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She's always going to awkward toward you now. She is a very shy girl and you probably came on a little too strong. Just drop that that happened but keep talking to her.

Wait it out unless there was a clear misunderstanding you are certain can be corrected. In uncomfortable situations like this, drawn out explanations always seem to make everything more awkward.

>>18093330
I've been in her place many times. Clearing the air will just make it look worse.

You look like a girl.

>>18093337
but i'm 6'ft and muscular

>>18093314
hey I'm filling out my financial aid stuff too! I can't help with your issue but just wanted to wish you luck.

I was in a similar situation. There is a thing called a "dependency override". Basically if you were emancipated as a minor, or were a ward of the state as a minor and you can now prove you live on your own self-sufficiently you can fill out a FAFSA without them. If you've been in counseling at all for the situation with your parents a letter from your counselor might work as well. It's a bitch and a half. Go to your school's financial aid department. A lot of them are useless so talk to more than one person about a dependency override. It's a real thing, hopefully someone will be able to help you. If you don't qualify however, you are FUCKED for financial aid. At that point you will have to join the military or pay out of pocket somehow.

>>18093314
why are you saying you live with them if you live with your boyfriend? why cant you open a separate food stamps account under your name and get the documents you need easier?

>>18093284
Well if it fills a credit and the alternatives don't look fun have at it, but are you sure this college you are going to is accredited?

Either way just don't put it on your resume.

how about instead you take a real humanities course and actually learn something, like world literature. Or if you're just that much of a weeb then take japanese history.

it will be full of weaboos, guarantee.

>kill dad
>get caught
>go to jail
>free food
>free housing
>no taxes
>free anal
>no more financial worries

>>18093261
maybe he already knows but he's enjoying the attention from her

>>18093264
yeah, that might be the case

>>18093251
Use a compressor.

>>18093304
Thanks senpai

Shit sucks OP but definitely go.

Somewhere out there is a person who will love you. Just don't let this piece of human filth bitter your outlook.

>>18093250
Is that the kind of relationship you want? Dump his ass

>>18093250
its probably because you hooked up with guys. idk any other reason assuming that youre polite and respectful and loyal. youre fucked from this point on, only thing you can do is find the next love of your life or remember him while taking your time.

it doesn't get better

I am 26, have a degree, no student debt, own a home, and have a stable career. And yet my whole life has only ever been doing what I was told. I feel like I have truly accomplished nothing. I have nobody to talk to: no friends, no lovers, etc. My joints hurt. My skin dries out all year to the point of cracking and swelling. I feel so weak, tired, and hungry all the time no matter what I do.

>>18093224
I like to read. I also like to watch basketball. If I finish all my chores I can lie in bed and read or watch basketball without feeling guilty. I also want to improve the quality of life for my family and friends. This means learning things I can tell them about, making money so I can do things with them, introducing them to other people I know etc etc.

>>18093209

Dude I'm an olive-skinned "white" /pol/ poster with goddamn ashkenazi heritage.

But I don't give a shit. It's your goddamn body, shit happens to it and it changes over time.

Eventually it'll be wrinkly and hanging off you till you look like a sweaty scrotum. If you don't love your body and feel comfortable in it regardless of what happens to it, then you're fucked forever, mate.

Stop putting so much focus on it. Superficial shit like that don't make a man (or woman). Values and principles do.

>>18093214
Well
I know that
but I'm looking for solutions not really something that's against my question

>>18093192
why are you in a fake relationship fella? you may as well pick a random girl on a camgirl site and start donating to her weekly.

>>18093196
This sounds funner and more productive for nut busting then sitting around and being in relationship that dosen't exist desu.

>>18093196
>>18093198
We see each other once a month in person I don't understand?

live the life

That's what you're supposed to be doing anon

Don't try to put any logic or reason behind love. It's a process whose workings you cannot begin to understand. Do not be afraid of venturing out to try the illogical things it wants you to do. For those things will end up being more fruitful decisions in the long term than you could ever see now. Do not try to control it. Do not try to do anything to stop it. Let it happen. And it will take you to love and happiness. All that burdens you on the path of love will be infinitely worth the reward that love grants you for enduring it.

Make mistakes. Go by your love.

>>18093163
The more you go on, the more it will go away, trust me.

Dealing with anxiety is quite a complicated matter. I know you're expecting a short, easy answer, but that's simply not how it works.

Anxiety comes from attachment, if you didn't care about anything you wouldn't feel anxiety. But you do care a lot. Mainly about yourself, about what will happen to you and, more to the point about what you feel. The problem here is that you associate certain feelings with external events. You're happy because you have a girlfriend, right? Well, not quite. You're happy because dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin and/or endorphin is released into your brain. And you having a girlfriend and talking to her, being intimate with her etc is one of the things that puts these substances in action. So what's the difference, why the distinction? Well when you associate your girlfriend with happiness, instead of realizing it's an internal process you create or reinforce the idea that you can't be happy without your girlfriend. Which is not true of course. You do this with many things, actually, from your smartphone to your left hand. You believe that some things are vital for your happiness so you get anxious about loosing them, And if you lose them you become upset, not because of the lack of happiness that was provided by those thing before, but because of your assumptions that you need to have those things in order to be happy. To rid yourself of anxiety realize that your happiness is not strictly dependent on external events and circumstances. You can be happy without your computer, without your house, without your girlfriend. Hell, theoretically you can even be happy without your body, if your brain could somehow survive and communicate with the world without it. Sadly, you've been conditioned all your life to believe these things and getting rid of them is quite hard. Keep reminding yourself what I wrote here and you will eventually come to accept it. Meditation helps.

cont

>>18093201
And you care a lot about what might or will happen, even if you can't influence it at all. This is a failure of evolution (or God, whichever you fancy). Anxiety is supposed to help us do what we have to do in order to survive and prosper in the future. But more often than not you get anxious about things you can't change. This is the first thing you need to realize. When something bugs you ask yourself "Can I do something about it? Is it worth doing it?". If the answer to both questions is "yes" then do it. Otherwise stop worrying about it. Yeah, I know, easier said than done, but if you make it a habit it will help a lot with any kind of anxiety.

Another thing you should consider is that everything will end, sooner or later. That piece of chocolate you're eating, your favorite series, your relationship and, of course, your life. But you act like these things will last forever. You cannot accept changes or endings. This is another source of anxiety. You live in the future or in the past. Always worrying about what will happen next, making up scenarios in your head and obsessing over them. Or, you get nostalgic about the past, trying to relive your memories. So you never really enjoy the moment. The main reasons vacations and nights out feel so good is not because you're dancing or you're in an exotic location, but because you live in the moment. You're focused on what's happening now, not on what could happen in the future. You should try to do that more often. Again, easier said than done, it takes practice. Try clearing your mind of thoughts about the future and the past and notice your surroundings. When you have a task at hand don't obsess over the goal of that task, just focus on the task itself. Again, meditation helps.

>tl;dr: stop worrying and enjoy life, dickhead. It's only your thoughts that make you unhappy, all you have to do is ignore them and change the way you think.

>>18093211

Cheers for the assistance. I will look into it; this is actually quite interesting.

>>18093131
same here. i think a lot of girls appreciate that

>>18093131
No, you're not a "cuck". That is not what that term means and you need to be in a relationship to even qualify.
Christ I can't wait for that term to die...

Anyway, it sounds to me like you're just asexual. It could also be that you just haven't met the right person yet. But my gut says asexuality might be your thing. Research that a bit more and go from there. Good luck.

>>18093131
This is also a natural human instinct. People think random fucking is our most natural instinct and that emotions are us choosing to be more than animals. They don't realize developing a deep emotional bond is also instinct. It ensures your survival in another way, like other animals that mate for life. This is normal.

>>18093091
4chan.

fapping

life