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I was a lot happier when I didn't live at home. But now i'm 20 and living in my parent's basement again.
I would love to move out but I feel like i should have some sort of career in the works and I can't for the life of me come up with an idea for one. And I wouldnt be able to go to school while supporting myself.
Should I just move out again and work dead end jobs for the rest of my life?
If not, how can I figure out what career to pursue.
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>>18090641
I don't really have a lust for tons of money, just want to have a somewhat secure source of income
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>>18090641
Live in a dorm and take out massive student loans, maybe?
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Work and save money at home while doing community college to explore careers and get your gen eds
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My life is full of shit. 2017-03-01 01:29:29 Post No.18090612
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I have 24 years old, just finishing my studies on TV Production and Media. I enjoy everything from it. But that's the only thing that makes me happy.
>My mother has a bad relation with my grandmother (they don't talk anymore), and I'm on the middle of those problems, since I'm the oldest son, feeling obligated to take a side is killing me.
>My dad has a bad relation with my mother (they split up 6 years ago), and I'm on the middle of it (similar to the mom/grandmom thing)
>Met a girl months ago, we were getting along very well. But now she says that we should not see each other anymore, because it seems that I developed feelings so fast (she considers me as someone that ''needs to be loved''). She told me that yesterday night, and the ''better'' way to deal with it was drinking and riding my bike around my neighborhood at 3 am.
>I had the dream job (photography on an enterprise that manages media), good money from it, but got fired for no reason (according to them, they needed to fire people because of money issues). And now I got a shitty job.
All of those things are giving me the worst pain in years, can't feel the urge to smile, to be optimistic, to think that my life will get better, eventually. Sometimes I think I'm depressed, I don't know.
How do I overcome all of those things?
Moving out is in my plans, but not now, I barely earn enough for uni and food. And I don't have any other job which can accept my uni schedules as a 'part time job'.
Pic related, a picture I took on the first date with this girl.
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>the ''better'' way to deal with it was drinking and riding my bike around my neighborhood at 3 am.
What?
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>>18090622
I considered drinking as a ''solution'' at that moment.
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>>18090628
Oh right, I thought she offered that as a solution.
She's probably on to something about you "needing to be loved" and just doesn't want to deal with someone like that. But I have no relationship experience, so take what you will.
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So most of my friends are pretty good people. However I have one who makes me feel like shit no matter what I do. I don't think he does it on purpose, but it seems like nothing I do is good enough. What should I do? I know I should just talk to him. But I'm more inclined to listen to advice if it comes from someone besides me.
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Just slowly ghost him over time
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>>18090598
Just ditch his ass. That's what I'd do. Don't keep toxic friends.
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Thanks guys I'm going to be giving this a lot of thought. Cause he's not entirely terrible. He's helped me through a lot of bad times. But sometimes things just have to come to an end.
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How Long Should I Wait for Commitment? 2017-03-01 01:24:31 Post No.18090595
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How Long Should I Wait for Commitment?
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I've been dating this guy since November. I'm really into him, and he seems to be really into me. We live about an hour away from each other so we only get to see each other about 2 weekends a month. He takes me on dates, the sex is great, and hes facebook profile is a picture of us.
But I want to take our relationship to the exclusive level, and he has yet to agree to commit. Is 5 months to long? I'll be moving into the city he lives in for the summer (Working during grad school), maybe I should wait then?
Idk how long I should wait before thinking about moving on.
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Talk to him about your feelings. Most people are anxious about commitment, not because of being "chained" to someone. But because they're afraid that you'll see more of their flaws and that you'll not like them as you once did. So give them a talk. Living closer should also help matters.
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5 months, lol probably won't happen tho.
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My girlfriend started low birth control about 4 weeks ago, the day after she started taking the pill, we were fooling around and I put my dick inside her for like 5 seconds, I made sure there was no precum and she wasn't ovulating, any way, we had protected sex about 2 weeks ago, I used a condom and pulled out, then a 3 days later she said she had her first period on BC, I'm sure it wasn't implantation bleeding, she had a lighter period than usual and it was lasting about 6 days due to BC. She's shown no signs of pregnancy other than being emotional all the time, but she's always emotional all the time, plus BC makes it worse IMO. So what's your take on it? Should I buy a test? Or am I worried over nothing.
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>didn't do anything that could result in pregnancy
>she's on BC
>she got her period like normal
>could she be pregnant???
If you're this paranoid, don't have sex.
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>>18090581
But it was a light period, and it was induced because of the BC.
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>>18090565
You good senpai, breathe.
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>be freshie in hs
>really set on making it into military Academy
>have good grades and in gay scouts so I assure myself that I can make it
>decide that being in any relationship will only hinder my ability to make it into Academy
>distance myself from every girl that's interested in me
>think that love is useless and will only leave me depressed in the end
>never have a gf at all in hs and stay virgin
>junior year and apply
>actually make it into Academy
I'm a sophomore now and still havent had a girlfriend. did I fuck up? should I have given it a chance? I'm happy where I am but I feel like I missed out.
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A sophomore in uni or in hs
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uni
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I got some water in my ear and dried it out with a q-tip and now it feels like I got ear wax stuck to my ear drum or some shit and I can't hear to well out of that ear.
No pain or nothing.
What do?
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I don't know why but this post made me laugh
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Get some ear drops from the chemist.
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How to get a long distance relationshit? 2017-03-01 01:02:07 Post No.18090513
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How to get a long distance relationshit?
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How does one achieve this? I've been thinking a long distance relationship would work great for me. How do I start? Is there a guide somewhere that I can torrent?
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Do you not like sex? Find a real significant other or some shit. Also if you want a long distance relationship so you be someone else it's called omegle or dating sites. My real advice? Quit being a fucking betafag
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>>18090517
...I travel.
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>>18090520
LDRs is one thing, having a SO who travels a lot is completely different.
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Anyone ever return to UNI after dropping out?
Wondering what the process is like and what id have to do to return.
My situation is I joined the NAVY after HS so uni is free. Got out 2 years ago and went straight into uni. Did a full summer semester and did well.
Fall semester started and I lost all motivation and literally just left. I didnt tell anyone i just moved away.
I know this was insanely childish and stupid but I didnt care at the time.
Its been a year and some change and now im ready to get serious though and want to return to the same UNI.
Any idea what ill be facing? Im assuming the classes i left count as failures now, how does failing classes at UNI work? Do i have to retake them? Will I have to re-apply?
Anyone with any insight into failing classes or returning to uni please share. Any general advice for this is also appreciated.
Again my degree is basically free thanks to gi bill so money isnt really an issue.
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Im kinda with you here, going back to college at 25. I've gotten drunk and passed out on campuses before. The never too late think is sort of the norm at state colleges, nobody really gives a shit if you're not weird or anything.
You're probably gonna need to re-apply, and you're gonna have to work super extra hard.
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Glad you know what im going through. The school is big as fuck so im not worried about blending in or anything. Going to University of Pittsburgh. Any other tips?
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>>18090573
if you think you can handle it, join a club. great for meeting people and making connections. connections are everything. also get advising if you can
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I'm completely dazed you guys. I feel lost in the stream of life.
I'm a 22 years old male who basically failed everything. I used to be anorexic in highschool, evidently I didn't focus on work and I was just an awkward mess all along. I still don't know what to do, having failed all the prospects I had (missed both tries for med studies).
I'm currently studying to be a nurse, a job in a field I have absolutely no will to work in anymore. It's a dead end occupation with no prospects, exceptionally so in France, I mainly picked that field out of desperation and fear of not having something to fall back on. But I keep on losing my time since I'm 18.
A thread came up some time ago where a guy on /pol/ claimed that he finished his studies and started working in an engineer firm at 30, where his coworkers were 5 years younger than him and he hated it.
I had a sort of depression after failing in the first field I initially picked, which lasted long enough to fuck me up: lost contact with everyone, got isolated even more. I lost a large amount of time and, consequently, opportunities; now that I have enough courage to get up and do something, I feel like it's already too late and so far behind everyone else because I'd start anew, at the ripe age of 22.
How do I deal with this? It's not bothering me as much as I'd like it to, I never felt more peaceful since I left all my former accointances. But I want now more than ever to get a good career and embrace life. It just feels like I'm denied all of this.
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I'm in the same boat. Went to university for Business Information Systems, asked my self why I was actually going. Now I just work a part-time job Fri-Sun and have Mon-Thu off for nothing. Trying to find my way. Don't feel bad about "the race" because life is not the same for everyone.
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Also, society suggests you do certain things, but ultimately it's your choice. Just make sure you have a place to sleep and food to eat.
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In 1 year I plan on getting my own apartment, but there's one thing I'm not sure on yet.
How does the internet work.
Is the internet shared with every single unit in the apartment complex, like a corporation/job?
Is it possible to get my own router/ISP just for my housing unit? or does it ultimately up to the landlord.
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It varies based on the building/strata. Some apartments have some sort of shared plan, some require you to get your own just like any detached house. Some apartments are wired with fiber and you can get absurdly fast cheap internet. So you'll have to do your research on where you're buying.
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Like above said, its really a case by case thing.
I have lived in 3 different rented apartments in my life so far.
First one came with a router already in the place, already internet activated, but you had to pay for access to it. You had no access to the router settings, and could not change the company.
Other two apartments did not have any internet in it, and we had to sort that out ourselves. We could choose anyone we like. Make sure to contact the company two weeks or longer before you move in, as the company sends someone out to your place to set things up, which can take a while to get. Usually when purchasing internet (can all be done online) it will ask you if you're moving to a new place, then ask for your move in date, and work around that.
I have heard of people moving into a place where they have to get internet with a certain company if they choose to get it, but this is rare.
Make sure to ask when you go see the place what the deal is with the internet there, some places aren't even internet enabled yet, and you might have to pay to get that set up (they chance the thing the phone plugs into ) which would be a ballache
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Also, no, I have never personally heard of internet being shared for an entire apartment building. There would be too many problems. People can't complain when internet is slow at work because they don't pay for it, personal use is different
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Googling answers for "Should you say 'No' to an employer if they can contact your previous employer" resulted with a lot of "No don't say that". What exactly would they call them about? I unfortunately did leave on bad terms, not harsh just mild which I don't think left a bad report, and don't want them to know, even though I learned my lesson. Should I just take the chance and say "Yes" and just hope they don't mention it?
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You get asked if they can contact your references, not your former employer. If you left on bad terms, don't put your former employer as a reference.
That said, I've never had a potential employer contact my references, though I did pretty much have the job in the bag at that point
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>>18090352
Legally I believe they are only entitled to ask how long you worked there and if they would hire you again.
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>>18090369
Pretty much this.
You should always leave a job on good terms no matter how long you've worked there, and always put in a two weeks notice and work till it's up. While they aren't really supposed to talk about your performance, if you made a good impression and left on a good note there's a good chance they'll speak positively of you in brief.
I have left a job on very bad terms and used them as a reference and it didn't prevent me from getting my current job which was a major upgrade. The only reason I used it was I worked there for 7 years and was a General Manager for half that time. Without going into too much detail I called some lady a cunt, caused damage to property and just walked out. Suffice to say I had a breakdown at work, but it's good I did otherwise I'd be stuck there still...
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I've been out of the job game for a while, but recently decided I should leave my job and find new work.
Is it me or have job applications become a LOT more time consuming and redundant these days? It's like every job wants you to fill out their application form, write a covering letter, AND hand in your resume. Even bottom of the barrel jobs seem to want this from me, when I remember just a few years back being able to send off my resume and hear back for at least an interview.
How do I deal with this? Surely people don't spend days filling out unique applications back to back all day?
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Depends on the job. In my experience, only lower-paying jobs require you to fill out a ton of forms, better-paying jobs just require a cover letter and resume. The paperwork that you'd be required to do is just routine paperwork you'd have to do for any job
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Welcome to the job market in 2017
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So I'll be moving to the NYC area soon, single male in late 20's and I'm mentally preparing myself. Been doing some research on NYC dating and there are a few common themes popping up.
Apparently nearly everyone is on Tinder now, real life interaction is at a minimum, and that there is actually a ratio that favors men. It's relatively easy (compared to other places) for even an average looking guy to get dates and sex. Is this freaking true? Makes sense considering NYC is nearly perfect to take a girl home relatively quickly.
I also heard that LTR's are actually harder, even non-existent, because most NYC women are looking for Mr. Millionaire and they are being texted by 3 -4 dudes a day and can't settle down.
Help me /adv/, what's the lowdown on dating in New York?
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My sister says there's a weird pressure to move in together just to save on rent
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>>18090218
I have anecdotal evidence (take it as you will) that a lot of young people in NYC are on tinder. It seems very popular in the city
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Tinder if used properly is honestly a fucking miracle.
You meet girls you'd NEVER come across in real life, or girls you see but don't have an effective method of asking them out on the spot.
Make sure your bio describes the type of girl you're looking for, and girls who match those qualities will think "omg he's talking about me" and message you. Girls who message you are 90% of the time the GF material ones.
Feel free to message girls, but know that if a girl matches with you and doesn't message you, but responds to your message, it usually means they are looking for something casual like a hookup.
Hookups can be fun but after 10 or 11 times it gets stale and the STD/Pregnancy scares become real.
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I'm just after a job interview for a marketing position and I got it. When I was applying for it I thought it was just a customer service thing, answering phones and that, but it turned out to be a very hands-on sales job with a path to management and all that.
The assessment was a day in the life type thing where you shadow your evaluator and they show you the ropes so to speak. It was absolute hell, I hated it so much, I've honestly never felt as miserable in my life. It was the most depressing stuff and I couldn't wait for it to be over. I tried to botch the final interview with the marketing director on purpose but apparently my evaluator "fought for me" he said.
I feel really ungrateful for not wanting it but it was one of the worst experiences I've ever had, I couldn't imagine doing it for 6 hours a week
I'm just off the phone with my evaluator now and I turned it down ultimately. Was this dumb? Should I just have sucked it up?
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Do you have anything else going for you? Do you need the money? If you answered 'no' and 'yes' respectively, stop being such a little whiny bitch and do the job.
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Very little is worse for you than getting up everyday to do something you simply don't want to do. Not only is it a waste of time, it drains the soul and significantly hampers your ability to what it is you actually want to do.
Unless you absolutely need to be employed, like, yesterday at the latest, always a good idea to wait for a job you decently enjoy imo.