So I met this girl on Facebook and I really like her, she has a really similar music taste to mine, is funny and overall really pretty. We were talking and things were going really well, but all of a sudden she stopped replying and overall not coming online. After 3 days of nothing she wrote and since then she hasnt said anything and I haven't seen her online. Thing is that she followed me on Spotify and I followed back and almost all the time she is using it. I really dont know what to do and I really like her....
>>18693519
Ask her on date.
>>18693527
I can't my only connection to her is Facebook
>>18693534
And like I said I haven't seen her there in a week or so
Why does it seem like people have this incredible capacity to be really shitty to one another? When I think of people in general, I imagine a being that's basically evil, but covering it up with a venir for the sake of getting ahead. Is this wrong?
If I'm not wrong, and people are generally evil, then my next question is "why"? Why do people have to be such cunts all the time? It just seems like EVERYONE has something shitty to say about someone else and is judgemental and hateful, and they're often nice to their face and talk nasty shit behind their back.
I really hate this about people. I wish they'd chill out and talk about baseball or something, but nah. Idk what's the deal with that? Is everyone a narcissist or something?
Where do you live? Nearest city?
>>18693463
In my opinion, the human beings adapts to it's surroundings. As pampered and well cared for most of us are in the first world we are basically raised to become cunts.
Just look around you, the shitty things overweigh the nice one, so no wonder everyone goes Machiavelli to get around it.
Only thing you can do is reevaluate all values you've been teached all your life and aleviate from the rest of society, educating those you have hope in cutting those without out of your life.
samefaggin >>18693480
for example, im generally a really extroverted and I love to meet new people and find almost everyone interesting in a way, but when I'm in a room and I have the feeling that most people in there suck ass i just shut down and wait for the next opportunity and leave. An philantropic misantrope, basically.
This is a question for advice as well as a rant.
i'm a 20 something old guy, i have friends from my old town and stuff. I study at a university in a city. I'm in my third year and i feel so damn lonely. I have no group to go out with. just acquaintances that know me and i know them. Conversations will never go beyond how are you doing anon, how was your weekend, what did you get for x subject.
In the vacation i was dating this girl for a month and now that i just got dumped at the start of uni i feel double the loneliness. It seems that most people found friendships during their freshers week but my group sucked and fell apart.
Believe me i tried finding 'friends'
> joined a study association
> was 1 year active
> work in a place with lot's of people from the same study field
> going to try to join a other commision from my study association soon
Yet all these things and i feel like that i have NOT found any new friendships. Just shallow contacts
I guess my main problems are:
No uni people to go out with
Lost excitement in my life by losing a girl.
My question any other people feel/felt the same way? What did you do to solve it
Unless there's something intrinsically wrong with the way you socialize (which is unlikely), I'm pretty sure your problem is that you don't follow through. You make acquaintances, but you leave them at that. You never chat someone up and ask them to get coffee, or drinks, or just shoot the shit. Yes, it's awkward and you might be rejected, but unless you try you'll never turn an acquaintance into a friend.
>>18693324
I'm in a similar spot but I commute to a large university and I don't want to drink, smoke, or party.
>>18693342
I don't commute i live in my uni city
>>18693340
Well that's what i did with some roommates yet it feels weird. I have the same group of friends for my entire life, sometimes people join but i never managed to find my other own group of friends that i know exclusively
I will try to make it short. I was bullied pretty badly from my parents, relatives and everyone else. A period of 10 years of complete shit with zero self esteem. I was at the bottom of the bottom. Even in college i felt lost, despised and alone.
Then one day i dropped my research, left school, faked my death on social media and re-enrolled somewhere far away. Started fresh there.
Now, this school should have 16000 students, i only see 40 on a given day. I know 90% of the 40 people I see on campus. I know most of the professors because apparently i have taken classes with them in two years already.
There are not many people I see on campus who i did not have a class with (paid actors?). This is where it gets me. All the students are really nice, calm, understanding and supportive. Instead of shitting on me they give me smiles.
This girl who I thought was really cute but I would never on a given day ask out; her facebook profile states she likes "World of warcraft" and "FFXIV" and she states it proudly. It's like I am living in a dream world.
Where ever I go, people bring up two things. That they are doing research, that I should do research, and that they have a relative dying from cancer (Basically I am being groomed to go back into my research).
Is it possible I am right? or am I so used to abuse that any act of kindness just makes me paranoid? what is going on??
On top of this two ladies moved in right next to my apartment and they started hanging out with my mother, low and behold they made a human out of my witch of a mother. Why are people all of a sudden helping me? I am looking for serious answers, please this is not a joke.
Oh shit, this is really interesting.
What is your "research" about?
How did you fake your death? Do you still live with your parents, even though you faked your death?
What are you studying in your current institution?
>>18693261
please seek a proper mental diagnosis, you sound like you're experiencing the early symptoms of schizophrenia and the earlier you get it diagnosed and treated the better off you will be.
even if you think nothing will come from it please just get it done.
Depends on what area you moved to. Some areas are shit and the people are shit. Other communities, and specially mormons, have great people. You're probably just paranoid from years of abuse and don't know what normality/decency looks like.
I mean if you need a wake up call, 4chan is the place to go. You'll never find a hive with more scum and villainy in the whole galaxy. You fucking faggot
<3
What exactly is this and how to get rid of it ? (sorry for shitty pic quality)
I am sure that it's not an acne and it has light brown color. It does not itch, it's slightly irritating to touch. I have a few (>15) more on my shoulders.
slightly less shitty image
>>18693260
grow beard.
Are the ones on your shoulders in a line as well?
Update. She never answered after that ;_;
>>18692929
Wait until she does, what else can you do?
Damn son that shit is cringy as hell
How do people like you exist, have you been looking at too many virgin/chad meme pictures and think that by being a creepy demanding weirdo you'll somehow score a chick
blow up. tell her she's a manipiulative bitch and you are seriously considering tracking her down to punish her.
you can't let people treat you like this
Hey /adv/, I really need your help as I'm very desperate by now and this is something greatly negatively influencing my life and mental health.
I have a very bad case of male-hairline-syndrome (pic related). I'm trying my best to hide it in my normal everyday life, but even then it's clearly visible. Do any of you guys ever experience this? How do you go about hiding it? Tips would be greatly appreciated.
>>18692904
Looks normal to me
Wouldn't even give it a second though if I saw it.
so is pulling your hair during doggy a big nono?
>>18692908
I don't think you understand. Or maybe you don't see it as well as I do, since I have to live with it for the past 25 years of my life.
Pic also related, might be even easier to see now.
Can you guys give me some meals I can have throughout the day to lose weight with a TDEE of 1800? I'm fairly poor, so I can't really buy fresh vegetables and such.
>>18692849
fresh vegetables are extremely cheap though.
2 pounds of carrots costs like 1.50 at smart and final in west hollywood california (one of the more expensive neighborhoods).
in the whole 2 pounds thats only 360 calories. compare that to beef which has about 1000 calories per pound (give or take depending on how lean it is)
>>18692849
define 'fairly poor', what is your monthly food budget?
>>18692864
About 30-50 dollars.
>>18692862
Yeah, but for me, the thought process is that I can buy lots of ramen packs and chicken noodle soup for the same amount. If it's necessary for the meal plan, I'll change, though.
My GF keeps wanting to see what my ex looks like.
When we first started dating, I told her that she was an upgrade to make her feel good. While I do believe that overall (ex was insane), my ex was a lot skinnier and had a better body. My gf gets super insecure about her weight, so I'm afraid this will cause trouble.
I've been stalling her for two years, but eventually she is gonna want to see her Facebook or something.
What can I do?
She's a woman, she's going to figure out who she is eventually. You might as well show her straight up, and tell her that you find her (your current gf) more desirable in any way. Your gf shouldn't be asking to see the pictures if she can't handle it, you can't help other people being insecure.
>>18692832
>for two years
You've been together for 2 years and she still gives a damn about your ex? She might be a psycho in hiding.
>>18692873
This
>>18692874
And this
>new coworker 3 months ago
>she says no personal questions when she first comes in
>be me, a guy, doesn't like small talk and introverted, so very happy that she said this.
fast forward 2-3 months, she's the nosiest fucking bitch ever. I turn in absence form in advance, have 5 pto days so use some sick days whenever I don't feel well. She asks me 10 million questions about my sickness.
>"what do you think you did that made you sick?"
>"what did the doctor say to you?"
>"Do you think it could be a different illness?"
constant stream of personal fucking questions when I come back from a PTO. I'm not even breaking any fucking rules. I'm literally just using my sick days and turning them in advance to my upper management, which are all getting approved. What the fuck do i do with people like this? She's like 10 years older than me too so I can't be rude at all. Please help.
>>18692722
>What the fuck do i do with people like this? She's like 10 years older than me too so I can't be rude at all. Please help.
Could she be mothering you? Politely tell her that you appreciate her concern but that you don't want to discuss it.
>>18692748
She does have this "older sister" vibe when she talks to me like she cares about me. But it's getting really annoying now because she jokes to me about me being sick now as if I've been lying about my sick days. I never ask her any personal questions and just keep to myself. She forces conversation on me by randomly talking to me about my personal life and asking me what I have planned for the weekend, stuff like that. But it's especially annoying when she asks me specific questions about my illness. I'm not dumb, i can tell she's trying to gauge if i'm lying about it or not, but what does it matter though? I work in a corporate company where every employee gets 5 sick days and I'm adhering to these rules.
>>18692767
So she's mothering you while teasing you. This is done (subconciusly) to bond. Like saying "I know your secret, I could tell on you but i won't because I like you". You confirm in this "game", by getting annoyed.
You can stop it by not letting her get a reaction from you.
>be me
>Meet girl
>she keeps bugging me
>i stop talking about normal subjects and start talking about math I'm studying to get her to leave me alone
>she gets super turned on
>find out her dad was a math professor
>she keeps coming over and sucking my dick and trying to get me into a relationship with her
What do
>>18692643
What's your desired outcome?
>>18692660
My life to provide to most value to myself, humanity, and existence that is possible
>>18692663
And do you think she will help or hinder that plan?
I have been in a relationship for the past 6 months with a wonderful girl. I love her so much and I care about her more than anything.
The issue between us is that she had an ex boyfriend for 3 years and after break-up, they decided to stay as friends. This part didn't bother me that much, they were in contact via call, messages etc, she was always honest with me about this.
Last night, she told me that his ex boyfriend moved to a new apartment and asked her to come over to catch up and talk a little bit. She told me that she wants to go there. I said to her this would make uncomfortable and unhappy but I will not stop her if that is what she wants.
She says I am overreacting over this and it is completely normal to keep in contact and meet each other in a while etc.
Am I being crazy over this? Is this really normal? Please advice.
>>18692335
No it's not really normal. Why did they break up?
>>18692335
Most people I know would frown on her meeting the guy alone. It's kind of shady. Is she going alone or is it some kind of party? Were you invited to go along?
>>18692340
>>18692340
Because his ex boyfriend was cheating on her, after she finds out, she decided to break up with him.
The funny part is that he says he still loves her, he wants her back in her life etc.
Seriously I don't know what to do...
>>18692345
She is going alone, it is not a party. It is just one to one date.
i was talking to this guy for a long time and fell hopelessly in love with him even though he only left me small bread crumbs of affection or attention. i thought our personalities were perfect for each other, we had the same interests and sense of humor. but he always started putting me down out of no where and hitting on other girls in front of me and telling me who he thought was attractive.
this caused me to begin talking to one of his friends, who gave me a lot of attention and affection (i've been going through a lot of difficult wild things). well, basically, his friend asked me out and chad begins to show interest again so i put the his friend on hold kind of, don't really confirm whether i am dating him or not.
fast forward about a week of me still giving chad one last chance, i'm feeling suicidal and chad basically tells me i'm ugly and to do it. i try.
so i block chad on everything, his number, all that, and decide to confirm relationship with his friend.
his friend is so sweet and treats me exactly how i wish chad would have but...he isn't chad. i';ve been pretty good about not breaking my no contact rule/looking at his facebook and what not but i'm still fucking sad as fuck and i don't feel anywhere near what i felt for chad what i do for his friend.
should i break up with friend and give chad another chance? or just break up with friend and fix myself? or keep dating friend who is actually a really nice guy and might eventually have potential?
You completely deserve it. Dumb cunt
format your text please. Please.
Bait
I was hurt by somebody and 8 months later I'm still hurt.
They've completely turned me off sex and relations. I feel sickened by the thought.
I just want to go through the rest of my life without feeling like I need somebody, especially them.
Its almost been a year and I feel worse than I did originally.
I don't know what to do.
>>18692206
Go to theraphy. People here reject that advice, but after a year of being unable to shake the funk on your own you should really consider getting help, real help. Not 4Chan help.
And to start. change your rutine. Do new things. That will help you get into a new frame of mind.
>>18692206
You need to learn to let go.
>>18692257
tell me how
I had his class my senior year, it was his first year teaching, and we are 7 years apart in age. I'm graduated now and in College, he's in his second year of teaching. We were friends during the school year (I'd have lunch with him), and I did tell my parents about him (things they had in common or miscellaneous things about him when it came up). I didn't expect to date him after I graduated, but we stayed in touch, I admitted I liked him, and it evolved from there.
I'd like to stay with him. He's a lot I want in a guy and we get along perfectly. What can I do to encourage my parents to accept him? I could always keep it from them until I move out, but I'd rather be honest. I feel like they'd really love him if it weren't for how we knew eachother.
>>18692183
Tell them when you move out. Telling them while you live under their roof stacks all the cards against you, and your feller. So they demand you do not see him. What will you do? Live with him? That'd be imposing on him all too soon. Maybe it'd turn out you don't live together very well.
>>18692190
I was considering that. Only qualm is I won't be out of the house for another year or two. I fear they'll catch on by that point. Maybe not though.
>>18692199
Why not be all:
>I'm going out to lunch bye guys love you
The "love you" slightly butters them up
>Really? Who with?
>{Teacher's first name.} {Teacher's full name}?
>{How you think your folks would react goes here.}