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>>18107245
I don't really have experience with panic attacks, but just being able to recognize that it's a panic attack is helpful. That helps keep you grounded and helps remind you that the feelings will pass, that you're not actually going to die. I hear that trying to focus on things you can detect with your senses (sight, smell, etc) helps take your mind off of focusing on the panicky feelings

>>18107245
Depending on how I feel, sometimes putting a thin beach towel over my head helps me feel secure and safe, which helps calm me down. And I can hold it instead of digging my nails into my palms or scratching at my throat. Try to breathe big deep breaths that are steady.

>>18107245

Stop drinking coffee and/or energy drinks.

Sit down, understand that its a panic attack and try to think of something else.

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Yeah just text her

Who's the semen demon in the pics

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>>18107342
I don't have a name but I have a few more.

very easily if you have a job.

>>18107228
Really? Never been like that for me. When I'm talking to a girl that I'm actually interested in, there's a constant pressure to not fuck up. When I'm talking to coworkers or customers, I could probably spout Nazi rhetoric and not care about their reaction.

same way you get over anything

keep doing it

It is bad if you're emotionally detached from your parents but are still dependent on them.

>>18107203
You sound like a spoiled little bitch.

Getting them to admit fault doesn't make it better, to be honest. From where you're at already, it would only make you wish they'd have realized it sooner. It's a never ending cycle when you can't get yourself to like someone; you pick at any fault they have as though you just want them to go away.
Best thing to do is try and be the better person. Buy them a gift, treat them better than they treat you and it should be returned in kind.

Instead of trying to tackle the habits directly, have you asked him what he's trying to forget with all the drinking? Maybe someone hasn't talked with him on a deeper level in a long time.

>>18107242
What my Mother and I have figured out so far is that he is assailed by an acute burning sensation in his feet that flares up at night. We suspect Diabetic Nerve Degradation, despite my Father having never been diagnosed. We also wonder if it connected with his seemingly narcoleptic habits, as even at noon, he regularly falls into a deep sleep, and can only be awoken around 6 o' clock. This cuts into his ability to perform labors around the house, and has been straining his relationship with my mother.

>>18107276
Forgot to mention: My mother has mentioned that his father was diabetic, and we suspect my father is likely to have it. This is increasingly worrying to me, as when he gets drunk, he likes to have midnight snacks, which, being high in sugars, could worsen his condition.

>>18107191
get out man. get out. I'm telling you... just get out.

This is not going to end in a good way. Do not talk to her, do not text her. Do not "help" her change her ways. Get out. Shut it down.

>>18107191
>I have a friend who spends a lot of time drinking almost on a daily basis, smoking daily, refuses to try anything "difficult", spend a lot of money going out, and easily gets into relationships that don't tend to last.
Nothing wrong with cutting contact with her because of this.

>However recently she started seeing a new guy and her and her friends keep saying he's "funny and nice", which I admit I have some jealousy about. But the guy works at a liqour store and she's stopped going to classes, called into work "sick" last week because she was hungover on a Wednesday, and gone back to dressing pretty, but not taking care of herself at all. She has completely been focused on him/partying and nothing else. She told me once that sex was just sex to her, but that she liked feeling wanted. I suggested she take 6 months to a year and just try to find peace with herself, but now we're back to the super intense relationships. She's already calling him her boyfriend and it's only been three weeks.
This stuff seems a little bit more petty.

>>18107229
I know, and I admit there are feelings of jealousy there. But it's a bit more complicated than that because we had talked about being together about a month before and then this happened. I told her to enjoy the time with the guy and if she found him to fit more with her, than it was cool. And it is. I just think she's making that choice due to her flippant behaviour. I will be honest and say that I find it difficult to be in her life because of that, yes. But the substance abuse and neglect for herself were one of the biggest reasons I didn't jump to say yes to her on day one. I obviously care about her well being, hence why I told her to reach out when she hit rock bottom; because she seems to be accelerating. I just don't want to be a caregiver if she won't help herself or even acknowledge the problem.

>>18107181
5 years? Girl you have bigger concerns than your boyfriend not wanting to flirt with a girl he can't touch. When are you moving in with him?

>>18107182
No clue lol. He's living with his sister working on a college degree and I'm working and living four hours away

>>18107185
Your relationship is doomed to fail without an end date. His disinterest is not a problem, it's a symptom of a bigger problem: no day when the LDR will end.

I went through the exact same thing with my LDR bf. I got super pissed, started browsing dead bedroom forums like it was his fault. The fact is, anyone will lose interest quickly when all the sexual contact they get is virtual. It's not enough.

You need to plan an end date or at the least visit him more often.

ask /g/

You might want to ask in >>>/g/sqt

>>1810716
>not being exploited
By not using php. Use a real language.

>>18107126

Wow she sounds like a piece of work.
You did nothing wrong op. Unfortunately in the pool of singles there are always going to be some nut jobs

>>18107126

>What's with the double standard?

Firstly, one girl being a bitch to you is not indicative of a greater double standard conspiracy against you. This is one woman on a planet of 7 billion people. Lets not paint a broader picture than is necessary. There could be plenty of things wrong with this woman to explain her behavior that have nothing to do with gender based double standards.

Secondly, the world is full of double standards because we're not all equals. Men and women are different. Men have certain privileges that women don't have and vice versa. Get this idea out of your head that anything about this world or your interactions with women are supposed to be fair. It isn't. We're all dumb animals playing with a fucked up rule book and no amount of lamenting about it will change anything.

Play your strengths. Acknowledge your weaknesses. Its the best any one of us shitty apes can hope to accomplish.

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There is no double standard, but that girl was a bitch. It sounds like she might have had actual Aspergers.

>>18107123
Either way it will take a LONG time for you to get SSI

>mostly from having the be the only one holding a roof over my family's head

I feel like this is your bigger issue here Anon

>>18107159
How long are we talking? So is it still likely I could get the help?

Also I live with my mom who is disabled herself both me and her income barely make the rent every month while I take care of my 7 year old with no child support.

>>18107122

only one way to find out.

If you are capable of suddenly turning on charm without coming across as creepy then it's salvageable. It doesn't sound like that's you, so it's probably best to just let her go.

If you want to take a shot under the "What have I got to lose" banner then just sit down next to her before class starts and say, "Hi, any interest in meeting me to talk/hang out later?" She'll probably choke on her words and it'll end awkwardly.

Then wait and see if she starts edging back or following you. If she does, find a way to encourage her that is "you."

>>18107262
Yeah, we have a test coming up, and I message her on facebook from time to time about class, should I just go for it and ask if she wants to study with me, then be myself and whatnot?

She cares less about you than whoever put it into her head the idea to color her hair

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>mfw you just got shit tested and you fucking failed

it's almost like she was curious about how you feel about it and not actually basing her decision solely on your response

>>18107113

>The only time I went to a party I ended up drinking a shitton and getting a handjob from a disgusting girl and made a complete ass of myself.

I'm in my 30's and I look back on these times with fondness. I'd never do it again but it was a very crazy, exciting time of my childhood that I wouldn't trade for anything.

The issue with the virginials here is that they'll try to tell you to never drink cause its norm-core and never have casual sex cause its degenerate-tier and never trust a woman cause you're a cuck and never party cause its a waste of time and at the end of the day, if you follow every little bit of advice they give your only option is to sit in your house alone and meditate or some shit. Its boring.

Being a teenager is the perfect time to party and get weird and have ridiculous fun that doesn't make any sense. When its time to move on to bigger and better things you will but for fuck's sake, PLEASE go and be a kid. Anybody over 40 would give their left nut to be your age again, getting handjobs and making wonderful mistakes.

Seriously man, don't pass up on this. This time of your life is the time when you make memories that you will look back on in your older age and smile about. For real, go party, be weird, make an ass out of yourself. Don't waste your youth worrying about how liked you are.

Also, side note, don't do any drug harder than cocaine. If you see a needle or tinfoil come out at a party, fucking bail immediately because you're not at a party, you're at a tweaker convention.

>>18107131
Speak for yourself you fucking degenerate. You don't have to be a stupid fuck to enjoy yourself.

>>18107163

>Speak for yourself you fucking degenerate.

Kek. Prove my entire point in one sentence. Thanks, anon.

>You don't have to be a stupid fuck to enjoy yourself.

You know what I find ironic? All the kids that sat at home and never partied or hung out with the kids who drank or maybe acted a little silly every once and awhile spent their entire high school years genuinely unhappy; feeling kind of left out and alienated because they would rather keep their feeling of superiority than do something out of their comfort zone or at all make any attempt to do anything they perceived as popular or main stream. They were so against the crowd that they did the opposite of whatever the majority of kids were doing just to be contrarian and in the end it kind of doomed them to solitude.

All the "stupid fucks" I knew in high school were always a hundred times happier than any of the edgy stay-at-home kids. Drinking and partying and fucking around isn't necessary for having fun as a teenager but it sure as hell beats staying home by your fucking self, patting yourself on the back for how superior you are to everyone while all your friends are out having a good time. Shit sucks.

It isn't necessary, but in moderation with the proper amount of forethought and caution it can be super fun. You can keep your fucking high horse, kid.

So yeah, I'm going to go out on a limb and say you probably have a very distorted view of your body. If this is working for you, then I suggest shopping at a thrift shop for the the good cheap cover up clothes. Also they probably won't have mirrors.

If this isn't working for you find a good counselor. Believe it or not the free ones at school are a pretty good place to start.

Take your meds and if you dont have any meds than go get some
You're kookie krisp

lurking because i have the same issue

Here's what I did
>find a weird lifestyle to get into that either doesn't permit or doesn't allow you the time to jerk off
>get depressed
>cry multiple times a day
>quit
>come back to that porn and feel good about it

So you and I both.

Like I tell everybody else. Put your pants on as soon as you wake up. Put a belt on. Get fully dressed. Go somewhere public. Open your windows. Watch tv, turn on a favorite show, watch it. Stay active. Shower quickly. Get dressed immediately after a shower. Don't take off your pants or belt till you are 100% sure you want to go to sleep. Repeat.

You can also try drinking water and going for a run, to flush out impurities. Stay away from foods that make you wanna fap too I guess, though that's kinda hard unless you go full vegetable diet or sumn..

And try not to kick yourself too much if you relapse, just keep trying it till you feel better.