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You ever forgotten someone's birthday?
Anyways, of course you're gonna feel bad, treat yourself. Birthdays are for you to celebrate, if others want in cool.

Hey my birthday is this Thursday, Idk if it means anything but we are of the same star sign, so maybe we have the same personality traits and stuff, which means you must be really cool. Happy Birthday!!!
As for nobody caring, well that's happenned to me for years. There are times in life when you aren't surrounded by friends for your birthday's date. Making friends and meeting people who care about you is mostly a matter of luck imo. Maybe this is just a time to spend by yourself, to get to know yourself better.
The fact that people didn't acknowledge your birthday doesn't make you a less important person. Nowaday's saying happy birthday is just a matter of opening Facebook, going "oh look it says it's X person's birthday today" and writing some dumb message that takes two seconds. I know some people are more enthusiastic about it but it usually doesn't mean anything.
If this bothers you maybe it means that you need to get more involved in social activities and meet more people to get closer to. I'm personally kind of a loner and I dread aging. I also get really pissed (but don't show it) when people now simply drop a "happy birthday!" on a whatsapp group instead of texting me personally. I hate that so much, it feels like it doesn't mean shit to them so why did they even bother?

So anyway, TL;DR, only a few people you'll meet in your life will be important, the rest will just say "happy birthday" without any meaning. It's normal to not know any close friends right now, they will come in time and with luck.

Happy birthday anon!

>>18107905
this bait is truly one of a kind, pure and original which is rare these days. at auction i'm guessing it would go for at least 20 lols

>>18107912
hey don't laught at me. I just want to loose my virginity. This year I should have 24 years.

>>18107905
No one is this autistic. Try something more believable for your next attempt at trolling.

Try to jack off without porn. Basically close your eyes and use your imagination, or your memory.

>>18107909
This, this, this.

Fapping isn't the problem. Learn to fap without porn.

For me, I still fap to porn once in a while. But it's so much better without. More effort, but much bigger payoff.

On the ED side, my ED was because I wasn't emotionally connected to gf. Porn played a role, but was more symptom than problem.

Had to learn to connect to self, and then to gf. Not easy at all. Or just get a little blue pill, get your boner back but only fixes symptom not underlying prob.

At least that was me, you may be totally different.

>>18107986
>but much bigger payoff.

I could have made it through the day without that mental picture.

Beat that pussy up so much that sex is the last thing on her mind.

Respond to her dating thing as yourself and ask for a threesome.

>>18107877
Pretend to not know, pound her pussy good for last time.

Then gather evidences, go to your lawyer and report her for being unfaithful.

>>18107821
also didnt mention, I have been IQ tested and i was like 130 and that was when i was 16

>>18107821
Similar position
20 years old
Won a decent award
Took 70 credit hours in HS
Dropped out of college due to being bipolar
I'm pretty good at math
Add me on steam http://steamcommunity.com/profiles/76561198044134206/
Or skype
Detectivejelly

I'm probably a bit ahead of you in math and science, but probably I could help

>>18107823
Also I got pretty into music as a youth as was pretty talented. Violin, piano, and guitar were the main ones, but I screwed around on others. I've also gotten into art in the past and several other hobbies that I ended up quitting.

See if there's a UU church around you. They welcome science to the point of having lots of atheist members. Also seem to have a higher percentage of aspies than general population.

Join a dojo, you'll learn helpful skills, get fitter and it's considered rude to talk during training.

>>18107814
What are your interests?
Where would people with those interests be likely to hang out?
Go there.

I dont quite get your problem desu.
You got a hot, smart and mature woman who is into you but you dislike her because she uses her phone all the time ?

>>18107817
dafuq how did "desu" end up there ?
Anyhow, if you feel bored then maybe you just arent into her. If that is the case you got 3 options:
1) fuck her once and then break ties with her
2)just tell her that you just want to be her friend
3)break ties with her

>>18107806
She's still 18 and hot, and most importantly she's still really malleable.

If you have it in you to stick and shape her to your liking, it'll be good. Otherwise the usual pump and dump.

fucking lmao this is nothing, literally a straight hairline
kys yourself

God I'd kill to have just a slight receding.

Just accept that you might be receding, and live with it. When my hairline started creeping back at the temples I would obsessively check it once a week and compare it to past photos of myself, etc.

It's not worth worrying about in the long run, especially with hair replacement techniques getting better and better, if it really bothers you that is.

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>>18107973
>kys yourself
lmao

i dont think its benefitial to feel fine at all, if one has been so utterly unsuccesful like me the last years. The same time though scarecity doesnt bring you anywhere, for me it basically destroyed my life.

So i thought about embracing the scarecity and get rid of all the numbing Things in my life, basically vidya, and throw myself into uncomfortable situations like talking to People, and partying. Tho thats far away from a thriving life, and thriving People dont have those negative selfhating thoughts at all and im not sure if they get you anywhere near your dreams at all, most of those People end up bitter and nihilistic and cynical imo. So scarecity ( i prob write it wrongly the whole time´?)

ah whatever why am i even writing this shit, i gotta start somewhere
So basically the question is where to start, where do i start to get up, i have ideas i want to be, but theyre miles away, ideas like making Music, being a self-help-coach someday after i overcame my own Problems, and studying history and psychology extensively, but because those dreams are extremely far away obviously, it hinders me from taking a step to there because it would mean failure. I dont know, what are your tips on this, really anything could help, i have 2nd thoughts about writing this but i dont wanna delete it, so if you want to say anything or have something in mind for my Problems i lelaborated on, go ahead

bum

>>18107778
I cant give you a guide on how to improve your life because I am just 21 and have no clue how my future will end up but i can try to give you some advice:

I think i dont have to mention that your decision to study something that you are obviously not interested in was a mistake and a waste of time.
What you have to do is try to find something you like, something you are passionate about.
Invest time in your passion so you can make a living out of it.
Try to improve yourself by doing new things especially creating stuff like for example try to learn how to cook a new dish every week. This is simple but incredibly satisfying.
You have to realize that there are millions out there just like you who are uncertain of their future and have doubt in themselves. Whats important is that you avoid getting stuck in that phase and stop moving forward

getting into something new helps, a hobby or meeting new people or otherwise keeping yourself more busy. Otherwise it's something you have to get over in your own mind, and there's not really a clear way to accomplish that.

>>18107764
Write about it. Find all the warning signs you've missed/ignored, all the lines you didn't draw, all the weaknesses you've left exposed, all illusions you've fooled yourself into believing.

>>18107774
>>18107764
if you write it down, ill read it and reply.
Go ahead, give it a try, write at your own pace, in your own style, detailed or not.

No trust no relationship.

>>18107719
Abandon ship

there's approximately a 100% chance she fucked him

>>18107715
I'd cold turkey it a bit. If you get desperate, maybe buy a fancy non alcoholic drink and savor it. Realize the goal is to feel better after and the next day.

>>18107715

No

No it is not a good idea

You are already on a good path

Stay on it.
Stay strong

You can do it

Learn how to cope with your anxieties in other ways

You are strong
You can endure this
Stay strong

>>18107750
Yeah... I'll probably wait a week and then pick it up again. If I can.
>>18107752
Years of therapy, caring family members, and several rounds of medication, and it's only getting worse. No such way exists I'm afraid, at least not legally (I don't have a dealer). When it hits all there is to do is wait.

Anyway.
Much obliged anons.

>>18107711

Get gene therapy that erases your Nippon genes

Or

Try to practice not smirking. Whenever in such a situation, just remain neutral-faced. It's all about willpower

>>18107711
Some people pull mad faces so is this such an issue?

>>18107706
Do like my ex did.
Cheat on your girlfriend, leave her, date the new girl, get her pregnant, drop out of med school to work and take care of the child, regret leaving your ex girlfriend, send her drunk, cringey texts where you beg for her forgiveness and ask her to run away with her.

You're probably just a bit lovesick with your current gf. Get a bit of space in your relationship and like they say 'absence makes the heart grow fonder'.

Sometimes I feel like it's 'too much' with my gf and that i'd be better with someone else. Then a week passes without seeing her and all of a sudden i remember why i'm with her :)

>>18107710

This seems like the best idea

OP you get bonus points if you get Predator-tier wierd HPV warts on your dick in the proces

dorm, apartment, doesnt matter. its the school's property so they can search as they like

if you have a lock, you become suspicious. they will ask you to remove the lock. if you do not comply, they will call campus police, if you do not comply, they will call state police

campus police will most likely want to search your dorm as well for "safety" measures. once they find nothing they will continue about on their regular schedules doing shit all around campus

the campus will get a nice fine, you may get a fine or warning for wasting police time, especially if youre being difficult about unlocking your bag

>>18107761

bags aren't their property though

At my uni dorm, we were always told that you should store your alcohol in your fridge - not even police can open it without warrant - as opposed to just the closet - any RA can get permission from upper staff to open it.

I think that the OP's situation is bullshit and you should tell them to fuck off.

>>18107702
Somewhere in your dorm contract you signed away the right for them to establish rules (like no alcohol) and to search for violations.

And yes, it is legal to make you sign away your rights as part of a contract.