in my life

One of them refused to do anything and constantly blamed everyone around him for his situation and always moaned how everyone but him had it easy

He's a lost cause

The other NEET just needed a kick in the ass and someone to discuss shit with because his mum and to a lesser extent dad coddled him and he just got too used to it.
He's turned his life around and became a great guy

If they seem like they are honestly willing to put in work and that they want to escape NEEThood, I don't mind being the support

If they sit there and blame everyone and everything and just come up with excuses, they're a lost cause and it will just piss you off trying to deal with them

>>18071332
And how I did it with the second guy was basically sit him down and ask him what he wanted to do and I wrote him up a small checklist so he could do some simple things, like get his driver's license, research some courses he would like to take in college and I found him some entry-level job opportunities

You almost have to hold their hand for the first few steps but if they don't catch on sooner than later, then back off and just let them figure it out

>>18070981
Just say no and invite her over.

>>18070997
guess your right lad , just hope she'd be willing to make the journey