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Not really suicidal but sometimes I fantasize about using suicide as a way out of life.
For example, I might think If I don't get this job, I will kill myself. I feel like I'm walking a tightrope. Is this normal?
Sorry, If it doesn't sound coherant I'm tired
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>>18091103
you need to go to a hospital thats not normal what the fuck is wrong with you
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>>18091103
could you tell me more on how you're feeling?
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I understand what you're saying, thoughts of hopelessness and feelings that life isn't worth living, but they're just thoughts and you don't have an actual plan to kill yourself.
I think you should start seeing a therapist, these feelings wont just go away on their own you need some help to get better.
But can you give us more of a background, why isn't your life going so grand?
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how do you get motivation to do this you hate doing/are afraid of doing/get no joy in doing
how do i stop being a lazy piece of shit that procrastinates everything
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Start making goals, small goals can also work. step by step also dont forget to treat yourself for something fun now and then. it takes dicipline for a period of time to make it out of a habit and then its become alright. Suggest watching motivational videos to keep you on the grind
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>>18091021
Well, I just kind of get into this "just do it" mentallity. Like I just do it.
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How do I shake the feeling that girls are disgusted by me by default?
I had some bad experiences as a kid that left this pervasive notion with me that all girls want me dead
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They are.
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>>18090883
Have you tried being gay?
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So lately I've been dreaming of my stresses. My plan is to buy a gun and kmsl when I turn 21, but last night I dreamed I had a shotgun. I picked up the gun and pointed it at my head and was suddenly hesitant. I knew one finger flick would open a world of the unknown. Then I woke up IRL. I don't understand this. A part of me is suspicious that I don't want to commit suicide, but my life is really hell. I really hate this world and I really do see my life going downhill. I have been miserable every single day for my whole twenty years of youth. Past the point of redemption for reasons I really can't control. Suicide is the best option; I just feel selfish for wanting to fight so much. I feel stupid. My fear angers me.
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Are you religious of any sort because i was the same way 5 years ago I am 30 at the age of 26 I accepted Christ and now everyday is amazing and is fruitful
Hope you come to the same decision anon
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Wanna email me your number? I just turned 21 and I can call you.
[email protected]
If you do wanna talk reply ITT i dont check rhat email often
Can I do sweet, romantic things too often for my gf?
I sometimes worry that if I do she'll start to expect it and get disappointed if I don't for awhile. Is this true?
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depends, if you're doing it everyday and shes a very emotional type, then yeah that can be bad. Because the first day you decide not to do that, she'll just freak out.
If it's like a once or twice a week thing though, I wouldn't worry to much about it.
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>>18090834
>Is this true?
Yes.
Want to do nice things for your girl?
Great.
Do those things after she earns them.
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It's more likely that if you keep doing these things so often that they will start to lose there effect on her. She will get desensitized to it and used to you doing it. Also this is my personal opinion. They say they want that sweet lovey dovey shit all the time but they really don't. Keep to a minimum and on special occasions. Better to leave her wanting more than to smother her. Trust me you will thank me later.
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So I've decided to quit looking at ecchi and hentai for the time being, since it was slowly taking over my life and I wanted to stop it before it was too much. I've stopped masturbating and casually looking at oversexualized pics like pic related.
What are some good ways to ease myself back into it. I believe that it's healthy in small amounts, right?
I've also been having some dreams where I fuck various girls.As in a different one a night, not a lot at one. Is this normal as I quit looking at porn?
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>>18090829
Porn is not healthy. Jerking off ocassionally is.
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>>18090831
If by occasionally, you mean in 5 day bursts, right?
It's not exactly healthy to hold it in for a month, especially as a young man. It's of course, also not healthy to jerk it 3 times a day, no breaks.
t. man who nofapped untl day 75, somehow having enough 'energy' to unleash 15 loads and 6 blanks in a day.
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>Tfw ex-gf of a year posts a cover of her singing this song and I see it while stalking her profile
It's about me cuz we broke up 6 days ago.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NDHY1D0tKRA
I really thought we were going to be together forever. Now i'm here thinking about how we'll forget about eachother after a few years. The feelings associated with these memories will grow less and less intense at some point. At least I hope. It's sad to think about, but it has to happen. It's sad to think about her meeting other guys and me meeting other girls. Part of me wants her back, but Ik I shouldnt. It's so fucking hard not to cave and talk to her. This feels permanent. My body feels heavy and I don't want to be awake. Idk what do do /adv/, should I listen to a spotify playlist or something?
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>>18090792
Why did you break up?
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That is exactly how I felt when Fromsoft changed their dark souls Facebook page name to Fromsoftware, Inc. and changed the dark souls 3 picture to the company logo today.
Dark souls, and while we're at it the souls series and the entire medieval/Renaissance setting has finally finished. :,(
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time heals all wounds--there's a reason people say that. it's all chemicals. this is what it feels like to quit this particular habit.
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Inexperienced guy who knows jack shit about the games women play here.
How do I interpret this shit?
>Meet girl.
>Goes good.
>She tells me I'm really handsome.
>Get second date.
>She kisses me out of the blue.
>Has me actually interested now
>Asks her when she wants to meet again
>"Soon."
>But when?
>No reply
>Two days later, wake up to a missed call from her that was made at like midnight
>Text her to ask what she wanted
>"Oh, that was an accident. Sorry."
>She tells me to text her anytime.
>Do so, ask about that date
>No reply again.
It's been a couple days. A part of me wants to call her out on this bullshit, but I dunno if I should bother. Which is more likely, that she's genuinely uninterested, or that she's playing a game either to get her kicks, or to keep me hooked?
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>>18090785
She wants you to take a risk just like she did
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>>18090823
Do you know how I know this anon has a vagina?
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>>18090785
She wants you to lead, newbie.
She wants you to pick a day, time, activity, and invite her to it.
She wants to be your sidekick. Stop suggesting she drives.
Just live your life, ask her to join you, and enjoy her company when it happens, for as long as it lasts.
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Career opportunity in Chicago vs. New York 2017-03-01 02:42:26 Post No.18090782
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Career opportunity in Chicago vs. New York
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I have the opportunity to move to either New York or Chicago, I have no idea what would be a better choice as I haven't been to either. I'm a 25-year old guy from London and need some advice.
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they both seem like terrible places for any serious, high paying work, and you can flip burgers anywhere so i don't see the point
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We are going to need more information. What are you planning on doing in the US
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Helping a Friend Change 2017-03-01 02:38:59 Post No.18090775
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I have this good friend and I want to help him, but I'm starting to think it's a lost cause and I might end up bothering him if I keep trying.
He's a very... feminine person if that's the right word, and I don't mean the gay kind. He's a weak pushover who never stands up for himself and always allows himself to get bullied because he doesn't want to "start any problems" with people. He is an untrustworthy backstabber and gossiper, the kind who takes things people say out of context to make them look worse. He talks almost nothing but shit behind people's backs. He has the balls to say what's on his mind and can be funny when he's not repeating jokes, but never stands up for himself and sumbits to bullies and takes lots of shit.
The guy has gotten bullied, picked on and put down his entire life and it makes me sick. I want to do more, but there is literally nothing more I can do to help him but tell him to man up. I tried talking to him about it and he made fun of me because I was "being cringey" then said he doesn't care about the bullies and having no friends other than me because he has good grades even though he cries in the shower and thinks about killing himself all the time. I talked with him again about and he said he'd try to change, but he's still submissive (not as much of an asshole as before though).
Is there really anything I can do to help him stand up for himself and become trustworthy or is he on his own? I care about this guy, I don't want this guy to spend his adult years lurking /r9k/ being depressed and lonely. Other than me he doesn't have any real friends (the other "friends" he has abuse him and humiliate him, but I think I convinced him to stay away from them).
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he sounds like your 'bad friend'
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>>18090775
No one elected you God, and there is a limited effect you can have on someone else's life. You've done the right thing in telling him of your concern, but that is the limit of what you have any right to do. The rest is up to him.
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So i have my wife and this girl....we all sleep in bed together....but I dont fuck the girl...because, dont want any possibility of her haveing my kids....my wife could not handle it ( i could not handle seeing her fuck a guy in bed ).
I do every thing else, finger her, but not som uch, lick her out alot etc. But recently the girl has been less open to me touching her.
I usually fuck my wife on top of the girl doggy style...which feels pretty alpha.
I like to watch them get it on as well, gives me a perma boner
we have two children.
what should I do?
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>>18090761
Ask the kids if they want in maybe? They might be lonely too
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>>18090771
nope to young
my girl literally went from loving me one day to impulsively wanting to cut me out of her life all together
how can i get over this without gettig drunk everyday?
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Asking her why. This does not happen for no reason, when it all started? it must have some signal when it all began...
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>>18090748
If you feel like you're going to lose her anyways just talk to her and ask her why. You've got nothing else to lose.
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>>18090748
I'm there with you, OP.
Girl I've been living with for two years just packed a bag and left.
Time to invest in ourselves.
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Sup /adv/, I have a few questions for you, and they're not to be patronising or anything, they're sincere questions. I'd really appreciate it if some of you would take the time to respond.
1) Do you have friends?
2) If so, how many of your acquaintances do you consider friends?
3) What distinguishes them to you?
4) Would you tell something personal and significant to you to your friend? If so, what would you be looking for? (Validation? Empathy? Bonding?)
5) What stops you telling these things to people you have a brief encounter with?
This isn't for a study or anything, it's just for my curiosity.
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>>18090722
>1) Do you have friends?
i guess but i never see them because they live way too far away. realistically no
>2) If so, how many of your acquaintances do you consider friends?
none
>3) What distinguishes them to you?
mostly it happens by chance and proximity, we work together, went to school together, played a sport or something together
>4) Would you tell something personal and significant to you to your friend? If so, what would you be looking for? (Validation? Empathy? Bonding?)
depends on what it is, there are some things i dont tell anyone. i could be looking for all of the above, maybe advice or just to vent
>5) What stops you telling these things to people you have a brief encounter with?
dont know them well enough to trust them
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>1) Do you have friends?
Yep
>2) If so, how many of your acquaintances do you consider friends?
Maybe 10-12 people? Of varying degrees of closeness
>3) What distinguishes them to you?
I don't quite understand what you mean. If you're asking why I'm friends with them, it's because we get along well, and have similar interests or views
>4) Would you tell something personal and significant to you to your friend?
Depends on the friend and the problem
>If so, what would you be looking for? (Validation? Empathy? Bonding?)
Depends on what it is. If it's a problem, it'd be for advice. If it's something negative going on in my life, it'd be so that they're aware of what's happening, and also to see if they can cheer me up. I'm also a believer in 'a problem shared is a problem halved'
>5) What stops you telling these things to people you have a brief encounter with?
Because why should they give a shit? Plus if it's personal, it's not something I want the world knowing.
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Staying smart about student loans advice 2017-03-01 01:43:38 Post No.18090657
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>Full time engineering student, 2 years in
>President of engineering club
>About 7k in debt
>Bought a trailer to live out of while in school
>Payments are 106 a month (rent in city where I live is roughly 500 to share a bedroom)
>still have another 4-5 years
>Catalytic converter went out on truck
>Can't smog truck
>Can't tow trailer without truck
I started at the bottom of math (in calculus now and most gen ed classes are done) - and still have about 4 or 5 years in school til I get my BS for engineering
How much student debt is the average "independent and on their own" student collecting per year?
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Why is it taking you 6 years to get an engineering degree?
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>>18090675
Engineering is a high unit major as it is, but I started at the bottom of math. My counselor said I could transfer in 2 years to uni. It's just an estimate
But the main thing is that I'm president of a pretty big club that's doing a competition with NASA - I am emphasizing leadership and management. It might take me a year or two longer but I already will have a few years of experience
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How to deal with people who hate you? 2017-03-01 01:41:05 Post No.18090652
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How to deal with people who hate you?
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I'm the OP from the post " Am I An Asshole? ". So majority people think that I do take things too seriously, I'm trying to work on that. But the people still hate me. I don't even talk to them and they say " Fucking asshole! ", " Bitch. ", " Smartass wannabe ". And they tend to bump into on purpose and do a sarcastic " whoops ". Yes there's the obvious " be an adult , ignore them, and tell the boss " two issues, these 3 people have A: been in the company for a long time B: I'm forced to work with them and C: I got three people against me. I feel like my hands are tied, I don't want to beat the living shit out of them but I don't want to deal with their bullshit. Help me out.
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>>18090652
If grown ass men are doing that, then they must be really sure you can't get them fired. Sorry, but the answer is "Ignore them and tough it out".
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>>18090652
Just try and ignore it and act like it doesn't bother you and pretend like you kind of even like them a bit to confuse them. Also, on the sly, try and get evidence of any bullying/harassment if you can (like video/audio recordings) so if it gets too much you can make a real complaint.
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>>18090652
Just cut any form of trust and relation you can with these assholes, OP. You don't have to take their shit if you don't want to.
Though, you should try to figure out what might be causing it too.
Best of luck OP