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Imo it is a shitty idea, it's like a 7 year old kid drew it

2 o and 2 []. Fucking great. Good job on the design, op. Seriously tho, you dont want this on your body till rip.

>>18105114
Why is your father on your shoulder?

Well obviously there are only two things you can do, go back and wait until you can get another visa and then find a way to get a job there that will let you stay longer and eventually permanently

>>18105092
But who is going to hire and sponsor someone with no qualifications?

I've thought about going to a college but I can't afford the tuition even with financial support from the college itself.

I'd be in my twenties if I got accepted, then I'd be 24 when I leave college then I'd have to leave the US, come back again and try to find a job then leave again to work at my job.

But even then, I'll have to work and spend less time with the people I want

>>18105102
Go to college and then eventually uni in the UK,visit your american friends in the summer, then move there when you have the skills

If you want some thing work hard for it, this isnt practice this is your life

1. Depression is responsible for almost all of the problems on this board

When people are complaining about having no prospects or skills or future, they're really complaining about their unwillingness to develop those things. There may be some rare cases where someone has been fired, made homeless and lost a limb and so is unable to learn the skill for that upcoming job because they've no home, but I've yet to see a post like that here.

Instead, it's all about mindset and people complaining instead of dealing with problems. I did a medical questionnaire by random impulse when I was 30 and it turned out I'd been depressed for 14+ years without knowing it. I never hated people or myself, never felt suicidal etc, but all the symptoms were there.

I realised I felt like shit and had no energy because of it. I've since learned that depression is a combination of hormone deficiencies and shitty brain chemistry as a result- usually on 4chan it's because of just two reasons, but for completeness I'll list the complete cure/prevention for depression:

>Regular exercise
>Regular sunshine - at least an hour per day
>Regular social interaction with peers
>Good diet - as little sugar and processed foods as possible
>Good sleep
>Good management of stress

1. Exercise is number 1 and will change most of your hormones in as little as a month. Understand that the brain is simply another organ in the body- if you don't stay active and semi-fit then you're going to be depressed- simple as.

Lifting weights worked for me, cardio works for others, calisthetics and bodyweight are fine if you can't afford a gym. Do it every day or as often as you can without giving up.

2. Vitamin D3 is arguably the most important vitamin for human mentality as it's responsible for cholesterol management, skin health, organ function and hormone regulation- primarily testosterone and other sex hormones which are nearly directly linked to a healthy mind. Get as much as you can from sunlight

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3. Social interaction is another huge part of being human and one that's often overlooked by dumb kids. Social skills will set you apart for success in life just as much as exercise and intelligence can. If you're scared to meet new people or interact with girls it's almost certainly because you're lacking in social nuance and don't socialise enough.

Hobby and interest groups are fantastic for this because
>You meet a variety of new people with similar interests as yourself
>There is no pressure or onus on socialising
>You learn and develop skills while doing so
>You can be outside and get extra sun and exercise too

Sports, photography, board games, whatever. Search online and go meet strangers and develop those skills passively.

4. Good diet is as integral to being mentally healthy as exercise is. Added sugar and white flour are the biggest problems for most of the 4chan audience, but processed foods in general are mostly shit. I've learned a lot about food and diet over the past couple years and while you can survive on just about anything- staying mentally healthy relies on just a couple things:

>Variety
>Freshness
>Less sugar
>More veg

http://www.whfoods.com/foodstoc.php

This page is a cheat sheet for good nutrition- eat 40% of the foods from each category on that list every month and you're golden.

Oh good, another "hey stop being depressed by just not being depressed" thread

>>18105068
I didn't talk to almost anyone for 4 years when I was there. It doesn't get any better

>>18105068
Everyone else around you is in the same boat - strangers in a new place, knowing nobody. Some are just better at hiding their nervousness than others.

In this situation there is absolutely nothing weird or nerdy about just going up to someone and introducing yourself. If they're moving in, lend a hand. If they look lost, be lost with them and help each other find your way. If they happen to sit next to you in a class, ask why they chose it or if they know anything about the teacher. That is what everyone around you will be doing, to get to know each other.

That's why the uni will have loads of events - dances, parties, meetings, talks - set up, to put everyone in the same room so they can have excuses to talk to each other.

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bumping with my doggo

Theres also a place I could go hiking with my doggo to

Useless fucking niggers. Im going to stay 3 or 4 nights. Deal with it.

leave your dog at home you fucking weirdo.

Sounds like the heartbreak is settling in on you.
Coping always seems to be a choice of whatever you made in agreement with your own consciousness would make you better. The sad part is in telling you you'll likely spite yourself out of it. On the other half you become more curious to what other are doing around you and simply mimic until so it is true. You wish you couldn't deal with this and you hate that you are. If there was some other way you'd be doing it.
Deep breath
Pick a favorite movie from childhood.
Go take photo's like your interested in art all of a sudden.
Scribble on books you'll never read until each page says something funny to you.
Do pointless things that wake you up on how pointless dwelling on it and compare.

buy an ant farm.

Friends
Fitness
Getting out there
Finding your next chapter.

>>18104850
Thanks anon

Just feeling stressed out all the time.
I'm working at 140%at work currently as well as I'm the technical lead on various major projects.

Just wish things didn't kick you while you were down

>>18104851

Thats really dope I still hate working more than 30 hours and yet i feel like i relate the feeling.

One thing I liked when I heard it was "The punch you don't see coming is the one that'll take you out, or else you would've done something about it."

Of course it did, life saw you down and you figured thats all it'll do to you if you just stand there. You've already forgotten what your fighting for.

pick something.
your not alone.

>>18104819
Idk but I've got one too

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>>18104819
>>18104819
Just go man, go see the doctor, he'll either tell you it's serious and it needs medicine or surgery, or he'll tell you it's fine.

It'll put your mind at ease if anything, you'll have a definitive answer

>Be me, 19, last year
>Smoking weed, fapping
>Groping balls because feelsgoodman
>Suddenly get weird sensation on epididymis
>Not painful, just constant weird sensation
>go to doctor, get reccomended Ultrasound
>Get ultrasound
>Have weird protrusion coming off my left epididymis
>It's called an appendix, they say it's harmless
>Had it ever since, balls work fine

I found a few bumps ontop of my testicles last year and after a month of no sleep and thinking im going to die, it turned out to be cysts.

Pretty sure cancer is only on the testicle itself.

If you want, find a really bright flashlight and shine it through your sack. If you dont see any black where the lump is your golden. (Tumors are solid and light wont pass through)

Contd.
My goal was to tell girl 1 how i feel but Im starting to feel crushed from the last things Ive heard (Maybe im just paranoid and self conscious?) But im not sure if i should just try to extend and try to become better friends with girl 2 and see if I we have a connection/thing. Like I said, I just want someone to feel as strongly as i do for them as they do to me.

TL;DR

Senior in HS has had feelings for girl 1 since late middle school, want to share feelings soon, starting to feel discouraged from things I heard her say. Not sure if I should try to talk to this girl 2 who is a cool nice friend of mine and see if we have a connection thingy. Me and girl 2 have been really hitting it off lately. Really been enjoying each others time.

Im confused, help please.
Bump

Sorry for the typo. Using my phone.

hellotalk

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Hellotalk

I've been studying Japanese for a year and a half, and i've been using the app for about a year. It's extremely useful and i've made a lot of friends from using it. I even took a trip to Tokyo in January and met up with a bunch people through hellotalk.

Good luck with youe studies m8!

>>18104612
It really depends on the person. For me, I can survive without disclosing my thoughts to anybody outside of an "anonymous" imageboard, and almost did so, but decided to give therapy a try to see what it's like. If nothing else, it's at least somewhat of a relief for me to speak openly with another human being, even if they couldn't care less about anything I ever say, and are only nodding along for a paycheck. I'm well aware of how pathetic it is, but I do it on my own terms, and am not forced to do so, so I'm able to forgive myself for paying somebody to be what essentially amounts to an emotional prostitute to me. It's interesting to see how a real person reacts to my speech. I've been solitary for so long that I nearly lost the ability to socialise properly. It's surreal to me to speak in person to another person, and have them speak to me, too. Also, it's likely a good idea to choose somebody who you won't become attracted to mentally and/or physically, ever. So as to avoid the onset of limerence and other wanton infatuations that'll only ever further complicate your situation, much to your own detriment. My therapist is admittedly attractive, but luckily for myself, I'm such an an irreversibly do, and a pathetic and apathetic idiot that it doesn't factor at all into my mental state.

>>18104612
Vocalising your feelings makes you rationalise your feelings, and therapists usually make you reflect on the reason why you feel in a certain way or on how you could improve it.
Talking to a person who isn't part of your everyday life means you're honest about yourself without being scared of consequences.

Personally, it helped me greatly.

>>18104612
-What brings you here, Anon?
-Well, I feel depressed and anxious.
-What about?
-Just about everything
-Well, can you start with one example?
- OK I feel . . . . .

And even if the therapist never says another word, hearing yourself say your feelings out loud will be therapeutic. But he/she probably will say more, not to solve your problems but to guide your thinking about them until you understand yourself better.

Then and only then, and maybe not even then, the therapist might suggest solutions - if you haven't worked them out for yourself in the process.

Take pain meds and eat pudding. Sleep upright on a couch and prop yourself up with pillows.

>>18104625
OP here- ill try, anything is better than nothing

drink smoothies. fall asleep on your desk like in school. Use towel as pillow to soak up possible blood/drool.

I feel you on almost every level OP. I'm 28 and have crushed/loved this one person since we met in college 6 years ago. I really saw potential for the relationship to last a lifetime. But he didn't see it the same way and revealed to me that he has stronger feelings for another girl that moved in with us 6 months ago.

At least know you are not going through that "this is the end of days" break up that hurts you to the very core of your soul alone.
But from what I know from others, it's all about time. You have to just let time make things easier for you. It's going to be hard. You are going to think about your love every day for a bit. Eventually though, those thoughts spread out to every other day, to once a week, and eventually not really at all unless specifically triggered.

Don't date until you feel ready to. Let dating again be on your terms stemming from your own desire to go out and explore. You should be keeping yourself busy with your own self improvement and strengthening and expanding the other established bonds in your life.
Hopefully we can both get through this. Good luck to you OP. I hope we both find the happiness in love we deserve.

>>18104662
Appreciate it, anon. I figure I'm not the only one but nice to hear from others who get it.

It's such a weird sensation. Like waking up from some perfect dream that you were sure was real and facing the crushing realization that it didn't happen and you're just lying in your bed.

Bump. Love sucks

>>18103365
This happens at every high school. The school I went to had like 4 or 5 kids in the same class die over the past few years and everyone does the same shit. It's just a product of the popularity contest that is high school. They want people to think they cared and that they're sad. Some may feel remorse but that's very unlikely. They don't actually care about the dead, they just want more attention.

>>18103365
People are virtue signalling cunts. NEVER forgive or trust the people who make someone else's death about them. The exact same thing happened at my school, but with a motorcycle accident. That event honestly made me realize that about 85% of people are so far beyond narcissism they've reached sollipsism. Just fuck those people. The guy who died wasn't my friend, but the way everyone handled it sickened me to the core.

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All of you in this thread, you lot are good people and I can dig your opinions.

I just start kissing them. It’s like a magnet. Just kiss. I don’t even wait. And when you’re a star they let you do it. You can do anything. Grab them by the pussy. You can do anything.

>>18109642
TIt's not WHAT you sa. It's the fact that you're saying it.

My most successful line was always, "Hey, how're you doing?- My name is ____, would you be interested in going to ddinner sometime?"

I also always did so in person. It has a better impact than in some shitty dating app or on facebook.

When I was a teen/in my twenties, I spoke to countless girls. Whenever I was rejected, I was rejected and contacted girls later for a platonic hangout, which is a good source of female friends, which can give you good contacts for other relationships

Develop a personal style and approach to dating, and you will go far.

>>18109642
>its like a magnet

This. You will get the vibe. You will know.

yes, i got herpes at the gym

moms can also transfer shit to their babies form birth

>>18108882

Oral and anal are also "actual sex" and STDs can transmit through both.

>>18108882
In fact it turns out to be you are *more* likely to get HIV from anal than vaginal