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I don't know where to go with my life. I'm 19 years old and I'm currently only working a part time job living with my parents. I am planning on moving into a flat with 2 of my friends (they're already in a flat together) once I get a full time job. However I do not think it would fullfill me. No matter what I did so far, in school, dating, sports, etc I was not fulfilled at all. I don't know what's wrong with me but I feel like I have a something in the back of my mind constantly reminding me how pointless these things are. I'm starting to think that I'm not compatible for a normal way or life that I thought I wanted. I feel like this is only going to get worse once I have to work for most of the hours of my life and spend the rest of the time feeling anxious or sleeping. What should I do? Is it just because I'm young? This sounds convoluted and dumb, I can't really put it into words well.
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just chill yo. all ya gotta do in life is just let time pass and take a deep breath and give it your best.
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>>18076801
I've tried to just be chill about everything but I can never keep it up. It doesn't feel natural to me, like I'm forcing it. I'm not even sure what my personality is.
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>>18076806
I'm going through a similar struggle, only with no mates to move in with
Either take that chance or rot in the streets because your parents most certainly will not be there forever, and I'm not talking about when they die
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ITT we talk about our goals and our failure to reach them 2017-02-24 05:39:08 Post No.18076740
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I'll start:
I wanted to draw. Lost inspiration over a decade ago and never got it back, although occasionally I'll see something that makes me wish I had skill as an artist but the second I try to draw I realize I'm nothing.
I wanted to learn another language. Got to A1 level at best in about half a dozen languages but never have been able to progress to a level that isn't embarrassing in any of them. Meanwhile I know people who speak my native language almost as well as I do and are still yet learning more.
I wanted to play music in some way. Never had a chance to play an instrument and wouldn't even know where to begin, I don't know the first thing about music theory; it's all Greek to me. Why even bother at this point, there are people out there who learned to play guitar when they were barely teenagers, how could I ever compete with that?
I wanted to be able to write well, but I can't. I have a great appreciation for words but zero command of them. I'm not an intelligent or analytical person and everything I try to write comes off flat as a pancake.
I wanted to be married with kids by 26. I'm 24 now and have never even had a date. I'm nearing an age where I should have done so much and yet I've accomplished nearly nothing. Soon I'll start losing testosterone and my ability to learn new things will drastically decrease, and when I've learned basically nothing that makes me just feel miserable.
I can probably think of more but I think you probably get the point.
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To talk about the failure of realizing a goal, is to realize that the goal has never been got at. What I mean is to say that you should begin now. 24 is young, in a world where 50-70 is the current and average expected longevity. Begin drawing. Begin an instrument. I purchased a guitar with my last check from my first job, and I started a year later than when I first bought it. I'm still learning now, but I will certainly be better in a year, as I am better now than I was a year ago. Everything comes with time. "I know people who speak my native language almost as well as I do and are still yet learning more." And you too can still learn more. If we look at life objectively, nothing can be better stated than that we must be both persistent and pliable. The man who would be of worth must make his own conditions.
To submit to defeat before you have even started is to not have begun at all. No one man has ever began life as an expert at anything, but has acquired the talent and skill throughout his life. Pick yourself up off of the floor and move.
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Hello i'm a 27 year old Mexican man, i quit my job like 1 month ago because the payment was shit i worked as database administrator full time, (Literally 10 bucks a day or less i'm not bullshitting about this), started to make freelance jobs but i can't seem to find anyone interested in my skills or stuff that is certainly too complicated for me to do. I'm alone, depressed and uncertain of my future.
I feel like my life has come to a halt since 4 years ago, no gf, no wife of course and just working from 8AM to 4 PM everyday, until 1 month ago. I'm a depression patient, currently going to the psychiatrist and actually feeling the benefits from the medicine, but i think my problem is mostly an attitude/discipline problem.
I have just so many cash stashed to survive for 2 more months, i kinda need to find a solution, if you guys could advice me it would be seriously helpful.
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we need to know your skills and if you have any degrees, and where you live/job location
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>. I'm a depression patient,
See Human Givens, that helped me. Basically, you worry, this causes your brain to gather activation and then you try to sleep and you spend a lot of time in REM state as the brain tries to release the tension. This means you sleep a lot and wake up tired and unmotivated as the neurons have been overworked.
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I feel like the professional world I want to break into is this exclusive club that I'm not a part of.
While I have the talent, I don't have the social connections.
What do I do?
For your information, and to bombard me with anecdotal evidence that STEM is the only field where you'll find a job, I want to work in Media Production/News.
All of the young people who get jobs in these fields are thin, tall hipsters whose parents have a shit ton of money.
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Put a job on craigslist that is in your field and steal shit from other peoples resumes if you feel yours might be lacking. Write follow up letters to any application and interview. If its artsy bullshit then make sure your portfolio looks good.
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>>18076623
Try to make connections then. If you can find a way to talk to someone who's in you can make plenty happen.
Good luck. You've made it this far so clearly you're doing something right.
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>>18076668
i actually did something similar and landed a job at a game dev company (epic).
i basically had a resume that had a bunch of programming stuff on it, but I had never programmed in my life. I made it last for about 2 weeks.
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best friend turned crush 2017-02-24 04:41:09 Post No.18076619
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-girl ive been friends with for years and i have always had flirty relationship
-go to university together in butt fuck nowhere, hate everyone else in the town and are each others best friends
-get drunk and admit i have feelings for her
-she reciprocates to some degree but is also bad with feelings
-shes best friends with a girl i dated a while ago, said she feels kinda weird about it but will go on a date with me if the girl is fine with it
-my ex is supportive of it
-now shes kinda hesitant, talking about how everything is really good right now, is unsure
-i really want this, i think i like her a lot
is this gonna happen? is there anyway to make it more likely?
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will she let you into her house? if so this may be your only opportunity, just make sure you have the proper supplies
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Life is too short to worry about the "what ifs". Just do it. If it works out, great. If not, it was only one date and nothing serious happened to make it uncomfortable.
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>is this gonna happen?
Maybe.
>is there anyway to make it more likely?
No.
She doesn't want to lose you as a friend. She knows that if you get into a romantic relationship, it changes the friendship. She knows that if something goes wrong in the new relationship, there's no going back to the old friendship, and that scares her. She might be brave enough to take the chance anyway, or she might not. Nothing you can do can decide the outcome for her, and if you push it too hard she'll shut you down completely.
Give her space, let her decide, respect whatever decision she comes to.
>t. guy who fucked up a really good friendship by getting into a relationship with one of his chick friends
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Feelings of total inadequacy in your relationship.
Have any of you ever faced this? How did you deal with it?
I feel like my confidence and self-esteem has been undermined so many times and I don't know if I can keep coming back from it anymore.
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what kind of inadequacy? tell us the situation
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A feeling like you do not ever make the other person happy. Anything you try to do for them, they somehow find something wrong with it.
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bump for any kind of help
things are so awkward between us now. but every time I try to open up I get hurt.
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YouTube video to help my friend 2017-02-24 04:01:32 Post No.18076536
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https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=b8LWTSquTDQ please help my friend out and watch his motivational video
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>28 mins
fuck off
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>>18076536
He seems like a sweet kid, but he hasn't really said anything too insightful that any decent person doesn't already live by. Dear child, this video is kind of awful.
Hopefully though, someone who needs to see it, will. But I don't think 4chan is the place to be lol. Good luck kiddo.
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not quirky enough to be ASD, not normal enough to NT 2017-02-24 03:28:42 Post No.18076457
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not quirky enough to be ASD, not normal enough to NT
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so recently, i went back down to my local clinic to get tested on the severity of my ASD, (last tested c. 2002), and i didn't have enough symptoms to be classified as autistic. but i still sometimes say some really cringy shit like 'the plot thickens' or 'bite my biscuits' (unironically, its a habit :S).
what am i, /adv/
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I don't know why everyone think that if you are a little weird you must be autistic.
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>>18076460
Le special snowflake generation
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>>18076460
nono, i was diagnosed with a very mild case when i was younger
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living with cokehead schizo and I fear for my life 2017-02-24 03:05:22 Post No.18076401
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living with cokehead schizo and I fear for my life
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Hey guys, I've tried to fix this problem myself but since that doesn't seem to be going anywhere I decided to come here. Though this problem started when I was twelve it has never been as bad as it is now. This person who I used to consider a brother on several occasions threatened to murder me, has pulled a knife on me, attacked my father, and most recently tried to murder my sister with a broken bottle. I really don't know what to do, I've tried talking to the police several times, I told them what he's done and that I don't feel safe but they've not been capable of resolving the issue. Every moment that I am in this house I feel on edge, it's gotten to the point where I can only get 2 to 4 hours of sleep a night and where I feel the need to carry a sharpened pencil just incase he attacks. I'm a high school senior who will be off to uni in a couple months, but I can not take this any longer, my parents also refuse to do fuck all about this. I didn't even feel this stressed when my brother hung himself. I tried to leave but I have no money and I also don't want to leave because I fear for the safety of my other siblings, what should I do?
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I created only one thread but it seems to have posted twice, not sure why
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Wait for him to do it again and then fucking slice his throat out of self defence
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Oh? And how did the police respond to your claim of attempted murder/assault with a deadly weapon?
Is the plot twist that YOU are the cokehead schizo?
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So tomorrow at 11:30 I shall be going to court for public endangerment, note I am a minor with no past offenses and this is a citation, we started a small fire at an abandoned building with 0 property damage, what should I expect and how long will this court session last?
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Idk. Be respectful. Look the judge in the eyes. Yes sir, no sir. Try not to look too bored. Don't make excuses. Just say "I wasn't thinking at the time. It was a stupid and dangerous thing to do, and this whole ordeal has scared me enough to make me never want to do anything like this ever again."
Also get a collared shirt, slacks, and a belt if you don't have them already.
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Make sure to bring Subway to eat. Also extra in case judge, DA etc might want one
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expect community service/fine. Show the upmost respect and when called, apologize. Probably 2 hours of your time.
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I have a lot of work cut out for me, to advance my life. It's also coming earlier than expected. Still, I'm lonelier than ever, and don't feel I can do very simple things. I guess this is depression? I don't know how to get people to want to be around my depressed ass as a friend, and I don't know why I should give a shit about advancing my life, so I just go on mechanically like a miserable robot.
Any advice?
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do you have an office space where you work, a place to meet coworkers? Are you in college/ a college town?
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I'm in a college town. There are lots of ivy league students and well-to-do high schoolers about. There are lots of arts professors and aloof high-class hipsters hanging about.
>Do you have an office space where you work, to meet coworkers?
I've been working McJobs. I'm going to get training for a real job, and then I might go to college. College is a good place to meet friends, but it's a long time away from now.
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How does one become a sex worker? How do you sell yourself without being tagged a prostitute?
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A Sex worker is a prostitute, no two ways around it.
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>>18076309
Just say no homo and its fine
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Choosing the right type of therapy 2017-02-24 02:05:39 Post No.18076275
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Choosing the right type of therapy
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I've decided that I should seek out professional help for my issues.
What I'm experiencing is a lot of bad memories that're driving me crazy. I'll think about a scenario in my life that makes me feel powerless and hurt, which in turn makes me really angry. I think all people do this, but I'll start punching holes in walls, won't be able to sleep, will pace around cursing at myself out loud etc.
I've experienced a lot of trauma in my life as well from an early age, with one episode in particular when I was about 19. I think these experiences have molded me and I haven't been able to leap over the emotional hurdles they have caused me.
I come to you to ask which specialist would be best for these types of issues.
Thanks.
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Hello, I'm no expert just as a disclaimer. IMO, you should seek out a therapist who speacializes in past trauma, PTSD, etc. group therapy might also be beneficial for you as well, where you'll learn to interact with others and manage your triggers of stress and anger. It's difficult but you can make it through this Anon. Have you shared this with any of your family or close friends?
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Sounds like you need a professional dominatrix who specializes in discipline
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Talking to some like bitch ass psychotherapist helped me when I was young
But then again, I was like 17 and she was like 20
That was blind leading the blind shit
Anyways, what's up with you?
I got some 10 years experience since I talked to a bitch
What are you going through?
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going to school soon for a degree in communications. I would really like to be a film maker or work in movie production. Good idea or no? Im also looking at minors in graphic/website design to make me stand out
career advice general I guess
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Last I checked there were film studies programs. Communications major is for ad company office workers and daddy's company salesmen
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im worried that those are a bit too artsy though, like going to school for acting. I want something solid I can work with and get my foot in the door and have a job in case this doesnt work out
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A guy i like told me i was "a delight" when i said i didn't want to be a bother.
At first i was thrilled, but in retrospect it sounds like something a grandma would say. I should move on, yeah?
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that's like asking "a girl I like said bless you when I sneezed, does that mean she doesn't like me?"
There's not enough information to figure it out. Yeah, the "you're a delight" doesn't necessarily mean that he's int you, but it's definitely not a reason to believe that he's not into you either.
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>>18076238
We always have nice conversations when i text, but he never texts me first. It's why i always feel like I'm bothering him.