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>>18078489
You don't make it stop, just remember you normally don't do things like that.

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I do it too and it's never stopped. It drives me insane but now I just instantly try to do something else to occupy my brain if it happens. I don't know if this is bad to do, but it works for me

Us d to happen to me too. You get over it because nobody else gives a shit. Honestly, they are too worried about their own insecurity to be concerned. So you said some daft shit. Chill.

>this week the classes are off because I had to travel to another city and I'm staying until sunday
>tomorrow there's a medieval fair in her city and she will have a stand (she studied art, so she sells hand-made figures and personal designed t-shirts)
>she asked me to go a few weeks ago, but I said I was going to try to go (because I was going to be here) and she even said would give a discount on a t-shirt
>until these last days I decided I wasn't going to go and that I wasn't going to try anything with her, but everyday that passes I have more doubts about it. Like if I knew I was making a mistake by not going.
>I can go, but I would have to take a bus very early, stay a few hours and then come back (it's a 3 hours ride and I can't come back at night)

What do you think?

>>18078454
If you're already regretting not going, then go.

At the very least you can get some contact info and talk to her later. If this is your last chance at seeing her before she disappears, you should take advantage of it. Better to know it didn't work out than wonder forever at what might have been.

>>18078296

>plus im lazy, what do?

stop being lazy and watch how all those other excuses 'magically' change.

Don't confuse being productive with being manic. They're different and one is only an illusion of productivity

>>18078300
shieeeeeeeeeee

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>>18078235

>picking a major based on how many girls you will meet

Do psych if you want to meet girls

>>18078263
>>18078271
I want to major in literature BTW.

>>18078140

>I have schizoeffective bipolar disorder and anxiety attacks and for the past year I've only been able to truly experience sadness

therapy. if a therapist can't help you then strangers on the internet can't either.

>>18078149
Hahaha I'm in therapy, and if anything, I feel like it's just made my life worse.

>>18078169

well internet people cannot treat 'schizoeffective bipolar disorder

find a new therapist

>>18078135
call the number they gave you and tell them to give you an extension

>>18078138
I didn't do that, but I went online and requested extensions up to this point.

Would they still be able to give me an extension or is it just FUBAR at this point?

Point is, I have both a transporting budget and work to go to. Ironically, I find my long days at work better than going to court, not to mention the transporting bill is much less at work than going to court.

I'm still a relatively new employee at work (about 80 days done so far), so I'm inclined to believe I can't be compensated as I go to court.

>>18078135
I've always been puzzled by this (not from the US). Will calling in sick get you in trouble ?

Tbh you sound like one of the dumb fucks you start yelling at.
Serious though, understand that these are people. You know, with lives and shit? Just because they do things you think are stupid doesn't mean that they don't think the same about you. Find some common interest or stfu

>>18078162
This

If you are looking for an easy opportunity to kiss her when you are leaving, walk her to her car or house if you picked her up. Stand close and make eye contact then just go for it , it sounds like she's somewhat interested

>>18078051
>since I only treat her like we're friends.
Well at least make sure to flirt with her a bit, then it would sort of naturally lead up to a kiss at some point. Most likely the end.

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>Social pressure forced me into college.
>Parents paid for most of it.
>Waffled on what I wanted to do the entire time.
>Settled on Psychology (lmfao, amirite?)
>Realized too late (last two semesters) I should've gone deep into either applied/pure mathematics
>Got a job out of school, but fucked up a lot, developed really bad depression and quit.
>Been trying to piece my life together for the last several months
>Parents constantly trying to hang out with me
>Constantly declining
>Dad asks if I'm alright
>Broke as fuck
>Contemplating suicide
>Might try selling my body to other men to make rent
>"I've got my health."


Overall, based on my experience, I'd say college is a pretty shit choice if you're not sure what you'd like to do. School is a vehicle for becoming a professional, but if you're not sure what you're doing there, you can't ask the right questions or meet the right people.

>>18078159
Fuck anon sorry to hear that. Definitely seems like things kind of suck after high school. I'd like to not go to college if I can avoid it, but doing something like creating an app seems hard

>>18078259
To be more constructive rather than just bitch about myself: looking back, there was nothing specific I wanted to do with my life. There was no one occupation that really called to me. That isn't to say that I wasn't interested in anything. I was interested in everything and any of those choices would have been just as good as the next. What was most important to me was being free of bullshit.

What I really wanted was to fix other people's problems. If I would've invested my time in high school learning a trade like auto care, I think I'd be pretty proud of that. Similarly, if I had spent my time in college building a career for tutoring math, that also would've sufficed.

I'm working on that tutoring career now, but I thought of it way too late in the game, so now I'm dragging ass. If I had started working on it a year earlier when I was drowning in free time and resources, I'd have avoided the catastrophe of the recent year.

When I was a little kid, I was sitting down working my own imagination. No electronics, nobody to talk to; just me and my mind. I remember telling myself - making a prediction that I would remember for the rest of my life.

"One of these days, not sure how, the future is going to scare and bother me."

That's about all I got.

>>18077992
>age
>gender
>relationship status
>occupation
>guys/gals you banged
>kids
>what did you learn from life, if anything? did you enjoy it, was it worth living? what keeps you going? what is your advice to youngsters, on any subject that you can think of? what do you think about afterlife?

I usually start out with deep breaths and slowly shallow them until I hit the right spot

It doesn't matter. Breathe normally.

>>18077912
You should be trying to be as uninvolved in your breathing as possible. Take a few hard breaths to find the sensation, but back off as much as possible as soon as possible. Breathe absolutely normally, but with your attention still on it - this is the hard part.

Investigate the tasks required of the position, ask questions and translate your current skills to that position.

You're nervous but that's okay. Just be attentive and inquisitive. They've called you since you seem like a likely candidate. I had similar worries coming out of retail but, assuming you were reliable in the past, you look like a stable employee. Just be willing to learn and adapt your skills.

Here's what all employers want: reliability, honesty and accuracy - as well as someone who can think and act independently when needed. Use these attributes and dig out life experiences that demonstrate such things. Chill.

>>18077808
bump

>>18077808
I dont know what GCE A levels are or BBB's for that matter. To be honest I know nothing of foreign medical programs. But currently in amerifat I'm about to graduate with my bachelors in biochemistry. I dont know how people go on to med school. It takes so much money to do the tests, redos, study programs for it and such. Then on top of that your loans will start to kick in if you dont immediately get accepted. Then you have to pay for all the interview flights, hotels, etc.

>takes like 12 years (undergrad, med school, residency, licencing.)
>costs like ~60-80k for all the schooling and thats for okay schools
>have to throw everything you love doing out the window to focus on just med school

Its a lot of work, its a lot of money, it means kissing goodbye fun and relaxing at all. Look into PA, nursing, and PT for similar but easier paths if this is too much for you.

As for advice right now, study hard for everything, talk to counselors about what you need to be doing at every step. Make sure you get A's everywhere you can.

>>18077944
Yea I know I fucked up. I'm just seeing what options I have at the moment.

>>18077629
You believe a girl likes you because she took a pic with you?
Really??

>>18077632
in addition to asking if i had a girlfriend, casual body contact, good chemistry talking

I dunno man. I don't want to be dense but I don't want to be too hopeful either.

>>18077636
Good talk, a question and casual body touching. Are you insane?
Take the gun and be direct or else you qill only lose precious time and get over it.
Is the best advice I can give you besidesd
You are doing it wrong

Bettering yourself for others?? No no no
Bettering yourself should be a constant act. A daily thing. Always. Not for a moment

Because the magic in relationships ends and only responsible mature people are the ones that achieve meaningfull relationships

The family is straight, I assume? Traits relating to child care can manifest strongly in men. If you have some experience of looking after kids, I don't see the problem.

It's a chick job. Nothing but 20-50 sumn year old women doing it.

>>18077621
Considering that you are asking this on 4chan I say do not apply. You aren't qualified and may need to move out of the neighborhood.