So basically, some dude I've been friends with online has gotten my IP through a link he sent me which I was stupid enough to click on. And now he keeps on DDOSing me randomly and it's really pissing me off. I'm not the most tech savvy person ever so I need some help. What can I do to stop him from DDOSing me?
>>18108785
turn off your router for 15 minutes and turn it on again and hope you've received a new IP. if not, try again
>>18108785
Dude just call your ISP, they're the ones that handle this.
with tinder you need to have a facebook but i don't have one and don't want one. what should i do ?
>>18108783
create a facebook account. you dont need to use it or even upload a pic
>>18108797
This.
You can set the privacy settings up in a way that no one will ever be able to find out you even have a facebook unless you disclose the fact to them yourself.
I'm a very skinnyfat (73kg, 175cm) person with no experience in any type of physical activity even in childhood ( except table tennis in high school ). My uni work is very demanding and in the middle of the semester, i hardly get any sleep. Currently i'm trying to replace my gaming hobby (1-2 hrs a day) with fitness to stop feeling like crap all the time because gaming feels like cheating when used as a source of relaxation happiness and fun (just like eating fast food when youre hungry). But the problem is i am horrendously weak, I have no access to any PT, theres almost nowhere healthy to eat or cook ( i don't have time for that anyways ) and my schedule hardly allows for 3x gym a week. I tried to go to gym last semester for 2 months , started with the smallest weights, pushed myself really hard but there was no improvement ( the "trainer" at the uni gym told me i should have been using the machine with a setting at level 7 in which i struggled with level 3, whereas people with same skinnyfat physique like me pushed at level 8 or something ) and i quit after midterms began and the rush didn't end until the end of the semester. Internet says sleeping is very important and i can't sleep more than 7 hours even at the beginning of the semester and that number falls to 4 after the midterm season. I'm trying to stay positive for every stupid thing but its hard to not get demotivated after i can't carry a barbell bar and starting strength tells me to do pull-ups. I can't even do the stupid 20 min internet workouts.
Long story short, im trying to introduce myself to fitness, since i need endorphine and something to replace gaming that won't make me sad after looking at the mirror. But everything gets in the way and i feel like it won't be effective, which means there is no point in doing it as i hate the activity itself due to childhood trauma. I'd rather rot in front of the computer. Any helpful advice or alternative hobby?
>>18108768
Run outside. Start listening to music that makes you feel euphoric while you do this. Keep a log of your weight, runned distance... (there are apps for this). Use the internet to plan new itineraries around where you live... You'll get addicted to this, and you'll be improving your body (as you would do in videogames).
Remember to warm up before and after that. And as soon as you feel comfortable, quit the music, and add more things (weights, push-ups, jump rope...). Also add 1 more day of running (if it hurts, then slow down. Better slow than having to stop for weeks for a lesion). About food... well, eating healthy it's like 70% of all this (but don't get obsessed with this).
Pretty important, learn how to breath properly. It may sound stupid, but you'll realise how important it is.
There's nothing like sleeping after a shower, and an active day.
I started running 2km, and now I'm around a bit more than 6. But keep in mind that time is even more important than distance.
>>18108768
https://ia800207.us.archive.org/22/items/ConvictConditioning_201602/Convict%20Conditioning.pdf
This book really helped me. He goes step by step, starting from how a very weak person should work out.
I follow his advice and I'm pretty satisfied with the results. Hope it helps you!
>>18108768
Exrx.org
Ok, I know i probably shouldn't be as freaked out as i am now because the dude lives in california, but I am because he is constantly bringing up plans to come up for a visit and i want to catch this before it is to late. So my girlfriend of 2 years has just confessed to having a crush on her guy friend that she has knows for a little less than the amount of time we have been together. okok usually i let it go because she talks about finding other guys interesting all the time but this time it bugs me and this isn't the first time it happened. last time didn't end so well and know nobody talks to the dude simply said. But she and him have been progressively getting closer, they used to barely talk and now its an almost all day everyday thing, Getting pissed whenever i just peak over her shoulder at what they are snapchatting and stuff. and she just recently confessed to him this morning... Am i just being paranoid to freak out like this? should i bring it up, even though i only know because her facebook was logged into my computer? What should i do! last time i reacted badly and it caused a bunch of drama but i don t want to let it continue unconfronted at least a little bit.
Update: and yes... He "wished he knew that beforehand." (before he moved, like a year ago)
>>18108736
thats a HUGE red flag, and ive been there
my current girlfriend talked to her ex when we first met, didnt openly admit it but i knew by searching his name. it drove me nuts for the first year we were together, to the point i would open her phone in the middle of the night to read their texts and i got pissed when he said he wants her back etc. she would reply that cant happen, ive moved on, etc. after a year she told him they should quit talking, 4 months ago i saw they were talking again and he wanted to call her. her we went again
so when she came from work i casually asked if she still talks to her ex and she said no, i just said dont lie to me i know you do. she broke down and admitted to it, said i could read all the messages (which was fucking 100 a day) and i said i dont care whats in them, delete them and if you guys ever talk again im kicking you out. she apologized, they havent talked since and that was the end of it
you have to do the same thing unfortunately, the ultimatum of him or you. tell her either she respects you enough to quit talking to him or she leaves you for him, remember the latter may happen and it will hurt but its far better than the heartache of her talking to him behind your back. i know the feeling and it sucks hard
>>18108747
Also if she says she's choosing you, don't believe until you confirm she's sticking with it.
Watch everything she does and talk to, go through her messages if you can without arousing too much suspicion. if she's still talking to him after 2 weeks, it's time to end it.
>>18108747
Ok, I'll talk to Her about it, This has happened with another guy and I let it go on to long that it was bad when she had to end it. I was just worried she would be pissed because I wasn't supposed to know about it, I just read her freaking out to her other friends on facebook about it and how it went from, "guys how do i fix this." to, "OMG he likes me back guys!" and that's what was freaking me out. Thanks, I'll bring it up to her and hopefully she doesn't get super pissed at me for finding out.
My mate is acting really suspicious lately.
He's always been a creepy dude, but we thought that was just part of the bloke's charm. Back in high school everyone nicknamed him Dexter because he acted a lot like him... Obsessed with news about serial killers and the like. When he was a kid he once accidentally killed his pet hamsters, so that added to the running joke he was a complete creep. He was otherwise fairly normal, had a good family, plenty of friends, had sex every so often... Average guy, other than this weird, morbid, quirky side.
The past 18 months, though, he's been acting increasingly oddly. It started with him verbally abusing the less fortunate looking girls, especially he fat ones. He now owns a number of phones, keeps his house immaculately clean, and his ex-girlfriend has reported odd and aggressive behaviour: Shouting, smashing things, randomly screaming at her during sex, setting fire to her clothes after the breakup... Also found dozens of images related to famous murderers and the like, newspaper clippings etc. Again, maybe just a hobbyist who is going through a rough breakup. Still, worrying nonetheless.
He's also getting into bar scraps regularly, and has abandoned his studies, more or less.
He craycray
>>18108749
I get that it seems that way, but I've known him since reception and I don't just want to cut him off now. It'd be a shame, and as it stands he's still fine with me, but is becoming increasingly contemptuous of our mutual friends.
He said to me, "y'know, we're better than them, ain't we?"
Get the poor guy some professional help, this shit is beyond personality quirks.
My girlfriend has become a radical leftist.
I'm really open politically, and people can think whatever they'd like, partners included, but shes slowly become really confrontational, as in if I disagree with her, I'm a bad person, or me not wanting to be a radical, I'm a bad person. Its really pushed me away, as I just avoid talking about anything close to anything political.
I know the usual suggestion is break up, but what other option. I'm really not that political, especially anymore. I just want to be left alone so I can have a nice little garden/farm, and cute little animals to take care of.
>>18108720
youre going to have different opinions on many things, if a fight over politics is what brings you to almost breaking up somethings wrong
my girlfriends fairly left and im full right wing. my grandma is about the only other right wing in my family, one night years back after we first met i was drunk at my grandmas and we had a full on debate on my hatred of Justin Trudeau and refugees so hard i was yelling and threw my shirt off. the night ended with her driving me home passed out drunk laughing at me shirtless
she knows im right wing and shes left wing and we respect our differences, if something as stupid as fighting over politics gets in the way of a relationship problems will get worse in marriage over financial issues and kids
>>18108738
Thats what I think. That politics really shouldn't be something that causes so much disdain from someone who says they love you. I feel like we can't talk about alot of stuff anymore because she ties it into her politics somehow. I can't just say how I feel about something, or maybe some idea thats in my head because of events that happened to me, because if it goes against her even slightly she'll just make me feel bad about it. She never just wants to talk openly anymore I feel like I'm just a placeholder for people she disagrees with and shes trying to tell me how the world is without any real concern about what I think. Its really isolating :/
i jerk off every morning
and every morning I try to talk myself out of it
but I still do it, then all day I hype up how I won't jerk off tomorrow morning.
>wake up
>usually before my alarm goes off
>morning wood
>play on my phone
>eventually see some sexy post on FB
>look up porn
>jerk off
>get out of bed and start my day
what the heck?
it wouldn't be a problem for me, except I got some friction sores 'cause I'm a dry guy.
>>18108671
use lube, or simply unfollow people who post gratuitously sexy material.
Same problem man. I'm currently depressed so it kinda helps while i just lay here in sorrow.
>>18108676
Lube is just too much clean up. at least with my cum, I can just wipe if off on the bad side of my blanket and not worry.
My boyfriend and I went from having sex 5+ times almost every day to having sex about once or twice a month. He's definitely not completely to blame, there have been times where I fall into depression or something that puts me out of the mood for awhile and he's always been super understanding, but lately he's just too tired, I will walk around the house all evening in a sexy outfit I obviously put on for him, and he'll comment on how sexy I am, how I'm his fantasy, but by the time we're in bed he essentially touches me enough to get me going then falls asleep.
The thing is, I know he's straight up addicted to porn. He's never hidden it from me, I catch him jacking off in the bathroom in the morning all the time and he doesn't seem ashamed about it (I don't want him to feel ashamed about it), and he admitted early in the relationship he has a daddy/daughter kink which I play along with for him. Occasionally I look at his downloads to see what fetish he's into lately (occasionally I also suggest he put on porn for us to watch while we have sex, which is almost always ends up a huge mistake for me) and it's roughly 40/30/30 between daddy kink, multiple girls on a dick, or violent anal. I already play along with the daddy kink for him, but I'm not interested in the violent anal he's into, and sure as fuck am not interested in sharing him with other women when he's not open to the idea of a serious poly relationship. Most of the porn he watches, I think is just stupid and insulting for me to allow him to project on me. The women in his porn are all pretending to enjoy shit, and I think it's starting to reflect in our relationship because when we DO have sex, there's hardly ANY foreplay on my end, I almost always perform oral on him before we skip straight to penetration and I haven't came from our sex in months. Basically, our sex has gotten MEGA boring and I don't know how to bring that intimacy back without feeling like a fucktoy.
Pic related: intimacy goals
Apologies for the picture that was rightfully removed, perhaps this one is more appropriate.
>>18108660
It seems like the main thing bothering you is pretty much just shit tier sex. Id try talking to him about that first (like try telling him sex is getting bland for you and ask him to do shit that youd actually like, whatever it is) and fixing it, then if the porn thing still seems like a problem, talk about it. If this problem doesn't get resolved you'll probably end up resenting him for it and itll just make everything worse.
>>18108688
Oh wait I completely forgot the first paragraph. Ask him if anythings bothering him first because he could just be too stressed lately, like with work etc. Sex usually slows down a little, but once a month is pretty bad. Is he still affectionate towards you in other ways? (Kissing,cuddling,etc)
I have had really bad anxiety all of my life and when really stressed out I start to throw up after eating because the food takes too long to settle and makes my anxiety feel worse. This has happened before when I was a kid and lasted about a month. It has now been two weeks since I've eaten normally and close people around me are beginning to worry that I am bulimic. Now mind you I just got out of a relationship and have had problems with self image before so it isn't a far stretch for them to believe that I am. I just need help on what I can do to help myself I don't think I am bulimic but I do find myself feeling disgusted with the idea of eating and food in general.
see a therapist
try some kava tea also to help calm you
>>18108665
I've tried seeing a therapist and it didnt't work for me. I felt the need to lie to them too and tell them I was feeling fine.
>>18108710
Get better or die. Your choice mate.
I am in an arguement with my parents of them saying "I love you." I am nearly twenty years old and my mother has never once told me that she loves me. Both my parents are now not talking to me because we just got into a fight over her never having said it and they said that they "expressed it through their actions//gave me a good life." And I get it, I have a great life.
But all the actions in the world couldn't equate to her saying it verbally just once. I can't imagine my own mothers voice saying those weirds that's how foreign of a concept it is to me.
She says her parents hardly ever said it to her and that's how she was raised but she's not her parents and I'm not their child.
I just want to hear it once, Jeni, please.
[spoiler] Yes I know I'm being a whiny fucking bitch but fuck man, what am I even supposed to do? Neither of my parents will talk to me anymore.
>>18108626
i dont think you're being whiny. once you get past the rebellious teen stage and live your adult life you enter a period of deconstructing your childhood based on how your adulthood is going.
and in it you find where a lot that seemed normal at the time went wrong. you just want them to say it and they wont even say it now. that says a lot about their own issues.
>>18108637
I dont know man, I'm definitely still dependent on them because I'm at college. But dear lord it just hurts to realize I've NEVER heard it
>>18108683
and thats fine man, you're not in any way wrong here. you are adulting and learning that things are a little fucked up.
my advice is to just lay low until you can move out. it doesn't sound like they want to change.
and the truth is its often too late. there isnt much that can fix it and even if you get that i love you you will likely still resent them for not saying it until asked.
for the most part we just need to deal with our issues ourselves.
similar stuff with my dad.
Is it selfish for me to want children when depression runs in my family?
My maternal grandmother had severe depression, my mum has it and has been on medication for years. I've had it most of my life and I'm trying to hold out but I think there's a fair chance I'll need to start taking them one day in the future.
>>18108619
not reallly. if the depression hasnt hindered your life to the extent that you'd struggle to care for your kids, then its not really selfish, its just life.
that being said, feel free to adopt.
>>18108619
No.
My Mom has battled and lost against bi-polar and booze her entire life.
I'm glad to be alive, as are my 4 siblings.
>>18108619
Tons of people have depression, they'd probably be abnormal if they didn't have depression; don't let these cucks prevent you from having children.
Help me /adv/. How do i get over overthinking and jealousy? It's killing me mentally when I'm working and have to think during it all. Basically i introduced a good friend to my crush, and they get close to about as me and her are, and he soon tells me he's in love with her. I'm not with the girl either but whenever i see them talking it up there's a massive sinking feeling in my chest and i want to disappear and be forgotten about. It's immature and i hate feeling jealous but it's been going on for months now and I'm slowly losing myself. How do I accept this new reality? I both regret introducing and do not regret. I almost broke down a few times.
First of all, you should've calculated your actions more carefully if you felt or knew you weren't going to be able to control yourself. Perhaps you shouldn't have introduced this friend to your crush at all. Let that serve as lesson for future reference.
Anyway, now that the "damage" is done, you have no right to claim ownership over anyone, not even a person you're dating, which in this case you're not even doing. Life sometimes sucks, but it does for everyone, really. Let me tell you something though, your crush not going to find those jealousy feelings attractive in the slightest, that's for sure.
>>18108634
Well, damn...
Alright so i had sex two weeks ago and got my period right after (3ish days started of light and then went into heavy bleeding) we did use a condom so im sure i cant be heavy; but forward 2 weeks and my stomach area feels very heavy and tight. Even went to the doc about this and he said it would be impossible for me to be preggers
I need to wait for my next menstrual date so i can take a test because i dont trusy early tests.
If im pregg i can deport the kid anyway but i just dont feel like goimg through that. Any med anon here who could give me some advice? Wait it out untill the next date where i should get my period or do a test now?
>>18108607
you arent pregnant so stop worrying about it.
>>18108612
Then what is this unholy feeling in my belly and why are my tits sore? Ive never had these pains before. My belly (area around my belly button to be specific) feels like a wall.
I would see a doctor again, if something feels really wrong then get them to run diagnostics/tests.
I'm a little concerned about my reputation.
Im gay, and for some reason I usually (but not always) end up falling for asian guys. 2 of my 3 bfs have been asian, and like 3 of my 5 FWBs have been asian too.
Im a little concerned that my friends are realising that i date a disproportionate amount of asians, and then thinking that im a creep/fetishizing racist. Especially my asian friends. i've had a couple of snide comments from them about "Yellow fever", but idk if theyre 100% lighthearted jokes or not.
Is there anything I can do to fix this, or is it just a nonissue?
>>18108606
its a non issue. many people develop a racial preference, in the gay community its called a rice queen. the term itself is incredibly stupid sounding, but i digress.
if any of your friends think you're a creep for liking asian guys then they arent worth having as friends to be honest.
Who the fuck cares? If you're into Asian guys, you're into Asian guys, that's it, good for you. It should be nobody else's business really.
I cant stop masturbating with my vibrator. I'm a female, 19, and a virgin. I cum in like 3 minutes over and over and it's taking up all my free time. What should I do? I can't lose my virginity cause i'm christian. I pray to god for my sins everytime i'm finished.
masterBAIT
>>18108593
You can either take out the batteries and throw them away, or start cam whoring.
If you're doing something that much, you might as well get paid for it.