After almonst 4 years, how do you not get hurt when you learn that your ex is with somebody else?
It hurts. I've always hoped that we'd be back together in the end. It hurts.
>>18106564
Remember why you guys broke up. Forget she exists. There are other fish in the sea.
cut ALL contact.... do it.. I know you have some contact, cut all of it.
i just started going to a new school, today was my first day and since i got home i cant take out of my head that im taller than anyone else in my classroom, btw we are all grills so
is there any way to stop gaining height? i would make anything to stop and even lose height desu
i hate it because i think it just doesnt fit me haha
even the most of the guys i see here are smaller than me
>>18106529
Dont do it anon! Tall girls are sweet.
>>18106529
Tfw no tall girl to wrap me in her legs of love.....
m/19
Social issues in general
All the friends ive had, have either passed on or left me behind.I have one friend who i can barely relate with (normie). He constantly is inadvertently(?) showing pda with his gf (they live with me at the time brobono) Even knowing my issues, he makes it very clear when he has sex almost every time.
>Be bi
My sex life consists of guys who only take care of their interests. i havent cummed once from any of my interactions.
I feel like nothing.
Literally.
I dont think im unattractive. i like to hold onto that delusion.
Ive told people all i want is to be held, people that "care" nodd and continue to pander to my ramblings
"You'll find someone"
"It will all work out"
All the convenient cliche answers.
More people have tried to kill me than treat me like a human.
Went to to shrink and was honest,
they put me in a facility hundreds of miles away (nearest adolescent psych ward)
Put on drugs that only ever fucked with me.
>Grow aversion to meds
>Grow aversion to docters
came here to see if anyone can relate, or give any kind of feedback
TL;DR
>Lonely mentally ill fag like everyone on this site.
>Only friend is normie. (moving out of state soon)
>Afraid to find new companions
Anything /adv?
>>18106526
>Anything /adv?
You may be a fag but you don't have to be a slut. Focus on relationships over sex. Why would people care about your needs when you allow them to take what they want without effort? Work on building up your self-esteem and confidence so that you'll have the power to kick people to the curb when they don't treat you well.
how you're feeling is normal for a young queer person, alienation and isolation are incredibly common, so if you have the delusion that theres not 100,000 people in a vaguely similar sitch than you in your country alone please ditch that now. dont bother with internet dating, eat probiotics and vegetables, get into a sport or martial art, focus on saving some money, read more books, get lots of sleep, actively notice and stop when you talk negatively about yrself in your head
tell people who mistreat you how it makes you feel and if they start being abusive in response to that, point out what they are doing. you dont owe anything to shitheads. the men who are having casual sex with you and ghosting are likely more miserable than u (statistically)
the human brain is capable of feeling an incredible spectrum of emotion and you would be actually, for real, honestly astonished how good your life might be in like 3 months after moving to a new state and finding a cool pal who likes your sense of humour and company
OP here,
>>18106548
>You may be a fag but you don't have to be a slut. Focus on relationships over sex. Why would people care about your needs when you allow them to take what they want without effort?
I needed to see this. thank you anon
>>18106578
>how you're feeling is normal for a young queer person, alienation and isolation are incredibly common
i have played into the delusion a bit, i just needed that reminder of what it is. its just hard.
>dont bother with internet dating
Where else do i go at age 19 to find dates?
*selfcringe
>tell people who mistreat you how it makes you feel and if they start being abusive in response to that, point out what they are doing. you dont owe anything to shitheads. the men who are having casual sex with you and ghosting are likely more miserable than u (statistically)
the human brain is capable of feeling an incredible spectrum of emotion and you would be actually, for real, honestly astonished how good your life might be in like 3 months after moving to a new state and finding a cool pal who likes your sense of humour and company
Overall anon Thank you
Okay /adv/ i need your help, really.
>be me
>meet a girl on fb 1.5 (circa) years ago
>start talking
>chat or call everyday ever since
>7-8 months ago
>start liking her
>3 months later
>get a gf
>2 months later, break up
>start liking her again
>fast-forward 3 days ago
>she visited my town for 2 days
>the 2nd day she was here (3 days ago) i was downtown with a friend
>she calls me to meet her
>meet up irl for the first time
>she recognizes me immidiately and hugs me for around 15-20 seconds saying how good i look how happy she is to meet me irl
>im too fucking happy
>1 hour later she leaves cos she had no time left
>hugs me and lies on my neck for half a minute saying she'll miss me
>fall in love with her too bad minutes after she leaves
>want to confess to her
>she lives in the other side of the country, meaning it's impossible to meet up every weekend at least cos studies and no money
what the fuck do i do guys? i can't explain how good i feel thinking of her ever since i saw her and saw how happy she was.
is it worth it to confess and achieve nothing since she leaves far away? or should i wait for the right time?
well you can confess to lift that burden, but yea won't do much even if you two decide to have a LDR cuz they fucking suck.
maybe if she feels the same she will come again and who knows maybe decide to move in your town.
BUT thats just hoping too much I guess.
>>18106555
Well, for now, she's not moving, at least for the next 2-3 years, so no need to hope for something like that. Problem is that I think she likes me too so it would suck if we were in a LDR.. I just don't know what to do.
If I confess, alright, maybe I'll get rejected, maybe she'll tell me she feels the same so okay, we have a LDR which is going no where.
If I don't confess I will not let her know what I feel about her.
I've never deals with a situation like this before, so bear with me.
I'm craving some ice cream right now and I need energy to push on with this essay, should I have a couple scoops to keep me going?
if you could,why not but then again it can make u feel good but wont boost your performance depending on you as a person, maybe even help u procrastinate more like you are right now coming posting on 4chan. or you could just discipline yourself,forget distractions and just do your essay
>>18106493
throw the ice cream in the garbage until you finish your essay, punch yourself in the testicles everytime you make a post on 4chan instead of working.
ice cream is amazing. incredibly, it tastes even better when you've earned it. finish thine essay anon and taste ice cream like you have never before
I'm afraid of confrontation and in 2 days I need to confront somebody about something incredibly seriou that might get be kicked out of college.
I'm terrified
I feel like the only way out is suicide because I'm too scared to face my problems
How can I face my fears? I have 1 day to work up the courage...
>>18106481
Wait, be more specific. You might get kicked out of college, or they will?
probably best if you just tell the story
>>18106481
bravery is about doing things you scare you, not about an absence of fear.
think about why yuo are confronting them. why are you scared? whats your end goal?
>>18106481
If you're considering suicide, then there is no reason to concern yourself with minor conflicts. See life through.
Haven't been in the dating scene for a solid 3+ years but I've recently been dating this gorgeous girl who a friend set me up with for a little over a month and I just got to first base a couple days ago. Its about a half hour drive to get to her place so its not long distance but its kinda far so I only see her about once a week. I really like her and hope we last a good while
That said, I'm super nervous about what I'm going to do when she wants to fuck, or even when I get to third base because I'm pretty sure I have performance anxiety and/or have desensitized myself with porn and various fetishes. The only three sexual experiences I've had in my life were all from the same person and I couldn't get it up for any of these occasions, so I'm very self conscious about this kind of thing. She asked if I was a virgin one night and I hesitantly said yeah and as it turns out she is too. Asked why I've been a virgin and gave her the same explanation as above to no real positive or negative reaction. She isn't the judgmental type so I THINK she doesn't care, but I'm not great at reading people via text
I'd be interested in medication just so to insure that I'll be prepared the first time so I can say I lost my virginity but I'm still on the parent's insurance and I don't trust online sources for Viagra or Cialis or whatever. Not fapping is about a 50/50 chance for helping libido, I'll either be horny as hell until I can't take it anymore and fap or I'll be flaccid as hell until I reset the cycle via fapping. Honestly, I think I just have trouble getting and maintaining an erection around someone, so maybe it isn't a libido thing. What should I do to be sure I can fuck her when she wants "The D"?
tl;dr is that I really like my current lady friend and I'm nervous about performing when the time comes. I think she'll be accommodating and patient considering we're both pretty rusty to dating but I still want to be able to fuck the first time, it doesn't even have to be good
>>18106465
>What should I do to be sure I can fuck her when she wants "The D"?
The big problem with people in your situation is that you overthink things, like now. If she's a virgin as well, and she really likes you, she won't mind spending that extra time with you until you're comfortable enough to stop caring.
You may have to indulge your fetishes with her.
Personally, eating pussy gets me solid. It's half the fun.
>>18106488
As stupidly ""feels"" as this is gonna sound, that's just the kind of person I am really, I kinda had to become that way to make myself achieve goals and think about things overly logically so that they sounded simple and made sense in my head. Me trying to find a reason as to why I was never able to fuck those three times and trying to figure out the reason why like its a mystery I need to solve and what can be done about it is just my way (and I guess the wrong way) of coping with it.
So how do I get around that? I'm not sure I can just turn my brain off
My mate is acting really suspicious lately.
He's always been a creepy dude, but we thought that was just part of the bloke's charm. Back in high school everyone nicknamed him Dexter because he acted a lot like him... Obsessed with news about serial killers and the like. When he was a kid he once accidentally killed his pet hamsters, so that added to the running joke he was a complete creep. He was otherwise fairly normal, had a good family, plenty of friends, had sex every so often... Average guy, other than this weird, morbid, quirky side.
The past 18 months, though, he's been acting increasingly oddly. It started with him verbally abusing the less fortunate looking girls, especially he fat ones. He now owns a number of phones, keeps his house immaculately clean, and his ex-girlfriend has reported odd and aggressive behaviour: Shouting, smashing things, randomly screaming at her during sex, setting fire to her clothes after the breakup... Also found dozens of images related to famous murderers and the like, newspaper clippings etc. Again, maybe just a hobbyist who is going through a rough breakup. Still, worrying nonetheless.
He's also getting into bar scraps regularly, and has abandoned his studies, more or less.
You live with him? if so you're probably dead rofl. If not, imo i'd disassociate myself with somebody like that. Especially over the course of 18 months.
>>18106453
Used to, but he's recently moved out and rented a nice apartment. Apparently he got some inheritance money and so he's decided to buy a place of his own.
Why he would need to when he's only got a 2 years left of his course (4 years in total) I don't know.
>>18106437
how old is the guy?
My dishwasher has a standing pool of water at the bottom, apparently, they're like this by design. This has a propensity to grow mold. Anyone know the optimal amount of bleach I should pour into the standing water to keep it microbe free?
>>18106435
a fuckton
t. biologist
>>18106466
Can confirm
t. Another biologist
>>18106435
One cap of bleach per gallon of water is the standard ratio to create a sanitizing solution.
>used CEO's credit card without permission
>made a lunch order for the office (which CEO had OK'd)
>didn't know I was supposed to expense report it rather than using her card
>card details were given to me by her assistant, so I assumed I was okay to do this
>130% chance CEO is gonna yell at me for it and her cunt assistant will not take blame
>don't want to sell her out either because it'll make her cuntiness worse
What do?
>>18106433
go to the CEO first and explain the situation wihle handing in whatever after the fact paper work could help
>>18106436
This is still counting as selling her out, doesn't it? I do have screenshots of our AIM conversation proving I didn't take the initiative to use it that I can use
You realize that life isn't fair or just and roll with it. You explain the situation and if you get yelled at, yeah it's not your fault, but it's life. Let it be a reminder about that fact because there's going to a lot more of this kind of situation in the future.
My apartment has 100x the recommended EPA level for radon in the air. What do?
I live in Illinois if this helps
>>18106419
file a lawsuit
>>18106445
I'll just go to the lawsuit store I guess
You might also want to get checked out for any cancers you might have from breathing that in
I have had stress tics since Ive been little thanks to one of my teachers that kind of enjoyed bullying me, is there anybody that has any idea to reduce the/get rid of them possibly? (pic unrelated)
I know how you feel. I was ridiculed by teachers, bullied and kicked on the ground as they watched. Sucks. Could try helping but that would mean giving you instructions.
I had a nervous eye twitch for a while it went away on its own. It was from stress though.
Hey guys , hope you're doing well .
>be me
>meet girl friend
>become really good friends
>meet girl through girl friend
>same thing happened to girl
>see her sometimes when hanging out with original girl friend
>we get along well
>end up with a crush
>ask slingshot girl to help me get with her friend cause only time I see her is through her
>agrees
What do you guys think I / We should do next ? I'm a bit of a noob when it comes to this . I was thinking of something for us to all do together - slingshot girl has a boyfriend and many friends , maybe disguise it . Or just ask her out on date ?
Thanks .
Bamp
>>18106379
>has a boyfriend
its over
>>18106462
My girl friend has a boyfriend , not the girl I'm trying to get a date with . Why else would she agree to help ?
I have dark circles around my eyes even when I get weeks worth of good sleep.
I really dislike it. How do I get rid of them? Is it gay for a guy to wear concealer?
Just buy some fucking BB cream, you fragile bitch.
>>18106378
>How do I get rid of them?
Facial cream.
>Is it gay for a guy to wear concealer?
You're gay for having sex with men, not for taking care of your skin, shit-for-brains.
>>18106412
What's BB cream?
>>18106414
Isn't it a slippery slope? One minute I'm putting on concealer, the next I'm sucking dick.
Feeling particularly lonely tonight, /adv. I have no one really. Just alone in my room where I spent my entire life. I live alone. I study here, alone. This particular evening it feel odd because the loneliness is really setting in. I have no one. I have no idea what I'm even doing in this life. Do you? It's like I was sent here without a purpose and I have no idea what will happen to me after this body decays. I'm lonely and the only girlfriend I ever had was a demanding, cheating, manipulating psycho. I am alone, like so many of you out there, and I'm scared of life.
I'm just feeling existential at the moment. I don't understand anything of this. Oh, and I also hate socializing because it never, ever worked out for me. Severe social anxiety due to bullying, otherwise I look normal and keep myself busy with meaningless tasks all day. What about you?
Just reply anything and I'll be fucking grateful, please. Just anything at all. I don't care what. Thanks.
>>18106375
>. Oh, and I also hate socializing because it never, ever worked out for me. Severe social anxiety due to bullying, otherwise I look normal and keep myself busy with meaningless tasks all day. What about you?
Anon you need to go to therapy.
Group therapy.
I'm not even joking.
It's time.
>>18106375
Looks like purpose is not something that is given to us but what we create ourselves. This thing doesn't satisfy me either but what can I do, I'm trapped in the prison of consciousness and subjective thinking till I'm no more.
Anyone read Schoppenhauer? Do you agree with him?