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>>18108584

>getting cucked by god

might as well be joseph.

that's life dude.
slap some sense into her.

or let her be crazy with someone else

if she cared enough for you she would have let this religious non sense slide. But if God and her mother's opinion of God is more important to her than your (and her) happiness than she is better off being a nun and not a wife.

>>18108584
she's fucking another guy and used god as a cover up

>>18108535

to be anti depressed and to get your betas blocked.

i think you'd be better of without them.

>>18108539
>>18108550
Two doctors on /adv/ at the same time

continued: Here’s the hardest one of all to put simply, it is a root perception that you give off to me, you act like this entire relationship should revolve around you, what I mean by that is as explained above and it takes form in many different small instances and behaviors you exhibit in everyday conversation. I know this is not easy to read. But you have to understand that this is the conclusion I came to after all of this. I know it’s not true, it can’t be and that is why I still have faith in us. I know you feel the same way about how I act too sometimes, but I simply mirror exactly what you do to me. Your response when it gets heated is always something like that, that I am only thinking about myself. I want you to do some REAL self-reflection. If it isn’t obvious this is how I see it: You tell me to change: at first: I resisted and thought you were only thinking about yourself——— After changing: I realized you only wanted to help me and I am actually better for the change despite not understanding why i would be at first besides your benefit—————— I tell you to change: you resist and think that I am only thinking about myself————— After changing: ??? Because you never have from my requests——————— The reality of your changes: YOU change from people who are close and around you, which is why I always laugh and say “out of sight out of mind” because when I am out of sight, and rabbit doesn’t count, I am out of your mind, you only change and do things at the request of those around you in the physical world and NEVER from me. This makes me feel incredibly powerless in our relationship which is ultimately why I wrote this, because we are imbalanced. That was more than five sentences but this has been a long time coming.

continued: Why do I think this will work: Well you taught it to me sort of indirectly, this formula if you will for relationships, that love does mean trust, but also the willingness to do anything for the other person in the context of making ourselves more comfortable in the relationship even if we really, and i mean really, do not want to. I think that I have proven to you that I am willing to do this for you, and you might hate this but… If you love me, if you really love me, you will do the same. But changing habits is hard. To change my habit of smoking weed I had to disassociate myself from everyone in my life who smoked weed. Which unfortunately most people. And I despaired. But after all this time I realize that if I want a constant in my life, like you, that I should not be afraid of blowing the dust that was the past into the winds of time. I hope that makes sense.

continued: You know, and I know that this is never instant, relapses happen. But without the effort there is no reason to go on. Mistakes should be punished, but forgiven for these relapses, to an extent of course depending on the severity of the mistake. This is how I was treated from you and it worked. I am just doing the same because I believe in the madeline that taught me this lesson. You tell me she is not gone, you tell me you are the same madeline. You keep asking me what do i want from you, what do I want you to do. The answer is complicated but put simply “I want you to prove it”, how can you prove it? By taking your own advice and staying true to those values that you once passed on to me and the values that made you so much more than a normal woman in my eyes, what made me fall in love with you, deeply, passionately, forever, in love with you. How can I put this value as simply as possible as I see it, because I really don’t think you remember it. The value goes something like this “my eyes will be your eyes, my heart will be your heart, my feelings will be your feelings… your actions will be my actions, I will listen, I will not fight, your word will be scripture and I will study it. you are my goddess, you are my guru, I am worth loving because I will tell you the truth always, especially about how I feel about you.” I think it can be simplified down to the last sentence that “I am worth loving because I will tell you the truth always, especially about how I feel about you”. Of course this is an ideal value. We are both not perfect in this. I think you used to be but maybe I’m wrong and even that’s okay because I still love you because I know you will want to strive to this with me.

>>18108510
What can you do that an American with your degree can't? Why are you so special that an American doesn't deserve the job but you do?

Until you can answer that question the answer is no, and you won't be able to answer that question until you have an advanced degree and decades of experience.

No you can't work for a US Government agency as a foreigner (not even if you held a work permit of any kind, need to be citizen).

Furthermore your Political Science degree is worthless in regards to immigrating just about anywhere.

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>>18108510
Fuck off Kraut we're full.

your dopamine receptors get fried and you feel dissociated from everything .

>>18108491
its still called weed, I think

Autism

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>>18108485

while there is a baseline, that baseline usually indicates what has potential to be attractive rather than what is attractive.

any attractive trait that would apply to the majority of women would be a braod generalization, and the unfortunate truth is that most of it still boils down to how you look.

pic related is an exaggeration, but its more than just based in truth.

an ugly guy sits in the corner being quiet and looking around, and hes weird, creepy, stalkery.

hot guy sits in the corner being quiet and looking around, and hes stoic, a lone wolf, mysterious.

its sad but true. and becuase most people are more on a 'spectrum' of attractiveness instead of blatnatly one or the other, it really boils down to which women find him attractive.

you can post your picture in a thread for instance and half the people will want to lick your ass dry and half the others will tell you you look like a retard.

and part of it is also what physical traits you do have.

two guys can be equally attractive in different ways but get different results on what personality traits are attractive. a cute skinny guy acting like a macho bro is often seen as unattractive. a big macho man acting like a shy artsy type is generally unattractive, etc.

thats why we ask guys to post their pics when asking for seduction advice, not because we need to see how attractive they are, but because we need to see what kind of attractive they are. one size does not fit all.

> confident
> down to earth
> funny
> intelligent
> loyal
> self-reflective

non-neediness aka confidence aka not being creepy

>>18108428
Being able to go to mcdonalds whenever I want.

>>18108428
Making choices on events that could change your life

>>18108428

Being able to navigate complicated situations, concepts, and feelings, by falling back on experience to solve them on your own, or coordinating with your peers to solve them.

>>18108339
You send them boring shit

She added me I said hi and she didnt reply :( is it because I'm ugly?

>>18108345
What am i supposed to say
I will not talk to her again

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Pretty shit situation, shameless bump from OP

>>18108333
>drugs
>paranoid
>switching bf like underwear
>already broken once
>relatives against it

You know the answer. The question is, are you brave enough to do the right thing or will you just prolong the inevitable pain?

>>18108497
I wonder if I'll ever find anyone else though. I guess In my mind, I used to be so social and outgoing. I've been clean from drugs and alcohol for 3+ years now. I don't know how to meet people who don't aren't 420 friendly/party harddd etc.

You broke the man. You knew your mom was cheating, but did not tell your dad. This showed to him you did not respect him.

Also your mom broke him by destroying the trust he had in her.

>>18108350
I didn't wanna tell him cause I knew it'd kill him.

It's his fault for not realising things on his own. It was so obvious, but whatever.

That's life I guess

>>18108350
this.

that was low man. you should make things right with him. you also broke the trust he had on you. he probably left because felt his family didnt love him or even care for him

>>18108289

we cant read the actual fucking picture there so we cant actually fucking help you.

stop callign yourself king of /r9k/ though. doing things like that enables you

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>>18108305
>stop callign yourself king of /r9k/ though. doing things like that enables you

looool

>>18108305
It's for the best, I think the replies are all the evidence you need.

>>18108317
Fuck do you mean.


I don't know why I keep sperging on her, I don't feel sexually attracted to her and never have been

>18108260

Weed ain't gonna kill ya. I'm a 30 year old professional that has smoked in the past, and now that it's legal in Nevada, I'll probably try an edible here or there. It's just not really my thing - mainly puts me to sleep after about 10 minutes of laughing.

But no, weed isn't addictive in the sense that like meth, crack, or opioids are going to be. Maybe it's behaviorally addictive, like if you started smoking with these guys all the time, but really you're not going to hurt yourself.

The only reasons not to smoke weed are A) if you get tested at work, B) if you don't like the feeling.

Sure, just try it
You lose out a different perspective on things if you never smoked
I smoked first time shortly after my 18th birthday and it changed my life (for the better)
Thank you weed

>>18108260
Dutchfag here, very experienced with weed both personally and around me. The thing is most people tend to fall into extremes, either weed is 0% addictive and cures your cancer in the process of not getting you addicted, or it's Satan's herb. Weed is not as addictive as alcohol and not as hard on your body. Yes it can be harmful to your development but mostly when you smoke it when young, or when you pair up heavy smoking with malnutrition and sleep deprivation. Your body needs more fuel and rest the more you ask of it.

But it's not harmless. Physical dependency is very very rare but not completely impossible (and not -remotely- as likely as it is with alcohol), but psychological dependency is much more common. And let me assure you that when you have been struggling with your usage for years, it becomes a technicality whether your addiction is solely rooted in your mind or also in your body.

It is a bit comical to me to avoid weed due to fear of dependency when you're fine with using alcohol, but what stands out to me from your post is that you are looking for a way to alleviate stress and frustration. Drugs should ideally be a fun occasional getaway from everyday life, not a way to cope with it. You are more prone to maintain an unhealthy relationship with any drug if your usage is rooted in need/escapism and not in desire.

If you want to use it, pace yourself and make sure to go slow at first and check whether it gives you paranoia, which is the most likely "risk". Other than that, weed can be lots of fun (though drug preference is pretty personal), I find it way more enjoyable than alcohol. Make sure to masturbate if you do get high.

>>18108257
You have most of it down. You followed the first two rules now you just have to show up and not sperg out. Just pick the hottest one and go down from there. That's all online dating is is how attractive you are to start and if you don't also blow it with stupid messages to start.

They are just people, hold a conversation with them online for a little while then get their phone number then plan a date.

>>18108292

Well, this is my issue. I'm not concerned about sperging out, but normally I don't give anyone the time of day that I'm not immediately way interested in. Am I supposed to be going on a bunch of dates in high volume just to see how it goes?

>>18108318
Yep.

if you find one you like just stick with that one. One at a time.

the goal is really never to find the perfect person because that's not possible. With each person you date you can just know what will work with you and what wont more. if that makes any sense.

>>18108248

the problem here is you assume employers are going to find out. just don't be retarded about it and you'll be fine.

as for a relationship, yeah no girl would love to find out about this. so if you want to quit, go ahead and quit.

sounds hot though if thats you id certainly love to watch you show off your ass.

>>18108248
Wear a FULLY FACED mask, after that do w/e you want. But keep the fucking money idiot lol.

> I-Im not gay I just like g-guys jacking off to my ass.
> totally liek big knockers bro!

Think the real problem is obvious here.

try reducing intake? limiting use only for the duration of class and no more.

>>18108218
one pill a day

>>18108238
can it be broken in two?
some pills are time release so research it, can be fatal.